Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy that we both kno.. she is willing to have 3sum with us both however i want her to shag him on her own first to see how it goes. She not really into this, so i need help in trying to get her to do this.. if anyone has ne experiances of this or recommendations.. please get in touch and let me know.. thanx
Jay
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Quote by jay33
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy that we both kno.. she is willing to have 3sum with us both however i want her to shag him on her own first to see how it goes. She not really into this, so i need help in trying to get her to do this.. if anyone has ne experiances of this or recommendations.. please get in touch and let me know.. thanx
Jay
My recommendation would be that if she's not into this, you leave well alone and don't try to persuade her to do anything. Willing is NOT the same as wanting to do something. This sounds as if it's all about what YOU want.
You'll probably get a multitude of replies, but they will most likely say the same.
Quote by jay33
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy that we both kno.. she is willing to have 3sum with us both however i want her to shag him on her own first to see how it goes. She not really into this, so i need help in trying to get her to do this.. if anyone has ne experiances of this or recommendations.. please get in touch and let me know.. thanx
Jay
No means no in this community, no questions asked. If she doesn't want to do it, leave well alone.
kaz xx
Sex God
I agree with Kaz, but also have you two actually sat down and talked to each other over what you both want?
I don't think you have, I think it is what you want, not what she wants.
Not very fair, IMO
I don't think you have, I think it is what you want, not what she wants.
Not very fair, IMO
Sex God
I don't think he got quite what he was expecting. He's been in the cafe but not responded. 
Sex God
i suggest you tie her up and beat her with a stick till she agrees, then the next day collect your clothing off the lawn and await instruction from her lawyers, seriously though no means no so understand and leave it at that
staggy
staggy
Sex God
Quote by jay33
she wants sex with anotha guy, but she wants me to be with her.. she does like showing herself off n teasing etc.. ie strippd off in sauna week ago for 3 lads afta party.. shes just not sure
If she's not sure, she shouldn't be doing it and you shouldn't be encouraging her to do anything. Showing off and teasing is an awfully long way from shagging someone else, either with or without you present.
Sexlightened
Hahahaa, cruel but makes the point well.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
all i can say is she must be so lucky to have a boy friend like you
not many women would have a guy so thought full that he'd come on the internet to get tips on how to get you to do something you didn' t want to do
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy
me and jim have been been together since school and had our 1st encounter at the age of 26.
it was a mmf 3some with one of his friends we had a great time but next morning we felt really down and regretted it. it took mounths to get over what we had done. and we didnt dabble till years after when we were about 30.
when the time came we didnt rush in as before.
we started off by me wearing see through things and short skirts when his mates were round , then (accidentally) droping my towell and progressed to asking the mates to bring me a cup of tea while i was in the when we were really sure and had picked someone we could trust we went a stage further by letting this freind watch us have sex and wank himself then went on to me wanking the friend off then finally the full thing. evry one was happy.
so my advise would be this.
be sure you love and fully trust your partner.
start off small, exhibitionism can be ssooooo erotic.
use someone you trust.
and only when you and your partner are 110% sure go for it.
and above all have fun because fun is what its all about.
me and jim have been been together since school and had our 1st encounter at the age of 26.
it was a mmf 3some with one of his friends we had a great time but next morning we felt really down and regretted it. it took mounths to get over what we had done. and we didnt dabble till years after when we were about 30.
when the time came we didnt rush in as before.
we started off by me wearing see through things and short skirts when his mates were round , then (accidentally) droping my towell and progressed to asking the mates to bring me a cup of tea while i was in the when we were really sure and had picked someone we could trust we went a stage further by letting this freind watch us have sex and wank himself then went on to me wanking the friend off then finally the full thing. evry one was happy.
so my advise would be this.
be sure you love and fully trust your partner.
start off small, exhibitionism can be ssooooo erotic.
use someone you trust.
and only when you and your partner are 110% sure go for it.
and above all have fun because fun is what its all about.
Sex God
Quote by jay33
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy that we both kno.. she is willing to have 3sum with us both however i want her to shag him on her own first to see how it goes. She not really into this, so i need help in trying to get her to do this.. if anyone has ne experiances of this or recommendations.. please get in touch and let me know.. thanx
Jay
Tch
Quote by kelly milf
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy
me and jim have been been together since school and had our 1st encounter at the age of 26.
it was a mmf 3some with one of his friends we had a great time but next morning we felt really down and regretted it. it took mounths to get over what we had done. and we didnt dabble till years after when we were about 30.
when the time came we didnt rush in as before.
we started off by me wearing see through things and short skirts when his mates were round , then (accidentally) droping my towell and progressed to asking the mates to bring me a cup of tea while i was in the when we were really sure and had picked someone we could trust we went a stage further by letting this freind watch us have sex and wank himself then went on to me wanking the friend off then finally the full thing. evry one was happy.
so my advise would be this.
be sure you love and fully trust your partner.
start off small, exhibitionism can be ssooooo erotic.
use someone you trust.
and only when you and your partner are 110% sure go for it.
and above all have fun because fun is what its all about.
i know thread isn't about you but felt i had to comment on this
In my opinion you should never mix swinging with friends thats when problems really start, personally i would never even dream of coming onto any of my hubbies m8, thats what these sites are for, i'm sure had your 3sum been with a guy you had met of here instead of a m8 you would not have felt so bad after or took so long to get over it, i know many people who have mixed swinging with out side the scene m8 and have ended up losing friends over it, i have always said, never have sex with anyone you would miss if if went tits up lol
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy
me and jim have been been together since school and had our 1st encounter at the age of 26.
it was a mmf 3some with one of his friends we had a great time but next morning we felt really down and regretted it. it took mounths to get over what we had done. and we didnt dabble till years after when we were about 30.
when the time came we didnt rush in as before.
we started off by me wearing see through things and short skirts when his mates were round , then (accidentally) droping my towell and progressed to asking the mates to bring me a cup of tea while i was in the when we were really sure and had picked someone we could trust we went a stage further by letting this freind watch us have sex and wank himself then went on to me wanking the friend off then finally the full thing. evry one was happy.
so my advise would be this.
be sure you love and fully trust your partner.
start off small, exhibitionism can be ssooooo erotic.
use someone you trust.
and only when you and your partner are 110% sure go for it.
and above all have fun because fun is what its all about.
i know thread isn't about you but felt i had to comment on this
In my opinion you should never mix swinging with friends thats when problems really start, personally i would never even dream of coming onto any of my hubbies m8, thats what these sites are for, i'm sure had your 3sum been with a guy you had met of here instead of a m8 you would not have felt so bad after or took so long to get over it, i know many people who have mixed swinging with out side the scene m8 and have ended up losing friends over it, i have always said, never have sex with anyone you would miss if if went tits up lol
Have to agree with NN here ....... there are some lines you just don't cross and my woman shagging my best m8 is one of them. Also, I think if someone needs so much run up to the 'big event' then are they really swingers and have they thought long and hard about what swinging really is. Unattached sex is unattached sex whether it's after weeks of 'foreplay' or not. It is your partner that you love and that shouldn't change no matter when the 'big event' takes place. It's your partner that you are going home with.
Quote by Wishmaster
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy
me and jim have been been together since school and had our 1st encounter at the age of 26.
it was a mmf 3some with one of his friends we had a great time but next morning we felt really down and regretted it. it took mounths to get over what we had done. and we didnt dabble till years after when we were about 30.
when the time came we didnt rush in as before.
we started off by me wearing see through things and short skirts when his mates were round , then (accidentally) droping my towell and progressed to asking the mates to bring me a cup of tea while i was in the when we were really sure and had picked someone we could trust we went a stage further by letting this freind watch us have sex and wank himself then went on to me wanking the friend off then finally the full thing. evry one was happy.
so my advise would be this.
be sure you love and fully trust your partner.
start off small, exhibitionism can be ssooooo erotic.
use someone you trust.
and only when you and your partner are 110% sure go for it.
and above all have fun because fun is what its all about.
i know thread isn't about you but felt i had to comment on this
In my opinion you should never mix swinging with friends thats when problems really start, personally i would never even dream of coming onto any of my hubbies m8, thats what these sites are for, i'm sure had your 3sum been with a guy you had met of here instead of a m8 you would not have felt so bad after or took so long to get over it, i know many people who have mixed swinging with out side the scene m8 and have ended up losing friends over it, i have always said, never have sex with anyone you would miss if if went tits up lol
Have to agree with NN here ....... there are some lines you just don't cross and my woman shagging my best m8 is one of them. Also, I think if someone needs so much run up to the 'big event' then are they really swingers and have they thought long and hard about what swinging really is. Unattached sex is unattached sex whether it's after weeks of 'foreplay' or not. It is your partner that you love and that shouldn't change no matter when the 'big event' takes place. It's your partner that you are going home with.
YUP... totally agree... if she is not comfy with 1-2-1 then DONT PUSH. The only thing that will end up getting pushed will be your luck and possibly you out of the relationship that you currently have...... work within the parameters and framework of the relationship that SHE has laid out.... you will be so much the better for it.. plus as you work within these boundries... she may change them for you - for the better or worse but women have that right.. change their mind...without notice... so work with her and if she is comfy she will let you know.. but have patience.. which takes TIME...
soz.. rant over..
Quote by jay33
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy that we both kno.. she is willing to have 3sum with us both however i want her to shag him on her own first to see how it goes. She not really into this, so i need help in trying to get her to do this.. if anyone has ne experiances of this or recommendations.. please get in touch and let me know.. thanx
Jay
Sounds to me like someone is frightened of an MMF. I bet if it was an FFM, he would let her play it "her way".
Sex God
Quote by jay33
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy that we both kno.. she is willing to have 3sum with us both however i want her to shag him on her own first to see how it goes. She not really into this, so i need help in trying to get her to do this.. if anyone has ne experiances of this or recommendations.. please get in touch and let me know.. thanx
Jay
got to ask why u want her to shag him? why she's ok with you both but not him alone?
got the feeling she's doing it to please you not cos she wants to and you want to do it for other reasons.
so, why don't you guys get together and tell HER how it goes?
Sex God
Quote by Happy Cats
Is it just me that finds these questions tedious?
Ask the other party whether they would want to do something, if they so no, tough, move on and forget it or split up and find someone who will!
think someone need to change their name to moody cats
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Is it just me that finds these questions tedious?
Ask the other party whether they would want to do something, if they so no, tough, move on and forget it or split up and find someone who will!
think someone need to change their name to moody cats
I know, but its just bloody obvious isnt it?
Essentially he is just trying to get some form of magic answer that will get him to change his partners mind. It doesnt work that way.
Hang on, I know, how about asking her but by inserting a type of vegetable after every word?
Would potato you brocolli shag parsnip my cabbage best turnip friend carrot..............
For fecks sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sex God
Quote by Vix
Those actually afraid of MMF are more than likely in denial of their sexuality imo.
'Zactly.
Oh yeah youre both right .............imagine someone being heterosexual ! Some folks just spend their whole life in denial - are hetero's born or socialised ??
(unable to find a tongue in cheek emoticon)
Quote by jay33
Basically i want my gf to have sex with anotha guy that we both kno.. she is willing to have 3sum with us both however i want her to shag him on her own first to see how it goes. She not really into this, so i need help in trying to get her to do this.. if anyone has ne experiances of this or recommendations.. please get in touch and let me know.. thanx
Jay
Why don`t you shag him on your own at first to see how it goes. Then your G/F might feel more comfortable when you then tell her what a good fuck he is.
Seriously my advice would be to think very carefully about it first, before involving close friends. Things can go very wrong with threesomes when close friends are involved, we`ve learned the hard way. Trust and discretion are the bywords when it comes to swinging.
Quote by da69ve
Those actually afraid of MMF are more than likely in denial of their sexuality imo.
In what way do you mean....I've never had a problem with MMF but i never wanted to shag the other guy.
I didn't take it to mean that way da69ve, from conversations I've had I would take this to mean those who are terrified of being touched by another male.
I have heard that there are men out there who freak out at accidental touching during these type of meets. Can mess it up pretty badly apparently.
We've always been very fortunate and not had it happen to us though.
Jas
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