I'll tell you what Petal, I expected nothing at all... being introduced to the site from elsewhere and knowing little of its machinations.
so... arriving with an open mind... and hopefully rataining at least a little of that... Ive found a wonderfull little community, on the whole, who seem to be ... well... fun.
I like fun
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Quote by flower411
..but we`ve found intolerent, controlling people who want to impose their views upon the rest of the membership....
Maybe their inability to interact with others on a social level is what leads them to demand that we all mollycoddle them through the whole swinging experience ....I dunno!! Personally we`ll take our chances on our own instincts ...
I'd love to know who you're talkin about so i could see if you had a point or not.
No offence, but this is they type of thread that grates me...
I dont know who , what ,when, where?
And surely, if you have somethin to say to someone, why dont you just say it?
Warming the Bed
Quote by flower411
We expected open minded people looking for a laugh ..but we`ve found intolerent, controlling people who want to impose their views upon the rest of the membership....
Maybe their inability to interact with others on a social level is what leads them to demand that we all mollycoddle them through the whole swinging experience ....I dunno!! Personally we`ll take our chances on our own instincts ...
Before joining this site many years ago, I also thought swingers were middle class and middle aged people. (Middle aged MILF's attracted me
)But I soon came to realise that swingers are made up of all sorts of people, just like in real life.
I think we might have hit a point where active single bi fems 'that most elusive of all', outnumber bog standard swingers. What with so many people admitting their lack of interest or commitment, or hanging up their saddle bags after a brief experience. Or perhaps finding that its all been a glorious joke.
We joined for the same reason as you too Flower.
Love lots of aspects about this site, the forum is our latest find!
Camming went out the window after only 4 times, due to some sicko playing a nasty trick on us though!
We have never found people to be controlling or ill tolerent though, you must of run in to a very bad person indeed to make you type that!
Lucys post.
Love lots of aspects about this site, the forum is our latest find!
Camming went out the window after only 4 times, due to some sicko playing a nasty trick on us though!
We have never found people to be controlling or ill tolerent though, you must of run in to a very bad person indeed to make you type that!
Lucys post.
Quote by Lucyandmike7I was recommended by friends who are on here now ( you know who you are )
We joined for the same reason as you too Flower.
Love lots of aspects about this site, the forum is our latest find!
Camming went out the window after only 4 times, due to some sicko playing a nasty trick on us though!
We have never found people to be controlling or ill tolerent though, you must of run in to a very bad person indeed to make you type that!
Lucys post.
they wanted me to meet more fun people and the site I was on was becomming a sad tedious place due to single males pretending
:roll: :roll: Love the site and the people on it ...as you all know I love the forums and constructive critiscism and praise for what you write in the threads ...its all good fun :P :P :P
just dipped my toe in the chats so still a tad nervous there ..........
ops: :oops: looking at the photo ads gives me an idea of how many people on here are not full members with "extras" and to be honest I dont reply to those ads anymore due to a non existance of replys , I stick mainly with the forums where i am trying to build up confidence trust and honesty , I like this site its at the forefront of technology :shock: and i think for the fee charged to join excellent value £££££££££
steve x
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looking at the photo ads gives me an idea of how many people on here are not full members with "extras" and to be honest I dont reply to those ads anymore due to a non existance of replys ,
steve x
Hey Steve.
Just a clarification -
There's a difference between being a "full" member and being a full member who has paid a bit more to have the extras package.
A full member is one who has access to most areas of the site - they may or may not be paying members, depending on when they joined - but a full member without extras can reply to adverts, pms, etc.
Quote by Cherrytree
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looking at the photo ads gives me an idea of how many people on here are not full members with "extras" and to be honest I dont reply to those ads anymore due to a non existance of replys ,
steve x
Hey Steve.
Just a clarification -
There's a difference between being a "full" member and being a full member who has paid a bit more to have the extras package.
A full member is one who has access to most areas of the site - they may or may not be paying members, depending on when they joined - but a full member without extras can reply to adverts pms etc good point cherry
never thought of it that way , just joind paid up and joind in.......... must have more money than sence ????......NOT
steve x
Quote by DeeCee
..but we`ve found intolerent, controlling people who want to impose their views upon the rest of the membership....
Maybe their inability to interact with others on a social level is what leads them to demand that we all mollycoddle them through the whole swinging experience ....I dunno!! Personally we`ll take our chances on our own instincts ...
I'd love to know who you're talkin about so i could see if you had a point or not.
No offence, but this is they type of thread that grates me...
I dont know who , what ,when, where?
And surely, if you have somethin to say to someone, why dont you just say it?
Maybe there is a hidden code there regarding verification?
Mod
Quote by flower411
We joined cos we were looking for people to have gratuitous sex with ....
No change there....that`s still what we are looking for...
In the process we discovered camming and I discovered chat rooms
Neither of us had ever used chat rooms or forums of any kind before.
We meet people...but most of our online activity on here is social .......
Now ...don`t get me wrong ...I`m not looking for friends in real life but I do enjoy chatting and I enjoy posting on the forums ...
So ...we meet ...we shag ... and we don`t tell a soul
We cam ...we shag ...70 people watch !!
I chat and I post ...
I`m not sure what I expected when we joined but I don`t think it was to be judged ....that`s why we came to a swingers site ....
We expected open minded people looking for a laugh ..but we`ve found intolerent, controlling people who want to impose their views upon the rest of the membership....
Maybe their inability to interact with others on a social level is what leads them to demand that we all mollycoddle them through the whole swinging experience ....I dunno!! Personally we`ll take our chances on our own instincts ...
Happy swinging...to all the voyeurs, fantasists, cuckolds, exhibitionists, shy people :wink: and let`s not forget ....the "real" swingers
Is this another 'farewell' post?
:grin:
Mal
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It is a good question though. I was in a celibate marriage and just starting divorce proceedings when I joined, and one member here helped me though that. Not in person, just via pm's and advice.
Later I hoped to get a shag and quickly realised that in the single male game it was never going to happen for me, age being the main reason.
Since then my sex life has improved dramatically, nothing to do with SH, and so I come on here for the occasional titillation and possibly a wank in the chatroom when bored.
I would have liked to find, and hoped I might find, an over 50 lady to hook up with with an adventurous spirit, not necessarily a Swinger, but someone who appreciates and is stimulated by the freedom of thought and expression here and who finds restrictions in the "real world". I guess I still would.
Later I hoped to get a shag and quickly realised that in the single male game it was never going to happen for me, age being the main reason.
Since then my sex life has improved dramatically, nothing to do with SH, and so I come on here for the occasional titillation and possibly a wank in the chatroom when bored.
I would have liked to find, and hoped I might find, an over 50 lady to hook up with with an adventurous spirit, not necessarily a Swinger, but someone who appreciates and is stimulated by the freedom of thought and expression here and who finds restrictions in the "real world". I guess I still would.
Warming the Bed
i came to meet new people and like minded people............... but i realised its hard cause im single male.
Though its still fun to read and write on here.
Though its still fun to read and write on here.
Sex God
Quote by Yorky_Ray
i came to meet new people and like minded people............... but i realised its hard cause im single male.
Though its still fun to read and write on here.
Ray - give it time. Enjoy all aspects of the site. Maybe sign up for one of the many social events that happen in Let's Meet Up section of the forum? That way you meet people in a non-play setting and can kinda see if you want to take anything further with any of them.
Nola x
Warming the Bed
time will tell........... but yeah i do enjoy all aspects........
Always look on the bright side
Always look on the bright side
Sex God
We really didn't know what to expect of SH when we joined. I think probably we thought there would just be a load of guys up for a quick f*ck and thats it. We were experimenting at the time and thought the £15 we paid to find out what was going on a worthwhile investment whether we found what we wanted or not, we speculated.
It's an interesting place that has helped in changing our lives for the better. The friends we have made whether through play or not have been/are worth every moment and penny. The socialising network is second to none. And the shag meets? Well you take your chances don't you and upto now the good outweigh the bad by multiples.
I ereally enjoy the forums too. I love the way that people can come across as sanctomonious noralistic holier than though people and in the back of my head i'm thinking - yeah but they could be taking up the arse tonight
or being the meat in a spit roat. handcuffed and being whipped red what makes the difference to me is that in the end it all comes down to how good it feels to f*ck and to talk about it.
Forum is an acquired taste and i get off on it. As a proportion of the site I reckon it is of miniscule importance and is treated as such. It is a difficult place to get initiated into, Though most of us generally do like to welcome people in to post stuff and enjoy as we do, we all know that its a freaking daunting place to begin with and totally deserving of its 'clique' image to the rest of the site. Well to the restof the site that know forum is here that is.
All hail to us cliquey weirdo's that present ourselves, baring our souls for the torment ridicule and other totally enjoyable things we get up to on here :D
SH still rocks
It's an interesting place that has helped in changing our lives for the better. The friends we have made whether through play or not have been/are worth every moment and penny. The socialising network is second to none. And the shag meets? Well you take your chances don't you and upto now the good outweigh the bad by multiples.
I ereally enjoy the forums too. I love the way that people can come across as sanctomonious noralistic holier than though people and in the back of my head i'm thinking - yeah but they could be taking up the arse tonight
or being the meat in a spit roat. handcuffed and being whipped red what makes the difference to me is that in the end it all comes down to how good it feels to f*ck and to talk about it.Forum is an acquired taste and i get off on it. As a proportion of the site I reckon it is of miniscule importance and is treated as such. It is a difficult place to get initiated into, Though most of us generally do like to welcome people in to post stuff and enjoy as we do, we all know that its a freaking daunting place to begin with and totally deserving of its 'clique' image to the rest of the site. Well to the restof the site that know forum is here that is.
All hail to us cliquey weirdo's that present ourselves, baring our souls for the torment ridicule and other totally enjoyable things we get up to on here :D
SH still rocks
Quote by kentswingers777
..but we`ve found intolerent, controlling people who want to impose their views upon the rest of the membership....
Maybe their inability to interact with others on a social level is what leads them to demand that we all mollycoddle them through the whole swinging experience ....I dunno!! Personally we`ll take our chances on our own instincts ...
I'd love to know who you're talkin about so i could see if you had a point or not.
No offence, but this is they type of thread that grates me...
I dont know who , what ,when, where?
And surely, if you have somethin to say to someone, why dont you just say it?
Maybe there is a hidden code there regarding verification?
I dont know...looks like just a way of havin a pop at other members without the bottle to say it to them directly...
oh, and a moan about the site in general!!!
Sex God
I expected a discount on the membership fee :shock:
yeah... why you're so grumpy?
why you came from one thread to another to discuss (moan) about what was goin on there?
and why you havnt realised that making indirect comments about people of an unsavoury nature infact shows a complete lack of respect for those members who aren't like that.
I know I'm not a Mod... but if this were a real cafe... id be askin you to "turn it in,Victor Meldrew.
why you came from one thread to another to discuss (moan) about what was goin on there?
and why you havnt realised that making indirect comments about people of an unsavoury nature infact shows a complete lack of respect for those members who aren't like that.
I know I'm not a Mod... but if this were a real cafe... id be askin you to "turn it in,Victor Meldrew.
Quote by flower411
yeah... why you're so grumpy?
why you came from one thread to another to discuss (moan) about what was goin on there?
and why you havnt realised that making indirect comments about people of an unsavoury nature infact shows a complete lack of respect for those members who aren't like that.
I know I'm not a Mod... but if this were a real cafe... id be askin you to "turn it in,Victor Meldrew.
The OP asked people who didn`t want to discuss a verification system to stop posting in his thread.
I was talking about your unpleasant PM`s ...
Anything else need clarifying ??
yeah....
what PM?
Sex God
Happy Sunday to you all :-)
Joined SH for shag
Joined SH for shag
Quote by flower411
yeah... why you're so grumpy?
why you came from one thread to another to discuss (moan) about what was goin on there?
and why you havnt realised that making indirect comments about people of an unsavoury nature infact shows a complete lack of respect for those members who aren't like that.
I know I'm not a Mod... but if this were a real cafe... id be askin you to "turn it in,Victor Meldrew.
The OP asked people who didn`t want to discuss a verification system to stop posting in his thread.
I was talking about your unpleasant PM`s ...
Anything else need clarifying ??
yeah....
what PM?
You mean you didn`t save them ??????
No, I have no idea what you are on about...
all im getting from you now is complete randomness....
and something you find amusing.
Maybe you refer to Pm i sent someone else.... which shoots yer "no need for mollycoddling approach" down in flames.
In any event, you leave me inbetween a rock and a hard place....
because i want to defend myself , but at the same time you are goading me into public , more of a slanging match really!!!
By the way , I joined SH to swing and chat.
My unpleasentness is a defence mechanism towards bollox... or as its also known, fuckwittery.
nite
This site is like a cross section of society. We wont all have the same views, tastes and phylosophies and not everyone will like everyone - that is real life. Those that anoy and irritate just ignor. Those that you like take it to the limits and enjoy.
We have made many lovely and long term friendships on here - some we play with some we socialise with and others are part of the family now.
Others grate and irritate - just as we must do to some - just walk away from them. Live and let live.
The occasional person is rude and offensive and takes things too far in an unpleasant way - those we report to admin to assess and decide if they should be part of this community.
However, I have a bee in my bonnet. Im sick of single males being sterio typed and outcast just for being single. We love single males not all are our cup of tea but u cannot throw a blanket over every single male and call tem pushy time wasters. I know as many time wasting cpls as single males.
Rant over.
We have made many lovely and long term friendships on here - some we play with some we socialise with and others are part of the family now.
Others grate and irritate - just as we must do to some - just walk away from them. Live and let live.
The occasional person is rude and offensive and takes things too far in an unpleasant way - those we report to admin to assess and decide if they should be part of this community.
However, I have a bee in my bonnet. Im sick of single males being sterio typed and outcast just for being single. We love single males not all are our cup of tea but u cannot throw a blanket over every single male and call tem pushy time wasters. I know as many time wasting cpls as single males.
Rant over.
what did i expect from SH....that we joined as free members for a joke and at that time got a free months trial of extras.
we expected we'd have a look round, maybe a little and a lot of :shock: at what was going on, never having done anything like this and only ever having had sex with each other in our whole lives.....
we expected to be so horrified that once we'd been on a cuple of days we'd delete our whole account and go back to being safe dull mr and mrs monogamous, with something to giggle about every now and again over our night time cocoa...."heehee remember that time when we joined that swinging site for a laugh......"
what we didnt expect was to actually take the plunge and DO something, or that we'd enjoy it enough to do it again and again.....
we didnt expect to be having sex on cam with others watching, or that we would push our sexual boundaries further than we ever thought possible
and I certainly didnt expect to find a forum where I have made so many wonderful cyber and real life friends, (and the odd enemy or two too) whom I can be myself with, with no expectations or judgements of me.
Where the range of subjects talked about can range from the sublime to the ridiculous and back again, within the course of one hour, hitting on moving, antagonistic, thought provoking and downright hilarious on the way there.
certainly a life changing experience stumbling across SH thats for sure!
we expected we'd have a look round, maybe a little
and a lot of :shock: at what was going on, never having done anything like this and only ever having had sex with each other in our whole lives.....we expected to be so horrified that once we'd been on a cuple of days we'd delete our whole account and go back to being safe dull mr and mrs monogamous, with something to giggle about every now and again over our night time cocoa...."heehee remember that time when we joined that swinging site for a laugh......"
what we didnt expect was to actually take the plunge and DO something, or that we'd enjoy it enough to do it again and again.....
we didnt expect to be having sex on cam with others watching, or that we would push our sexual boundaries further than we ever thought possible
and I certainly didnt expect to find a forum where I have made so many wonderful cyber and real life friends, (and the odd enemy or two too) whom I can be myself with, with no expectations or judgements of me.
Where the range of subjects talked about can range from the sublime to the ridiculous and back again, within the course of one hour, hitting on moving, antagonistic, thought provoking and downright hilarious on the way there.
certainly a life changing experience stumbling across SH thats for sure!
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
<<<<said some cool stuff >>>>
Can't argue with that Boney!
Being someone who moves about a bit, I considered it a place to find folk ahead of time. Get to know them, rather than walking into a things blind.
It was not exactly what I expected. SH is more, different, more fun, more and wider based fun.
Oddly my jobs has changed and forward planing has become difficult and frustrating. So my original objective has never fully materialism.
I have still had fun, joy, laughs, thought provoking exchanges, and found some fun people.
I must say with a small 'l' I l*v* the site,and some many of the folk here.
Travis
It was not exactly what I expected. SH is more, different, more fun, more and wider based fun.
Oddly my jobs has changed and forward planing has become difficult and frustrating. So my original objective has never fully materialism.
I have still had fun, joy, laughs, thought provoking exchanges, and found some fun people.
I must say with a small 'l' I l*v* the site,and some many of the folk here.
Travis
