We've had this one before, but I thought it was time to talk again about this is the light of a lot of recent posts in the Lets Meet Up forum.
So what does swinging mean?
When I was single, swinging was a way to find friends who I could have sex with without the complications of romance, etc. Now that I'm no longer single, my thinking has shifted somewhat as I no longer have a need to find sex. In fact, for the first time I'm thinking hard about WHY I want to swing.
A lot of the newer Lets Meet Up posters seem to view swinging as a way to easy sex and nothing more. I even saw one poster use to word 'score' as part of a post in much the same context that young men speak of when trying to pick up girls in a vanilla environment. I always thought it should mean more than that...
I am genuinely not sure anymore, so what do others think?
Hxx
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if you'd of asked me this a few months ago you would of got a VERY differnent answer!
its quite a hard thing to asnwer, becasue to me swinging is a VERY social thing, i enjoy all the meets and munches and getting to know lots of new ppls, and plus geting the advantage of "playing" once in a while.
plus i thing there are a lot of "differen" levels of swinging. some just enjoy the socail and other enjoy the full on 3000 ppl in one room orgies!
JGL
its quite a hard thing to asnwer, becasue to me swinging is a VERY social thing, i enjoy all the meets and munches and getting to know lots of new ppls, and plus geting the advantage of "playing" once in a while.
plus i thing there are a lot of "differen" levels of swinging. some just enjoy the socail and other enjoy the full on 3000 ppl in one room orgies!
JGL
to us swinging is about making new friends with the added bonus of extending our already good sex life 
we don't want to do it every day just once in a while
we enjoy the social side, meeting new friends and having a good laugh and getting away from the three kids and fourwalls for a good nite out
we love it
:lol: :lol:
we don't want to do it every day just once in a while
we enjoy the social side, meeting new friends and having a good laugh and getting away from the three kids and fourwalls for a good nite out
we love it
:lol: :lol: 
Sex God
I've always liked having casual sex, so I guess this all started cos I have always been a randy bastard :twisted: . As I've got older and found that there is a community involved with swinging, I see swinging as a hobby and see the social side as important as the sexual side. That doesn't mean to say that I don't still like sex with anonymous strangers, just that I have a much broader conceptualisation of what swinging is. My tastes have become wider and I have made lots of friends of all different kinds... I hope even if I gave up swinging today that some of those people would still be friends 
Sex God
For us, it's the social aspect of swinging as much as the sex. We have a good sex life anyway so we don't need the sex (but it's an added bonus).
We have to feel comfortable with people to have sex with them, so the social meets/munches are an ideal way for us.
We have to feel comfortable with people to have sex with them, so the social meets/munches are an ideal way for us.
Sex God
we first got into swinging as a way of trying new things, but not so much the social side (prefer having sex with strangers to friends) Although the fact that we're planning on giving it up, and still sticking around here, shows that what we're in it for has changed a lot. We won't be taking in part in anything at all after christmas (well thats the plan anyway) but I'm still going to chat to everyone.. maybe even go to munches.. just leaving out the sex part.
like JGL
if you had asked me before i joined this site i would have said it was just a way to get a casual shag.
but the one thing i have learned from being here there is a whole lot more to it and i dont know if its my age or not but i think the freindship part of swinging is just as important as the sex if not more so.
what suprised me was how freindly and helpful all the members of this site are to single guy`s if they show a little respect and join in with the fun.
so a big thanks to all of you that have educated an old guy from wales
colin
if you had asked me before i joined this site i would have said it was just a way to get a casual shag.
but the one thing i have learned from being here there is a whole lot more to it and i dont know if its my age or not but i think the freindship part of swinging is just as important as the sex if not more so.
what suprised me was how freindly and helpful all the members of this site are to single guy`s if they show a little respect and join in with the fun.
so a big thanks to all of you that have educated an old guy from wales
colin
Sex God
think you hit the nail on the head with your comment about single guys...'if they show respect and join in the fun'
Sex God
yep, swinging for me is first and foremost a social thing. getting to meet some really lovely people, and make some really valuable friendships. there are loads here who seem to share much in common, not just an interest in sex, and everytime i've taken the opportunity to meet with the people here, i've just had a fantastic night out with them.
and then it's about discovering different parts of my sexuality, that aren't too easy to experience any other way, and are kinda elsewhere. personally i can only do that with people i count as friends, and feel secure enough to be open to those experiences with. and hopefully that's a two way street for the people i've swung with too, and they take something from it as well.
i think most of the regs i speak to see it in those kinda terms, and get sooooooo frustrated at the quick shag brigade who come here with no respect for the site or the people on it, but i guess it's inevitable on a site that is primarily about sex.
n x x x
and then it's about discovering different parts of my sexuality, that aren't too easy to experience any other way, and are kinda elsewhere. personally i can only do that with people i count as friends, and feel secure enough to be open to those experiences with. and hopefully that's a two way street for the people i've swung with too, and they take something from it as well.
i think most of the regs i speak to see it in those kinda terms, and get sooooooo frustrated at the quick shag brigade who come here with no respect for the site or the people on it, but i guess it's inevitable on a site that is primarily about sex.
n x x x
Rocking back and forth in the park thrusting your legs in the air to make you go higher...
To be honest, I'm a bit of a fraud because I'm not into swinging. I've seen videos of swingers parties and seen documentaries on TV and it's not something that attracts me; I've read descriptions of swingers clubs and I honestly can't imagine anything worse. Dogging does nothing for me. The only reason I ended up here was that I used to have a fantasy about participating in a threesome, but now that's something I'm happy to leave unfulfilled.. Now, I don't want this to be read as a knock on people who enjoy this lifestyle; hey, if you like it, more power to you. What can I say; I like the quiet life.
I think I'll share with you all a PM that I received, shortly after I joined Swinging-Heaven. At the time, it rubbed me up the wrong way; now, maybe I think I didn't give the author enough credit, and maybe he had a point.
To be honest, I'm a bit of a fraud because I'm not into swinging. I've seen videos of swingers parties and seen documentaries on TV and it's not something that attracts me; I've read descriptions of swingers clubs and I honestly can't imagine anything worse. Dogging does nothing for me. The only reason I ended up here was that I used to have a fantasy about participating in a threesome, but now that's something I'm happy to leave unfulfilled.. Now, I don't want this to be read as a knock on people who enjoy this lifestyle; hey, if you like it, more power to you. What can I say; I like the quiet life.
I think I'll share with you all a PM that I received, shortly after I joined Swinging-Heaven. At the time, it rubbed me up the wrong way; now, maybe I think I didn't give the author enough credit, and maybe he had a point.
Could I ask you why you need to come on such a website? If you are only looking for sex then you will just feel depressed anyway? You should think about what you are actually looking for are you looking for casual sex with a woman or a relationship, if you are looking for casual sex then you are setting yourself up for depression anyway! Have you thought of maybe joining a social group or going a long to a night class or something. Where the chances of meeting single women will increase. I think you'll find if you have a friendship with a woman your chances will improve a lot more. If you are only looking for casual sex this will merely lead to disaster.
If you are only looking for self gratification this will only lead to depression and unhappiness in the long run you will be a lot happier if you look for a relationship. Take bromine in your tea if it helps! At the end of the day there is more to this life than sex.
Good question Heather.
I guess for me and Steve (i think) we have always been adventurous and it was almost like a natural step forwars really.
Though when we first joined this site,which was when we first got into it,then i don't think that either of us realised what great friendships we would i think that swinging for us is primarily about the friendships with open minded people and if we get anything sexual out of it then its an added bonus! :D
I also think that swinging is a way of exploration also,finding out more about ourselves and the different things we like that we never wouldve imagined before.
I guess for me and Steve (i think) we have always been adventurous and it was almost like a natural step forwars really.
Though when we first joined this site,which was when we first got into it,then i don't think that either of us realised what great friendships we would i think that swinging for us is primarily about the friendships with open minded people and if we get anything sexual out of it then its an added bonus! :D
I also think that swinging is a way of exploration also,finding out more about ourselves and the different things we like that we never wouldve imagined before.
Giving.
You go through life and do for others but it becomes a thankless thing; a chore. I am not saying I want gratitude for every day things i would find that boring.
It is just wonderful to see the result in someones eyes. To see them let go,I get wet wrighting about it, and you know what that means.
To give that kind of pleasure is addictive. You cant buy it no mater how rich you are, Its a gift.
You go through life and do for others but it becomes a thankless thing; a chore. I am not saying I want gratitude for every day things i would find that boring.
It is just wonderful to see the result in someones eyes. To see them let go,I get wet wrighting about it, and you know what that means.
To give that kind of pleasure is addictive. You cant buy it no mater how rich you are, Its a gift. Swinging....
First and foremost its about the sex - you can find friends anywhere.
That doesnt mean that the social side isnt important - IT IS, and we have met some people through running parties that we could genuinely call 'friends'.
If a person felt that their Social life was bit lacking I would be very surprised if their intial thought to remedy that would be to join a Swinging Community - people come here because they have what is probably a larger than average sex drive / interest.
Because they are amongst like minded people and because of the annonymity that the internet offers it is very easy to be open about their feelings & interests and because of this its easy to form friendships due to the common bond - sex.
Becasue of this I find it hard to believe that people get into swinging purely for the social aspect - I have no doubts that the social aspect is very important and is probably a reason why people remain in the swinging community but Sex is the real reason we are all here.
Dxxx
First and foremost its about the sex - you can find friends anywhere.
That doesnt mean that the social side isnt important - IT IS, and we have met some people through running parties that we could genuinely call 'friends'.
If a person felt that their Social life was bit lacking I would be very surprised if their intial thought to remedy that would be to join a Swinging Community - people come here because they have what is probably a larger than average sex drive / interest.
Because they are amongst like minded people and because of the annonymity that the internet offers it is very easy to be open about their feelings & interests and because of this its easy to form friendships due to the common bond - sex.
Becasue of this I find it hard to believe that people get into swinging purely for the social aspect - I have no doubts that the social aspect is very important and is probably a reason why people remain in the swinging community but Sex is the real reason we are all here.
Dxxx
Fulfillment of personal fantasies
The feeling of living life to the maximum
Butterflies in the stomach
Anticipation of pleasue to come
Disovering a new body
Feeling attractive
Sharing ultimate fantasies with your partner
All the things that you enjoyed as young and single which over the years can diminish in a relationship that can be reignited by swinging.
The feeling of living life to the maximum
Butterflies in the stomach
Anticipation of pleasue to come
Disovering a new body
Feeling attractive
Sharing ultimate fantasies with your partner
All the things that you enjoyed as young and single which over the years can diminish in a relationship that can be reignited by swinging.
Sex God
hmmmm not sure surreycouple. maybe that's why we're intrigued when we find the site, wondering what sexual antics await, but i think for many of us, the social side and the friendships become more important, and the main reason for being here changes. there are many here i'll probably never swing with most likely, but i still come here cos they are, i hope, my friends. sex is definitely not the real reason i'm still here.
n x x x
n x x x
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Swinging....
First and foremost its about the sex - you can find anywhere
Becasue of this I find it hard to believe that people get into swinging purely for the social aspect - I have no doubts that the social aspect is very important and is probably a reason why people remain in the swinging community but Sex is the real reason we are all here.
Dxxx
I agree, couldnt have said it better myself, sex without the does happen though but its not my prime motivator
Hmmm....
We wanted to find similar people to have sex with. OK, we want them to be articulate and share other interests, too.
We don't fancy a club, as it seems a bit forced and un-natural.
It all came about for us when I experienced my first threesome, with Reese and another guy. It happened quite organically, same as in a 'vanilla' environment... ya know.. one thing led to another and we all ended up in bed. As ya do.
Much as I loved hearing about Blues party, for example... that scares the hell outta me! But I really love seeing the pics and hearing the tales. I mean really love it.
Dogging? No ta. Did sex in a car at 15 and 16. Not that supple or prepared for the discomfort any more.
Having said all that... anybody (especially single males) found wandering, even vaguely, near our hotel room on Saturday night will probably get 'vanished' for a fair few hours.
We wanted to find similar people to have sex with. OK, we want them to be articulate and share other interests, too.
We don't fancy a club, as it seems a bit forced and un-natural.
It all came about for us when I experienced my first threesome, with Reese and another guy. It happened quite organically, same as in a 'vanilla' environment... ya know.. one thing led to another and we all ended up in bed. As ya do.
Much as I loved hearing about Blues party, for example... that scares the hell outta me! But I really love seeing the pics and hearing the tales. I mean really love it.
Dogging? No ta. Did sex in a car at 15 and 16. Not that supple or prepared for the discomfort any more.
Having said all that... anybody (especially single males) found wandering, even vaguely, near our hotel room on Saturday night will probably get 'vanished' for a fair few hours.
We love sex! myself and my partner have discovered that our sex life is better than ever now(we are fucking like bunnies) since we started to why? well we think we realised that we could have lived without swinging and just had an ordinary sex life,we just wanted to move to the next level,does that make any sense?We have been together for 17 years had two kids and will grow old together but it just turns me on to watch her have sex with another man and vice versa.
Dave and Maggie
Dave and Maggie
Sex God
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Having said all that... anybody (especially single males) found wandering, even vaguely, near our hotel room on Saturday night will probably get 'vanished' for a fair few hours.
Speak for yourself! You've obviously not seen my generously multi-gendered list of potential victims! ;)
~Reese! :love:
Sex God
you going to be ticking them off one by one reese?
Sex God
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you going to be ticking them off one by one reese?
Not necessarily, as some come in twos.
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hmmmm not sure surreycouple. maybe that's why we're intrigued when we find the site, wondering what sexual antics await, but i think for many of us, the social side and the friendships become more important, and the main reason for being here changes. there are many here i'll probably never swing with most likely, but i still come here cos they are, i hope, my friends. sex is definitely not the real reason i'm still here.
n x x x
Hi Neil.
What arent you sure about - you have basically agreed with me.
Swinging is about sex, S-E-X sex.
None of us would be here if we didnt have just that little bit more interest in sex than your average man / woman (whatever that is!!).
This site doesnt just pop up when your doing a search for the discography of Val Doonican (unless Mark has been doing something interesting with serach engines!!) - you have to be looking for a site like this.
Yes indeed, reasons for remaining within the SH community (moreover this forum) may change but ultimately the real reason we are all here is sex.
Whilst I'm not casting any aspersion's at you and this is a very general statement but I feel anyone who claims that the social aspect is their main reason for being here is pandering to some sort of sychophantic regime where they feel its neccessary to shout from the rooftops that the social side is more important.
Dont you think..??
Dxxx
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hmmmm not sure surreycouple. maybe that's why we're intrigued when we find the site, wondering what sexual antics await, but i think for many of us, the social side and the friendships become more important, and the main reason for being here changes. there are many here i'll probably never swing with most likely, but i still come here cos they are, i hope, my friends. sex is definitely not the real reason i'm still here.
n x x x
Hi Neil.
What arent you sure about - you have basically agreed with me.
Swinging is about sex, S-E-X sex.
None of us would be here if we didnt have just that little bit more interest in sex than your average man / woman (whatever that is!!).
This site doesnt just pop up when your doing a search for the discography of Val Doonican (unless Mark has been doing something interesting with serach engines!!) - you have to be looking for a site like this.
Yes indeed, reasons for remaining within the SH community (moreover this forum) may change but ultimately the real reason we are all here is sex.
Whilst I'm not casting any aspersion's at you and this is a very general statement but I feel anyone who claims that the social aspect is their main reason for being here is pandering to some sort of sychofantic regime where they feel its neccessary to shout from the rooftops that the social side is more important.
Dont you think..??
Dxxx
Your right neil!! This shoiuld be the one place we can just say "i want a fuck" and not have to dress it up!!!
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Whilst I'm not casting any aspersion's at you and this is a very general statement but I feel anyone who claims that the social aspect is their main reason for being here is pandering to some sort of sychophantic regime where they feel its neccessary to shout from the rooftops that the social side is more important.
Kinda like needing to proclaim loudly that you're reading the political story on page 2 of The Sun, right?
But let me put it this way; if I was here for the sex, I'd be asking for my money back. I'm here for the simple reason that I stumbled in looking for sex, stopped looking for sex, and am now too lazy to find somewhere else to go to waste time chattering when I'm already known here.
I came into this like most single guys looking for an easy shag.
Yes sex with strangers is the main motivator but it does develop into something a bit deeper.
Friendships do happen
OK I haven't met with ANYONE on this site but just coming into the forum and reading the posts, answering a few gives you a kind of kinship to like minded ppl.
Ultimately yes we ALL started out looking for sex and probably for some that is still the case. I come from Glasgow and I'm in here has a single person so theres two strikes against me but I love the banter in here and thats what makes this site all the more addictive.
I would still like to meet strange ppl for sex but it's no longer my main motive
Yes sex with strangers is the main motivator but it does develop into something a bit deeper.
Friendships do happen
OK I haven't met with ANYONE on this site but just coming into the forum and reading the posts, answering a few gives you a kind of kinship to like minded ppl.
Ultimately yes we ALL started out looking for sex and probably for some that is still the case. I come from Glasgow and I'm in here has a single person so theres two strikes against me but I love the banter in here and thats what makes this site all the more addictive.
I would still like to meet strange ppl for sex but it's no longer my main motive
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Kinda like needing to proclaim loudly that you're reading the political story on page 2 of The Sun, right?
Hi Roger
You've got me all confused with your proclaimation mon ami - page 2 of the Sun???
Either my post resembles and actual article (if it does its purely coincidence) or you're making a joke that I dont get (not beyond the realms of possibility!!)
Dxxx
