just a general question really, and i dont mean turn ons and turn offs specifically.
recently i have noticed that after leaving a 2 year relationship where we didnt use condoms, to now using them regularly i find it slightly off putting and a little odd.....sometimes with the associated loss of performance.
also although i am not normally a nervous person, new scenarios tend to give me butterflies which also has a similar side effect.
at the moment im under the impression that drinking coffee also knocks my sex drive in half.....but this may just be in my head.
ok, that was a little more honest than i wanted it to be, but there ya go.......anyone else have similar things....or others?
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what hinders your peformance?
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booze was the last thing to try and get the better of me,,,,,, those that know me will now understand why i dont drink 
:lol: :lol:
oh yeah and my young daughter in a morning sitting outside the bedroom door waiting for us to get up
:lol: :lol: oh yeah and my young daughter in a morning sitting outside the bedroom door waiting for us to get up
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just a general question really, and i dont mean turn ons and turn offs specifically.
recently i have noticed that after leaving a 2 year relationship where we didnt use condoms, to now using them regularly i find it slightly off putting and a little odd.....sometimes with the associated loss of performance.
also although i am not normally a nervous person, new scenarios tend to give me butterflies which also has a similar side effect.
at the moment im under the impression that drinking coffee also knocks my sex drive in half.....but this may just be in my head.
ok, that was a little more honest than i wanted it to be, but there ya go.......anyone else have similar things....or others?
I agree using condoms when you are not use to them can have a effect on your perormance especially if its with a new partner who your trying to impress. It puts unwanted pressure on you and can take away the relaxed feeling.
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just a general question really, and i dont mean turn ons and turn offs specifically.
recently i have noticed that after leaving a 2 year relationship where we didnt use condoms, to now using them regularly i find it slightly off putting and a little odd.....sometimes with the associated loss of performance.
also although i am not normally a nervous person, new scenarios tend to give me butterflies which also has a similar side effect.
at the moment im under the impression that drinking coffee also knocks my sex drive in half.....but this may just be in my head.
ok, that was a little more honest than i wanted it to be, but there ya go.......anyone else have similar things....or others?
Nerves get the better of all of us at some point. After about 1-3 times you get used to it and relax more. But the main causes are alcohol, sleep deprivation, oversleeping, lethargy, depression, hyperactivity, nerves, stress and being laughed at. As long as you avoid all those you're good to go
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it's got to be bad breath and body odour.
I'm afraid if someone can't take the time to freshen themselves up, and then expect you know what they have no respect !
yup - thats the main one for me - and garlic breath 
'serious' sex puts me right off too - you know, when you can just tell that someone's nervous and trying desperatly to impress....but trying to hard.....and making a right hash of it
I'd much rather them say 'fookin hell i'm dead nervous, sorry
ops' ..have a laugh about it together...chill out...and try again later 
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Sex God
Definitely too much alcohol but also peeps who keep their trainers and/or socks on and nothing else!
Eeeeeeeeeeeew! :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
:rascal: :rascal:
Eeeeeeeeeeeew! :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
:rascal: :rascal:
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anti depressants! Just say NO!
stale garlic -none of this going on if he's ate that the night before!
Kids, telephones, knowing that I've got to be somewhere in an hour's time or more - usually work.
Just say no to drugs. As i said when younger used to take illegal happy pills. They would make you so horny but seriously shrink your cock. That you couldn't find it
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Just say no to drugs. As i said when younger used to take illegal happy pills. They would make you so horny but seriously shrink your cock. That you couldn't find it
:shock: :shock: :shock: Did you manage to find it again? :lol: :lol:
didn't want to find it!Tend to find as a newbie swinger that new situations such as parties make you a little nervous and cause performance problems.
A room full of naked people and it just won't do as it's told.. must be the definition of frustration :doh:
Alchohol in moderation helps a bit with the nerves i find.
A room full of naked people and it just won't do as it's told.. must be the definition of frustration :doh:
Alchohol in moderation helps a bit with the nerves i find.
*lancy considers himself told lol
hey it wasnt that much of a problem before (#blushes#), it just annoys me that i can do soooo much better without using em.
hey, no exucse in tryin what you mention tho......any suggestions for music?
ive also found out this week that using normal sized condoms doesnt help either lol
hey it wasnt that much of a problem before (#blushes#), it just annoys me that i can do soooo much better without using em.
hey, no exucse in tryin what you mention tho......any suggestions for music?
ive also found out this week that using normal sized condoms doesnt help either lol
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person
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My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person
nn, thanks for being honest too....im glad im not the only one on this post feeling a little self concious.
you shouldnt worry tho, when your with the right people and it clicks im sure your worrying about nothing. I know i few people who are really concious about themselves naked, but i cant seem to put into words how georgous they look in my eyes.
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My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person
Least you dont have to worry about loosing an erection
and iam sure you look stunning naked, beauty is in the eye of the beholder 
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My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person
Least you dont have to worry about loosing an erection
and iam sure you look stunning naked, beauty is in the eye of the beholder no i have to worry about them not loosing an erection :lol2:
Quote by naughtynymphos1
My lack of self confidence hinders my performance.....
to be honest i don't look at my best naked :lol2: and because i am so self concious about what i look like it really does stop be from letting go and enjoying myself, i just spend the whole time thinking about how bad i must look to the other person
Least you dont have to worry about loosing an erection
and iam sure you look stunning naked, beauty is in the eye of the beholder no i have to worry about them not loosing an erection :lol2:
good come back!
why are women shocked when they find out blokes worry about stuff like that too? lol
