Why do so many of the couples in the couples seeking couples section only post a picture of the female, worse still why do they reply to ours with just a picture of the female? (even though they want full swap!?!?)
If any of the couples who do that are reading this could you please try to explain to us what this is all about? (is my partner supposed to not care what the guy looks like?)
I just feel like either these people are really intensely stupid or we're missing the point entirely.....
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Sex God
Well speaking for me ( G ) even though we dont have a picture ad here , I would guess its cos most of us fellas are ugly bastards . Just a guess mind .
You could be right G I mean don't want to scare people away before we start do we.
Psychogical Diss... Peeps think it's only the woman who's attractive enough to warrant attention, the lady is the tool of seduction. Plus a lot of blokes like me think we'd turn your milk sour with our ugly mugs.
It is daft though, if you're advertising something you shouldn't leave out half the product.
Psychogical Diss... Peeps think it's only the woman who's attractive enough to warrant attention, the lady is the tool of seduction. Plus a lot of blokes like me think we'd turn your milk sour with our ugly mugs.
It is daft though, if you're advertising something you shouldn't leave out half the product.
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You could be right G I mean don't want to scare people away before we start do we.
Psychogical Diss... Peeps think it's only the woman who's attractive enough to warrant attention, the lady is the tool of seduction. Plus a lot of blokes like me think we'd turn your milk sour with our ugly mugs.
It is daft though, if you're advertising something you shouldn't leave out half the product.
Extremely well said!...blimey...quite deep and honest these posts.....aren't they! :shock: ....suppose you have to be to get anywhere and anyone half decent though... :twisted:
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The truth is that alot of fellas have phots of their ex's or wife's come to think of it and put ad's on the net without their knowledge.....I'm talking from experience :cry: :cry: :cry:
All I can say is...shit happens hun, I too have had it done...Time is such a great healer............ :twisted:
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Why do so many of the couples in the couples seeking couples section only post a picture of the female, worse still why do they reply to ours with just a picture of the female? (even though they want full swap!?!?)
If any of the couples who do that are reading this could you please try to explain to us what this is all about? (is my partner supposed to not care what the guy looks like?)
I just feel like either these people are really intensely stupid or we're missing the point entirely.....
Well you have the benefit of youth - it helps a lot. Personally I think you're right, pictures are probably the only option, but not a very good way to meet anyone. I mean they have some relevance for the mechanics of sex
for sure, but they are very little help in deciding if you'd actually like this person or these people.I found doing job interviews that I when I had a picture in front of me I'd have one set of prejudices, often overcome by personality and competence when I actually got into discussion, and the beautiful people you wanted to meet often turned out to have relied so much on looks that they didn't have what was required behind the eyes or when they opened their mouths to speak. Especially true when so much expert help is available to create CV's these days.
Still I have never "swung" so I suppose I'm not a good judge of the things you're actually looking for. I'm told that the pictures the ladies-of-the-night use in the phone boxes are hardly ever, if ever, their own. One wonders how this works, do they suffer a lot of rejection, or do they rely on personality and charm of one sort or another to convert you to a punter when you arrive.
Perhaps if I decide to start meeting people on here I should post a picture of me taken say 15 years ago, (ping :idea: ), and put it down to bad light!
When, in the past, we used another adult site we had four pics of Alicia and just one of me, none of which showed faces. Later we'd exchange clothed facial shots.
As a general rule I'd say that we blokes are afraid of being rejected because of our looks whereas most women can "pull", irrespective of looks.
Of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but when your head's between her legs its hard to look each other in the eye.
As a general rule I'd say that we blokes are afraid of being rejected because of our looks whereas most women can "pull", irrespective of looks.
Of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but when your head's between her legs its hard to look each other in the eye.
Dunno! We have photos of both, and always ask for photos of both.
Our gripe at the moment is that over the last few weeks we've contacted perhaps 10-15 ads? (Out of 1000's!) - and had only one or two replies.
Now as our ad is quite open and informative, and the pics aren't *that bad*, and we always send a nice email etc, why do we not even get "thanks but no thanks" back? It really annoys us. And the ones that reply to us are "yeah - I'm happy to shag anything but my girlfriend wants to like the person first". WTF! And our ad clearly says no full sex!
So perhaps 90% of couples we reply to are false or just rude.
Going clubbing on Saturday - so we'll see if its easier to get a reply from a "hello" in person! May give up on ads
(PS - okay okay - maybe our ad is shit - see : http://photos.swingingheaven.co.uk/photo-adverts/swingers-188472.html and feel free to comment...)
Our gripe at the moment is that over the last few weeks we've contacted perhaps 10-15 ads? (Out of 1000's!) - and had only one or two replies.
Now as our ad is quite open and informative, and the pics aren't *that bad*, and we always send a nice email etc, why do we not even get "thanks but no thanks" back? It really annoys us. And the ones that reply to us are "yeah - I'm happy to shag anything but my girlfriend wants to like the person first". WTF! And our ad clearly says no full sex!
So perhaps 90% of couples we reply to are false or just rude.
Going clubbing on Saturday - so we'll see if its easier to get a reply from a "hello" in person! May give up on ads
(PS - okay okay - maybe our ad is shit - see : http://photos.swingingheaven.co.uk/photo-adverts/swingers-188472.html and feel free to comment...)
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everyone looks the same with a paper bag on their head
seller of paper bags here"bags get ya paper bags,paper bags here " he he make a fortune if put a swinging heaven logo on Okay - I'm not a couple - but when I had an ad on here - I was looking for couples - so got a fair few couples replying. Those that got my attention - even if I didn't end up meeting with them - were those that sent a pic of both together (normal ones - not naked) and those that BOTH replied. It made me immediately feel that they were replying as a couple and that would meet me as a couple - with equal interest. By both replying they gave me the chance to get to know them both.
As for non replies - ONLYUS - I do feel for you on that score. I know at first i found it hard to say "thanks - but no", but I did always try and reply. When my inbox was full though, I did sometimes find myself not replying to all. But the ones I didn't reply to were normally ones that sent a one liner - or tended to come over as single blokes pretending to be couples. Anyone that takes the time to introduce themselves and has shown respect in that, deserves respect back - even if they aren't what you are looking for. I wish you better luck in 2005 x
As for non replies - ONLYUS - I do feel for you on that score. I know at first i found it hard to say "thanks - but no", but I did always try and reply. When my inbox was full though, I did sometimes find myself not replying to all. But the ones I didn't reply to were normally ones that sent a one liner - or tended to come over as single blokes pretending to be couples. Anyone that takes the time to introduce themselves and has shown respect in that, deserves respect back - even if they aren't what you are looking for. I wish you better luck in 2005 x
in replies to our add we always send pics of both of us,like you we cant see the point in sending just the pic of the female,but our add is only pics of the female,as shes so much more appealing than me,we must admit tho,we dont have much luck with our add,we seem to prefer to meet people at clubs etc,then go from there 
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Okay - I'm not a couple - but when I had an ad on here - I was looking for couples - so got a fair few couples replying. Those that got my attention - even if I didn't end up meeting with them - were those that sent a pic of both together (normal ones - not naked) and those that BOTH replied. It made me immediately feel that they were replying as a couple and that would meet me as a couple - with equal interest. By both replying they gave me the chance to get to know them both.
Rainbows~
I can't count the number of times a couple has replied to our ad and only included a photo of the fem half. Are they assuming that Vix doesn't have a say in the situation? Are they assuming that I, as a bi-male, don't care what the other half looks like? Shallow on my part, I know, but it still seems disrespectful; both to Vix & myself...and it's been a complaint of mine ever since my very first post on SH. However, you have brought to light something I hadn't considered before: When we receive replies to our ad, I'm typically the one who responds (after Vix & I have agreed upon the "candidate(s)", of course). I'm now wondering if that's the reason we sometimes don't hear back from them; because it's just me replying. Hmm.
~Reese!
We don't have an ad at the moment ... but when we did I will admit that it only included a pic of me our excuse was that we didn't actually have a pic of Morbius ops:
Our webpage only includes pics of me and is the reason Morbius doesn't include it on his profile.
I have taken note for the future ;)
our excuse was that we didn't actually have a pic of Morbius ops: Our webpage only includes pics of me and is the reason Morbius doesn't include it on his profile.
I have taken note for the future ;)
