I have been in a few situations in the past where I have witnessed a person in trouble and have always done something about it. One was an old lady I saw having her purse removed from her bag. Another was a man being knocked off his bike. I couldn’t just ignore these situations.
But I remember my Dad once running out of the house when we heard a Lady screaming, she was being dragged into a car. My Dad approached willing to help only for her to turn around and say Mind you own business. He said never again.
Would you stop and help somebody in trouble?
Have you helped, what kind of response did you get?
Would you do it again?
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Would you help someone in trouble?
I stopped a guy 6 months ago from really beating up his girlfriend outside a night club, he had smashed her nose and she was cut and bleeding, however having dragged him off her and punching him to the ground and sitting on him to stop him doing more damage to her, SHE started attacking me shouting get off my boyfriend!!!
After 5 hours in a police station i was cautioned for hitting him, and he was just told to go home as the girlfriend lied and said she had fallen over drunk.
Would i help someone again...... yeah probably cos had i not helped her he would have near killed her and i could not have that on my concience.
After 5 hours in a police station i was cautioned for hitting him, and he was just told to go home as the girlfriend lied and said she had fallen over drunk.
Would i help someone again...... yeah probably cos had i not helped her he would have near killed her and i could not have that on my concience.
I couldn't watch someone in trouble and just walk away so I'd do something whether it was intervene myself or ring the police. The trouble is you hear of so many people being seriously injured or even killed when they try to help someone out so you have to be make a snap decision.
I caught 2 kids trying to nick my bike one night and waded into them, kicked them out of the garden and called the police. Within 30 minutes they were caught and I went to give a statement. Turns out when they were searched one of them had a knife on them and could easily have used it on me. I think it was the sight of a mad middle aged woman in her pj's running at them that scared the holy crap out of them!
I caught 2 kids trying to nick my bike one night and waded into them, kicked them out of the garden and called the police. Within 30 minutes they were caught and I went to give a statement. Turns out when they were searched one of them had a knife on them and could easily have used it on me. I think it was the sight of a mad middle aged woman in her pj's running at them that scared the holy crap out of them!
Quote by browning
I don't get involved anymore, it's not worth the trouble.
A sad reflection on the society in which we live.
I partly agree with browning on this one - I have in the past tried to help people in trouble. On one occasion I was punched and on the other occasion I had to attend court as a witness 3 times and miles away, which was a very harrowing and eventually fruitless (no conviction) exercise. Now, all I will do (and I've done this once) is watch the crime, took a surreptitious pic on my phone and reported it anonymously to Crimestoppers. Whether anything came of it, I don't know - but I contributed my bit without putting myself in any kind of risk. A bit half-hearted I know, but at least it was something.
Slurpy xx
Yes I would, but first would try to assess the situation if possible! Amazing how many times you o to help a woman whose being beaten up etc and she tells you off for stepping in!!
I once stopped a fight between two hefty sized teenagers, it looked like they were really doing some damage to each other. Only to be told by both that they were *play fighting* bluddy kids!
Really does depend on the situation and where it is...some look easy to judge, others not! Sometimes better way of helping is to call the police...
I once stopped a fight between two hefty sized teenagers, it looked like they were really doing some damage to each other. Only to be told by both that they were *play fighting* bluddy kids!
Really does depend on the situation and where it is...some look easy to judge, others not! Sometimes better way of helping is to call the police...
I always have intervened and I always will. It led to my nickname Kissinger as a young man. I must admit its cost me two front teeth a few scars a yellow sports jacket, two wives and a dog called Tobias. God I miss that dog.
My favorite one was in the Louvre on honeymoon when I spotted a pick pocket.
My rusty schoolboy french had me shouting Pecheur, pecheur, pecheur which I was convnced was french for pickpocket. ( Im still pretty convinced it does)
My wife turned and asked me why in hells name I was shouting fisherman at the top of my voice.
My favorite one was in the Louvre on honeymoon when I spotted a pick pocket.
My rusty schoolboy french had me shouting Pecheur, pecheur, pecheur which I was convnced was french for pickpocket. ( Im still pretty convinced it does)
My wife turned and asked me why in hells name I was shouting fisherman at the top of my voice.
Sex God
Would I help someone???
Of course I would, I think anyone worth their salt would
Or is it just me?
Of course I would, I think anyone worth their salt would
Or is it just me?
my god how can you say oh I wont get involved in this day and age......
what a shitty attitude!!
to parafraze a catholic priest who survived the natzi death camps
when they came for the mentalt ill I did nothing i was not mentaly ill
when they came for the gipsies I did nothing I was not a gipsie
when they came for the comunists I did nothing I was not a comunist
when they came for the tradeunionists I did nothing.......
when they came for the jews..........
when they came for me there was noone to do anything!!!!
while you sit in your livingroom congratulating your selfsatisfied self for your political correctness and vision in being able to walk on by ask yourself whos going to come to your aid!!
if ppl like you stoped hiding behind your curtains and opened your front door and steppped out and said NOT ON MY STREET....IN MY TOWN...MY COUNTRY we would not be living in fear of little bits of shit that terrorise neighbourhoods!!
And before anyone climbes on a high horse I am an EX SOLDIER I NEVER cross the road and turn my back and its nothing to do with courage its to do with standing up when your shitting yourself and saying I will not hide!!
look around you7 and ask yourself what sort of a place do you want to live in!!
and do something about it!!!!
what a shitty attitude!!
to parafraze a catholic priest who survived the natzi death camps
when they came for the mentalt ill I did nothing i was not mentaly ill
when they came for the gipsies I did nothing I was not a gipsie
when they came for the comunists I did nothing I was not a comunist
when they came for the tradeunionists I did nothing.......
when they came for the jews..........
when they came for me there was noone to do anything!!!!
while you sit in your livingroom congratulating your selfsatisfied self for your political correctness and vision in being able to walk on by ask yourself whos going to come to your aid!!
if ppl like you stoped hiding behind your curtains and opened your front door and steppped out and said NOT ON MY STREET....IN MY TOWN...MY COUNTRY we would not be living in fear of little bits of shit that terrorise neighbourhoods!!
And before anyone climbes on a high horse I am an EX SOLDIER I NEVER cross the road and turn my back and its nothing to do with courage its to do with standing up when your shitting yourself and saying I will not hide!!
look around you7 and ask yourself what sort of a place do you want to live in!!
and do something about it!!!!
my days of wading in to help people i know in drunken brawls is pretty much over these days. now id just set my camera rolling and post the results on the net.
as for getting involved in (violent) domestics..... i agree..... its not worth the effort of taking on the male.......... but i tend to think i would try in some way to stop a woman taking a real beating.... and id no way admit any offence to the police just so id get a caution.... id be pleading not guilty all the way.
as for getting involved in (violent) domestics..... i agree..... its not worth the effort of taking on the male.......... but i tend to think i would try in some way to stop a woman taking a real beating.... and id no way admit any offence to the police just so id get a caution.... id be pleading not guilty all the way.
Sex God
Quote by DeeCee
my days of wading in to help people i know in drunken brawls is pretty much over these days. now id just set my camera rolling and post the results on the net.
as for getting involved in (violent) domestics..... i agree..... its not worth the effort of taking on the male.......... but i tend to think i would try in some way to stop a woman taking a real beating.... and id no way admit any offence to the police just so id get a caution.... id be pleading not guilty all the way.
I do find that sort of attitude quite worrying
my god how can you say oh I wont get involved in this day and age......
what a shitty attitude!!
to parafraze a catholic priest who survived the natzi death camps
when they came for the mentalt ill I did nothing i was not mentaly ill
when they came for the gipsies I did nothing I was not a gipsie
when they came for the comunists I did nothing I was not a comunist
when they came for the tradeunionists I did nothing.......
when they came for the jews..........
when they came for me there was noone to do anything!!!!
while you sit in your livingroom congratulating your selfsatisfied self for your political correctness and vision in being able to walk on by ask yourself whos going to come to your aid!!
if ppl like you stoped hiding behind your curtains and opened your front door and steppped out and said NOT ON MY STREET....IN MY TOWN...MY COUNTRY we would not be living in fear of little bits of shit that terrorise neighbourhoods!!
And before anyone climbes on a high horse I am an EX SOLDIER I NEVER cross the road and turn my back and its nothing to do with courage its to do with standing up when your shitting yourself and saying I will not hide!!
look around you7 and ask yourself what sort of a place do you want to live in!!
and do something about it!!!!
I gotta say big fella if u was a lass id shag yer brains oput just for that post. Take care
what a shitty attitude!!
to parafraze a catholic priest who survived the natzi death camps
when they came for the mentalt ill I did nothing i was not mentaly ill
when they came for the gipsies I did nothing I was not a gipsie
when they came for the comunists I did nothing I was not a comunist
when they came for the tradeunionists I did nothing.......
when they came for the jews..........
when they came for me there was noone to do anything!!!!
while you sit in your livingroom congratulating your selfsatisfied self for your political correctness and vision in being able to walk on by ask yourself whos going to come to your aid!!
if ppl like you stoped hiding behind your curtains and opened your front door and steppped out and said NOT ON MY STREET....IN MY TOWN...MY COUNTRY we would not be living in fear of little bits of shit that terrorise neighbourhoods!!
And before anyone climbes on a high horse I am an EX SOLDIER I NEVER cross the road and turn my back and its nothing to do with courage its to do with standing up when your shitting yourself and saying I will not hide!!
look around you7 and ask yourself what sort of a place do you want to live in!!
and do something about it!!!!
I gotta say big fella if u was a lass id shag yer brains oput just for that post. Take care
Sex God
Quote by poshkate
I do find that sort of attitude quite worrying
Quote by deecee
well theres no shortage of (cctv) footage released by the police to the media of criminal behaviour that ends up both on TV and on the net.... whats wrong with members of the public doing the same?
yes there is CCTV etc.......I was more worried about you filming something rather than taking more worth while action.
Quote by benrums0n
my god how can you say oh I wont get involved in this day and age......
what a shitty attitude!!
to parafraze a catholic priest who survived the natzi death camps
when they came for the mentalt ill I did nothing i was not mentaly ill
when they came for the gipsies I did nothing I was not a gipsie
when they came for the comunists I did nothing I was not a comunist
when they came for the tradeunionists I did nothing.......
when they came for the jews..........
when they came for me there was noone to do anything!!!!
while you sit in your livingroom congratulating your selfsatisfied self for your political correctness and vision in being able to walk on by ask yourself whos going to come to your aid!!
if ppl like you stoped hiding behind your curtains and opened your front door and steppped out and said NOT ON MY STREET....IN MY TOWN...MY COUNTRY we would not be living in fear of little bits of shit that terrorise neighbourhoods!!
And before anyone climbes on a high horse I am an EX SOLDIER I NEVER cross the road and turn my back and its nothing to do with courage its to do with standing up when your shitting yourself and saying I will not hide!!
look around you7 and ask yourself what sort of a place do you want to live in!!
and do something about it!!!!
I gotta say big fella if u was a lass id shag yer brains oput just for that post. Take care
who are you replying to?
doh wait... ive figured it out.......... my bad
Quote by poshkate
I do find that sort of attitude quite worrying
Quote by deecee
well theres no shortage of (cctv) footage released by the police to the media of criminal behaviour that ends up both on TV and on the net.... whats wrong with members of the public doing the same?
yes there is CCTV etc.......I was more worried about you filming something rather than taking more worth while action.
oh, no need to worry yerself... but i was referring quite clearly to "people i know in drunken brawls".... for obvious reasons, if people wanna act like drunken louts and fight for stupid reasons, id quite happily watch and highlight their behaviour to others.
what "more worthwhile action" can u suggest when theres a mele going on apart from not getting involved? wading in ( to stop it or not) is blatant stupidity( see the post made by slurpy sarah). ive had a go a few times............ its impossible to dynamics of street fights are pretty similar and often it takes a team of highly trained individuals to stop them help arrives when its too late, and to be honest, it can only take one punch ( or bad fall) to cause seriou injury or even death.
i can see that we are a little off topic here as the orig post was more about helping random strangers. i apologise for that kate..... and of course i wont take your comments as patronising........
Quote by DeeCee
I do find that sort of attitude quite worrying
Quote by deecee
well theres no shortage of (cctv) footage released by the police to the media of criminal behaviour that ends up both on TV and on the net.... whats wrong with members of the public doing the same?
yes there is CCTV etc.......I was more worried about you filming something rather than taking more worth while action.
oh, ta for the concern( im not trying to be patronizing or whatever) but i was referring quite clearly to "people i know in drunken brawls".... for obvious reasons, if people wanna act like drunken louts and fight for stupid reasons, id quite happily watch and highlight their behaviour to others.
what "more worthwhile action" can u suggest when theres a mele going on apart from not getting involved? wading in ( to stop it or not) is blatant stupidity( see the post made by slurpy sarah). ive had a go a few times............ its impossible to stop.
I tend to agree with you DC on a huge drunken brawl, there is probably not a lot you can do about it if you did step in..... but totally agree with what PK says about filming it? An what would it achieve posting it on the internet? More people going out an filming other peoples misfortune to be set upon??? Why not call the police? They are the ones who are paid to deal with those issues..
I certainly couldnt stand and watch it or film it...... far better to try an do something constructive!
Quote by anais
I do find that sort of attitude quite worrying
Quote by deecee
well theres no shortage of (cctv) footage released by the police to the media of criminal behaviour that ends up both on TV and on the net.... whats wrong with members of the public doing the same?
yes there is CCTV etc.......I was more worried about you filming something rather than taking more worth while action.
oh, ta for the concern( im not trying to be patronizing or whatever) but i was referring quite clearly to "people i know in drunken brawls".... for obvious reasons, if people wanna act like drunken louts and fight for stupid reasons, id quite happily watch and highlight their behaviour to others.
what "more worthwhile action" can u suggest when theres a mele going on apart from not getting involved? wading in ( to stop it or not) is blatant stupidity( see the post made by slurpy sarah). ive had a go a few times............ its impossible to stop.
I tend to agree with you DC on a huge drunken brawl, there is probably not a lot you can do about it if you did step in..... but totally agree with what PK says about filming it? An what would it achieve posting it on the internet? More people going out an filming other peoples misfortune to be set upon??? Why not call the police? They are the ones who are paid to deal with those issues..
I certainly couldnt stand and watch it or film it...... far better to try an do something constructive!
omg. how do i answer this one... apart from saying that i actually edited the post i made whilst you were posting yourself.i had a go at trying to rationalise what one should best do in such situations.
the short answer is....we are going really off topic... and if my memory serves me right there was a thread on this ages ago. i think the thread relates more to helping random "victims"... and i think i have also answered that too.
if someone starts a thread on the merits or otherwise of filming real life incidents and broadcasting them. i will obviously post on there...
Quote by DeeCee
I do find that sort of attitude quite worrying
Quote by deecee
well theres no shortage of (cctv) footage released by the police to the media of criminal behaviour that ends up both on TV and on the net.... whats wrong with members of the public doing the same?
yes there is CCTV etc.......I was more worried about you filming something rather than taking more worth while action.
oh, ta for the concern( im not trying to be patronizing or whatever) but i was referring quite clearly to "people i know in drunken brawls".... for obvious reasons, if people wanna act like drunken louts and fight for stupid reasons, id quite happily watch and highlight their behaviour to others.
what "more worthwhile action" can u suggest when theres a mele going on apart from not getting involved? wading in ( to stop it or not) is blatant stupidity( see the post made by slurpy sarah). ive had a go a few times............ its impossible to stop.
I tend to agree with you DC on a huge drunken brawl, there is probably not a lot you can do about it if you did step in..... but totally agree with what PK says about filming it? An what would it achieve posting it on the internet? More people going out an filming other peoples misfortune to be set upon??? Why not call the police? They are the ones who are paid to deal with those issues..
I certainly couldnt stand and watch it or film it...... far better to try an do something constructive!
omg. how do i answer this one... apart from saying that i actually edited the post i made whilst you were posting yourself.i had a go at trying to rationalise what one should best do in such situations.
the short answer is....we are going really off topic... and if my memory serves me right there was a thread on this ages ago. i think the thread relates more to helping random "victims"... and i think i have also answered that too.
if someone starts a thread on the merits or otherwise of filming real life incidents and broadcasting them. i will obviously post on there...
ooops sorry
:? And yes, it has gone off slightly..... these threads normally do :) Your also quite right, there was another thread a while back, i think i posted on it as well... :)
the road to hell is not paved with good intentions
its paved with easy options and compromise
there is right and wrong is is wrong for a yob male or female drunk or sober to assault anyone
assault occasioning actual bodily harm(bruising)or GBH(bleeding) carry a maximum penelty of over 2 years in prison so so long as you say you are making a citizens arrest you can use resonable force to detain whoever it is till the police arrive and you will only be in the police station giving a statment not under arrest!
its paved with easy options and compromise
there is right and wrong is is wrong for a yob male or female drunk or sober to assault anyone
assault occasioning actual bodily harm(bruising)or GBH(bleeding) carry a maximum penelty of over 2 years in prison so so long as you say you are making a citizens arrest you can use resonable force to detain whoever it is till the police arrive and you will only be in the police station giving a statment not under arrest!
Sex God
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A word of warning.
Women who are abused by their men will lie to protect them, they will deny any injury and explain it away.
Sad, but they feel more secure being beaten than being without their man.
Travis
Some women.
Quote by Freckledbird
A word of warning.
Women who are abused by their men will lie to protect them, they will deny any injury and explain it away.
Sad, but they feel more secure being beaten than being without their man.
Travis
Some women.
Women who are abused and stay with the abuser. I stand corrected.
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
My Dad approached willing to help only for her to turn around and say Mind you own business. He said never again.
Yeah I'm familiar with this, and so I'm very cautious now. The worst of it was that while I'd rushed to this lady's help, she looked at me and said "don't touch me you black …"
Can't win really.
:( :( A motor mechanic and his wife were woken at 3-00 AM by a knock on the door:
"Some drunk guy just asked for a push," a man said.
The mechanic and his wife discussed it, eventually, the mechanic got dressed and went outside to help. "Where are you?" he asked.
A voice came back from down the garden, "over here on the swing", the drunk said.
Plim :lol: :lol:
"Some drunk guy just asked for a push," a man said.
The mechanic and his wife discussed it, eventually, the mechanic got dressed and went outside to help. "Where are you?" he asked.
A voice came back from down the garden, "over here on the swing", the drunk said.
Plim
:lol: :lol: 