Think of your bestest mate....not your partner, or a swinger....would you if circumstances presented themsleves, shag them or not?
Is it something you feel would alter the realtionship for the better....worse...or not change a thing??
Is it something you have done and wished you hadnt? Or something that you did and loved it so much you kept on doing it?
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Would you shag a mate?
Sex God
Done it with best mate and her bloke, wasnt planned and it didnt change anything for us but i can see why it could.....
personally wouldnt recommend it
unless everyone involved has the maturity? to not let it change anything in the friendships/relationships
They are the only people who know i swing outside of the swinging side of things, they asked me because i swing and know my strong views on sex vs relationships and how easily i part the 2 :shock:
personally wouldnt recommend it
unless everyone involved has the maturity? to not let it change anything in the friendships/relationshipsThey are the only people who know i swing outside of the swinging side of things, they asked me because i swing and know my strong views on sex vs relationships and how easily i part the 2 :shock:
Been there, done that, never again! It started as 'no strings, friends with benefits' and ended up as a fairly one-sided relationship for 2 years.
Broke my heart when it ended and almost destroyed a friendship I held so dear. Our friendship suffered such a blow that it'll never be as good as it was once :cry:
There are some things that aren't worth getting your tits out for
Broke my heart when it ended and almost destroyed a friendship I held so dear. Our friendship suffered such a blow that it'll never be as good as it was once :cry:
There are some things that aren't worth getting your tits out for
Sex God
I don't think he'd be too happy and his manboobs are too small as well :mrgreen: 
nah, I wouldn't at all ever.
It is irrelevant that my friends are all gay men.
Although, I am going to a queer swinging club with one of them in September (Amsterdam) We have agreed that we will walk away if we spot the other having sex. We have seen each other naked and heard each other having sex but that is a big leap to actually watching each other or doing it with each other. It would feel incestuous.
It is irrelevant that my friends are all gay men.
Although, I am going to a queer swinging club with one of them in September (Amsterdam) We have agreed that we will walk away if we spot the other having sex. We have seen each other naked and heard each other having sex but that is a big leap to actually watching each other or doing it with each other. It would feel incestuous.
Sex God
If I tried he'd punch me 
In seriousness though. I think If it was to happen then best not on a whim but talked about in the cold light of day and sober. That way you may be able to come to some understanding. Doing it on the spur of the moment might be because of other reasons such as sympathy, inquisitiveness, guilt, drink, oh lots of things other than the fact that you just both just want to f*ck.
I'd stay clear
In seriousness though. I think If it was to happen then best not on a whim but talked about in the cold light of day and sober. That way you may be able to come to some understanding. Doing it on the spur of the moment might be because of other reasons such as sympathy, inquisitiveness, guilt, drink, oh lots of things other than the fact that you just both just want to f*ck.
I'd stay clear
Sex God
No, as it might ruin things.
I continually end up being friends with people I'd like to shag. It's a bastard.
Given that I'm only very slightly and tentatively bisexual, and the three or so people I could call "best friends" are all straight men, I'm not going to go there.
I have lots of female friends I've wanted to shag a some point, some of whom I'd still like to shag. Since most of the people I want to shag have been told that I want to shag them (by me or by their friends who I told in the expectation that word would get around)... it's a) not that likely to happen, but b) I think not that likely to cause that much damage if it does happen.
On the other hand, I am friends with quite a lot of people I have shagged. Which has to be good.
Given that I'm only very slightly and tentatively bisexual, and the three or so people I could call "best friends" are all straight men, I'm not going to go there.
I have lots of female friends I've wanted to shag a some point, some of whom I'd still like to shag. Since most of the people I want to shag have been told that I want to shag them (by me or by their friends who I told in the expectation that word would get around)... it's a) not that likely to happen, but b) I think not that likely to cause that much damage if it does happen.
On the other hand, I am friends with quite a lot of people I have shagged. Which has to be good.
Not now, it is against our rules. We kind of almost did, once, it never happened, then I did later. It changed thing between the friend, odd I could never put my finger on it.
The service pulled use apart, but we still exchange letters and card as two couples and friends!
Now friends and partners friends are off the menu. So never again, unless the rules change.
Then again I do have new friends I have shagged first. Is that shagging a freind, or befriending a shag?
The service pulled use apart, but we still exchange letters and card as two couples and friends!
Now friends and partners friends are off the menu. So never again, unless the rules change.
Then again I do have new friends I have shagged first. Is that shagging a freind, or befriending a shag?
No i wouldnt, to me thats what sites like this are for so i don't have to flaunt my sex life with my none swinging friends, if you had sex with a 'friend' you have to options, confess to them your a swinger so as to explain why your going with someone else besides your hubby or make out your cheating on him so they don't know you swing, i wouldnt want to do either so i'll keep looking on here thanx 
Sex God
Yup have done it with a best 'girl' friend from college. We've been friends for years and kept in touch when we'd left college.
We only did it once but it was something we needed to do to release the pent up tension.
Wouldn't do it again though cos my best friend is a guy, and it might give him an unpleasant surprise.
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We only did it once but it was something we needed to do to release the pent up tension.
Wouldn't do it again though cos my best friend is a guy, and it might give him an unpleasant surprise.
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Yup have done it with a best 'girl' friend from college. We've been friends for years and kept in touch when we'd left college.
We only did it once but it was something we needed to do to release the pent up tension.
Wouldn't do it again though cos my best friend is a guy, and it might give him an unpleasant surprise.
Sex God
I've slept with quite a few of the people I would deem to be close friends.
Best friend? Not sure I have one.
Very, very good friends? I have lots. Very, very good friends who I have slept with and would sleep with again? Yeah, there's a fair few!
But then we have open, frank and pretty forthright relationships and they understand my ideas about sex and agree that it doesn't necessarily mean I am emotionally involved etc etc.
I can see how it may cause some problems though. Just depends on the people involved I guess...
Best friend? Not sure I have one.
Very, very good friends? I have lots. Very, very good friends who I have slept with and would sleep with again? Yeah, there's a fair few!
But then we have open, frank and pretty forthright relationships and they understand my ideas about sex and agree that it doesn't necessarily mean I am emotionally involved etc etc.
I can see how it may cause some problems though. Just depends on the people involved I guess...
Sex God
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Think of your bestest mate....not your partner, or a swinger....would you if circumstances presented themsleves, shag them or not?
Is it something you feel would alter the realtionship for the better....worse...or not change a thing??
Is it something you have done and wished you hadnt? Or something that you did and loved it so much you kept on doing it?
The thing is … have you?
… and did it/would it alter the relationship?
Sex God
Yes I did ...and then I married him.....so proof that yes it does bugger up your friendship :P
:P Our best friend of 12 years is now our very very best friend :P Ended up becoming more than just great friends after a bbq 1 night where we all ended up a bit worse for wear well what can we say after 6 years of the 3 of us playing together but would only have done it with him.. We still see him and sometimes we don't play and he comes over just for a cuppa and a natter but it hasn't affected our friendship... made it better as it gives us something else to talk about aswell :happy:
Ended up becoming more than just great friends after a bbq 1 night where we all ended up a bit worse for wear well what can we say after 6 years of the 3 of us playing together but would only have done it with him.. We still see him and sometimes we don't play and he comes over just for a cuppa and a natter but it hasn't affected our friendship... made it better as it gives us something else to talk about aswell :happy: 