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Would you shag someone you don`t like ?

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I'm with you on this one flower
I've had my desperate moments...
I'm a lot older and wiser now though.
Short story even shorter, it's possible.
No, definitely not, it's far too intimate to share with a person I didn't like - mostly can't even bear to talk to people I don't like so sex would be not even on the list!
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:shock: No absolutely not, I have my scrupples and self respect and if I don't like someone I don't like them, how can you get turned on by someone you don't like?
I'd rather use a rubber dildo if I was that desperate for something inside me.
It would depend on what we are talking about here!!
Looks? or Personality?
Looks mean a lot to start with but personality wins every time

I have neither, so I'm fecked,well No I,m not when you come to think about it lol
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:shock: No absolutely not, I have my scrupples and self respect and if I don't like someone I don't like them, how can you get turned on by someone you don't like?
I'd rather use a rubber dildo if I was that desperate for something inside me.

Exactly :thumbup:
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:shock: No absolutely not, I have my scrupples and self respect and if I don't like someone I don't like them, how can you get turned on by someone you don't like?
I'd rather use a rubber dildo if I was that desperate for something inside me.

Exactly :thumbup:
Same here, how can you actually get turned on by someone you actually do not like?
I can understand 'stranger' sex, where you dont know if you like or dislike the person but base it on physical appearance, I can understand the wanting to get to know someone before you take things further, where you want the whole package, but I cant understand wanting to have sex with someone who you actually dislike.
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:shock: No absolutely not, I have my scrupples and self respect and if I don't like someone I don't like them, how can you get turned on by someone you don't like?
I'd rather use a rubber dildo if I was that desperate for something inside me.

Exactly :thumbup:
Same here, how can you actually get turned on by someone you actually do not like?
I can understand 'stranger' sex, where you dont know if you like or dislike the person but base it on physical appearance, I can understand the wanting to get to know someone before you take things further, where you want the whole package, but I cant understand wanting to have sex with someone who you actually dislike.
I wouldn't want to give someone I had a dislike for any pleasure either confused
If there was no sort of feeling for this person, how could you give a good performance?
I'd definately say no.
>>>Clears throat<<<
I have. Many times. However, something has changed and restored my self respect. I won't be doing it again.
I used to have "black widow syndrome" I'd sleep with someone- then turn really quite nasty, even if they'd done nothing to deserve it. It took years for me to figure out why I was doing it. It was purely because they were my lack of self-respect personified - and I couldn't bear to be around them.
Jag's is right. Sex is too special to share with someone you don't at least like.
If I'm having sex with someone, I want intimacy - and you can't have intimacy with someone you dislike.
Good topic :thumbup:
I once worked at a nursing home and in this nursing home was a care assistant in fact there was two care assistant that was so nasty to me i was untrue.
Now one of these care assistants i did find very sexy indeed, but as a person i really disliked her, but i still fancy'd the pants of her and had may a fantasy about shagging her.
And yes if the oppertunity came up i would have ripped of my right arm to shag her.
i really dont know how to explaine it but the fact that she was pretty and nasty to me made me want her more i still do now.
does this make me shallow if so the call me shallow hal then
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:shock: No absolutely not, I have my scrupples and self respect and if I don't like someone I don't like them, how can you get turned on by someone you don't like?
I'd rather use a rubber dildo if I was that desperate for something inside me.

Could not have put it better myself. cool Except the bit about the rubber dildo. :shock:
COULD I shag someone I didn't like?
Yep I could......but I wouldn't get out of it what I do when I shag someone who I have a 'connection' with.
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I suppose it could be argued that a man might even be aroused by a woman he disliked, especially if she was attractive :!:
Plim :shock:
I could have George Clooney naked in front of me ( fat chance rolleyes ) but if he turned out to be a complete nobhead I wouldn;t think twice about grabbing my coat and leaving.
Sexual rapport for me includes an attraction to them as a person as well as how hot they look
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but if he turned out to be a complete nobhead I wouldn;t think twice about grabbing my coat and leaving.

Why Sassy!! DO I feel as if youre talking complete bollocks there innocent
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but if he turned out to be a complete nobhead I wouldn;t think twice about grabbing my coat and leaving.

Why Sassy!! DO I feel as if youre talking complete bollocks there innocent
rotflmao you pillock! :giggle:
i have done it, im not proud but sometimes i just cant help myself
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sometimes i just cant help myself

Can you give me a shout next time you feel the urge then Tan innocent
Id have to, at the very least, like someone
Unless it was a revenge thing lol
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sometimes i just cant help myself

Can you give me a shout next time you feel the urge then Tan innocent
but i dont hate you rolleyes
ah feck it im shouting now lol
At the risk of generalising here, I think most men would have sex with anyone if it was offered to them, wether they fancied/liked the person or not. Its a man thing isnt it???
On the other hand, us girls, in general, are more discerning wink lol
I think as well, there's a difference between deciding whether to shag someone who you don't like for the first time, as opposed to shagging someone you ar in a relationship with, with you are not getting on with at that time.
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I think as well, there's a difference between deciding whether to shag someone who you don't like for the first time, as opposed to shagging someone you ar in a relationship with, with you are not getting on with at that time.

That is so true. I used to dislike my ex big time but 6 cans of beer and she doing stuff proved me a weak man so i did shag someone i truly and knew i disliked. I think that happened for about 4-5 years.
For the last 15 years i have never wanted to shag anyone else ever. Got close once when we were swinging with a single fem. She was very persuasive and J was waivering, But, we have rules and we only ever change or think of changing them in the cold light of day. However watching J get shagged, Oh yeah sillyhwoar: thats ace but without J there watching does nothing for me. Am I weird dunno don't care biggrin
No, I wouldn't. Mainly because I don't even speak to people I dislike, so the not speaking thing might be a problem anyway.
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:shock: No absolutely not, I have my scrupples and self respect and if I don't like someone I don't like them, how can you get turned on by someone you don't like?
I'd rather use a rubber dildo if I was that desperate for something inside me.

I suppose some women might say that Rhett Butler or Mr Darcy fit the bill.
But I can only speak personally from my own male point of view.
??? Neither of them would do it for me either lol
and, of course it's your opinion as is mine wink
No I wouldnt engage in sexual activity (hate the word shag lol) with someone I disliked.............I much prefer to socialise first, see how that goes and then go ahead..........dont do first date sex.........even with women.
sex with someone you dont like is just like watching the crime and investigation channel.
Apart from the disposal of the dead body of course. lol
I have done it... but then again sometimes I meet them and think that I like them well enough to have sex... and during sex I realise that I don't like them at all. At that point I get to the end and never meet them again. That isn't such a big deal tho' as there are few people I have sex with more than once.
I must admit... if I like them then the sex is loads more satisfying as it becomes a mental and emotional experience as well as physical.