A lot of the time I'm also quiet and 'doing my own thing' while watching the room go by and seeing who's who & all that.
Now, the reason for this post is to ask some people to climb off their high horse and off my back.
Why????
Well, because I've noticed a 'change' from some people who I used to speak to on a regular basis.
One evening, in the chat room I made a comment about an obvious male pic collector who was trying to pretend to be female. I made a comment that usually, that type of person is a saddo and is usually single.
This comment was turned into something very nasty and spiteful by someone who twisted it to the extent the above comment was made in relation to all single people and not just the saddo males who pretend to be females.
That isn't what I said and it certainly isn't what I meant. My comments were directed at those people who are in fact male and pretend to be female, not just on SH but all over the net.
Since that night, there has been 1 person who is constantly on my back about anything I say and another who sent an aggressive message to the room directed at me.
The other day someone else was on my back because I refuse most PM's from those who ask to PM with me
OK so maybe I'm being a tad over sensitive, but it's rather obvious to me that the person who reacted badly to my comments has now started "logging" what I say in the room to try and use my words as "evidence against me" in order to get me banned from the site.
I don't know it that person will succeed or not in getting me banned, if they do then I hope they are very happy with the result.
All over this site it says it's not an instant shag site. It's a place for like minded people to come together and share their interests with others with the possibility of a sexual encounter should the circumstances be right.
I understood the whole point of having meets, munches, party's at secret locations was to keep out the instant shag merchants who are there only for as much sex as they can possibly get without making an effort.
There are several people I would love to meet from the chat room, but, because I haven't been here long enough I won't get an invite to a munch. That's fine, I can accept that and I'm all too willing to accept that because it means to me if I should get invited to a munch then I'll be going to an event with people who I know of and who are out to have a good a time as possible having a laugh and letting their hair down.
I'm not going to start banging on about how good a friend I am or can be or anything like that, that is something for my friends to decide not me.
Yes I am direct, yes I am curt and yes sometimes I can be a bit aggressive in my responses.
But I am a firm believer that all friendships are based on trust, implicite trust that isn't developed in a few minutes, it takes years to build that sort of trust with close friends and months to start to build it with someone new.
I have been on the Internet for over 15 years, when I initially started the net wasn't what it has become today, it was full of professional people who exchanged text only messages via BBS sites.
I've hosted chat rooms, forums and I think I can say with a good degree of safety I've seen it all and probably done it all as well.
But, and this is what I object to, I don't see why I should be instantly receptive to someone just because they say hello to me.
I object to being slagged off because I refuse to meet people in private.
I object to being slagged off because I refuse to PM people when they ask.
I object to being tarred just because I tell someone to f-off when they PM me without permission.
The chat rules say that you have to ask for PM's before you send one to someone. I follow that rule and I have never PM'ed anyone without their permission. Why I shouldn't be able to react in such a way that lets them know I'm not interested.
I also object to being slagged off when I defend myself. I'm sorry but if you choose to attack me just because I don't want to talk to you, expect it back because I refuse point blank to sit here and let someone be abusive towards me.
Like everyone else on the planet, I have rights and I have the right to say no to anyone I want to say no to.
But it seems with some people they really don't like me exercising that right.
The fact remains, you PM me without permission and you'll get your head bitten off. I'm very much of the opinion that if you can't be bothered to read and follow the site rules then I'm not interested in you.
It is also a fact that I will be very choosy over who I do and don't talk to. Everyone does it, someone in the room today said "Hi room" several times and not a single person responded to them.
So I ask why is acceptable to ignore some people but not others?
I personally, (even if I'm so drunk I can't stand up), won't jump into bed with anyone on a whim. If it happens I go to a munch and my husband and I meet a couple we both like and they like us, then the possibility of us all going back to the hotel room for a "coffee" is much stronger.
I can't just have sex for the sake of it, well I can, but then that's exclusive to my husband and then that 'attitude' was restricted to late pregnancy because it was uncomfortable.
There has to be an attraction there for me to go to bed with someone, be that the shallow attraction based on aesthetics or something a little more meaningful in that the chemistry will be right.
If I was just after a shag I'd go dogging because to me that's what dogging is all about.
I know and understand I have been here only a short time and at the end of the day I'm still unknown and unproven.
I find the majority of people on the SH chat room do seem to be genuine, especially those who go to the meets, but there are a few who are names I've never seen before and so I'll be a lot less receptive towards them because they are unknown to me.
I don't know who anyone is on here, I'd have to say that the majority of the regs know of me in the same way I know of them. Which isn't really that much.
I'm very aware that some of the things I say might be taken the wrong way, misunderstood or taken out of context.
Since the very day I met my husband I haven't had another man (or woman) between my legs and I wouldn't want to give the impression I'm some sort of easy lay or slut.
I'm not under the impression that looks wise I'm the most desirable or attractive person on the planet, I am just like everyone else. Some people will find me attractive, others won't. That's a fact of life we all have to live with and there's nothing we can do to change that.
We all have different likes and dislikes, we all take to some people and not others.
So, I'm asking those people on my back to please get off it.
Thanks for reading
shes a nice person
