I couldn't careless what word people use, as long as i understand it.
On a strange note i often say boobs when talking about other people, but when making reference to myself i say chest. I'm just a strange i suppose.
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Chaotic_Spirit
Over 90 days ago
Gay Female, 39
0 miles · Derbyshire
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This has been a problem since the 1980's, you would of thought it would of gotten sorted by goverment long ago!
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I've been on the scene for few years now, and i've had some amazing lovers which i'm still great friends with. I find playing with friends more enjoyable and exciting then a stranger who i'm not going to talk to after a two week fling of sex.
It's hard to make friends in the scene that are genuine, cause lets face it, it's all abit bitchy, they is alot of jealousy, a few lies and a lot of personas. Some swingers personally worry about becoing to close and friendly, apparently your not allowed to have emotions when swinging, and you are obv going to have feelings for your friends. But i think its all bollocks, i don't know who came up with the rule, but rules are to be broken and if your a strong person i think its very possible to make friends with people who have a simular interest that your all participating together with, without it all going wrong.
It's hard to make friends in the scene that are genuine, cause lets face it, it's all abit bitchy, they is alot of jealousy, a few lies and a lot of personas. Some swingers personally worry about becoing to close and friendly, apparently your not allowed to have emotions when swinging, and you are obv going to have feelings for your friends. But i think its all bollocks, i don't know who came up with the rule, but rules are to be broken and if your a strong person i think its very possible to make friends with people who have a simular interest that your all participating together with, without it all going wrong.
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Quote by TheAnalogKid
And men pretending to be
Don't call yourself "Lez". How many lesbians do you know who actually use that term? And how many of your MALE mates use it? Use your brain dickhead.
Amen!
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Quote by BIoke
Actually, I think the guy has a point and made it very well and fairly eloquently, far more so that some that have responded. He said 'several' women, not all
And yes, I agree with him. There are some women that really don't warrant the attention they get and that I believe just use cams and feedback to boost their low self esteem and lack of attention/satisfaction in the 'real world'.
It becomes a power and control game and happens frequently. The same as women who sit on cam complaining about whispers and comments - simple, turn off the cam and disable whispers if it's that unsettling and frustrating for you.
I know I'm probably not best placed to pass comment here (or maybe I am? I'm objective I guess?!)I actually asked one straight bloke I know on here why they did it - i.e. did the 'wow, you look amazing' thing.. when really, they don't! He said when a straight man has his cock in his hand at 12am then a pig in a wig looks sexy!' I'm not wired that way so I'll never understand it..
But yeah, some are vain and 'up their own arses'. It's the same with blokes on gay sites with big cocks - they can usually punch way above their weight. I've seen it happen frequently.
And this isn't a 'gay bloke slams women thing' - I love women, just not vain ones who really ain't in a position to call the shots yet still try to. Same goes for any sex really.
You've mentioned some interesting theories here actually. All of which i'm taking into consideration. I have always been a very vain person anyways, those that have met me will agree to that, but i wouldn't say i call the shots, that's the natural submissive in me. However i do agree, some do. But i tend to ignore those idoits anyways.
If a woman does have low self-esteem then i can understand how the comments do well to boost their confidence, but surely if this is the case, why doesn't she reply. I believe someone has already answered this further up the thread. Something regarding how you can end up in too many conversations where you loose yourself. But surely that doesn't make her vain?
Maybe compliments on the scene are given away too freely?
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I completely agree with your post and you put it into the words I was trying to find
And here is my view as a vain woman...
I can't stand being told the same crap everyday, by a hundred different people in the space of an hour. It's boring and unimaginative, and you know they have not long said the same line to someone else. If i believe the comment genuine and unique, then fair do's, i will reply but otherwise i don't, i don't want typing blisters do i???
and this is spot on, if I turn my cam on and same can be said of any woman on cam within seconds anywhere between 5 and 10 guys say hello. So, if like the original poster is requesting you say hello to each of them in return. Then say 8 of those guys will usually reply with "how are you?" you suddenly find yourself in 8 conversations with 8 people at the same time, how do you keep up? thats not even allowing for the unwanted whispers that you are getting and the whispers from the people that you actually want to talk to.
There was an incident in the chatroom the other week where a guy took exception to a woman on cam who didn't say hello in return to him and he pulled her up on it. She apologised and said she couldn't keep up and whe went on to call her an ignorant bitch and that she was up her own arse. Similar has happened to me also.I find it amazing that because someone has had their ego dented because someone on the internet who they have never met hasn't replied back to them when they have said hello thinks its ok to be abusive.
I think it goes back to the old saying, 'It takes alsorts!' The scene has always been a massive community and it does attract all walks of life. I suppose we have to embrace our abusive muppets, vain women, sex on legs couples, fun playmates, etc etc etc... as otherwise the scene would be a very boring. Instead of complaining or getting our backs up we should celebrate Diversity. Sex would be my number one option for celebrating it
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Quote by meat2pleaseu
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Bloody hell, another lost lost poster returns
(love the new look btw, long hair suits you- as stunning as ever
)I was tempted not to reply to this, being a vain woman and all, but i couldn't help myself, its lovely to see you Meat :kiss
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I can vouch for this couple. Nice, clean, fun and attractive, and i'm a fussy bugger so that says alot! Would offer myself, but alas, i am busy tonight. But have fun guys xx
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I'm going to let you know tomorrow afternoon, as it depends how i feel when i finish work. But if i can, can i hitch a lift and some floor space guys.
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guess this means i'm a Vain woman
And here is my view as a vain woman...
I can't stand being told the same crap everyday, by a hundred different people in the space of an hour. It's boring and unimaginative, and you know they have not long said the same line to someone else. If i believe the comment genuine and unique, then fair do's, i will reply but otherwise i don't, i don't want typing blisters do i???
Why do we go on cam in the first place?? Usually to get noticed by a particular person or couple without coming on way to strong. Also a lot of single fems and i believe fems in some couples, often get ignored for the 'too good to be true', or ' surely that’s not her in the picture', or 'i don't believe she exists'. So we prance about on cam looking very real and very alive, whilst participating in the scene by getting to know potential partners through chat.
Sorry if your past comments have been ignored, but you really have to step away and sit on the side lines to get both sides of the story.
Oh yeah, i know I sound a right bitch but i prefer to cut to the chase then dance around it :D
And here is my view as a vain woman...
I can't stand being told the same crap everyday, by a hundred different people in the space of an hour. It's boring and unimaginative, and you know they have not long said the same line to someone else. If i believe the comment genuine and unique, then fair do's, i will reply but otherwise i don't, i don't want typing blisters do i???
Why do we go on cam in the first place?? Usually to get noticed by a particular person or couple without coming on way to strong. Also a lot of single fems and i believe fems in some couples, often get ignored for the 'too good to be true', or ' surely that’s not her in the picture', or 'i don't believe she exists'. So we prance about on cam looking very real and very alive, whilst participating in the scene by getting to know potential partners through chat.
Sorry if your past comments have been ignored, but you really have to step away and sit on the side lines to get both sides of the story.
Oh yeah, i know I sound a right bitch but i prefer to cut to the chase then dance around it :D
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I often think of staggy Only messing!
no, in all honesty if i want myself to stop, then i start to wonder when the last time the floor/bedsheets/sofas etc were last washed. If i know it's not that day then i lose my climax.
Only messing! no, in all honesty if i want myself to stop, then i start to wonder when the last time the floor/bedsheets/sofas etc were last washed. If i know it's not that day then i lose my climax.
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you do realise this is the same day as Gay Pride in Nottingham don't you???
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can you put me down as a provisional please! Oh and if anyone thats going past ilkeston area and has room in there car and is feeling extremely nice can you mail me. Will save a fortune on taxis
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I'm in a foul mood tonight! I've not long got in from dogging in Derby and i'm not best pleased at the state it has gotten too. Where has the manners and fun of it all disappeared too???
They were serveral people out tonight and yet none approached me. I tried to put on a show with two bi men i had brought with me, and the other doggers either left (ok maybe i'm not their cup of tea), or moved away (once again not my cup of tea) or just shined their full beams at me from the other side of the carpark. Were they frightened?
I just don't get it, i'm well known for dogging in Derby. I've never made a secret about it and made some good friends out of other regulars. But tonight?? I just found everyone rude. I was told when dogging if someone was putting on a show you never ever put full beams on them, no, i'd normal walk to a safe distance and wait for an invite to come closer. But i might as well of had the plague.
I dont like being lit up, i don't like being driven at when i'm outside a car, and i don't like ignorant people who won't make themselves known.
Buck your ideas up Derby Doggers!
They were serveral people out tonight and yet none approached me. I tried to put on a show with two bi men i had brought with me, and the other doggers either left (ok maybe i'm not their cup of tea), or moved away (once again not my cup of tea) or just shined their full beams at me from the other side of the carpark. Were they frightened?
I just don't get it, i'm well known for dogging in Derby. I've never made a secret about it and made some good friends out of other regulars. But tonight?? I just found everyone rude. I was told when dogging if someone was putting on a show you never ever put full beams on them, no, i'd normal walk to a safe distance and wait for an invite to come closer. But i might as well of had the plague.
I dont like being lit up, i don't like being driven at when i'm outside a car, and i don't like ignorant people who won't make themselves known.
Buck your ideas up Derby Doggers!
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Ok i would like to confirm i'm going, i've just managed to twist my area manager's arm (oh it was fun!) and got half the day off. I shall be coming straight from work and arrive in the evening. So fucking wait for me lol!!!!
oh also, want a favour, i have a friend not of this site that i plan to take with me. Is a swinger and member of chams, i would just like to ask if it's all cool beans she join in the celebrations?
oh also, want a favour, i have a friend not of this site that i plan to take with me. Is a swinger and member of chams, i would just like to ask if it's all cool beans she join in the celebrations?
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I would love to attend but i could do with someone in the derby or nottingham area to nab a lift off! Anyone?????
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Great Night, glad for the invite. Thank you Pickles, Jeana and Try xxx
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Quote by bromsgrove
though its a little more quiet over here
I think it's getting a little bit quiet everywhere to be completely honest!
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Just out of interest would this be a shot gun wedding or is they a handsome bribe involved???
Perhaps you should pick the bride at the camp, do a blind date spoof and have a bride picked from that.
By the way i would just like to point out that this isn't the first swing camp wedding, as deancannock would so fondly know. The honeymoon in his tent turned out to be a memory to keep forever. Who of thought of seagulls eh??
So dean you have a lot to do to top the chaos and horneyoldtart wedding! Think you can manage it??
Perhaps you should pick the bride at the camp, do a blind date spoof and have a bride picked from that.
By the way i would just like to point out that this isn't the first swing camp wedding, as deancannock would so fondly know. The honeymoon in his tent turned out to be a memory to keep forever. Who of thought of seagulls eh??
So dean you have a lot to do to top the chaos and horneyoldtart wedding! Think you can manage it??
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:x :x :x :x :x I have just seen this article in the local paper and i have to say i'm absolutely livid with this retarded journalist who has decided to name quite a few dogging hot spots in a local paper where just anyone can see them.
Roll on the boy racers, closed minded idiots and the rest of the circus.
This is one very angry dogger who will be lying low for a while and going elsewhere. Stupid paper!
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Can i last minute slip onto the reserve list to be considered for the list on the 12th april??
Ta Try xx
Ta Try xx
