Hah, yes I have already felt the wrath of one regular. Thanks for the advice; at the moment life is busy but I expect I will be back soon enough.
The trouble with being a man is you have to do a lot of legwork. Some of which gets peoples' goat, but if you do nothing, nothing is what you get. Perhaps face to face is better than online approaches!
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Godot
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 40
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I'm told that the way to meet people is through the chatrooms. At least some of the people online here are real. I've had some interactions with people (but no meetings) and its only been nine or ten days since I started seriously posting. I guess the adverts are over-subscribed and you get a lot of messages? Some of the profiles record tens of thousands of visitors. Even if only a few percent post a message to your ad its still a lot of people.
I dunno about porn, but the thing I like about erotica is you can always find a new scene that hits your imagination like a ton of bricks. Everyone's imagination is different, so people cast things in language that you would never have thought of. I think the appeal of porn is just 'hey, new naked people!'. So its less sutble maybe 8p
Blimey guys, give me a second. I only got on the site on October 31st, learning the polite way to do things is a work in progress 
At the time I thought it was better to send a friendship request than an unsolicited message out of the blue. Then of course I read a few adverts which said; "Send Ye Face pics" and the light dawned.
Of course, now that I KNOW you want me to contact you with a message and face picture, I shall of course comply forewidth. Nobody can say I'm not responsive to what people ask of me 8p.
At the time I thought it was better to send a friendship request than an unsolicited message out of the blue. Then of course I read a few adverts which said; "Send Ye Face pics" and the light dawned.
Of course, now that I KNOW you want me to contact you with a message and face picture, I shall of course comply forewidth. Nobody can say I'm not responsive to what people ask of me 8p.
Hey yeah, about what I thought. The masses of partially completed profiles out there show that a lot of people are shy/time wasters. I know I like seeing a couple of shots in someone's profile. I think it shows that they're more for real. I do send out a face picture if I contract someone, but I guess I need to update my profile a bit.
Yeah, the thing is debated a lot on literotica. Some people seem to just like a written sex scene, others want a story with sex in it. I like both, but writing the dialogue drives me nuts when I try it myself. Seems to make for a better story imo, but description ('He thrust his throbbing manhood into her dripping wet pussy') is always easier then conversation ("Where shall we go for dinner tonight darling?" etc). I suppose I shall just have to keep plugging away at it until something clicks.
This is funny for me to read because I assumed it was just single guys like me that would be having to play the long game. I guess there are just different crowds within each site; set up your own chatroom/playroom and pull people in to you I guess? Then you can pick and chose someone after you get to know them. Plenty of people will interact with a couple online and some of them will be willing to meet up off it.
Thanks for the advice. Appreciate the bit about arranging a meeting at a club beforehand. Seems like there would be more single guys then anyone else there and 'third wheel' would set it. Beside it's to make a rapport happen before you meet someone for the first time or too much can go wrong. I have met up with someone from online before but it was a more traditional dating site and you pm people to make contact. Live chat is a bit different obviously 8p.
So, as a new single guy to this site I have been browsing the pages and sometimes posting. This place has a story section which makes me happy! But obviously I'd like to stop lurking at some point and actually meet people (best way to learn is to do etc). I know that the absolute worst thing I can do is crawl onto other people's computer screens drooling and leering, so I suppose its really two questions:
1. Which is a better way to introduce yourself, signing up for a big meet/event and chatting face to face or hanging out in the chatrooms online and building up a group of people who feel comfortable with you around?
2. Do people tend to message someone they like and meet up offline first (i.e. for coffee!), or is there a sort of ongoing video conference between loads of people for a few months and then people pair off and go their seperate ways as and when it suits them?
Yes I've seen the adverts for meetings, but it kind of looks like jumping in feet first would only lead to mistakes and frustration. I want a handle on what goes on here before jumping straight in (which is weird, because thats like the opposite of what you have to do outside, but never mind). So, any advice?
1. Which is a better way to introduce yourself, signing up for a big meet/event and chatting face to face or hanging out in the chatrooms online and building up a group of people who feel comfortable with you around?
2. Do people tend to message someone they like and meet up offline first (i.e. for coffee!), or is there a sort of ongoing video conference between loads of people for a few months and then people pair off and go their seperate ways as and when it suits them?
Yes I've seen the adverts for meetings, but it kind of looks like jumping in feet first would only lead to mistakes and frustration. I want a handle on what goes on here before jumping straight in (which is weird, because thats like the opposite of what you have to do outside, but never mind). So, any advice?
Nah, its only an addiction if you take it up to the roof to get a signal during a gale-force wind. All the rest is just the convience of modern livin', multitasking and other good stuff. Will definitely agree about the s.h.a.g part though (Special Health Actions Group). Joining a s.h.a.g has all kinds of benefits, like higher self-esteem, reduced blood-pressure, weight loss etcetc. In fact its like a miracle drug. I'm supprised nobody's patented it yet.
