Thanks HothouseSub, found it 😎. Your help is appreciated!

There's a wink auto-responder? Where do we find this please? 

Like you guys we have regular winks which are really annoying, and friend requests from people we've never chatted with. I do wonder though if people realise what a wink does, I was guilty of sending one recently to a friend thinking it was just going to be a ;-) thing, a sort of short "hiya" and I was horrified to see it had sent the "I'd like to know more" message. 

Before meeting Polly, I was a single guy on the scene for a few years, and met many ladies and couples, some of whom will be friends for life, just by chatting with humour, and being polite. I don't know why people don't get it - try that approach in a pub with a stranger and you'd get a smack in the mouth, so why should this be different. Same old issue I guess, people coming onto sites thinking if it's a swinging site it's going to be easy to get laid because clearly everyone's gagging for it with anyone who says "fancy a shag". 

Norfy 😎