Anyone know where Dildo (Dino) and the other Red got to? Are they well? I miss flirting with Red :twisted:
RSxx :color:
Okay so I don't get loads of PM's - which would be about right becuase both my sig and my profile say I am not looking.
But I still get the odd one who can't read.
So here's the kind of thing that happens when I get a PM.
1. PM normally goes from "You look sexy - wana meet up?" (polite) to "Wanna Fuck?"
2. Mr "Wanna Fuck?" does not get a reply.
3. Mr "You look sexy" gets a reply that says something like "thanks for your PM, but as you can see in my profile and my sig, I am not looking. Good luck with looking for what you want". Polite I think.
4. Responses then range from "Ok cheers" (sorted) to "You sure?" (Umm yes - I promise) to the downright rude. Sometimes the downright rude can come after about 4 or 5 returns to say "No thanks".
If I WAS looking and had loads of PM's of this nature I just wouldn't bother.
So that answers the first bit.
The second bit really annoys me! As someone has already said - don't get upset becuase you get an answer to a question you have asked. You asked why people don't reply. You got an answer. Now grow up and live with it.
RSxx :color:
Personally, I believe that anyone on here who doesn't play is a time waster. After all - why would you want to hang around a place like this if you weren't up for it!?
As for all those bi's and gays. It's a bluddy disgrace it is! I think it is about time SH towers cleaned up its act! No wierd bis and gays okay. And those dogger people who don't let watchers join in. Get them off too!
In fact I am thinking that perhaps we should have separate areas just for singles and couples. Because couples having sex just isn't normal! Especially married ones! Why would they be interested in single people?I have no idea! Perhaps we should get rid of the couples too. That'd clean up the place pronto!
Rsxx :color:
Hey Fire - good question.
I really battled with this when I was swinging. No matter how hard I tried I just couldn't divorce the deep side from what you call the "shallow" side. I met 2 couples off here who have become very special friends for me and I knew then that i had to have the deeper side. So in my mind I kinda knew that perhaps swinging wasn't for me. I just knew that I couldn't just be a "shag" with those people. They became too special for me. Which is why I took myself out of the scene. Those peple remain very good friends ( and they know who they are) and I won't play with them because I can't keep that "distance" with them. Then I met Mr and Mrs R and they felt the same as me. Which is how I ended up poly rather than swinger.
Mr and Mrs R mean the world to me and i am happy with the choice I made, but I do wonder some times how I would have "made it" as a swinger. I think that I couldn't because of the need to have a more emotional attachment.
Not sure if that makes sense - but just kinda coming from my view point.
aRSexx :color:
Thinking about it - doesn't a watered down version of that happen in just about every meet/date/courtship?
My sister and I have discussed this. She flirts big time and is, in my opinion, a completely different person when she is dating a bloke. Things go well until about a year into the relationship when she can't keep up the masquerade anymore. Okay so physically she doesn't change - this is all about the way she acts. My sister's relationships hardly last more than 1 - 2 years.
Me - well she always had a go at me becuase I kind of go with the "what you see is what you get" attitude. If you don't like me at the beginning - well you just aren't going to like me full stop. Okay so I haven't dated as much as she has - but I'd rather be me from the beginning.
As for the absolute blatant lie -( the old photo being a fave for example) - it seems to happen a lot. I have been fortunate and not come across it in my life - but I would have to walk away and feel (if not say) the same as POLO. You are a Liar!
RSxx :color:
I think the vital word is "communication". If I were meeting someone who was curious and not sure how they would feel or whether they would want to pogress I would make sure that they knew they could say "stop I'm not enjoying this" at ANY stage. I'd hate for them to carry on just becuase they thought they should!
There is nothing wrong with saying no or asking someone to stop becuase you aren't enjoying something. But I would also ay that if it is your first time, you make that clear up front and explain how YOU wish to proceed to help you feel the most comfortable.
RSxx :color:
Edit - addition: - as for "bi with the right person" - I think that can be interpreted in so many different ways. I have known a couple of women who didn't " label" themselves as bi but could possibly have "labelled" themselves "bi with the right person".
I hate the fact that you are virtually forced to like Christmas. I don't like Christmas. I have my reasons. When I tell people that I don't like Christmas I am made to feel like some sort of scrooge. Like it is abnormal to dislike Christmas. Actually it isn't abnormal and it can be the very worst time of the year for a lot of people which is why the suicide rate increases at Christmas.
But try and explain to people and they won't listen. I have had my desk "sabotaged" with decorations at work and when I removed them it was looked upon as being the worst thing I could do.I give in now and smile and pretend to join in with the "fun".
I look forward to Boxing Day - it means it is over for another year.
Rsxx
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Oooh - I was wondering when the subject of the click clack (clicque) would rear its head again! It has been a subject for debate since I can remember (and before that I am sure). I remember a damn good post by Venus on the very same subject. In my opinion there will always be a perception of clicque on a forum of this size, as there is in every sphere of life. People who have "known" each other for ages will bounce off each other in a certain way, or learn to ignore threads that aren't worth getting involved in. New people may join in, or find themselves feeling isolated until they find those that they click with. Its life guys.
I don't post as much as I used to and sometimes when I come back I feel a little "isolated" - but that is becuase I haven't had a chance to get a feel for the new posters. If I stuck around long enough I may find that I click with them. I may find that I don't. No point getting upset about it. I have the choice to log in and I have the choice to reply to threads. Or I can choose to log off and not repy to any. I view it in the same way as I do my local pub. I haven't been in ages and if I walked in now the chances are I might see a few old faces, but I doubt I would fit back in in quite the same way as I used to. If I kept going back I'd start to feel more comfortable again. But I still wouldn't gel with every single group of people there. But I wouldn't stand on the bar and shout at them for being clicquey. The difference on a forum is that every view and every "conversation" is there to be viewed and "listened" to in a way that you don't get in real life - so you can get that feeling of isolation or cliqueness amplified.
And believe it or not - in real life people have different opinions and argue and flounce too.
Rsxx :color:
edit addition: Always found this a good discussion:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/33275.html?highlight=clicque
Congrats!
Both of you - congrats and big hugs!!
We were just saying the other nigth that it must be about time!!!
Rsxx & Mr and Mrs R as well :color:
Was browsing the sports science section of ebay earlier today looking for some books for my latest course, and came across one called Knife Fighting: A practical course (tem number: ).
I have to admit to being a bit horrorfied that a book like this could be sold as a sports book! I know it is meant for martial arts, but with the number of knife attacks you hear about (and the police offering knife amnestys) I consider selling something like this on an open site like ebay irresponsible.
Am I being over "sensitive"? Is this just my dislike of anything violent? Or do you agree with me, that this book in the wrong hands could be dangerous?
Rsxx
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Sorry if this has been done before - I did do a search but after a night at college I just couldn't be arsed trawling through over 40 pages of threads devoted to music :shock:
So to lighten the mood of SH I propose a kind of music quizz cum game type thingy.
You need to either post the name of a song that you think was either written by a swinger or sung about swingers. Or even refers to swingers. And if you can't think of any you need to put down your own lyrics that would fit to a popular song - but has to be about swinging. Got it?
I'm gonna start with a song where the title just oozes swinging:
Marianne Faithfull: Sex With Strangers
RSxx :color:
Oh and okay - I'm a perve and some of the photos are quite interesting :twisted: 
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