The_libertine69's Forum Posts

21 Nov 2009

Okay, I need a bit of further input/clarification from some of the more long standing members as it could just be the way things are done on here?
When browsing through profiles (usually of couples) I'll often come across (not literally! lol) one where I can't work out if they're looking for a single male or not.
To give an example....
In the "Looking for.." section they may list something like....
* Straight Couple
* Straight Female
* Straight Male
..or something different, but the important point being that they have listed Straight Male in that list.
However, in their profile text they may say nothing about single males at all nor do they have any ads looking for single males, often the only ad is looking for another couple. In those circumstances I err on the side of caution and simply don't contact them as I don't want to piss anyone off if they aren't looking for a single male, but why list Straight Male in the "Looking For" section though?
Does it mean that they are looking for a single male or does it mean that they are looking for a couple where the guy is straight? If the latter then surely the Straight Couple listing explains that one?!
Just wanted to see what everyone means when they list Straight Male in the Looking For section but make no reference to Single Males in their profile or ads? Just trying to get a general consensus and better understanding of why people do that in case I'm missing something.
Ta :-)

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20 Nov 2009

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Now you are just showing off cause you can do that multi-quote-thingy-me-bobs

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And, yes, I do get your point about single guys being tarred with the same brush, but again, if anyone is shallow enough to do that, then are they the ones you would want to meet?

True, good point. :-)

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Some how, I dont think you are going to have any problems arranging meets :wink:

:-)

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20 Nov 2009

Hi NWC

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Hi Libertine, great post and some fantastic comments, ..

Thanks. :-)

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...but just wanted to comment on the bit above.
Sorry but I do disagree with you on this part. We are a couple who do meet single guys and it is the behaviour which Ahabs describes above, which helps us decide who we would and who we would not meet.

I'm not sure if you misunderstood/misinterpreted my comment? I fully agree with you, and Ahabs, in that behaviour like that is certainly going to (quite understandably and rightly) put couples off from meeting up with a single guy acting in that way. What I was meaning was that because of behaviour like that by (some) single guys the rest of us (single guys) 'may' get tarred with the same brush by (some) couples, if you see what I mean, and so we (the decent ones) have to work that damn site much harder to convince couples that we aren't arseholes too. Although as you say...

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It makes the decent, good guys do stand out from the plonkers..

Indeed. Hopefully the decent ones do stand out from the plonkers as you say. :-)

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...(and when I say guys, couples can be just as good/bad as the singles)

Very true. I'm sure there are couples out there that have messed around other couples or singles. Not had it yet but it's early days! lol

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Good luck :wink:

Thanks. :-)

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19 Nov 2009

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Lol, you know the funny thing in all this - the "human nature" when people feel to push the boundaries:
1) If you say "We only meet couples" you get "But I'm a single (guy/girl) worth meeting"
2) If you say "We meet singles, but are selective and hence decide who we want" we get the "What's wrong with me? Select me?"
3) If you say "Ok we have no problems meeting singles, but not on our own" you're bound to get the ones that try to meet (you) separately.
4) And even if you're ok meeting separately as long as you tell each other (in our case) some prat will still try to get a meet on the "Don't tell Ahabs/ZoeRose" idea
5) And now some prat is trying the "Look, we're already meeting on our own - you might as well come off his profile and use mine, but don't tell him" (This from a guy using a couple's profile - however no one knows anything about the female, if she exists).

Unfortunately it's the single guys like that who make it all that much more difficult for the ones who aren't like that!
If I see a couple's profile that says "No singles guys - sorry" or "We only meet couples" then no matter how great the profile was and how great the pics were I don't then e-mail them. It's not rocket science, although to some single guys it obviously is! It simply requires a bit of respect and the ability to f***ing read properly to see when, and when not, to respond to a couple's ad/profile!
I'm fairly recent to all this but I've resigned myself to the fact that probably due to so many couples being pissed around/off by idiots who can't read/have no consideration that it's going to make it that much more difficult to meet couples on here.
Fortunately I've met up with a couple of couples and had a really good time so far. Mainly by adhering to the simple practice of reading any ads/profiles properly, sending a nicely worded e-mail with my main profile pic attached, not chucking in a cock shot which so many seem to do going by couple's comments in their ads/profiles, actually turning up when agreed for any intitial drink/meet and again turning up,and on time for any further get together.
As above, it's not rocket science and if only the idiot single guys who are spoiling it/making it harder for the rest of us would either just bugger off or use their brain cells (if they have any) and behave accordingly!

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