Brutally Honest

14 Nov 2006

Quote by Happy Cats
I can be very brutally honest....i haven't got no time for pussy footing around.....if you ask i'll tell you the way i think it is....just don't take it personally!.....if you want an honest answer i'll give it!

Ok then, give it to me, I can take it, do you think I'm sexy?
A 66 year old Transsexual under 5 foot tall......absolutely not!! :shock:
wink

14 Nov 2006

Quote by SteveClarke
I certainly think that tact can and should be applied when letting somebody know you don't want to play with them directly, but feel that in advertsing, being as specific as possible is a good thing.

Fancy a shag then? dunno

(... good post btw...)

14 Nov 2006

Quote by sercher01
I can be very brutally honest....i haven't got no time for pussy footing around.....if you ask i'll tell you the way i think it is....just don't take it personally!.....if you want an honest answer i'll give it!

me to m8
and i expect the same from otheres confused

however iv been told in the last few days that i should work on my "people" skilles:shock: dunno

Fuck em......!!

14 Nov 2006

Quote by da69ve
I can be very brutally honest....i haven't got no time for pussy footing around.....if you ask i'll tell you the way i think it is....just don't take it personally!.....if you want an honest answer i'll give it!

Ok then, give it to me, I can take it, do you think I'm sexy?
A 66 year old Transsexual under 5 foot tall......absolutely not!! :shock:
wink

Heightist, ageist genderist pig!
lol

14 Nov 2006

we have in our profile that we are "looking for attractive people between the ages of 18 - 30 (ish) who look after themselves and their appearance..." and we get winks etc all the time from people who are (In our opinion anyway) not in this bracket through their age or whatever, we simply say "sorry your not what we are looking for" which i think is better than saying "no, your too fat, ugly and ancient" which although might be true lol

is not the best thing to do, simply being insensitive in our opinion, but some people are naturally quite blunt i suppose so dont realise they might be hurting peoples feelings??

14 Nov 2006

I can be very brutally honest....i haven't got no time for pussy footing around.....if you ask i'll tell you the way i think it is....just don't take it personally!.....if you want an honest answer i'll give it!

me to m8
and i expect the same from otheres confused

however iv been told in the last few days that i should work on my "people" skilles:shock: dunno

Fuck em......!!
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: blimey, there's me hiding in a corner when I know you're around.
pink x

15 Nov 2006

Quote by celestria
How about tactfully honest?
I prefer people to be honest with me, and I'm honest with others. But there are ways of saying what you want without being blunt or rude and without being so subtle they miss the point entirely.
And anyway... "fatness" is in the eye of the beholder, one persons curvy girl is anothers lard arse... I think I'm a lard arse, fektart thinks I'm curvy, who's right?

I agree, what is overweight or fat or curvy to one person is completely different to another. As a woman who carries extra weight you tend to worry about how people will view you. My view is I would prefer to read someone saying that they prefer 'slim athletic' builds rather than saying they don't like 'overweight, bbw's, curvy' whatever.
Just my opinion :smile2:

15 Nov 2006

Quote by celestria
.......I think I'm a lard arse, fektart thinks I'm curvy, who's right?

One of those rare moments i'm agreeing with the Fektart, you always look good enough to eat, i'm just waiting for my invitation for a feast :lickface:

15 Nov 2006

I agree wholeheartedly with Celestria. I am usually a very honest and have no problem saying what I think, but that said, I think a little tact and diplomacy go a long way. There is no need to hurt other people with our honesty, when a little bit of tact works so much better So when a friend asks what do you think of this dress/does my bum look big in this, the answer isn't Yes it does or it looks awful, but rather I don't think thats the best style/clour for you. Your saying the same thing essentially, but one is far less likely to upset soemone.
Oh and for what is's worth, I think Fektart is right too! biggrin

15 Nov 2006

Speaking as one who often goes into contortions to be diplomatic (yeah - it's a real pain in the arse on occasions! rolleyes

), I much prefer people to be honest. There is no need for brutality though unless someone is really asking for it.
What does cause difficulty if someone can't find their way to be honest early on and then decides they've got to go for it later - that can cause real hurt.
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16 Nov 2006

Quote by Jags
The ones which worry me the most are being specific about race/ethnic origin. Some people have it exactly correct and others make the most outrageous racist comments about their preferences. And then we get the people who report ads which are polite about their preferences. It's the positive spin which is acceptable whilst the negative one is not.
:P

Definately, I 100% agree with you there, it shouldn't make any difference what your colour, religion is should it? but I guess it does to some. sad

16 Nov 2006

Quote by da69ve
I can be very brutally honest....i haven't got no time for pussy footing around.....if you ask i'll tell you the way i think it is....just don't take it personally!.....if you want an honest answer i'll give it!

Hey Da69ve.. you've had a makeover...mmm very sexy!

16 Nov 2006

Quote by da69ve
I can be very brutally honest....i haven't got no time for pussy footing around.....if you ask i'll tell you the way i think it is....just don't take it personally!.....if you want an honest answer i'll give it!

has mrs kensington won any awards for bravery yet rolleyes

16 Nov 2006

woo hoo........austin powers is back...........obviously my plan worked........ lol

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

16 Nov 2006

Well my ad says no arseholes...does that count as brutal honesty?! rolleyes

:giggle:
But they still apply :twisted:

16 Nov 2006

I think some people write their profiles to say exactly what they mean because they're fed up of being nice and subtle and still not getting what they want - or indeed, getting innundated by people they're not looking for - the more it happens, the blunter the profile gets because with some people tact and diplomacy just doesnt work lol

It doesnt offend me if someone says 'not looking for anyone overweight' etc - that's their choice & at least the reader knows where they stand, and I know not to waste my time replying dunno

16 Nov 2006

Quote by hornyinslough
Well my ad says no arseholes...does that count as brutal honesty?!
:giggle:
But they still apply :twisted:

Brutal - yes, Honest - yes, replies only from blow ups? lol

16 Nov 2006

Quote by Darkfire
I think some people write their profiles to say exactly what they mean because they're fed up of being nice and subtle and still not getting what they want - or indeed, getting inundated by people they're not looking for - the more it happens, the blunter the profile gets because with some people tact and diplomacy just doesn't work
It doesn't offend me if someone says 'not looking for anyone overweight' etc - that's their choice & at least the reader knows where they stand, and I know not to waste my time replying

I agree, but also people don't read the profiles, or if they do they so like the information that they hope their winning personality will overcome their other deficiencies. Now I don't advertise on this site, (what would be the point), but I am on several dating sites. Ladies just ignore my preferences and go for it, my standard response is a few lines thanking for the post and the get-out that I'm dating at the moment and one at a time is best. I could say, "Can't you read bitch?" but it won't help either of us and a little hug helps the world go round.
ALSO, I respond to ladies who say I'm too old for them. If I can think of something funny to say and not sound too pushy there's the prospect a coffee in it and who knows where that might lead? They've got what I want so I ask, I've been refused of course, but so far always nicely, the best being, "My Mums on this site too and she's much better looking than me!"
However I've also been accepted, as it happens in both cases neither of us wanted to take it further, I had my reasons, they had theirs but that's OK, it's the name of the game, and you really do have to break a few eggs to get an omelette.

16 Nov 2006

Quote by jaymar
Definately, I 100% agree with you there, it shouldn't make any difference what your colour, religion is should it? but I guess it does to some.

Probably this is a whole new topic...
There was a post in the cafe this morning whose title made me wince. Mind you, according to the Telegraph this morning the Aussie cricket authorities were up in arms because Monty Panassar had been called a "Silly Indian", (I think that was it). You can take thing's too far, calling someone a Silly Indian is surely not racist, not unless you happen to think Whinging Pom is too. Technically it might be, but some things, like two glasses of wine, just slip under the limit.