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Quote by steff35
I like seconds, especially jam roly poly :-)
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
Then stop measuring - doesnt work - doesn't make you happy and stops you doing things. Do it for a day, then a week and then accept that by doing this you are an equal to your peers.
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Quote by Corrie2007
I like seconds, especially jam roly poly :-)
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
Then stop measuring - doesnt work - doesn't make you happy and stops you doing things. Do it for a day, then a week and then accept that by doing this you are an equal to your peers.
Dont ya just love corrie xxxxx
Quote by steff35
I like seconds, especially jam roly poly :-)
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
Maybe now you read this thread it might stop you telling me off for feeling so down wierd about compliments!!! lmao... and oi.. behave... if i can get someting out what people are saying then so can you ... SH POWER!!!!!! HEAR US ROARRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!
heheheh
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Quote by FurbyHug
I like seconds, especially jam roly poly :-)
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
Maybe now you read this thread it might stop you telling me off for feeling so down wierd about compliments!!! lmao... and oi.. behave... if i can get someting out what people are saying then so can you ... SH POWER!!!!!! HEAR US ROARRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!
heheheh
Yes Miss
Quote by steff35
I like seconds, especially jam roly poly :-)
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
Maybe now you read this thread it might stop you telling me off for feeling so down wierd about compliments!!! lmao... and oi.. behave... if i can get someting out what people are saying then so can you ... SH POWER!!!!!! HEAR US ROARRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!
heheheh
Yes Miss
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Quote by FurbyHug
I like seconds, especially jam roly poly :-)
But seriously........i have a really annoying habit in measuring myself against my peers, and i always come in second or worst, its anooying self habit i wish i could break..lol Or maybe im just destined to be a minger for life....lmao
Maybe now you read this thread it might stop you telling me off for feeling so down wierd about compliments!!! lmao... and oi.. behave... if i can get someting out what people are saying then so can you ... SH POWER!!!!!! HEAR US ROARRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!
heheheh
Yes Miss
Now dont get strict, i'll have to rebel...lol
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Quote by helnheaven
I fake it most of the time and it seems to get me through the day
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Oi You! Are you being rude?
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Ive opened my eyes through this thread and you are all so helpful.. ive tried what you said all week.. proof in the pudding type thing.. ive not put my self down, ive pooopoooed compliments,ive accepted them an moved on.. and you know whats happened.. ive been asked out by three differnet guys.. i got asked out before but never took it serious cos i thought they was just being nice......... but maybe there not.. someone elses rubbish is another mans treasure........ whether i take up there offer or not is another thing, but it workd..... so ...... thankyou o wise ones.. xxxxx
Master of Sex
Right thought I'd add to this post, you know me Furbs I do straight talking and no nonesense, wasn't always the way. You know I've been there feeling worthless, not up to scratch even though I always knew Si loved and worshipped me, unfortunately wasn't always enough. What you feel about you inside is what drives you in life whether it be work, play or passion. It took me a very long time to like me let alone love me, well guess what I do now. Yes I have my faults who doesn't and I know not everyone can tolerate me let alone like me, but FUCK EM. The only person I have to worry about being happy and contented with my life is me, not Si which a lot will say I should because I know if I'm happy so is he.
There are a lot of doubting Thomas's out there ready to try and kick you down at every opportunity, learning to like yourself is the first step to loving yourself.
Furbs be yourself because as so many who have met you know you are a genuine, warm, caring and respectful person. In my eyes your too good for so many on here but you have to learn to believe in yourself and the powers you possess as a person before you can accept that people do genuinely like and want you for you.
Don't give up striving to achieve what you want from life but remember no-one is a better person than you.... they may have more money... the may have a better education .... but that doesn't make them a better person than you.
You know we are there for you if you need us and you know I'll kick your ass lol in a nice way, if I feel I need to xxxx Now head up high and stand and be counted as Furbs!!!!!
There are a lot of doubting Thomas's out there ready to try and kick you down at every opportunity, learning to like yourself is the first step to loving yourself.
Furbs be yourself because as so many who have met you know you are a genuine, warm, caring and respectful person. In my eyes your too good for so many on here but you have to learn to believe in yourself and the powers you possess as a person before you can accept that people do genuinely like and want you for you.
Don't give up striving to achieve what you want from life but remember no-one is a better person than you.... they may have more money... the may have a better education .... but that doesn't make them a better person than you.
You know we are there for you if you need us and you know I'll kick your ass lol in a nice way, if I feel I need to xxxx Now head up high and stand and be counted as Furbs!!!!!
Great comment annie_19704. 
I agree with everything you said!
I think the emotions you described can affect men as much as women also, i've been there myself too!
But luckily i discovered this forum and realised that i'm not so bad after all (some would say i'm actually quite a nice guy..hee hee) and i'm starting to realise that myself.
My motto i guess is 'there will always be people who are better or worse than you/me'...
I've just learnt to be myself and not compare myself to others, as we all have our own strengths and weaknesses and 'life is just a journey' where we learn to build on our own strengths and weaknesses.
I think most people here would agree with this thread, yet some may not have the courage to admit to it. (my opinion anyway).
Just be the best you can be, and be happy! :wink:
I agree with everything you said!
I think the emotions you described can affect men as much as women also, i've been there myself too!
But luckily i discovered this forum and realised that i'm not so bad after all (some would say i'm actually quite a nice guy..hee hee) and i'm starting to realise that myself.
My motto i guess is 'there will always be people who are better or worse than you/me'...
I've just learnt to be myself and not compare myself to others, as we all have our own strengths and weaknesses and 'life is just a journey' where we learn to build on our own strengths and weaknesses.
I think most people here would agree with this thread, yet some may not have the courage to admit to it. (my opinion anyway).
Just be the best you can be, and be happy! :wink:
Master of Sex
Well said superman72... this issue affects both sexes but you are probably one of the few men who have the courage to admit it... I find it amusing the people who put me down now as I realise they do it to hide their own insecurities and they always say attack is the best form of defence... Well bring it on because I'm not going anywhere and you dont have the right to try to destroy me as a person and I WILL not allow it
Annie i love you babes... you always give me boot up the bum when i need it a shake of the shoulders when my eye go down to the floor and you always shout at me when im stepping back in to the shadows.. i know from what others said and what you say its about me first although its breaking the habbit of a life time to put me first, im so used to be there for everyone it feel selfish to look after me... but im tryin and i think im gettin better at it.. im happy for the ones that have stepped over me and i truly am.. you know who i mean, and i know one day it will be my turn when the right one steps up to me..
thankyou every one..
and superman.. its a nice change for a man to be honest and admit they suffer the same inner personal doubt we do.. your right its not just the girls but i guess the girls have each other to talk to wheres its a bit tabboo to talk feelings among the men at the pub.. and like you, ive learnt more in this thread about how and why i should stand up than i have in most my years.. you learn the bad behaviour or the the actions that keep you own, but no one teaches you how to stand up tall, be proud, shoulders back its alien to me to be gived kudos, i was so used to being told i was worthless, never amount to much, no decent bloke would want me over an over an over again , that it is hard to swallow the opppostie... its like a princess who has only ever been waited on hand and foot only ever told she is beautiful, only ever had the good in her life to be suddenly stripped of her clothes, her money her world and put out there to manage on her own,, how would she cope with tht bad... as to her the bad is alien......... would it break her...??? well to me the good is like the princess bad...... its alien... but im gettiin used to it.. and i thank you for your help xxxxxxx
furby xxx
thankyou every one..
and superman.. its a nice change for a man to be honest and admit they suffer the same inner personal doubt we do.. your right its not just the girls but i guess the girls have each other to talk to wheres its a bit tabboo to talk feelings among the men at the pub.. and like you, ive learnt more in this thread about how and why i should stand up than i have in most my years.. you learn the bad behaviour or the the actions that keep you own, but no one teaches you how to stand up tall, be proud, shoulders back its alien to me to be gived kudos, i was so used to being told i was worthless, never amount to much, no decent bloke would want me over an over an over again , that it is hard to swallow the opppostie... its like a princess who has only ever been waited on hand and foot only ever told she is beautiful, only ever had the good in her life to be suddenly stripped of her clothes, her money her world and put out there to manage on her own,, how would she cope with tht bad... as to her the bad is alien......... would it break her...??? well to me the good is like the princess bad...... its alien... but im gettiin used to it.. and i thank you for your help xxxxxxx
furby xxx
Sex God
I know where you are coming from Furby - I am told I'm attractive (not boasting here - bear with me) but I don't KNOW I'm attractive. I have learned to accept it as fact that at least some people find me attractive. But I still see ME in the mirror. Nothing changed in the mean-time so maybe I was always wrong at least a little bit. That thought helps me to turn up to socials.
I work as a trainer and at first I was really nervous about facing up to a room full of highly qualified folks and telling them what to do. I found the best way to be confident was to fake it. I pretended to be confident and eventually the reacions I got (they actually listened to me!!) gave me the confidence I didn't have originally.
I don't know you Furby, but I do know that no-one and I mean NO-ONE is undeserving of respect and love, and anyone who says 'you won't amount to anything' is cruel, blind and LYING.
I work as a trainer and at first I was really nervous about facing up to a room full of highly qualified folks and telling them what to do. I found the best way to be confident was to fake it. I pretended to be confident and eventually the reacions I got (they actually listened to me!!) gave me the confidence I didn't have originally.
I don't know you Furby, but I do know that no-one and I mean NO-ONE is undeserving of respect and love, and anyone who says 'you won't amount to anything' is cruel, blind and LYING.
