Why do people have derogatory names for women who like sex?

5 Jan 2007

Quote by Argt05
Hey Argt05, Id love to be a member of Slag Central but i havent got much to put on my cv. Can i be the official apprentice instead. :giggle:
Louise xx

Pm me with what you've got then,
and you do realise that being an apprentice, you get to clear up the mess after one of my notoriously dirty Slag Fests!!
KY Jelly, Condoms and the remains of edible panties everywhere, mstly mine I hasten to add! lol

will consider you're application, upon arrival.
Argt
Application on its way. :twisted:
Louise xx

5 Jan 2007

Argt05-can I join Slag Central please??
I`m probably viewed as a fat slag who loves black cock!! ALOT! I even had a PM last week confirming I`m white trash!!! That must put me in the running for a membership. lol
36--that wasnt your brother PM`ing me was it? :shock: lol

:lol:
Face...bovvered??

5 Jan 2007

Quote by Hungrypussy69
Argt05-can I join Slag Central please??
I`m probably viewed as a fat slag who loves black cock!! ALOT! I even had a PM last week confirming I`m white trash!!! That must put me in the running for a membership. lol
36--that wasnt your brother PM`ing me was it? :shock: :lol:
Face...bovvered??

Applications via SLAG CENTRAL Thread please.
We have to follow stringent vetting protocol you see!

5 Jan 2007

'It seems a lot of men are confused as well, because when you tell them, thanks but you're not what I am looking for, they realise they didn't want to shag you in the first place lol

(Gutted!)'
And it's strange, isn't it Minx, how once these brave soldiers of sexual morality pronounce their verdict and declare - through pm - that u are a minging slag, they then disappear from the room .... Almost as though they suspect that they're about to get told just how attractive *they* really are. Hmmm.

5 Jan 2007

Quote by Trixie_female

'It seems a lot of men are confused as well, because when you tell them, thanks but you're not what I am looking for, they realise they didn't want to shag you in the first place (Gutted!)

And it's strange, isn't it Minx, how once these brave soldiers of sexual morality pronounce their verdict and declare - through pm - that u are a minging slag, they then disappear from the room .... Almost as though they suspect that they're about to get told just how attractive *they* really are. Hmmm.
I keep the chatroom and my PMs as seperate as I can Trixie, but I do appreciate your cynicsm ;)

5 Jan 2007

Good thread :thumbup:
In my teens/early twenties, I used to hate the way other blokes used to talk about girls who clearly enjoyed sex (slags etc. - it's all been said elsewhere in the thread). After all, the main objective of most guys that age was to get laid so why was it so bad when you found a girl with the same aim in mind? dunno

I NEVER understood that!
I am well known for talking to anyone, regardless of their 'reputation' - and then making my own mind up about them as a person. If I come across a woman who is intelligent, articulate, good fun, good company AND she enjoys sex as well then that's damn near perfect I would say!
Men who slag off 'easy' women are very insecure and, in my humble opinion, extremely shallow. I am always surprised to find them in a forum such as this in the first place.
Ladies, keep on being who you want to be. The genuine people here will love you for it and the rest don't matter and do not deserve your time and attention.
Will

6 Jan 2007

Will, I think I love you :smitten:
And Argt :smitten:

6 Jan 2007

This is an interesting topic.
I think some blokes are scared shitless by the way sexual morality is changing. I get called queer on the streets all the time, and my female friends get called slags and slappers at the same time. I think that a lot of blokes are scared when thier narrow little views on what is acceptable are challenged by what they percieve. For someone like me, I'm a pretty visible target to be called queer. I wear a shitload of make-up and walk around Manchester at night. I can understand that people are a bit freaked out.
For women, being confident in your sexual identity is just as threatening. On the freak-scene, we tend to dress up and look like very obvious sexual beings, at least to outsiders (to insiders, it's mostly that we like shiny black clothes with lots of glitter).
On somewhere like this, where everybody is open about thier sexual preferences and desires, well... it's easy to look in and see an easy shag. When that shag isn't forthcoming because the people you thought were going to be easy to get off with... well. That can be hard to deal with if you are a person of limited experience / brains.
I can well remember one time a year or so ago, when I was leaving a club and was surrounded by a gang of drunken blokes who really badly wanted to kick the shit out of me for daring to look so odd in front of them, a female friend came up to my rescue with the line, 'He may be a puff, but he's a better shag than you'll ever be' (and we'd never even shagged...) and this whole gang of blokes could not handle that at all - it was all, 'Dirty slag' and so on - but they left us alone. I thought she was stupid to step in because I thought she'd have made herself a target too, but looking back on it i think thier sexuality was so thretened and confused by that they didn't know how to react. There was me, to thier eyes the archetypical queer (whichh shows what they knnow of the gay scene - it's all macho types!) and this girl, an obvious slapper by the way she was dressed - they could not figure out how someone like me could be with someone like her. And we weren't even together smile

I really do think they were affronted by someone who didn't fit into thier idea of 'good looking bloke who can pull the birds' could have the audacity to challenge thier stereotyped little world.
And that stereotyped little world can extend on to here - a swingers site - where every woman is just waiting to be seduced by any bloke who stumbles across them. Finding out that the women on here have standards can be hard to take for these guys. Alternative sexuality can be a difficult thing to fathom for the unimaginative.
I shouldn't be trying to think too deeply on this. There are just a number of blokes who are dicks should be enough.
:)

6 Jan 2007

Fantastic post :thumbup:

7 Jan 2007

If a man is a stud, and that's OK and a woman is a bitch, and that is derogatory; is the insult in the word, or is the insult in the society or group that uses the words.
I asks does society still refuse women the right to sex for pleasure. After all a word is no more than a sound. It is we that put meaning to that sound. It is we who say this is a compliment and that is not.
If we wish to change the slant of the word bitch, or anyother, we must use it, and make it clear we admire the lady.
Travis.

7 Jan 2007

Quote by Gothic-punk
This is an interesting topic.
I think some blokes are scared shitless by the way sexual morality is changing. I get called queer on the streets all the time, and my female friends get called slags and slappers at the same time. I think that a lot of blokes are scared when thier narrow little views on what is acceptable are challenged by what they percieve. For someone like me, I'm a pretty visible target to be called queer. I wear a shitload of make-up and walk around Manchester at night. I can understand that people are a bit freaked out.
For women, being confident in your sexual identity is just as threatening. On the freak-scene, we tend to dress up and look like very obvious sexual beings, at least to outsiders (to insiders, it's mostly that we like shiny black clothes with lots of glitter).
On somewhere like this, where everybody is open about thier sexual preferences and desires, well... it's easy to look in and see an easy shag. When that shag isn't forthcoming because the people you thought were going to be easy to get off with... well. That can be hard to deal with if you are a person of limited experience / brains.
I can well remember one time a year or so ago, when I was leaving a club and was surrounded by a gang of drunken blokes who really badly wanted to kick the shit out of me for daring to look so odd in front of them, a female friend came up to my rescue with the line, 'He may be a puff, but he's a better shag than you'll ever be' (and we'd never even shagged...) and this whole gang of blokes could not handle that at all - it was all, 'Dirty slag' and so on - but they left us alone. I thought she was stupid to step in because I thought she'd have made herself a target too, but looking back on it i think thier sexuality was so thretened and confused by that they didn't know how to react. There was me, to thier eyes the archetypical queer (whichh shows what they knnow of the gay scene - it's all macho types!) and this girl, an obvious slapper by the way she was dressed - they could not figure out how someone like me could be with someone like her. And we weren't even together
I really do think they were affronted by someone who didn't fit into thier idea of 'good looking bloke who can pull the birds' could have the audacity to challenge thier stereotyped little world.
And that stereotyped little world can extend on to here - a swingers site - where every woman is just waiting to be seduced by any bloke who stumbles across them. Finding out that the women on here have standards can be hard to take for these guys. Alternative sexuality can be a difficult thing to fathom for the unimaginative.
I shouldn't be trying to think too deeply on this. There are just a number of blokes who are dicks should be enough.
:)

This is excellant goth... I really enjoyed reading your post. I am currently doing an assignment on sexism & gender stereotyping and you have more or less hit the nail on the head. A lot of peoples views are still very much stuck in the 'good old days' when men were men and the ladies were at home with their pinnies on checking their make up and awaiting their husbands return for evening meal!... in those days, women had their duties and one of them was to be available for sex at any time.
I watched a documentary a while back, it was women in their 70's and 80's talking about how they were not permitted to enjoy sex in 'their' day and that some of them even when they orgasmed felt so very dirty and guilty for doing so. They could not understand why they had nice feelings when having sex. It was a brill programme to watch but it confirms how men did think in those days that women were there for their sole use as and when. Of course today it is completely different and women are so much more liberated and can call the shots. This frightens some people to distraction!.
Jaymar xx

7 Jan 2007

Thing to remember tho is some women actually get off on being called whores and sluts :shock:

7 Jan 2007

Quote by Gothic-punk
Finding out that the women on here have standards can be hard to take for these guys.

that is so true :shock:
i have many a time had guys off here say things to me like, so your not a real player then? or so why you on this site if your not looking to meet? and then the insults and abuse begins cause you actually dared to say no to them confused

:?
funny old world innit lol

7 Jan 2007

Quote by de_sade
Thing to remember tho is some women actually get off on being called whores and sluts :shock:

But not you so.............................................................. :gagged:
wink

:lol2:

7 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
A lot of people find it erotic and a turn on to be verbally insulted during sex,

Yep, a lot do. Quite normal practise for lots of folks I find.
I personally hate it though. I just find it an out and out insult (nothing erotic about it for me) and can't switch off from that, even when its said in the throes of passion, it sounds the same to me. Just gets my back up at any point in time.
Anyone says it to me and they are likely to get a fat lip! lol

Fee
XX

8 Jan 2007

funnily enough we had our first webcam experience last night, and we have to say most blokes were very polite and respectful, and we perfromed for them and would have them back---you reap what you sow and all that.
nonetheless there were a couple of blokes who thought it perfectly ok, yet completely unsolicited, to keep directing my "slut"..... mad

although these people were ignored, it was a bit awkward telling them to STFU, and we didn`t want to boot them (without warning) off 'cos we're not rude (and we follow the CR rules!).
even i don`t call my wife names, and she doesn`t ever ask for it, so for morons to assume it's ok is just bad-mannered and indicative of their mental quotient.
personally i`d stab anyone with a blunt spoon if they said that about her or to her face.
indeed, i always prefer the female who knows what she wants and has the wherewithal to get it, and i`d love women to be the bread earners or in charge so i can sit on my fat arse browsing porn..... biggrin

to me you could be black, orange, lesbian, martian, wooden legged or all of the above---i`m only prejudiced against twats, scroungers, leeches and people that cause my family a burden. If you don`t do that then you`re ok in my book.
now i`m going to 'fone the wife and tell her to make me a pie or knit me a sweater---yeah she knows her place.... :twisted: :shock: :D
or i would do but i`m polite, good mannered and chivalrous, facilitating her right to live as much as mine.