I do go on a bit tho
It is something I am passionate about- its my job!!!!
flirty xxxxx
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I do go on a bit tho
It is something I am passionate about- its my job!!!!
flirty xxxxx
I'm also very passionate about it thats why we were having the conversation about it last night. Mr lyns doesn't entertain the idea of anything to do with dying so I really have to work hard to make my feelings known to him
.Thats why I have also told my pops so someone who listens to me about my views knows excatly what I want and what I don't want.
Its a difficult and emotive subject for most people. I would rather my family knew what I wanted so they didn't have to make the choice for me.
I have been reading this thread with interest. I have been on the donor register since I was about 17, I am now 41. I carry a donor card in my purse all the time.
Everyone is entitled to their own personal thoughts on this, and I respect any that don't wish to donate. My late husband refused point blank to donate, it was something he didn't believe in, and like others have said, wanted to go out with what he came in with.
I personally am happy for them to use any part of my body, Eyes, kidneys, heart even skin.. if it can be used to ease someone's suffering, or aid their recovery, I am all for it. I had my hair shaved off for charity and then sent it to a wig maker to make wigs for people who had hair loss through chemo, and I would probably consider doing it again in the future, as it is something that I can do while I am still alive. I know its not the same, but at least I did something.
It is down to personal choice, and mine is to give.
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Everyone is entitled to their own personal thoughts on this, and I respect any that don't wish to donate. My late husband refused point blank to donate, it was something he didn't believe in, and like others have said, wanted to go out with what he came in with.
I personally am happy for them to use any part of my body, Eyes, kidneys, heart even skin.. if it can be used to ease someone's suffering, or aid their recovery, I am all for it. I had my hair shaved off for charity and then sent it to a wig maker to make wigs for people who had hair loss through chemo, and I would probably consider doing it again in the future, as it is something that I can do while I am still alive. I know its not the same, but at least I did something.
It is down to personal choice, and mine is to give.
:D
To be honest this is a subject that I havnt ever eally thought about, not sure Ive ever had a conversation about organ donnors either.
One thing I do know is that if or when I did decided to become a donnor I would consult my close family as if or when the time comes it would be them who had to deal with the death/organ removal.
The way I feel at the moment if anything happened to my son/hubby I dont think I could handle knowing they were having organs removed.....but until your in the situation you cant really say.
I wouldnt like it also if you had to opt out of something like this, at the end of the day they are my organs and shouldnt have any government body telling my I had to donate unless I opted out. I like the idea of more leaflets being put out at doctors/hospital/work places though to raise awarness then people can make the choice themselves.
One thing I do know is that if or when I did decided to become a donnor I would consult my close family as if or when the time comes it would be them who had to deal with the death/organ removal.
The way I feel at the moment if anything happened to my son/hubby I dont think I could handle knowing they were having organs removed.....but until your in the situation you cant really say.
I wouldnt like it also if you had to opt out of something like this, at the end of the day they are my organs and shouldnt have any government body telling my I had to donate unless I opted out. I like the idea of more leaflets being put out at doctors/hospital/work places though to raise awarness then people can make the choice themselves.
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To be honest this is a subject that I havnt ever eally thought about, not sure Ive ever had a conversation about organ donnors either.
One thing I do know is that if or when I did decided to become a donnor I would consult my close family as if or when the time comes it would be them who had to deal with the death/organ removal.
This is definitely the best way to go...
The way I feel at the moment if anything happened to my son/hubby I dont think I could handle knowing they were having organs removed.....but until your in the situation you cant really say.
...the last thing a family wants to discover when their loved one just carked it is that they had a donor card in their pocket. letting them all know beforehand is the best way to both let them know your wishes and prepare them for how to handle it when the end comes. I think most people would agree that if a loved one dies and you know in advance that they want to donate when the doctor comes and asks the question "can we have the organs?" you are mentally prepared (even if you'd forgotten) and in effect you are letting the deceased answer the question for you thereby sparing you the difficult answer.
I wouldnt like it also if you had to opt out of something like this, at the end of the day they are my organs and shouldnt have any government body telling my I had to donate unless I opted out. I like the idea of more leaflets being put out at doctors/hospital/work places though to raise awarness then people can make the choice themselves.
These are valid reasons, but personally I think the dying's wishes take priority over the dead's. In this day and age I honestly can't think of a rational reason why someone would refuse to donate their organs. It seems a bit of a waste for them to go through the furnace with you.
Sex God
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I'm rather embarrassed to admit that I don't carry a donor card, although I've always supported the notion of organ donation. I've also wondered whether it would make more sense for there to be an 'opt out' option rather than an 'opt in'? In the meantime I shall hang my head in shame.ops: :oops:
No need to hang your head in shame
. You can register online if you really want to be on the register.Good girl!
Boy I feel like I'm being ganged up on., but you're both right no more feeling ashamed I shall go ahead and do it.
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Well???? :rascal: Did you do it?????
I told my mum I wanted to donate when I was about 12 (no idea what spurred me on). The first thing she said was "oh, dont let them take your eyes". She got quite upset about it 
I give blood regularly now and will donate, and my family are aware.
Couldn't agree more!
I give blood regularly now and will donate, and my family are aware.Quote by tricky-dicky
What does piss me off is all those who can't be arsed one way or the other.
Couldn't agree more!
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I told my mum I wanted to donate when I was about 12 (no idea what spurred me on). The first thing she said was "oh, dont let them take your eyes". She got quite upset about it
What does piss me off is all those who can't be arsed one way or the other.
Couldn't agree more!
My mum has said they can take anything they want, but she wants her eyes left, she wants to be able to see where shes going...
dad died 5 weeks ago suddenly, he wanted his organs donated, he didnt have a card but we respected his wishes, they took his eyes, some organs, bones out of his legs, even the top layer of skin all of which helps someone else.
i have a donor card, they can have anything they want, whatever they can use, i wont need it anymore and if someone else's life can be made a little bit easier by it they are more than welcome to it.
i think the hardest thing was the phone call that lasted an hour mam had to go through while they explained to her exactly what they were going to do and take from dad, and that she had to fully understand it all before she agreed finally.
and i suppose me with sunburn peeling skin off didnt help either
Earthy xxx
i have a donor card, they can have anything they want, whatever they can use, i wont need it anymore and if someone else's life can be made a little bit easier by it they are more than welcome to it.
i think the hardest thing was the phone call that lasted an hour mam had to go through while they explained to her exactly what they were going to do and take from dad, and that she had to fully understand it all before she agreed finally.
and i suppose me with sunburn peeling skin off didnt help either
Earthy xxx
Ive been on the doner register for years , i think since i was about 11. Although back then it made me very angery that my mum said if anything ever happened she woud refuse the consent. 
ffs.
now im an adult all my family are aware of my wishes, ive spoken to them about this and they have discussed their wishes. My chldren decided they also wanted to.
we also discussed how we want to go, crem, grave etc.
im crem then the ashes burried.
xx fem xx
ffs.now im an adult all my family are aware of my wishes, ive spoken to them about this and they have discussed their wishes. My chldren decided they also wanted to.
we also discussed how we want to go, crem, grave etc.
im crem then the ashes burried.
xx fem xx
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Ive been on the doner register for years , i think since i was about 11. Although back then it made me very angery that my mum said if anything ever happened she woud refuse the consent.
now im an adult all my family are aware of my wishes, ive spoken to them about this and they have discussed their wishes. My chldren decided they also wanted to.
we also discussed how we want to go, crem, grave etc.
im crem then the ashes burried.
xx fem xx
This is the sort of topic mr lyns hates talking about, I however have no problems in telling my family what I want in the event of death or in the event that i'm on a life support with no hope then switch me off!.
ive been left to try and guess what family would have wanted, i dont want to cause that distress to my family, or not know the wishes of my children.
i understand some people find it really difficult to face talking about, but id rather do it now then wait till its a sad time.
if anyones partners have problems with this maybe write it down and leave it somewhere they know.
its not about getting what i want so much, but taking that burden of desision off them.
can i mention while here about putting ICE in your mobile. In Case of Emergancy. its the tel number of the person you want the emergancy services to call.
xx fem xx
i understand some people find it really difficult to face talking about, but id rather do it now then wait till its a sad time.
if anyones partners have problems with this maybe write it down and leave it somewhere they know.
its not about getting what i want so much, but taking that burden of desision off them.
can i mention while here about putting ICE in your mobile. In Case of Emergancy. its the tel number of the person you want the emergancy services to call.
xx fem xx
Sex God
Yep, i'm on the list and have a card.
I'm also of the opinion that if you're not on the donation list and you suddenly find that you need something replacing, then you shouldn't be upset if someone who is on the list is given priority for the transplant
I'm also of the opinion that if you're not on the donation list and you suddenly find that you need something replacing, then you shouldn't be upset if someone who is on the list is given priority for the transplant
Sex God
I wish to donate my organs so i have a card
Not sure if all of my family know my wishes though. As far as im aware im the only one in my family who does carry one
Not sure if all of my family know my wishes though. As far as im aware im the only one in my family who does carry one
ICE - that is a really good idea... I am just going to do this now...
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ive been left to try and guess what family would have wanted, i dont want to cause that distress to my family, or not know the wishes of my children.
i understand some people find it really difficult to face talking about, but id rather do it now then wait till its a sad time.
if anyones partners have problems with this maybe write it down and leave it somewhere they know.
its not about getting what i want so much, but taking that burden of desision off them.
can i mention while here about putting ICE in your mobile. In Case of Emergancy. its the tel number of the person you want the emergancy services to call.
xx fem xx
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ive been left to try and guess what family would have wanted, i dont want to cause that distress to my family, or not know the wishes of my children.
i understand some people find it really difficult to face talking about, but id rather do it now then wait till its a sad time.
if anyones partners have problems with this maybe write it down and leave it somewhere they know.
its not about getting what i want so much, but taking that burden of desision off them.
can i mention while here about putting ICE in your mobile. In Case of Emergancy. its the tel number of the person you want the emergancy services to call.
xx fem xx
I have a number just listed as 'Emergency' on my phone so they'll know who to call if something happens to me
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dad died 5 weeks ago suddenly, he wanted his organs donated, he didnt have a card but we respected his wishes, they took his eyes, some organs, bones out of his legs, even the top layer of skin all of which helps someone else.
i have a donor card, they can have anything they want, whatever they can use, i wont need it anymore and if someone else's life can be made a little bit easier by it they are more than welcome to it.
i think the hardest thing was the phone call that lasted an hour mam had to go through while they explained to her exactly what they were going to do and take from dad, and that she had to fully understand it all before she agreed finally.
and i suppose me with sunburn peeling skin off didnt help either
Earthy xxx
Unfortunately, the consent process for donation is now very lengthy!
Because of the findings of the Bristol Childrens Hospital and Alder Hye, where organs and tissues where kept for years without the families knowledge, the Human Tissue Authority now ensure that consent is a priority and completely informed. This means that the details of the donation have to be explained to the family of the deceased, and where/if tissues will be stored and how they will be used. Tissues can only be used for research IF consent has been obtained.
This is only to safeguard the bereaved family and can only come at the very worse time.
The majority, as earthy's mother, go through the process as they know that it is the only positive thing to come out of a very sad and difficult time.
I too allowed my mum to donate her eyes when she died last year.
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Of course.
I think it should be an 'opt out' policy rather than an opt in- would save an awful lot of distress for families of those who died but haven't agreed consent.
It is one of those topics where I cannot understand why anyone could not wish to donate theirs after death, so I'll be interested to see why people might not want to.
Maz x
Spot on Maz.
So many people may have donated but do not as their loved ones either did not know their feelings, or they never got round to having a donor card.
It would be a much better idea for everyone to donate in the eyes of the law, unless they ask to have their names taken off of the register.
I think that will be done sooner rather than later anyway if honest.
Sex God
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ive been left to try and guess what family would have wanted, i dont want to cause that distress to my family, or not know the wishes of my children.
i understand some people find it really difficult to face talking about, but id rather do it now then wait till its a sad time.
if anyones partners have problems with this maybe write it down and leave it somewhere they know.
its not about getting what i want so much, but taking that burden of desision off them.
can i mention while here about putting ICE in your mobile. In Case of Emergancy. its the tel number of the person you want the emergancy services to call.
xx fem xx
Thank you for reminding me about this. I have a newish phone and forgot to put in my ICE numbers. Doing it now.
Sexlightened
Quote by mazandden
Of course.
I think it should be an 'opt out' policy rather than an opt in- would save an awful lot of distress for families of those who died but haven't agreed consent.
It is one of those topics where I cannot understand why anyone could not wish to donate theirs after death, so I'll be interested to see why people might not want to.
Maz x
spot on! Except that I don't care why people don't want too. They're wrong.
i dont carry a donor card
im not very keen on donating anything for several reasons
1 ... i was in the staff canteen in a hospital (i worked in the hospital) and overheard a conversation between several people who work with the transplant team and things they said made me vow never to carry a card, basically they said/implied that staff dont try as hard to keep people alive if they know they carry a donor card ... this was many years ago and maybe i didnt hear right but what i did hear horrified me
2 ... i was involved in the rehabilitaion of a young man who had been involved in a very bad rta and had been on a life suport system, the staff had asked his parents permission to turn of the machine ( they had already spoke to them about the posibility of him being a donor)
the parents refused to let them turn of the life suport, not long after the lad improved dramatically and he lived
2 ... i dont like the idea of any part of me, or anyone else, being kept for years after my death
there are ways in which i would donate organs skin etc but my feelings are complex but gary (as my next of kin) knows what to tell the doctors in those circumstances
im not very keen on donating anything for several reasons
1 ... i was in the staff canteen in a hospital (i worked in the hospital) and overheard a conversation between several people who work with the transplant team and things they said made me vow never to carry a card, basically they said/implied that staff dont try as hard to keep people alive if they know they carry a donor card ... this was many years ago and maybe i didnt hear right but what i did hear horrified me
2 ... i was involved in the rehabilitaion of a young man who had been involved in a very bad rta and had been on a life suport system, the staff had asked his parents permission to turn of the machine ( they had already spoke to them about the posibility of him being a donor)
the parents refused to let them turn of the life suport, not long after the lad improved dramatically and he lived
2 ... i dont like the idea of any part of me, or anyone else, being kept for years after my death
there are ways in which i would donate organs skin etc but my feelings are complex but gary (as my next of kin) knows what to tell the doctors in those circumstances
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i dont carry a donor card
im not very keen on donating anything for several reasons
1 ... i was in the staff canteen in a hospital (i worked in the hospital) and overheard a conversation between several people who work with the transplant team and things they said made me vow never to carry a card, basically they said/implied that staff dont try as hard to keep people alive if they know they carry a donor card ... this was many years ago and maybe i didnt hear right but what i did hear horrified me
2 ... i was involved in the rehabilitaion of a young man who had been involved in a very bad rta and had been on a life suport system, the staff had asked his parents permission to turn of the machine ( they had already spoke to them about the posibility of him being a donor)
the parents refused to let them turn of the life suport, not long after the lad improved dramatically and he lived
2 ... i dont like the idea of any part of me, or anyone else, being kept for years after my death
there are ways in which i would donate organs skin etc but my feelings are complex but gary (as my next of kin) knows what to tell the doctors in those circumstances
Not in an effort to make you change your mind Danne, but to put things straight for you and others but...
1. Transplant teams have nothing to do with the care of patients and potential donors in Intensive Care Units. And I can reassure you that nowhere does the NHS work harder to save life than in ITU. But there comes a time when all the medical knowledge, skills and technology cannot save life and it is only then that donation is considered whether the patient carried a card or not.
2. This poor lad could not have been brain stem dead - a state which is sometimes necessary to become a donor, and is confirmed only after pre-condtions are met and 2 sets of tests are carried out. No one declared "brain stem dead" by this method had ever survived.
There is also a chice to donate with those that are not brain stem dead. Often the drs in ITU have the difficult decision to make, that further treatment is futile and not in the best interests of the patient. They then decide with the family that treatment will be withdrawn to allow the patient to die peacefully. Only once this decision has been made and the family informed is the possibilty of donation raised. If this is then what the patient would have wanted or if the family agree, then that patient may (but not always) be able to become a donor when they die following withdrawal of treatment.
3. Your opinion and thats ok.
I feel have have to put right any misconceptions if I can but really am not trying to make you change yout mind.
Flirty
xxx
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1 ... i was in the staff canteen in a hospital (i worked in the hospital) and overheard a conversation between several people who work with the transplant team and things they said made me vow never to carry a card, basically they said/implied that staff dont try as hard to keep people alive if they know they carry a donor card ... this was many years ago and maybe i didnt hear right but what i did hear horrified me
That is one of my biggest fears but I do carry a donor card.
I don't want to die and waste what I have when I could help others in some way. I'm a Mum, I could help another Mum stay around for her kids. I might make a Dad be able see see his kids. I couldgive a person their life back away from dialysis. These type of thoughts are the reasons why I would donate my organs.
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1 ... i was in the staff canteen in a hospital (i worked in the hospital) and overheard a conversation between several people who work with the transplant team and things they said made me vow never to carry a card, basically they said/implied that staff dont try as hard to keep people alive if they know they carry a donor card ... this was many years ago and maybe i didnt hear right but what i did hear horrified me
That is one of my biggest fears but I do carry a donor card.
I don't want to die and waste what I have when I could help others in some way. I'm a Mum, I could help another Mum stay around for her kids. I might make a Dad be able see see his kids. I couldgive a person their life back away from dialysis. These type of thoughts are the reasons why I would donate my organs.
Dawnie, put that that you have made me well up!! feeling slightly emotional today
