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Myself and mr lyns were having a little chat last night and somehow the topic came round to organ donation.
I carry a donor card and have told mr lyns and my parents that if my organs are donatable (is that ever a word??) I want them to be donated, after all i'll no longer need them.
At present i'm sure you have to opt in to donate your organs but your next of kin has the final word, i'm sure someone will correct me if i'm wrong wink.
So are you going to donate yours?, do you carry a donor card to let your wishes be known?. Do your next of kin know your wishes?
Of course.
I think it should be an 'opt out' policy rather than an opt in- would save an awful lot of distress for families of those who died but haven't agreed consent.
It is one of those topics where I cannot understand why anyone could not wish to donate theirs after death, so I'll be interested to see why people might not want to.
Maz x
I'm rather embarrassed to admit that I don't carry a donor card, although I've always supported the notion of organ donation. I've also wondered whether it would make more sense for there to be an 'opt out' option rather than an 'opt in'? In the meantime I shall hang my head in shame.
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Quote by mazandden
Of course.
I think it should be an 'opt out' policy rather than an opt in- would save an awful lot of distress for families of those who died but haven't agreed consent.
It is one of those topics where I cannot understand why anyone could not wish to donate theirs after death, so I'll be interested to see why people might not want to.
Maz x

Totally agree with you, I think if you don't want to donate your organs for whatever reason then you should have to opt out.
I also think that its a little selfish to not want to donate your organs, after all, your not going to need them anymore.
Quote by lyns
Of course.
I think it should be an 'opt out' policy rather than an opt in- would save an awful lot of distress for families of those who died but haven't agreed consent.
It is one of those topics where I cannot understand why anyone could not wish to donate theirs after death, so I'll be interested to see why people might not want to.
Maz x

Totally agree with you, I think if you don't want to donate your organs for whatever reason then you should have to opt out.
I also think that its a little selfish to not want to donate your organs, after all, your not going to need them anymore.
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m x
Its not that I dont want to donate its that my organs are useless to anyone else...
Smoker.....Drinker......Heart has been repaired with little bits of scaffolding (stents) and I have had Hepititus(sp) innoculations so cant even give blood..
I dont carry a card and I wont donate - totally selfish and prob illogical reasons but my choice (not relgious).
But equally I wouldnt accept an organ transplant either.
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Its not that I dont want to donate its that my organs are useless to anyone else...
Smoker.....Drinker......Heart has been repaired with little bits of scaffolding (stents) and I have had Hepititus(sp) innoculations so cant even give blood..

My dad is the same has always given blood but due to a medical condition that the docs can't get to the bottom of he can no longer give blood or donate his organs.
Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
I dont carry a card and I wont donate - totally selfish and prob illogical reasons but my choice (not relgious).
But equally I wouldnt accept an organ transplant either.

I'd be interested to know your reasons?
If you were to die and could potentially save 4 other lives through yourr death- you really wouldn't?
Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
I dont carry a card and I wont donate - totally selfish and prob illogical reasons but my choice (not relgious).
But equally I wouldnt accept an organ transplant either.

Mr lyns mum totally refuses to donate hers as she says shes going out with what she came in with confused , seems illogical to me!.
I'm glad tho that you mentioned that you wouldn't recieve a donated organ as I kinda think if your not willing to give its wrong to accept!.
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I dont carry a card and I wont donate - totally selfish and prob illogical reasons but my choice (not relgious).
But equally I wouldnt accept an organ transplant either.

I'd be interested to know your reasons?
If you were to die and could potentially save 4 other lives through yourr death- you really wouldn't?
reasons are many any varied and in all honesty I know probably illogical so will save the berating by not posting them - but no I really wouldnt donate no matter how many lives I could potentially save
why would they be illogical? they're your reasons...
I'm really interested to know, as i said, it is one thing i just can't understand in the slightest and really want to know some of the reasons people do have- might help me understand a bit better. And why would you be berated for your own choice?
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I'm rather embarrassed to admit that I don't carry a donor card, although I've always supported the notion of organ donation. I've also wondered whether it would make more sense for there to be an 'opt out' option rather than an 'opt in'? In the meantime I shall hang my head in shame.
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Rather than spending time feeling ashamed, why not spend it doing something constructive, REGISTER, DO IT TODAY! wink
I carry the card and my next of kin is fully aware of it and will make sure my wishes are carried out. Wether or not my organs will be of any use remains to be seen, hopefully they will be.
becuase usually when someone goes against the grain its what happens - seen it loads of times
But ok, some of my reasons -
Like the other ladys mom, I feel I came into this world whole and I want to leave it that way.
I understand that we now have to knowledge to improve and extend peoples lives but I think swopping / adding new body parts is too far ... its not like one swop and its all sorted, people have to take tablets forever then to stop it rejecting and many have to have another transplant later in life. For me personally if I was the 'knackered' and I use that term loosely (not wanting to offend anyone) then I dont want to keep being repaired, I'd much rather enjoy what I had for the time I had.
I just think we are not all born equal, with the given right to live X amount of years - if we keep extending and prolonging life like we are we will be never die at this rate - which I know some think great, but we need to think of the bigger picture, like the quality of life.
Hope it explains a little of what I think
Quote by bbw_lover
I'm rather embarrassed to admit that I don't carry a donor card, although I've always supported the notion of organ donation. I've also wondered whether it would make more sense for there to be an 'opt out' option rather than an 'opt in'? In the meantime I shall hang my head in shame.
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No need to hang your head in shame kiss. You can register online if you really want to be on the register.
Quote by lyns
I'm rather embarrassed to admit that I don't carry a donor card, although I've always supported the notion of organ donation. I've also wondered whether it would make more sense for there to be an 'opt out' option rather than an 'opt in'? In the meantime I shall hang my head in shame.
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No need to hang your head in shame kiss. You can register online if you really want to be on the register.
Good girl! biggrin
Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
becuase usually when someone goes against the grain its what happens - seen it loads of times
But ok, some of my reasons -
Like the other ladys mom, I feel I came into this world whole and I want to leave it that way.
I understand that we now have to knowledge to improve and extend peoples lives but I think swopping / adding new body parts is too far ... its not like one swop and its all sorted, people have to take tablets forever then to stop it rejecting and many have to have another transplant later in life. For me personally if I was the 'knackered' and I use that term loosely (not wanting to offend anyone) then I dont want to keep being repaired, I'd much rather enjoy what I had for the time I had.
I just think we are not all born equal, with the given right to live X amount of years - if we keep extending and prolonging life like we are we will be never die at this rate - which I know some think great, but we need to think of the bigger picture, like the quality of life.
Hope it explains a little of what I think

Thankyou for sharing your thoughts. I do hope no-one comes on and berates you for your opinion. Although I fully agree with organ donation I would never belittle anyone else for their choice or reasonings.
I've been on the donor registry for many years and they're welcome to use any of my organs that are still in working order.
However, I DON'T agree with the scheme that means you have to opt OUT if you don't want to donate. It takes away the basic human right of personal choice. Yes there is a massive shortage of donors and more people could be helped if there were more donors but that's not the right way to go about getting them.
Why not have doctor's receptionists hand out leaflets to patients when they arrive at the surgery? It'll give people something more interesting to read other than a 4 year old copy of Hello confused
An interesting question for me; I usually give up thinking about it as too much self analysis is bad for my soul!
It isagainst my religion which deems that one's body should be returned as it was given - so also no post mortem examinations where possible, tattoos, piercings etc.
But I am not a fundamentalist, ie I don't follow my religion to the letter. So why don't I feel comfortable with going against it in the matter of organ donation?
Perhaps it's a matter of turning back to one's religion for the great rites of passage - such as birth, marriage and death.
Both myself and hubby carry doner cards and we both know each others wishes which is good and yes we would donate anything of ours to help save the lives of others... also, we have told our parents that we carry donor cards and our wishes just incase we are involved in a freak accident or something that neither of us survive confused That way they won't have to make any decisions if we are gone as we would have already made them! When our children are old enough we will tell them both our wishes so when the time comes they will understand too!
14 years ago I had a stillborn baby I offered all her organs for donation not an easy decision to make but one I felt the need to do.
But sadly due to the illness she had none of her organs were suitable to be used. This saddened me at the time. If only I could have saved one person from the going through the grief of what we were going through would have made me feel better.
But I totally understood why they couldn’t be used.
So yes I would donate my organs what good are they to me after I have gone.
But I have also read someone’s post as to why they wouldn’t like to donate and can understand their reasons to.
Thamks for putting yourself on the line and saying you have my respect.
I hope people just read this thread and don’t start slating people for their own opinions.
We can all learn from having differing opinions.

I don't carry a donor card but I have joined the Organ Donation Register.
I totally appreciate that its a very personal choice and everyone is entitled to make the right decision for themselves. My family know that I wish to donate my organs if I have anything left of any use to anyone. I have the view that they're not any use to me if I'm dead so if someone can benefit from me then I'd be happy to help. :mrgreen:
I am on the donor register and have made my wishes clear to all my my opinion you dont need them when you go so if theres a chance someone else can live a better life with one of your organs let them.
Its like giving blood,i know some people who refuse to do it even though theyre fit and healthy. I just cant understand them, 20 minutes of their time could make a huge difference to someones life but they cant / wont see that.
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I am on the donor register and have made my wishes clear to all my my opinion you dont need them when you go so if theres a chance someone else can live a better life with one of your organs let them.
Its like giving blood,i know some people who refuse to do it even though theyre fit and healthy. I just cant understand them, 20 minutes of their time could make a huge difference to someones life but they cant / wont see that.

I used to give blood. Then I got a tattoo and had to wait a year. Then I got a piercing and had to wait another year. Then I got another of each and had to wait another two years. That'll be up in March.
However... I'm quite cross at the whole blood donation thing... the questions they ask include "Have you had sex with a bisexual male?" rolleyes
Surely who I have sex with is irrelevant provided I'm having safe sex? I appreciate that it perhaps puts me in a different risk category but presumably all donated blood is tested thoroughly before being used?
dunno
Sorry... that's probably a whole different thread. redface
Both Morbius and I are on the Donor Register.
We never talked about it seriously until last year when his daughter was told that she would die without a Bone Marrow Transplant sad It really hit home how fragile life is and until you've looked in the of someone who has been given this "death sentence" I don't think it really hits home.
We were lucky and a donor was found quickly from the register and she is making a fantastic recovery.
The gift of life is the most precious thing you could give!
If you want to know how to register (there are several ways, try here:
I'm like Steve, my organs are shagged but I'm registered anyway. They can choose if I have anything worth having. But don't forget it's not just organs. There's corneas as well.
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I'm rather embarrassed to admit that I don't carry a donor card, although I've always supported the notion of organ donation. I've also wondered whether it would make more sense for there to be an 'opt out' option rather than an 'opt in'? In the meantime I shall hang my head in shame.
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No need to hang your head in shame kiss. You can register online if you really want to be on the register.
Good girl! biggrin
Boy I feel like I'm being ganged up on., but you're both right no more feeling ashamed I shall go ahead and do it.
:D :D :D
Sorry to pick on your post Sexysmilingeyes but I am someone who has had and needs a transplant.
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becuase usually when someone goes against the grain its what happens - seen it loads of times
But ok, some of my reasons -
Like the other ladys mom, I feel I came into this world whole and I want to leave it that way. Thats a personal choice, I have no problems with that.
I understand that we now have to knowledge to improve and extend peoples lives but I think swopping / adding new body parts is too far ... its not like one swop and its all sorted, people have to take tablets forever then to stop it rejecting and many have to have another transplant later in life. That is correct, there are no guarantees with transplants, yes you will require imunosupresive medication while ever the transplant is inside you.
For me personally if I was the 'knackered' and I use that term loosely (not wanting to offend anyone) then I dont want to keep being repaired, I'd much rather enjoy what I had for the time I had. 'knackered is a very subjective term, one persons idea of 'knackered' will differ from someone else. I was 18 when I had my first transplant, I'm 42 now and still think I'm not knackered yet.
I just think we are not all born equal, with the given right to live X amount of years - if we keep extending and prolonging life like we are we will be never die at this rate - which I know some think great, I for one don't want to live forever, but where do we draw the line, I wonder how many of us wouldn't be here if it wasn't for medical intervention.
but we need to think of the bigger picture, like the quality of life. I quite agree, at the age of 42 and on dialysis I think I have a very good quality of life, again the phrase 'quality of life' is subjective and down to personal interpretation.
Hope it explains a little of what I think

I have no problem with people who do not wish to donate for what ever reason, that is their choice. The ones who do, I say thankyou, not just from me but the thousands who require a new organ. What does piss me off is all those who can't be arsed one way or the other.
Ah something I actually know about!
As the law stands (Human Tissue act 2004 which became law Sept 2006), if you have registered on the NHS organ donor register, carry a donor card or even let your wishes be known to your family, that is now a legel consent and the family cannot in law override that decision. However the law also states that if the family are reall against it then it may be inappropriate to preceed with donation.
There are mixed feelings even in the transplant community about an "opt out" system. I believe the system we have would work well with better resourcing!
The organ shortage has been a priority for the DOH and they have just fully accepted 14 recommendations that they hope would see a 50% rise in the amount of transplants over the next 10 years.
I know how much comfort a bereaved family get when they recieve feedback about how many lives have been saved or changed when a loved one has sadly become a donor. It is also easier when the decsion has been made by the deceased and they don't have to make that choice when asked.
There is also the huge impact that transplantation has on the lifes of recipients and their families.
I do believe in choice; and for whatever reason you don't like the idea of or don't agree with donation, that is fine.
You have to die in a specific way to donate organs such as heart, lungs, liver, kidneys and pancreas but many many people who have a "normal" death can donate tissues such as corneas, skin and heart valves and there is no upper age limit for donating eyes.
People have many misconceptions about their own abilty or suitability to donate organs so then don't think it worth registering. Lungs are taken from some smokers, livers are taken from some drinkers- our bodies are amazing and these organs do recover when transplanted.
So I will get off my soap box and finish by urging those who support donation to register on the Organ Donor Register and most imprtantly discuss your wishes with your family. As a society, we are bad about discussing death especially our own! But it is the one thing we are all assured of!!
Here is another website of interest about a young girl who sadly became a donor (you will need tissues!)

If anyone has questions and I can answer I will
Flirty xxxxx
Quote by Flirty_bbw47
Ah something I actually know about!
As the law stands (Human Tissue act 2004 which became law Sept 2006), if you have registered on the NHS organ donor register, carry a donor card or even let your wishes be known to your family, that is now a legel consent and the family cannot in law override that decision. However the law also states that if the family are reall against it then it may be inappropriate to preceed with are mixed feelings even in the transplant community about an "opt out" system. I believe the system we have would work well with better resourcing!
The organ shortage has been a priority for the DOH and they have just fully accepted 14 recommendations that they hope would see a 50% rise in the amount of transplants over the next 10 years.
I know how much comfort a bereaved family get when they recieve feedback about how many lives have been saved or changed when a loved one has sadly become a donor. It is also easier when the decsion has been made by the deceased and they don't have to make that choice when asked.
There is also the huge impact that transplantation has on the lifes of recipients and their families.
I do believe in choice; and for whatever reason you don't like the idea of or don't agree with donation, that is fine.
You have to die in a specific way to donate organs such as heart, lungs, liver, kidneys and pancreas but many many people who have a "normal" death can donate tissues such as corneas, skin and heart valves and there is no upper age limit for donating eyes.
People have many misconceptions about their own abilty or suitability to donate organs so then don't think it worth registering. Lungs are taken from some smokers, livers are taken from some drinkers- our bodies are amazing and these organs do recover when transplanted.
So I will get off my soap box and finish by urging those who support donation to register on the Organ Donor Register and most imprtantly discuss your wishes with your family. As a society, we are bad about discussing death especially our own! But it is the one thing we are all assured of!!
Here is another website of interest about a young girl who sadly became a donor (you will need tissues!)

If anyone has questions and I can answer I will
Flirty xxxxx

:thumbup: great post.
The bit I had highlighted in bold was something that I wasn't sure about so you have cleared that up for me. smile .