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Browneyes71
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 53
0 miles · Greater London
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Quote by Cherrytree
Browneyes, I don't understand - you say you feel this is a complete waste of time, but you say on another thread you have had 4 meets off here - you joined 17 days ago - I'd say that was bloody good going!
Again, this is another assumption. You are assuming that just because I have had four meetings that I should not find this the site to be a waste of time. Out of respect for the people I have met, I will obviously not elaborate on these meetings here. Indeed, I enjoyed them all and thank everyone who took the time and effort to meet me. I appreciate it greatly. But cherrytree, I could have had one hundred meetings and still find this site to be a waste of time. This is a subjective opinion based on my own expectations, as it is for everyone.
Quote by bluexxx
Here, I think you are saying that participating in the social aspects of the site is a waste of time cos it does not get you sex? Erm, so you're here for quick and free sex, just like all the others here for quick and free sex? The social aspects of the site (forums, rooms, etc) are therefore just a means to an end, just a way to get sex? So where thus is your respect for those who love to use the site for social reasons, NOT as (just) a means to an end?
Here you have made the ASSUMPTION that I have participated in the social aspects of the site in order to get free sex. This, in my opinion, is an unfair assumption to make. Look back at some of my forum posts. The vast majority of them have little to do with getting free sex. I am, as I say, merely trying to participate. For example, I started a thread about London meetings in order to try and get people together for a social. The thread had nearly 1000 views, but nothing came of it. How was I looking for free sex there, when I suggest a meeting for all members of this site in a pub? And surely that fact that nothing came of my London meetings post is an indication that this site can be -- and often is -- a waste of time. And, again, I am not talking about the sexual side of things. Please re-read my post, in which my definition of swinging emphasises its non-sexual aspects (respect, tolerance etc). I'll ask you again: where do I talk about getting free sex? You have erroneously assumed this to be the case.
Quote by travlinmanukok
Its not all about sex in here its relating to others who have the same ideals and wants etc etc ....
As for real take it from me :shock: there are real people in here I have met a few and they seem real enough to me , its no good joining a site like sh and thinking I am gonna get laid the same day it just doesnt work that way ,
It takes patience time and a wanting to get to know folks for what they are not just sex objects .
steve
Where in my post do I talk about sex? I talk about respect and courtesy, which, in my opinion, is exactly about relating to others.
Where in my post do I talk about wanting to get laid in the same day?
What part of my post gives you the impression that I treat folks like sex objects?
I respect the fact that you have a right to air your opinions on the this board, but you have completely misunderstood my point and I take offence at your judgemental attitude towards me.
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This way you avoid many of the hassles that come with organising such an event yourself. You can also often find male gangbang groups that are standing by, much like the A-Team, to respond wherever there is a need.
I am a single guy and I have a single guy`s profile. I have tried my best to participate fully in the Swinging Heaven community. I have made an effort with my profile, I post on the forum, I answer adverts, I go into the chatrooms, but nonetheless I have found it all to be an inordinate waste of time.
No doubt that the members of this site are real enough in the sense that they have given their credit card number to Administration, but most are not real swingers in the way that I understand the term. For me, the swinging lifestyle implies a tolerance and respect for others that is sometimes (often?) lacking in the "normal" world. It seems to me that the original poster was complaining in part about a lack of respect and courtesy among fellow members of this site, and in this respect I can sympathise with him. Swinging Heaven may boast a membership of nearly one million, but in my opinion there are only a few hundred who are legitimate swingers. There are only a few hundred who are real.
No doubt that the members of this site are real enough in the sense that they have given their credit card number to Administration, but most are not real swingers in the way that I understand the term. For me, the swinging lifestyle implies a tolerance and respect for others that is sometimes (often?) lacking in the "normal" world. It seems to me that the original poster was complaining in part about a lack of respect and courtesy among fellow members of this site, and in this respect I can sympathise with him. Swinging Heaven may boast a membership of nearly one million, but in my opinion there are only a few hundred who are legitimate swingers. There are only a few hundred who are real.
So far I have had four meetings from this site and thankfully they have all turned up. That said, I have been burnt many times in the past by no-shows. In my old age I am getting increasingly pessimistic, which is why, if possible, I try to arrange meetings within walking distance of my place (not always that easy in London). That goes for all meetings, and not just the ones from this site. I also try to go somewhere where I can do some work while waiting for my date (ie a cafe) in order to minimise the inconvenience if I am stood up.
Quote by diezel
Lets have a date on this one Two's would you get the calendar hun..xx
which bank hol weekend deiz????
n does anyone know of a nice pub with a beer garden where we can commadeer a corner inside or out??
our usual e london pub shutting after marathon.....
thats gotta be this weekend or next??
anyone running?? :bounce: :bounce:
Just bouncing this one back in to touch..Come on guyz n Girlz. :wink:
Hey diezel,
It seems like I've spent my whole life on this site trying to transform the virtual into the real, but no one seems to be that interested.
Anyway, there's a Wetherspoons pub near Forest Hill station called The Capitol. It is a vast, sprawling place in a building that was a cinema in the 1920s. We could easily find a few tables in that place and blend in quite nicely. So, without further ado, I suggest a meet tomorrow night, Saturday, April 25 at If you are interested, say so in this thread. Tomorrow at 6pm will be the cut-off point and I'll post the exact place in the pub where we will all meet. Obviously, if no one expresses interest, there will be no meet. Here are the pub details:
The Capitol,
11-21 London Road,
Forest Hill,
London, SE23 3TW
For those without their own transport, it is two-minutes walk from Forest Hill train station.
Cheers,
R
Quote by mancunian
Bienvenidos y :welcome:
Estoy 'bi' tambien porque hablo espanol. Hablo espanol un poco y malo, pero es bastante para mi vaccaciones! Una cerzeca por favor!
I got a GCSE in Spanish though goodness knows how.
Enough of that and welcome to SH and all the wonders it holds
Enjoy your holidays, Mancunian!
Quote by HarryJones
Harry,
I notice that you are organising something in Thetford this weekend. Hope that it goes well. If anybody is up for a pub meet tomorrow (Saturday), leave a post here. Or am I being hopelessly over-optimistic?
Socials are the key.
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If socials are the key and we can't get a good one going in London, which social would you recommend attending which is close to London?
Quote by twos_company
brown eyes...........u gone quiet?????????????????
I have gone a little quiet... because I have been out meeting people!
A quiet corner in a beer garden of a pub was exactly what I had in mind. I suggest next weekend, either the Friday or Saturday evening. I don't know the pubs very well here in London., but perhaps somewhere central would suit everyone.
Quote by Sarah
..........smaller meetings in, say,........, library
Now that should be interesting, in which section would you hold it?
:lol: :lol: Twos you always turn up when we are leaving, and then collect waifs and strays on the way home!! :lol:
I'd naturally have it in whatever section was nearest to the toilets -- and well away from the Barbara Cartland novels!
It looks like I have been a little naive with regard to a possible meet-up in London. Anyway, if anybody is interested, you know where to post your intentions.
Quote by Sassy-Seren
Hello everyone,
Is there anything going on in London in the near future: socials, parties, yoga retreats, naked Twister, dirty-word Scrabble, dog-walking without the dogs... anything?
Grab a tent and come camping with us in June
Got tent, will travel! Where are you going?
Quote by HarryJones
Ive attempted three social type affairs in London and the grand attendance was three (ie me each time).
They were at things I'd have gone to anyway so whilst mildly irritating I had a good time.
I have been to a social or two in London and had great time.
Good luck mate
Regards
Harry Jones
Harry,
I notice that you are organising something in Thetford this weekend. Hope that it goes well. If anybody is up for a pub meet tomorrow (Saturday), leave a post here. Or am I being hopelessly over-optimistic?
There have already been several different people replying to this thread. That leads me to believe that at least the people who have posted here will turn up. That's not a bad start. I think that we should try to do something very relaxed in a pub on a date that everyone who's been looking at this thread finds convenient. What say you?
Quote by Sassy-Seren
One question- do you have any Comte Extra in your fridge? If not, sod off.
No Comte, I'm afraid, but there is a smelly piece of cheddar and plenty of whipped cream.
mmmmmm cheese and potato pie :lickface: I may be able to think of a couple of uses for the whipped cream too :twisted:
Hello
Sorry to be late welcomeing you. I was in London last week too :roll:Thanks for the welcome. I think I've got a recipe for a cheese-and-potato creampie underneath all of my copies of Razzle from the 19080s.
Quote by noladreams
I was in South Africa recently and went to a museum which had an exhibition about HIV/AIDS. One of the exhibits was a beautiful dress made entirely of condoms; it looked like something from the Twenties.
i think this is what you mean lol
That's an amazing dress.
The one I saw was very much like the one in the picture. It was so well done that I had to look closely to see that it was made of condoms.
It's an especially bad business if people spend their own money, only to be let down by no-shows. Are smaller meetings in, say, a pub, library or supermarket acceptable?. In other words, meetings that don't involve the organiser spending anything except for his/her time to organise the meeting?
