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19 May 2005

Quote by bailiffs
i enjoy giving blowjobs and mr bailiffs sez theres nothing better than having your missus sucking your cock!!!! it took me a while to learn to relax my throat ........ now deep troat is second nature!!!!
louxxx

The simple answer to the original question is: yes. Three of my, girlfriends were well into cocksucking. Interestingly (harking back to the older women thread), all these were older than me - the younger women I went out with wouldn't blow, or if they did it was plain they did it because they thought they ought to, and frankly they were crap at it.
What I find tough to understand, though, is why a woman would blow her man to orgasm and thus deprive herself of a good fuck for however long it takes the guy to recover? For that reason, I often feel slightly guilty when I get blown to completion, and more often than not I'll cut the blowjob short, even though it's absolutely terrific, and pull her on top of me so that she can get off. Is this just me, or do other guys get this guilt?
Oh, and you're right, Lou - you are "fucking gorgeous" smile

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. Shame you're not into single guys sad

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Mr Licks

19 May 2005

Quote by maxboyce
are there many ladies who have or would like to F*** a guy in the ass with a strap on.

Plenty on this board, sure enough, and plenty of guys wanting to take it up the arse too. Have a look at the thread at:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/15626/20.html
for example. In particular see Spitfire Sal's posts, on pages 2 and 3. Sal did post some pics of a quite ginormous strapon she uses on her hubby, but sadly these seem to have disappeared. If you're reading this thread, Sal, how about putting those pix back online?
Mr Licks

19 May 2005

Quote by Clare_Lincs
I personally prefer older guys as they have a bit more maturity.
Iam 24 (til next week ) and generally find that anyone younger just lacks that maturity i there are exceptions to the rule and I wouldnt rule anyone out just because of their age,there's so much more to someone than that

Now that's what I like to hear ;-)
From what I hear there are a decent number of young women, in their 20s, who go for the more 'mature' male, and naturally, being a middle-aged stiff myself, I think that this is a very, very good thing, even if, sadly, I've not been approached by any. My current girlfriend's daughter, 23, is a case in point - she's super-fit and very intelligent and could pull any bloke she wanted, but has the hots for older men and is currently going out with a guy some 14 years her senior. Quite why young fit women should fancy blokes a generation older is beyond me, and maybe deserving of another thread, but I do think it's a 'fetish' that should be very strongly encouraged indeed :P
Mr Licks

18 May 2005

Quote by blonde
i know im blonde but what the hell is bukkuke??????anyone!!

It's usually written "bukkake", and is a facials fetish from Japan. In bukkake flicks, a few of which I've seen on Usenet newsgroups (although it's not really my thing, I hasten to add), a single woman, usually young and virginal-looking, sits on a stage, and then a procession of men come and spunk over her face. The number of men is usually 30 or more, and the woman gets quite a slathering. There's a humiiation aspect to it, as IMO there is to facials in general, as often the women are dressed as authority figures - managers, cops, that sort of thing. If you like facials, you'll love bukkake.
The curious thing about the Japanese flicks is that, due to strange censorship laws in Japan, when the guy comes over the woman's face his knob is pixellated, but the cum is uncensored. The Yanks tried to imitate it but, so I've heard, the bukkake 'cognoscenti' will only go for the Japanese originals.
There's a Wikipeda entry on bukkake at
HTH
Mr Licks
How bluddy clever are you ?????
Clever? Moi? Hell no, I just spent too much time in years gone by trawling Usenet erotica newsgroups and downloading all sorts of vids. No wonder I've got terrible RSI :cry:
Mr Licks

18 May 2005

Quote by sexybriefs
i know im blonde but what the hell is bukkuke??????anyone!!

It's usually written "bukkake", and is a facials fetish from Japan. In bukkake flicks, a few of which I've seen on Usenet newsgroups (although it's not really my thing, I hasten to add), a single woman, usually young and virginal-looking, sits on a stage, and then a procession of men come and spunk over her face. The number of men is usually 30 or more, and the woman gets quite a slathering. There's a humiiation aspect to it, as IMO there is to facials in general, as often the women are dressed as authority figures - managers, cops, that sort of thing. If you like facials, you'll love bukkake.
The curious thing about the Japanese flicks is that, due to strange censorship laws in Japan, when the guy comes over the woman's face his knob is pixellated, but the cum is uncensored. The Yanks tried to imitate it but, so I've heard, the bukkake 'cognoscenti' will only go for the Japanese originals.
There's a Wikipeda entry on bukkake at
HTH
Mr Licks

18 May 2005

Quote by fallenangel136
wot are people views on it cause i dnt see ne problems with it

When I was 26 I went out with a woman 13 years older, and it literally changed my life. I'd never come across anyone with such a sexual appetite. I learnt an awful lot about sex and life from her, and grew up very quickly (like most blokes I was about 10 years behind my physical age in terms of maturity). I'm currently seeing a woman 9 years older.
I agree with other posters - a young man and an older woman are an ideal combination. Stamina and experience.
Some years back such relationships were seen as at best unusual, at worst perverted - I got some strange looks when going out with the first woman, and I'm sure some folks thought she was my Mum. In recent years, though, I've noticed a distinct shift in attitudes, and older women having fun with younger men is now well in vogue. Hence the fashion for MILFs... ;-)
Mr Licks

23 Apr 2005

Quote by Tania
I personally think what people refer to as female ejaculation is pee.

Sorry, Tania, you're wrong. In my 20s, I went out with an older woman of 39 who squirted like an absolute firehose. At first we both thought it was pee, and she said that before she came it felt like an overwhelming urge to pee, but so much of it went down my throat over the years that I knew it wasn't. I know what pee smells and tastes like - pretty damn yucky, so I'm not into watersports - and what she produced was definitely not pee. It didn't taste of very much, and was basically very slightly salty water with a faintly oily consistency. It was definitely not the acrid, acid taste of pee. Don't forget also that you can't pee when sexually aroused, or only with the very greatest difficulty, because the body closes off the urethra.
It was very, very exciting. One thing for sure about a squirter is that you know she's not faking it ;-). For the woman, it produces the most intense orgasms, such that she often forced me to stop what I was doing because it was just too much for her. She usually came in bucketloads when riding me - doggy or missionary didn't do it - and when she sat on my face for me to give her head.
For me, it was just so pleasing that I could give so much pleasure, although to be honest I think it was her previously unreleased sexual potential (she'd been married for some 15 years) that was responsible - I didn't do any more than I'd done with other women, and I was hardly an expert lover at that age. When she came like that it just plastered a massive grin all over my chops because I was so happy for her, plus it made me feel a little smug (I was a big-headed little bastard at the time).
On the down side, it was quite a pain when we stayed in hotels, as the sheets would get absolutely drenched. Apart from the embarrassment of leaving sopping wet linen for the cleaning staff, it was pretty uncomfortable to sleep on if we'd had a late night session. You think being on the wet patch is unpleasant enough, but it's nothing in comparison.
For more clinical articles on female ejaculation, see:

There's a pay site by Krystal Waters to which I'll not link but you should be able to find on Google, which has info on the topic. If you want to see it in action, I'd strongly recommend getting the video by a young US porn starlet called Cytheria, called "Cytheria is Squirtwoman" or similar. I've got it at home, and she is most definitely the real, real thing, unlike some other so-called 'squirters' in the porn trade.
Mr Licks

22 Apr 2005

Quote by kinkyluton
ok bear with me on this one.. but just watch this.. i thought it was funny....

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Nice one, mate. Mind you, when you live in Luton you take whatever entertainment you can get. I know - I grew up there :cry:
Mr Licks

22 Apr 2005

Quote by Serendipity

You haven't read Lets Meet UP recently then, there have been a few!

No, I've not been hanging around here like I used to, with so much to do at work. I just had a quick flick through the first few pages of the forum and saw one "pussy lickin lover" post - were there any more?

I looked at the article again after skimming it earlier This was an interesting observation:
His theory (of 20 mins foreplay) is based partly on a small survey group and partly on personal experience: Kerner admits that as a young man he suffered badly from premature ejaculation, which satisfied neither his partner's nor his own libido. He saved his sex life by becoming skilled at cunnilingus.
A small survey group isn't really ideal for the basis of any theory - and I'm not sure that championing cunnilngus to hide another problem is particularly healthy either.

Maybe not, but if I had premature spurt & droop then I'd feel pretty damn guilty about not satisfying my partner. Sometimes I know, particularly if I've been without for a while, that I'm going to cum in a couple of mins, so I make sure to do a fair bit of gamahuching (lovely archaic word I remember from The Pearl, back when there was a fad for Victorian erotica) so that she gets something out of the encounter before I lose control.

Whilst lots of foreplay is wonderful (except for the moments when you just want doing :twisted: ) the best part is variety, a combination of skills.

Quite. The most important skill of all being, of course, attentive to the woman and picking up her feelings through sight, sound and touch. Some men of a more 'goal-oriented' nature think of the clit as a 'magic button' and just bang away at it relentlessly to fulfil the orgasm quota, whereas there's an awful lot more to cunnilungus than just clit-bashing, and what a woman wants varies from day to day, hour to hour, or even minute to minute - there's no 'infallible technique' guaranteed to work every time, so you have to be flexible and mix 'n' match according to her mood.
Like you say, though, there are times when you just want a good doing, and tongues and lips just don't cut the mustard. That lesbians use dildos, vibrators and strap-ons indicates that a good old stuffing is needed now and again. I'm definitely not saying that these are penis substitutes, I hasten to add. Hell, they last a fuck of a sight longer, for a start smile

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There was a relatively recent (a couple of years back) discovery that the visible nub of the clit is just a small part of a large internal organ that wraps around the vagina, which I think explains why so many women get pleasure from penetration. The discovery was made, of course, by a woman scientist - male boffins just hadn't bothered to look. No change there, then ;-)
Mr Licks

22 Apr 2005

Quote by neilinleeds
maybe we should have an oral sex masterclass? or some diagrams in the help section with advice on general locations of clitoris's and g-spots, and appropriate use of tippy tongues, lips and nibbles?
n x x x ;)

How about a lickathon/slurpathon? Give me a beer nearby, for thirst quenching and washing down the occasional rogue pube, and a succession of women and you could sponsor me by the hour! Or at least until my knees give way ;-)
Out of curiousity, has anyone on this board ever organised a session for women to be orally pleasured by men and/or other women? You occasionally see ads for women who want loads of cocks to suck, but I don't remember seeing anything from blokes offering to lick loads of fannies and be smothered in women's cum. Maybe I ought to advertise myself sometime...
Damn, but this is doing my work productivity any good at all. Down, boy!
Mr Licks

22 Apr 2005

Quote by les_southwest
they call me tia maria lol a good lquor llol

As in the ancient joke:
How does a woman hold her liquor? By the ears smile

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I'll get me coat...
Mr Licks

22 Apr 2005

There's a great article in today's Grauniad G2 bit, in the women's section, about cunnilingus, my all-time favourite activity:

A new sex manual is taking America by storm and its message is simple: cunnilingus is the best way to please a woman.

In a way it doesn't tell us anything we don't already know, but it's still worth a read anyway. See
Puts me in mind of a fantasy I had at my last place of work, where all my team were women. I fantasised about being summoned to their office to find them all standing there, naked from the waist down, then being ordered to get on my knees and pleasure each of them in turn with my tongue until each had come at least twice. Hmm-mm - yummy smile

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Mr Licks

22 Apr 2005

...and so has my libido. There's something about Spring, particularly a sunny day like today, that makes me so horny. I was cycling to work today and saw a beautiful woman with one of those semi-transparent summer skirts, with her legs and pert bum visible through the cloth, and I got an immediate stiffy (lucky I was wearing my fleece which covers the crotch). And where I work I'm surrounded by young (and not so young) women, and on a day like this it's difficult to work rather than wandering the corridors ogling all the pert bums and fit bodies and beautiful faces.
The old cliche' about the sap rising is quite literally true with me, but only lasts a couple of months until the sweltering heat of summer renders me zombie-like with torpor. Whilst Spring lasts, though, I'm in a state of almost permanent sexual arousal. Is it just me, or does Spring affect others of you the same way?
Mr Licks

7 Apr 2005

Quote by targaid
The dangers of cross-infection are apparent and since, as I understand it, one of the most at-risk activities for a hetero male is going down

Really?? What risk does the man face? I ask this in all naivety, because I've always thought that cunnilingus was about the safest, or least unsafe, form of sex you can have. It's certainly my favourite, hence my crass handle ;-)

it seems that there's a lot of hypocrisy about what is 'safe' sex. As mentioned earlier there is no such thing; only safer sex.

True enough, and a point worth repeating. Or perhaps 'less unsafe sex', but that doesn't quite trip off the tongue as does 'safe sex'. As has been pointed out earlier, sex is inherently risky, physically and emotionally, but that's one of it's attractions. The only question to ask is: how much risk is justified?

Be honest about the things I've mentioned - especially those who have been quite vehement in their opinions of those who go bareback. When was the last time you insisted condoms be changed when partners are? Or when moving from vaginal to anal penetration since cross-infection is highly possible then? Have you put a condom on a dildo? Do you protect your partners when they're performing cunnilungus on you? Have you worn gloves? Would you do any of them?

Well, I wouldn't have thought most of those would be particularly risky. Anal to vaginal is a common problem which can certainly spread rectal bugs to the vagina and be unpleasant for the woman, and should be avoided (despite all this puerile ass-to-mouth-to-cunt stuff in modern porn), but are the others real issues? Is there a significant probability of infection being transmitted via latex or dildo?

My guess would be 'no' in most cases. Most of us probably never even thought about manual stimulation as a risk, but everyone shouts 'condom' because we all fall for the hype about the safe sex message which is, at best, incomplete. Certainly there will be those who say something's better than nothing and I agree, but think about it the next time your playing as couples or at an orgy. you might be surprised by how many risks you're taking already.

Yes, but you are avoiding the most lethal risk of all, which is HIV. It was only after HIV was recognised as an epidemic in the 80s that condoms (a word which was never, AFAIK, used before then in ordinary speech) were promoted on the grounds of sexual health rather than contraception. To my mind, HIV is an altogether greater and deadlier risk than catching the clap, bad as 'traditional' STDs can be.
Still, good points well made.
Mr Licks

7 Apr 2005

Quote by MrLickingham
I got to ask ....... puffies???

These are breasts where the aureole themselves stick out above the breast, a bit like fairy cakes. 'Puffies' is a term commonly used in the newsgroups and in 'porn circles'. I did a quick Google image search (turning content filtering off in the prefs) for "puffies" and came up with a fetish site
and also some pix
Mod edited as these sites lead to paysites.

Oops, sorry, I didn't realise I'd breached posting guidelines sad

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How can I post an individual image from local disk? Or can I only post links? If the latter, I'll try to track down an image that's not on a pay site. Trouble is, if you search for "puffies" in image search the first 4 pages are porn sites :(
In repentance
Mr Licks

7 Apr 2005

Quote by Alleyson
I got to ask ....... puffies???

These are breasts where the aureole themselves stick out above the breast, a bit like fairy cakes. 'Puffies' is a term commonly used in the newsgroups and in 'porn circles'. I did a quick Google image search (turning content filtering off in the prefs) for "puffies" and came up with a fetish site
and also some pix
Mod edited as these sites lead to paysites.
I've never seen women with puffies 'in the flesh', although sometimes the shapes are clearly visible even through bras and tops. I just think they look cute and sexy, is all smile

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Mr Licks

7 Apr 2005

Quote by SteveinAnglia
I mean Aerola that are Dark and/or Very large maybe 4" diameter
who likes large and who likes Small and Tight ones ?
of course if any Ladies like to let me take up the Challenge to taste and explore the size, i wont say No..
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I'll take whatever's put in front of me as long as it's nibbleable ;-). What I would fancy doing one day is nibbling the nipples of a woman with 'puffies', which for some unknown reason turn me on especially.
Mr Licks

7 Apr 2005

Quote by piercedJon
I would say that most people while initially starting a relationship using condoms anfter a while when the relationship is progreassing decide not to use them, or laps into non-use if one is steralised or on a contraceptive... this does not however say that one or the other, or even both, has/have a non-symptomatic sti (as they are now called)
The problem is a visit to the clinic is a time consuming business (up to 8 hours with a drop in, up to 2 with an apointment) and then takes up to 1-2 weeks for a sti positive, and 3-6 weeks if you are in the clear; most dont contact if you are negative for the tested sti's but i personally feel they should contact both ways so no one falls thougth the gaps by say a delayed result or a mix up.

I wonder how many people on here could honestly say that they have been tested in the last 3 months and genuinly know they are free of all the tested sti's?

Very few, I'm sure. It's occurred to me to get tested but I've had so few partners, and all have been long(ish)-term and themselves have had little previous, that it's just not seemed to be an issue. My current GF was with her hubby for 20-odd years before me, and my previous GF had also been monogamous for many years (and yes, I believe them both ;-)).
However, if you go dogging and/or swinging then I'd have thought condoms were absolutely mandatory, and it would never occur to me to do either unwrapped. Even if I were willling to take the risk to myself, it would be highly irresponsible for me to risk my GF or any future partner, and neither would I ask any swinger/dogger kind enough to have sex with me to take any sort of risk. I'm pretty sure I'm clean from STDs because of my history, but she wouldn't, and I certainly wouldn't expect her to just take my word for it.
I can understand oral sex without johnnies, as although there's a risk of herpes and similar you're unlikely to contract anything seriously damaging through giving a blowjob. HIV is an issue if you've got any broken skin in your mouth, perhaps a burst gumboil or somesuch, but if the buccal lining is intact then AFAIK the mucus membrane will be an impermeable barrier to the HIV virus. (Any health professionals care to comment on this?) Plus I wouldn't fancy giving a blow job (which I might do one day) to someone wrapped in plastic, no matter what bloody flavour it is - if I ever do so I'd want to feel and taste the cum and appreciate the flesh, not have the taste of latex in my mouth.
But for any other kind of penetrative sex in this community, johnnies are an absolute must. Even if you don't believe in them, you'll not get a shag if you don't use them, so that's an incentive in itself.
As for a cock being too big, well I have always thought that they should come in sizes, although knowing men's egos these would have to be Large, SuperLarge, Goliath and OhMyGod ;-). I've found most to be ok for my measly 7", although Gossamer are a bit small and tend to ride off under pressure. Trojans I believe are marked with size, so perhaps yer man could try them. I'm sure there will be some to fit - I've seen porn flicks with Lexington Steele, who has the biggest dick I have *ever* seen on screen, and he occasionally wears johnnies.
Just my 2 Euro's worth...
Nice post, Jon, BTW.
Mr Licks

7 Apr 2005

Quote by 12inchguy
i currently live in essex and before the summer comes i wondered if there were any ladys that want to keep me fit???

"12inchguy"?! Really?! You'll be popular enough round here, all right. I've always been curious about such big boys - does it actually fit all the way into a woman? I'd heard that the average vulva-cervix distance was 8" but I can't remember where I read it.
This reminds me of the old joke about the guy with VD who makes an appointment at his local STD clinic. He goes to the building on the appointed day, but goes in the wrong door into the chiropodists in the same building. He gives his name to the receptionist who tells him to go straight into the surgery, where the doctor's sitting at his desk writing up notes. The quack says: "get it out and put it on the table, and I'll be with you in a moment". The bloke shrugs, whips out his dick, and whaps it on the operating table. When the chiropodist turns round he gasps in amazement and exclaims: "That's not a foot!"
"No," says the bloke, "but it's a fucking good 11 inches!"
I'll get me coat...
Mr Licks

5 Apr 2005

Quote by Debbiewebs
men do you like your nipples being played with?

Unfortunately not - they're too sensitive in an uncomfortable/painful way, and I get little erotica feeling from them. I do envy those women, like my current GF, who can come purely from nipple manipulation. Mind you, some women's bodies have more erogenous zones than a pomegranate has pips...
What I find curious, and maybe this is worth of another thread, is how some women get off on tit-fucking without any nipple contact. Again, my GF, although only a C-cup so she has to lean over me for a titfuck, can come from my squeezing (gently!) her tits against my dick and thrusting between them. This was the case with a previous GF, and I've no reason to suspect either is doing it just to please me as I don't really get much out of it. Is this unusual?
Mr Licks

1 Apr 2005

Quote by Jas-Tim
Thank you to everyone, I had a great time and it was lovely to meet all the new faces, including some of the lovely single blokes who showed up for their first social. :wave2:

I'd also like to say a big thanks to everyone there, but particularly yourself, Jas, for being so welcoming. I did mean to PM you afterwards to say thanks in person but I've just been sooooo busy at work and at home and have hardly visited SH for the last couple of months. Anyway, thanks again, Jas and all, for making the effort to bring us 'into the circle', and for the useful words of wisdom, and I hope to see you and the others again at the 30th July munch, if not before if any mini-munches are organised.
Oh, and I'll maybe brush up on my chess for next time smile

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although I've got to say that Bridge used to be my main game, many many years ago, so maybe I'll bring along a pack of cards which I'm sure could find some use (tho' maybe not in a public place ;-)). Anyone for Strip Bridge?
Mr Licks xxx

14 Feb 2005

Quote by brightongoblin
Not many replies from single guys.....but although I know plenty who dont go prepared.....I REALLY can not understand anyone who really takes so many risks.
Condoms are not expensive, they are easy to get hold of , small and descrete and can save your life!!
Maybe guys think the chance of a full on session is so small its not worth buying some, I dont know, but I do know that even I wouldnt shag the best looking most sexy young lady with out a condom if i had just bumped into her 10 mins earler in a car park.
My advice is .. Dont go dogging with out condoms, and if you meet someone with out them point them in the direction of a chemist !
paul

I'm staggered that so many male doggers don't carry johnnies - what decade do they think they're living in? From a STD viewpoint, you can't get a much more risky situation than al fresco sex with strangers, so from purely a self-interest angle you'd think blokes would carry them. Even if they don't give a toss about the risk to themselves, it's irresponsible and dangerous to ask a woman who's offering a shag to take the risk as you can never be sure you're not carrying anything.
I've not been an active dogger - tried it once, but got fed up with hanging about, driving around, smoking fags, and generally using up good drinking time - but if I were I'd make damn sure to carry around at least a packet of 3 in case I got lucky. It wouldn't occur to me to not wear one, even if they are like washing your feet with your socks on. Hell, I carry one around with me in my coat pocket every day, just in case.
I'm flabbergasted. I really thought that johnny-carrying would be standard practice amongst doggers.
Mr Licks

3 Feb 2005

Quote by celticq
I'd have to 2nd this and also compliment Mr Lickingham on using one of my mostest favourite and rather underused words. Houghmagandy - even if you don't know what it means you can just tell

Yep, it sounds so much nicer than "how's your father" or similar. I went out with a Scottish woman for 3 years and picked up a fair few bits of dialect which have come in handy over the years. I wonder if houghmagandy comes from Scots or the Gaelic? Either way, it's aye guid fun smile

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Mr Licks

3 Feb 2005

Quote by n64play
There just doesn't seem to be any who want to get in contact. Why is this?

I've only ever lived in the Republic, not in the North/Ulster/Six Counties (delete by preference), so maybe I'm writing from ignorance here, but given the still delicate and tense situation in NI I'd have thought people in general would be a little wary of meeting total strangers for a bit of houghmagandy as you might not get what you expected. I can't imagine it's out of prudery as all the NI folk I've met have been well up for the craic in all its aspects smile

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Mr Licks

3 Feb 2005

Quote by Dave__Notts
Hello peeps
I am going to organise a social drink in Nottingham. Looking at the Wednesday 23rd February 2005, starting at about 7-8:00 until we all go our seperate ways. This is just a feeler to see how many would be interested.
If you want to come then add your name and we will see what can be organised.

Dave, I could well be game as I'm free on that night and I'm usually up for a pint or four. Depends where it's going to be and whether I can get there by bus/bike as I don't like drinking & driving (it's murder steering with pint in your hand ;-)). What area is the pub in? PM me if you don't want to publicise it.
I'm a single male, straight, late 40s, no practical swinging experience but I do natter on SH a bit. Marcuso knows me and where I live.
Mr Licks

3 Feb 2005

Quote by Spitfire_Sal
It cost Â£80 and came from Pulse and Cocktails, they have a website , I have not been but hubbie has promised me a shopping trip for my birthday to the one in Sheffield, the closest to us.

Thanks for the tip, Sal - I'll check it out, and 80 quid's not too much. Hell, if my GF doesn't fancy it, I can always strap it to a chair and do myself with it. There used to be a website of a guy who did exactly that, although I think it's gone west now, and amazingly he used to come without touching his dick, just through the anal stimulation alone.

Best of all as I mentioned earlier a man can wear it and it leaves his own equipment available, even if not into anal the sensation of having two pricks sliding up into your pussy is something every woman should be treated too at least once in her life!

I think I could see how that works in practice. Interesting, a bloke could DP (vag & anal) a woman just by himself if positioned correctly. Gives me ideas, for sure...

For girl girl fun it is great because it leaves both hands free, and for some strange reason I find it gets any male spectators total attention while being used that way.

Oh, I can see that that would be one hell of a draw - a woman shagging another woman and letting her fingers do the walking. Oh yes :twisted:
Mr Licks

2 Feb 2005

Quote by Spitfire_Sal
God yes! You do get pleasure, apart from the delicious sensation of being in charge and knowing you are penetrating someone the thing presses up against your clit and rubs it in a fantastic way.

In that case, maybe I'll take up my GF's suggestion of getting one after all, if she's going to get off on it too. How much did your beastie set you back?

It does raise one puzzling question though which the other half never seems able to answer: Just how the hell do you guys manage with all that wobbling about in front?

Ah, well most of us blokes don't have "all that" in front. Blokes equipped to the dimensions of that monster are definitely in a minority. I certainly have no problems with my measly 7" wobbling about sad

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Thanks for the pix, Sal - they've got my imagination working... ;-)
Mr Licks

2 Feb 2005

Quote by Spitfire_Sal
Strapons are expensive, there are cheaper ones but they are hopeless, just a normal dildo with a bit of elastic attached. A decent one has a harness and is modular so that you change the business end, this is my favourite attachment, it looks and feels very real and has the same "give". The only thing it does not do is quit!
It is worth getting one with a hole in the harness so that a man can wear it too and double up his potential!
"Come here bad boy, time you were taught a lesson!"

Gordon Bennett! You are a big boy. I mean girl. I mean whatever. You know I'll go to sleep tonight with that thing on my mind, don't you? ;-)
Something I've always been curious about: do you, as a woman, get any physical pleasure from using the strapon? I can see that there's plenty of psychological pleasure of all sorts, but does the strapon give any physical stimulation?
Mr Licks

2 Feb 2005

Quote by Spitfire_Sal
Don't all men? I know mine does. We were both a bit hung up on discussing things until the first time we actually accidently swapped partners (how do you accidently swap? Well I mean unplanned, and sort of we were not consulted, but that is another tale)
After that we found we could discus things very openly and he admitted to a long standing fantasy to being by a woman with a strapon. At first I was very shocked, thinking it meant he was gay or something, but since have found out it is a very common male fantasy, though when actually presented with the actual thing in the bedroom most promptly bolt.

Well, that's a very good question, and I'd be curious to know the answer. It's certainly not something straight men would talk about readily, but reading these fora it's plain that, like your bloke, quite a few blokes fancy being fucked, and I know some women quite fancy doing the fucking. I've certainly fantasised about getting a big dick up the jacksy, yet I've zero attraction to men and would never do this in real life, not least because I'd never trust a bloke that much. I'd certainly fancy a strap-on fuck, but I don't go for the domination angle, unless you consider the act of penetration one of domination which is a very dangerous and wrong road to go down. I've discussed this with my GF and she did once offer to get a strap-on and give me a seeing-to, but I could see that she was only suggesting it because she thought I'd like it, rather than her liking it herself, so I said don't bother. Plus the damn things are expensive! ;-)
However, I remember a feminist woman I went out with for 3 years (and who squirted like a firehose, btw), who a few times wondered aloud about how it would be to penetrate me. In those days I wouldn't have known a sex toy from a sink plunger, so the strap-on idea never occurred to me.
I remember seeing a porn flick while back, one of the Cumback Pussy series (though I can't remember which number), in which yer man, after the usual suck/fuck/anal sequence which is such a boring ritual in professional porn, lay on his back and was fucked by one of the women with a strap-on, who was plainly enjoying the role reversal. It made an interesting change.

But even if they are not into that extreme what man does not like the woman on top occasionally, holding down his arms and riding him hard. I also find men like what I call "Reverse Missionary" where I lie on top of him between his legs and have him wrap them around me. You do not have to dress up in leather and carry a whip to play domination games.

Oh yes! I go for both of those things. Hell, I'm a great believer in women on top, because a) I don't have to do much work, b) she's in control of her own pleasure, c) missionary makes me look like a hippo, and d) I get to have a good old fiddle. Similarly the old 'reverse missionary', as you call it, which I think my GF goes for because, with her legs closed, there's much more pleasurable friction, even though she doesn't get to move much. Nice to know others are into this sort of thing as well.
I agree with you that you don't need kit to be into domination games, but I'm not sure I agree that the acts you're referring to are in themselves dominatory, although plainly they can be. Mind you, perhaps I'm just a pussy-whipped bloke who's happy to be bottom dog :-)
So, any other blokes here into fantasies (on you, not by you)? One of my favourite fantasies, at my last place of work, was to be ordered onto my knees in front of four of my women colleagues (all very tasty ages from 20 to 50) standing in front of me stripped from the waist down, then told to pleasure each in turn with my mouth until each had come at least 3 times. And of course I'd not be allowed any 'relief' myself - it's a motivational thing, y'know ;-)
Oh yes. Yummy, yummy, yummy, slurp, squelch, drool :twisted:
Mr Licks

1 Feb 2005

Quote by TONNEDGIZ
Hi everyone
It has been something that I have been thinking about after reading an article in a men's magazine. It said that a large majority of women fantasise about non-consensual sex.

I don't know about a "large majority", but I understand that some kind of domination/ fantasy is common, and was acknowledged (occasionally with embarrassment) even by feminists I knew. I think Freud (Sigmund, not Clement!) picked up on it in his work. The important point to make, though, whether or not this is the case, is that it's fantasy, and sexual fantasy should always have zero contact with reality, IMHO. Never the twain should meet.
There are some good passages in Iain M Banks' book "Complicity", a rattling good read in itself, on just this topic. The central character and his married mistress carry out a series of kinky role-playing assignations, which are both arousing and funny. I certainly understood how a bloke could get something out of being tied up, dominated and teased after reading it, although I still wouldn't fancy it myself.
I wonder: how many blokes fantasise about non-consensual sex acted out on them, by women or men? Answers on a postcard please...
Mr Licks