Hi,
this would be our first social and we would love to be invited!!!
Pheline& Kev.
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Pheline_Kevin
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 52
Straight Male, 64
0 miles · Leicestershire
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The post from Pink has really helped me to clarify things. Both of us like the excitement of swinging. I guess i have not yet found the right man who i have truly clicked with. I have been attracted to all of the men i swung with but maybe that is not enough?? The other thing is as you said, finding the right couple is a lot harder than both of us had imagnined. And i guess at times either of us has gone along with it and thats where the problem seems to lie for me. Men seem to be happier with just a shag. For me there has to be more. I want to feel at least special in that one moment, feel wanted and not be just a notch on the bed post so to speak. We will not give up just yet, just take things at a slower pace and maybe even meet couples outside of clubs.
hugs
Pheline xx
hugs
Pheline xx
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Thanx for everyones feedback, i guess winchwench explained quite well what i meant. Feeling hollow and disillusioned with swinging after having sex with others. This could come from the fact that there may not have been enough of a connection in the fist place. With the result that sex is not that enjoyable and satisfying as i had hoped for (no orgasm). This is not necessary the males fault. I think taking things at a slower pace is the way forward for us and trying to relax more, which as a few of you said, can be difficult at a club.
Again thanx for reading and feedback
bye
Pheline
Again thanx for reading and feedback
bye
Pheline
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Hi, 
i wonder if a few of you would answer this question. The reason for asking is, that when we started i-pheline was the driving force and really into it and my husband not being sure about it but intrigued. Now we have been in this about a year and a half and have swapped with a few couples in clubs, the leaf seems to have turned. I am not sure anymore why i actually want to do it and my hubby is very much into it. I thought if some of you could give me their reasons for it, it may help me to remind me what the attraction was for me in the beginning. I think my problem is that when we have had sex with others, i have often been left short changed for want of a better word :shock: . Hope i made this clear for everyone to understand and thanx for your troubles.
Luv
Pheline xx
i wonder if a few of you would answer this question. The reason for asking is, that when we started i-pheline was the driving force and really into it and my husband not being sure about it but intrigued. Now we have been in this about a year and a half and have swapped with a few couples in clubs, the leaf seems to have turned. I am not sure anymore why i actually want to do it and my hubby is very much into it. I thought if some of you could give me their reasons for it, it may help me to remind me what the attraction was for me in the beginning. I think my problem is that when we have had sex with others, i have often been left short changed for want of a better word :shock: . Hope i made this clear for everyone to understand and thanx for your troubles.
Luv
Pheline xx
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Hi,
not sure if anyone remebers, i started a thread awhile ago (in december) because whilst swinging and having sex with another male, the condom split. I was worried about a STI but was too scared and embarrassed to go to our local GUM clinic
. Anyway today i finally had the guts to go(helped by some of the responses to this thread, thanks!!!). It was not as bad as i thought. I am glad that i have been checked now and hope that everything is ok, which i will find out in 10 days. So thank you guys for sharing your opinions .
Bye
Pheline X
not sure if anyone remebers, i started a thread awhile ago (in december) because whilst swinging and having sex with another male, the condom split. I was worried about a STI but was too scared and embarrassed to go to our local GUM clinic
. Anyway today i finally had the guts to go(helped by some of the responses to this thread, thanks!!!). It was not as bad as i thought. I am glad that i have been checked now and hope that everything is ok, which i will find out in 10 days. So thank you guys for sharing your opinions . Bye
Pheline X
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Thanks for everyones comments, they were very appreciated It was an accident and as i said before i did not blame anyone. I do though really wonder if every woman who swings uses some form of birthcontrol to prevent pregnancy. A condom is a must for me to prevent sexual transmitted diseases of cause. My husband had the snip, therefore i am not worried about the risk of a unwanted pregnancy from him. I maybe naive so please help me along here 
does every woman engaging in the swinging scene use birthcontrol incase a condom spilts? Feel very naive now.
Pheline x
It was an accident and as i said before i did not blame anyone. I do though really wonder if every woman who swings uses some form of birthcontrol to prevent pregnancy. A condom is a must for me to prevent sexual transmitted diseases of cause. My husband had the snip, therefore i am not worried about the risk of a unwanted pregnancy from him. I maybe naive so please help me along here does every woman engaging in the swinging scene use birthcontrol incase a condom spilts? Feel very naive now.Pheline x
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Sorry me again 
So what do they do to me at the GUM clinic? And how soon will i know that everything is ok? What do they check for? And how long does it take to get the results? I know so many questions, but i am a bit worried. The couple looked ok and he said that he was a bit worried too. I did asked him how many times this had happened to him and he said 3 times in 5 years. I thought that was often, but that probably depends on how many times they meet others to play with.
Thanks again
Pheline
So what do they do to me at the GUM clinic? And how soon will i know that everything is ok? What do they check for? And how long does it take to get the results? I know so many questions, but i am a bit worried. The couple looked ok and he said that he was a bit worried too. I did asked him how many times this had happened to him and he said 3 times in 5 years. I thought that was often, but that probably depends on how many times they meet others to play with.
Thanks again
Pheline
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Thanks to all of you who answered, your advice makes me feel better already 
. And i think for the future will only use our own condoms, at least i know if they are latex free and how old they are, as they are supposed to get brittle if kept too long in hot conditons. Will go to clinic this week. I could have got the pill for free from my GP but to be honest, she knows us really well and i would have felt embarrased to tell her what has happened.
luv and hugs
Ellie
. And i think for the future will only use our own condoms, at least i know if they are latex free and how old they are, as they are supposed to get brittle if kept too long in hot conditons. Will go to clinic this week. I could have got the pill for free from my GP but to be honest, she knows us really well and i would have felt embarrased to tell her what has happened.luv and hugs
Ellie
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Hi guys,
i wondered what your thoughts are on this. Last night me and my husband played with another couple at a club. Everything seemed fine until the womans husband told me that his condom had split inside me and he came inside me. I was horrified. I know that this can happen, but i just had not thought of it happening to me for some reason. The damage was done and it was no-ones fault i know. Next morning i got the after-pill which cost me 25 pounds from the chemist( not cheap either). This has put me off swinging a bit to be honest. Not sure if i should go to the GUM clinic aswell? Has this happened to any of you? What would you have done differently? Do you think that this is a common thing to happen whilst swinging?
Thanks
Pheline
i wondered what your thoughts are on this. Last night me and my husband played with another couple at a club. Everything seemed fine until the womans husband told me that his condom had split inside me and he came inside me. I was horrified. I know that this can happen, but i just had not thought of it happening to me for some reason. The damage was done and it was no-ones fault i know. Next morning i got the after-pill which cost me 25 pounds from the chemist( not cheap either). This has put me off swinging a bit to be honest. Not sure if i should go to the GUM clinic aswell? Has this happened to any of you? What would you have done differently? Do you think that this is a common thing to happen whilst swinging?
Thanks
Pheline
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would like to say that i burst into deep laughter after every clitoral orgasm and find it hard to contain myself. I just feel very prickly everywhere afterwards especially my flower is sensitive to touch, lol. Have got no clue why but my husband always knows how happy he makes me lol
Pheline X
Pheline X
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Thank you Bone for sharing that. The reason for my intrest was that i am training to be a mental health nurse, so trying to preserve or prevent mental health/illness. I have had depression in the past when my children were young and i lost all interest in sex even to the point that i had aggressive outbursts when my husband just appoached me. I also went of sex due to hormonal medication such as the pill. My interest in sex suddenly out of the blue reappeared and i am glad about that as i did not like to be that other woman who just functioned without any positive emotions and it also did affect our relationship as kevin craved to be close but i kept on pushing him away but i could not help it. As i said glad is over . Depression is a nasty illness like most of mental illnessess are.
Luv
Phelinex
. Depression is a nasty illness like most of mental illnessess are.Luv
Phelinex
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Hi Easy
I am glad you gave your opinion and i did not take it as a pop at my question. I am aware that it is not as simple as having or not having sex and yes it is true that the way someone is feeling mentally and physically will affect their sex drive but i still feel that social and physical contact/intemacy with another human being is an important factor for mental well-being.
Luv
Pheline
I am glad you gave your opinion and i did not take it as a pop at my question. I am aware that it is not as simple as having or not having sex and yes it is true that the way someone is feeling mentally and physically will affect their sex drive but i still feel that social and physical contact/intemacy with another human being is an important factor for mental well-being.
Luv
Pheline
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Thanks for replying,
I think not being able to have sex because the partner does for some reason not want to can equally impact on mental well-being and can be depressing too.
Me i feel better if i have sex or masturbate lol it definately enhances my mental state lol.
I think not being able to have sex because the partner does for some reason not want to can equally impact on mental well-being and can be depressing too.
Me i feel better if i have sex or masturbate lol it definately enhances my mental state lol.
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Hi guys,
I was wondering what you think, how important is sex for mental well-being?
Has it got the potential to lift symptoms of depression or limit anxiety?
Was just going round in my mind. I think it is very important as it sets free happy hormons.
Luv
Pheline X
I was wondering what you think, how important is sex for mental well-being?
Has it got the potential to lift symptoms of depression or limit anxiety?
Was just going round in my mind. I think it is very important as it sets free happy hormons.
Luv
Pheline X
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Hi 
after you replied to my post, Kevin and i acutally discussed how we would feel if only one of us was approached and invited to play but we were both unsure about it. I think it would be ok for us if we played separately in different rooms but not sure about what you suggest. Thats how we feel anyway at this moment. Would the partner be allowed to watch??
Pheline x
after you replied to my post, Kevin and i acutally discussed how we would feel if only one of us was approached and invited to play but we were both unsure about it. I think it would be ok for us if we played separately in different rooms but not sure about what you suggest. Thats how we feel anyway at this moment. Would the partner be allowed to watch??
Pheline x
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Feel for you not an easy situation for both of you i am sure. Welcome and good luck
Pheline and Kevin
Pheline and Kevin
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Thanks to everyone for the advice given so far, will see how we get on next time and keep you posted.
Not a feline but very wild in every other sense !!!
Love and hugs
Pheline X
Not a feline but very wild in every other sense !!!
Love and hugs
Pheline X
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Hello to you all and thanks a lot for the advice already received have written in here once before and am ashamed to admit that we have been reading daily in here for over a year now and enjoy it greatly. But usually are too afraid to contribute, but this may change hopefully from now. You seem like a friendly bunch apart from some scraps that we've witnessed :D
Take Care and we'll keep you posted on our swinging adventures :!:
Pheline and Kevin
have written in here once before and am ashamed to admit that we have been reading daily in here for over a year now and enjoy it greatly. But usually are too afraid to contribute, but this may change hopefully from now. You seem like a friendly bunch apart from some scraps that we've witnessed :D Take Care and we'll keep you posted on our swinging adventures :!:
Pheline and Kevin
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Hi Mar,
Thank you for your kind advice and yes it is true, we started on and off dipping our feet into the swingingworld last year. The last time we went to the club we had some physical contact with a nice couple but now we had kind of a long break and both hubby and I were a bit nervous this time. The evening was still exciting and we plan to go again in a few weeks, till then we will use this experience to fuel our sex life.
Our relationship and sex life has greatly benefited from the exposure to the swining scene as we are a lot more open and experimental with eachother.
Love
Pheline X
Thank you for your kind advice and yes it is true, we started on and off dipping our feet into the swingingworld last year. The last time we went to the club we had some physical contact with a nice couple but now we had kind of a long break and both hubby and I were a bit nervous this time. The evening was still exciting and we plan to go again in a few weeks, till then we will use this experience to fuel our sex life.
Our relationship and sex life has greatly benefited from the exposure to the swining scene as we are a lot more open and experimental with eachother.
Love
Pheline X
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Hi
I wondered if any of you had ever experienced this following situation and could give us an idea how we could handle it differently next time we go.
We went to Chams on saturday, we had been about three times before, so are fairly new to swinging. Kevin and I spotted this attractive couple and they took an interest in us too, so for awhile we kept exchanging looks but we were either too shy or did not know how to break the ice and we wasted the chance of sexy fun, cause neither appoached the other. Since then i have been phantasising about the things that could have happened between us four, making me feel horny and frustrated at the same time
lol.
Hope this makes sense and grateful for any advice
Love
Pheline
I wondered if any of you had ever experienced this following situation and could give us an idea how we could handle it differently next time we go.
We went to Chams on saturday, we had been about three times before, so are fairly new to swinging. Kevin and I spotted this attractive couple and they took an interest in us too, so for awhile we kept exchanging looks but we were either too shy or did not know how to break the ice and we wasted the chance of sexy fun, cause neither appoached the other. Since then i have been phantasising about the things that could have happened between us four, making me feel horny and frustrated at the same time
lol.Hope this makes sense and grateful for any advice
Love
Pheline
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Thank you Lost and after such a welcoming it wont certainly be our last post and thats a promise!!!
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Thanks to everyone that has replied and also to the one's who took an interest. This was my first proper post and i am really pleased with the advice given. Thanks a lot. And i keep you posted how it went if you like. bye for now pheline x
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thanx to both of you for the advice.
Yes we probably meet them again and see what happens. We all do get on great. They are very similar to us in many ways.
It seems just to have become more complicated then hubby and i thought it would be. It seemed to be so much easier to go to a club and see what happens and if nothing happend fine just the same because we enjoyed eachother. But with this new situation its different because we chatted so much, maybe too much about the suject of what is wanted expected and liked that i seem to be loosing interest. They have had somemore swinging experience and full swap but seem still very cautious, which we understand but takes a bit the pleasure away really when one is reminded constantly of the boundaries.
Please tell me if i am wrong?
Pheline x
Yes we probably meet them again and see what happens. We all do get on great. They are very similar to us in many ways.
It seems just to have become more complicated then hubby and i thought it would be. It seemed to be so much easier to go to a club and see what happens and if nothing happend fine just the same because we enjoyed eachother. But with this new situation its different because we chatted so much, maybe too much about the suject of what is wanted expected and liked that i seem to be loosing interest. They have had somemore swinging experience and full swap but seem still very cautious, which we understand but takes a bit the pleasure away really when one is reminded constantly of the boundaries.
Please tell me if i am wrong?
Pheline x
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Hope someone will be able to give us some ideas.
To start of some history (sorry could be a bit long). My husband and i are new to swinging. We have been to two clubs and enjoyed it a lot. We had some touching with others but not slept with anyone.
When leaving one of the clubs, we were approached by a couple and they asked if we fancied contacting them to arrange a meet. We thought that they looked nice and so we contacted them. We spoke at length on msn and also seen them on cam. We all seemed to get on, so we met again at a club but whilst there, me and her husband seemed to click instantly but we only flirted heavily at that point. But my husband and the other woman seemed not to be attracted to eachother as such. Neither of them seemed make great advances to eachother. Actually she seemed to be quite reserved and holding on to her bloke whilst we were all chatting. My husband thought she was not interested at all, so backed off. We all left the club and nothing had happened. So we assuemed that thats it. They seemed really nice but somehow reserved,at least the other woman.
Next day on msn they contacted us again and thanked us for the nice evening. We told them that we thought that she was not interested in playing but she said that was not the case and that she thought my husband was not intersted both said they found the other attractive. It seems that me and her bloke are getting on great but my hubby and her there is limited chemistry.
Should we just forget about it or did we do anything wrong? They would like to meet again, which is fine but i am tired of chatting about something that might never happen. Hope this makes sense and sorry for being so long. (Feel a bit stupid now to be honest). bye pheline x
To start of some history (sorry could be a bit long). My husband and i are new to swinging. We have been to two clubs and enjoyed it a lot. We had some touching with others but not slept with anyone.
When leaving one of the clubs, we were approached by a couple and they asked if we fancied contacting them to arrange a meet. We thought that they looked nice and so we contacted them. We spoke at length on msn and also seen them on cam. We all seemed to get on, so we met again at a club but whilst there, me and her husband seemed to click instantly but we only flirted heavily at that point. But my husband and the other woman seemed not to be attracted to eachother as such. Neither of them seemed make great advances to eachother. Actually she seemed to be quite reserved and holding on to her bloke whilst we were all chatting. My husband thought she was not interested at all, so backed off. We all left the club and nothing had happened. So we assuemed that thats it. They seemed really nice but somehow reserved,at least the other woman.
Next day on msn they contacted us again and thanked us for the nice evening. We told them that we thought that she was not interested in playing but she said that was not the case and that she thought my husband was not intersted both said they found the other attractive. It seems that me and her bloke are getting on great but my hubby and her there is limited chemistry.
Should we just forget about it or did we do anything wrong? They would like to meet again, which is fine but i am tired of chatting about something that might never happen. Hope this makes sense and sorry for being so long. (Feel a bit stupid now to be honest). bye pheline x
