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I have to say I kind of expected the flak, I made my comment after seeing what i thought was short shrift from a mod to a newbie when I felt the mod was being a little heavy handed.
I respect the opinion of any and all of you, don't agree with all you say but i respect your right to express it.
On a general comment and perhaps this will help to clarify, it is true that it is as likely to be new members as mods and I admit I could have widened by point, i just felt at the time that I should expect more from the mods, I apologies to the mods who clearly don't deserve the criticism. Its important you realise that I don't imply all the mods, but I had a brief exchange with a mod this morning over this subject and the parting line was
'When I'm in Modding Mode, don't worry you'll know'
If my post has only served to make some members and mods think twice before taking a newbie off at the knees then all well and good. I noticed the question was also asked as to why I am a member of a site if I dislike it so much. I never said I disliked the site, I have enjoyed time on the site and have made some good contacts. It can be amusing, touching, interesting and lively, why wouldn't I want to stay a member.
I also said i would accept the views pro and con of people posting, so for all the thoughtful answers thank you whichever way you have expressed your opinion, for all the vitriolic replies, the paucity of your response reflects poorly on you.
And unless I'm booted, i have no intention of leaving so this wasn't a flounce as I depart with my tail between my legs, I hope to bump in to you again around the forums and chat room!
I respect the opinion of any and all of you, don't agree with all you say but i respect your right to express it.
On a general comment and perhaps this will help to clarify, it is true that it is as likely to be new members as mods and I admit I could have widened by point, i just felt at the time that I should expect more from the mods, I apologies to the mods who clearly don't deserve the criticism. Its important you realise that I don't imply all the mods, but I had a brief exchange with a mod this morning over this subject and the parting line was
'When I'm in Modding Mode, don't worry you'll know'
If my post has only served to make some members and mods think twice before taking a newbie off at the knees then all well and good. I noticed the question was also asked as to why I am a member of a site if I dislike it so much. I never said I disliked the site, I have enjoyed time on the site and have made some good contacts. It can be amusing, touching, interesting and lively, why wouldn't I want to stay a member.
I also said i would accept the views pro and con of people posting, so for all the thoughtful answers thank you whichever way you have expressed your opinion, for all the vitriolic replies, the paucity of your response reflects poorly on you.
And unless I'm booted, i have no intention of leaving so this wasn't a flounce as I depart with my tail between my legs, I hope to bump in to you again around the forums and chat room!
This will be a bit of a test....wonder if this will get locked or I'll be cast in to outer darkness? I would like to raise a discussion about Moderators and some of the scathing coments that I have noticed by some of the Moderators, particularly where newbies are concerned. My understanding of the role of moderators is to oversee the posts and to take action where there is abusive, bullying or offensive behaviour or language in the boards, to give help and guidance and to generally be a positive presence for the general wellbeing of members and the site. Where I think they step beyond their remit and generally create a bad atmosphere is when they intervene on message boards by adding derogatory or sarcastic posts to message strings when they spot a new or inexperienced person may have made a gaffe. If they were trying to be helpful and not demean then a pm to the member would be discreet and sympathetic way of helping, unfortunately I get the impression that some mods have rather let the power of their position go to their heads. I raised a similar matter a short while ago and had a couple of posts from other members who were rather fed up with the attitude towards newbies and I would like this topic to be discussed more generally. If I am felt to have over stated my case then I will happily be persuaded otherwise but I will rather lose faith is a full and frank discussion is not permitted.
So, what do the members think?
So, what do the members think?
Get over yourselves guys, sorry but really, did I need a moderator to make a comment, I was supposedly addressing members...my understanding of the moderators was that they were there to ensure that there wasn't abuse or anything dodgy going on, are we not perhaps pushing the boundary of the remit?
Ok, been here a while now, posted a few times, planning on doing the paintball thing and would like to get to know a few more people.....whats the form with a munch? And is it purely a social thing or is it a little more......er.......fruity? Don't want to make a prat of myself, you know, the only guy in fancy dress syndrome?
Since I joined the site I have sent a few replies and responded to some ads but to little avail, did speak several times with a girl in Cornwall who was nice to chat to but never chanced my arm at arranging a meet for mostly practical reasons. Started this with hope in my heart and would never dream of being a no show or timewaster but the lack of any response to my genuine efforts has rather dampened my ardour. Now resort to just browsing for amusements sake and have rather given up trying to arrange anything, have recently joined another site which is far more forgiving and where the members are friendlier, less judgmental and.....sorry to say this......a little more respectful, at least if they aren't interested they say so and even then we still sometimes keep in touch for a laugh. Sorry if this is whingy, bit knackered, had a long day and ready to crash XX
You lot are soooo cruel but what a hoot, I started out looking for a bit of carnal fun on this site but being a single male I quickly gave up on that idea, but the comedy value is worth every minute on line.
You can only imagine the surge of frustrated hormones that provokes posts like this!!!!
Changing tactics is one thing...............
Saxy
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You can only imagine the surge of frustrated hormones that provokes posts like this!!!!
Changing tactics is one thing...............
Saxy
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Blimey, yes, never thought!, and what happens if he's a big guy (not speaking personally here you understand and it swells and gets stuck!?!
Or......if he has a weeny willy but a big tummy and has to lean back to extrude his man hood, how does he support himself, Maia, you have hit the nail on the head, we need to be told.........lmao
Sorry Southwest GH Guy, its probably fun and you don't deserve all this...
Or......if he has a weeny willy but a big tummy and has to lean back to extrude his man hood, how does he support himself, Maia, you have hit the nail on the head, we need to be told.........lmao
Sorry Southwest GH Guy, its probably fun and you don't deserve all this...
I do agree with all the posts so far, a little imagination really does go a long way, I am sooo still a newbie but have happily made contact with one or two couples and one or two fems, largely through being able to string a sentence togather and injecting some humour into the chat.
How off-putting is the mental image of a frustrated guy hunched over his keyboard typing one handed conjured up by a post like that?
All good things come to he who waits so chill out fellow traveller and enjoy the journey, if it doesn't take a little ffort its not worth having!!!
How off-putting is the mental image of a frustrated guy hunched over his keyboard typing one handed conjured up by a post like that?
All good things come to he who waits so chill out fellow traveller and enjoy the journey, if it doesn't take a little ffort its not worth having!!!
Bless them though, you can't blame them for being a little aspirational, its a big step to take and if you are curious but not desperate you may as well ask for the ideal to start with and adjust your expectations as you go.
I speak as one who dropped a reply to them under a different ad but obviously didn't meet the crietria but thats ok. ( I really will have to ditch the hungover work picture!)
I speak as one who dropped a reply to them under a different ad but obviously didn't meet the crietria but thats ok. ( I really will have to ditch the hungover work picture!)
I've had a trawl round a few sites and this is by far the best and friendliest I've come across, lots of advice and even though (as a single guy) snowballs in hell have more of a chance than I do of meeting someone through ads, it doesn't put me off if I have to make an effort. in fact I'd rather it was more than just hormones that sparked a relationship. You sound like a nice couple I'm sure you'll get on great when you dip your first toe in the water at a social event.
My plan is to take my time, get to know a few people through here and maybe at an event or two and above all be myself.
My plan is to take my time, get to know a few people through here and maybe at an event or two and above all be myself.
Phew, that was fun, just managed to post in the wrong forum!!! Never mind, here goes again although the joke is a bit stale second time round.
Took the point about new members, mines is 44 years old but still works, can I bring it along if I give it a polish?
Please put me down for a provisional, will confirm and deposit when my chaotic lifestyle subsides in to some order!!!
Good idea by the way, I'll bring the arnica!
Took the point about new members, mines is 44 years old but still works, can I bring it along if I give it a polish?
Please put me down for a provisional, will confirm and deposit when my chaotic lifestyle subsides in to some order!!!
Good idea by the way, I'll bring the arnica!
Here I sit broken hearted , all the doggers have departed! No sign of so much as a flicker of interest in this neck of the woods, any couples out for a wander (on the wild side) tomorrow night (tuesday) and fancy being joined by a 6' blue eyed and imaginative male with a load to get off his ....er....mind? Also poss on Friday? 
