A quick look at online dictionaries gives a definition of bisexual as "characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward both sexes" which would seem to align with the OPs interest in sucking cock (but not necessarily fancying blokes). I've always found it fascinating when ostensibly straight blokes on here see a need to justify their occasional M:M dabbles with "..of course I'm straight". I think it's a shame that in the 21st century there is still enough societal pressure for men in the UK to have to justfy their actions. Women seem to suffer this less. This is not a knock at the OP - you just need to choose the label that suits you best and explain more (if you feel you need to) in your profile text.
I agree that there should still be an option to leave your sexuality undefine on your profile, or introduce more choices.
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Quote by foxylady2209
Ahhh, got it. So we have Individual accounts - one person has the login rights and Joint accounts - where 2 people have access rights. In each account the holders may describe themselves as married or single.
That isn't what I said. Whether you have an male, female or couple account, you should still put the correct marital/relationship status on your profile. Unfortunately we aren't able to check the accuracy of how people describe themselves.
Sex God
Quote by foxylady2209
OK, now I'm completely confused.
There are two parts to this:
1) Marital/partnership status
If you are partnered, you should indicate this on your profile under "What's your status?". I appreciate not everyone is as honest as they should be but that is a different topic.
2) Account type
This controls whether you alone have access to the site (as an individual or "single" female/male) or if you have joint access with your partner on the same account (if you are partnered).
So if a couple wanted to have a joint account and an individual account each, they could have:
- one that is account type of joint, status of married
- an individual (or single) male account, status of married
- an individual (or single) female account, status of married
I think the term "single" when used interchangeably for both of the above is the bit that can cause confusion. Hope this helps. :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by Pink_n_Blue
As for the no whisper room title rule, i miss the old days lol.
The good old days
Quote by Pink_n_Blue
I appreciate that its no longer site policy as we have our own control over our whispers now but is it really discriminating against a group and therefore against AUP to have it in a room title? Not sure I'll ever get my head around that one.
I deliberately didn't choose the word "discriminate" in my previous post (not trying to be nit picking but I am trying to explain as best I can) - the decision taken by admin was that instead of having a continual debate between those who would accept whispers without being asked and those who wouldn't, they would put the control into members' hands by giving them the tools to control whispers (I appreciate it doesn't always work 100%).
Given that it's the members who choose who can and can't whisper them, the site default is that there is no restriction either way on whispering. Therefore to add it into a room title is placing additional restrictions on members over and above the site rules and effectively changes the playing field.
Sex God
Some of the room titles are rejected because they attempt to restrict how people should use the site over and above the rules and T&Cs.
The site admins simplified the rules some time ago because they were becoming unnecessarily complex and because new facilities were introduced. Whispering (and being able to block it) is an example where the historical "no whispering without getting permission first" rule was no longer needed.
Any room title should not seek to restrict people's access to the site and should not be in contravention of existing rules. This is primarily covered by the following:
"You cannot kick someone from a room due to the colour of their skin, their geographical location, sexual orientation, their membership status or if they are not on cam. If, for example, you want a room for Couples only, you should make this a Private room with a password, so that entry is by invite only."
I know it doesn't specifically mention whispering, but if we included every possible permutation of what is not allowed, it would be an extremely long list. One area where we have had continual problems in the past is with regard to couples-only rooms, which it why this is mentioned.
To answer the OPs question about "tessellation", we use a combination of automated and manual facilities to check and deal with inappropriate room titles. This word happens to match to one of the automated functions but not in the intended way. I've therefore sent admin a pm to take a look.
We know that the rules do not cover every possible permutation; site admin trust the Chatroom Ops and members to use the site in a sensible manner, and where there are problems the Ops make a reasoned decision based on common sense and site knowledge. If we encounter a situation we've not been in before we discuss it and refer it to admin where appropriate so we have an agreed approach for future.
The site admins simplified the rules some time ago because they were becoming unnecessarily complex and because new facilities were introduced. Whispering (and being able to block it) is an example where the historical "no whispering without getting permission first" rule was no longer needed.
Any room title should not seek to restrict people's access to the site and should not be in contravention of existing rules. This is primarily covered by the following:
"You cannot kick someone from a room due to the colour of their skin, their geographical location, sexual orientation, their membership status or if they are not on cam. If, for example, you want a room for Couples only, you should make this a Private room with a password, so that entry is by invite only."
I know it doesn't specifically mention whispering, but if we included every possible permutation of what is not allowed, it would be an extremely long list. One area where we have had continual problems in the past is with regard to couples-only rooms, which it why this is mentioned.
To answer the OPs question about "tessellation", we use a combination of automated and manual facilities to check and deal with inappropriate room titles. This word happens to match to one of the automated functions but not in the intended way. I've therefore sent admin a pm to take a look.
We know that the rules do not cover every possible permutation; site admin trust the Chatroom Ops and members to use the site in a sensible manner, and where there are problems the Ops make a reasoned decision based on common sense and site knowledge. If we encounter a situation we've not been in before we discuss it and refer it to admin where appropriate so we have an agreed approach for future.
Sex God
Quote by paddy
A Gay icon ...
Strangely she never courted that and her lyrics were squarely heterosexual but the music was recognised as the pinnacle of what the early hours in a sleazy nightclub should sound like, especially I Feel Love.
She alienated the community that had originally brought her fame by saying that AIDS was God's way of punishing men for being gay, although she later said she'd been misquoted/taken out of context/misunderstood (depending on which article you read). This didn't stop public outbursts of her records being burnt in the streets and resulted in her tumble from favour for some time, during which she changed labels multiple times and branched out into different musical avenues (some more successful than others).
I also saw on the news this morning that she had recently said her cancer was caused by inhaling particles from the 9/11 explosion.
Great music (in no small way thanks to Giorgio Moroder and Pete Bellotte) and a great singer.
Sex God
I gave up in January last year after over 30 years of enjoying it. I knew I had to because I could feel the effect it was having on my long-term health. Absolutely hated the first few weeks, but there were a few pointers that really helped me:
Recognise that you're going to get cravings that may feel like they are taking over your life for a couple of minutes at a time. Accept that this is part of giving up. This is your body fighting with something that you know is illogical (after all, who really wants to kill themselves slowly by poisoning if they think about it?) and it's ok for you to feel irratable or miserable or any one of 100 more things about it.
Rather than saying to yourself and other people "I'm giving up" or "I've stopped", rephrase it as "I'm choosing not to smoke today". I know it seems daft but with the first you're denying yourself something that you previously wanted, and with the latter you're making a positive decision to do something different. It's a little thing - every little thing will help to make a difference.
Don't beat yourself up if you give in - just take it as a temporary setback on the new journey you're carving for yourself. You've spent a lot of time teaching yourself deeply ingrained habits that are probably associated with lots of pleasurable things (I used to like smoking after a meal or when out drinking) so it takes time to change that path in your brain.
Put a load of burnt out butts into a jar and have a smell of it every now and then to remind yourself why you want to give up.
Set yourself small but achievable goals and reward yourself when you reach them. Thinking about next year or more is too far away at this stage. Try to aim for not smoking for days or weeks at a time instead.
Get your friends and loved ones to help. Ask them not to discuss it constantly if you don't want to; ask them not to smoke in front of you if they're smokers.
Over 12 months down the line I know I'm not perfect with it. I put on weight and I've had parties where I've given in to the evil weed and smoked for the evening...certainly known about it the morning after! But on times like this I just tell myself that I am now a non-smoker who occasionally slips from grace. This has happened less and less for me and I'm proud that I've managed it. The next thing is laying off the pies and choccy!
Good luck with it. :thumbup:
PS: I'm also pleased to say that I've not turned into one of those born-again non smokers who criticses those who choose to smoke. I'm a firm believer in individual choice providing it doesn't harm other people, and I choose to let smokers light up in my own home. I can always open the window after they've gone.
Recognise that you're going to get cravings that may feel like they are taking over your life for a couple of minutes at a time. Accept that this is part of giving up. This is your body fighting with something that you know is illogical (after all, who really wants to kill themselves slowly by poisoning if they think about it?) and it's ok for you to feel irratable or miserable or any one of 100 more things about it.
Rather than saying to yourself and other people "I'm giving up" or "I've stopped", rephrase it as "I'm choosing not to smoke today". I know it seems daft but with the first you're denying yourself something that you previously wanted, and with the latter you're making a positive decision to do something different. It's a little thing - every little thing will help to make a difference.
Don't beat yourself up if you give in - just take it as a temporary setback on the new journey you're carving for yourself. You've spent a lot of time teaching yourself deeply ingrained habits that are probably associated with lots of pleasurable things (I used to like smoking after a meal or when out drinking) so it takes time to change that path in your brain.
Put a load of burnt out butts into a jar and have a smell of it every now and then to remind yourself why you want to give up.
Set yourself small but achievable goals and reward yourself when you reach them. Thinking about next year or more is too far away at this stage. Try to aim for not smoking for days or weeks at a time instead.
Get your friends and loved ones to help. Ask them not to discuss it constantly if you don't want to; ask them not to smoke in front of you if they're smokers.
Over 12 months down the line I know I'm not perfect with it. I put on weight and I've had parties where I've given in to the evil weed and smoked for the evening...certainly known about it the morning after! But on times like this I just tell myself that I am now a non-smoker who occasionally slips from grace. This has happened less and less for me and I'm proud that I've managed it. The next thing is laying off the pies and choccy!
Good luck with it. :thumbup:
PS: I'm also pleased to say that I've not turned into one of those born-again non smokers who criticses those who choose to smoke. I'm a firm believer in individual choice providing it doesn't harm other people, and I choose to let smokers light up in my own home. I can always open the window after they've gone.
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Sucking any cock brings inherrent risks - the only person you really know the status and cleanliness of is yourself, and even that may be a grey area when you're sexually active with multiple partners.
Now I'd like to try skydiving (just need to lose a few extra pounds first)
Now I'd like to try skydiving (just need to lose a few extra pounds first)
Sex God
If you have any concerns about bullying please report it to one of the Op team if you see one of us online. Alternatively you can submit a report by:
(a) sending a pm direct to the Admin account
(b) clicking on the button in the top right corner of the chatroom window
Please include details of what happened, approx time and name of the room. Admin investigate any reports of abuse towards other members.
Taken from the chatroom T&Cs:
"We encourage everyone to treat each other respectfully. Do not use the website to threaten, harass, stalk, or abuse others participating in any of our Service. Refrain from all expressions of bigotry, racism and homophobia."
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(a) sending a pm direct to the Admin account
(b) clicking on the button in the top right corner of the chatroom window
Please include details of what happened, approx time and name of the room. Admin investigate any reports of abuse towards other members.
Taken from the chatroom T&Cs:
"We encourage everyone to treat each other respectfully. Do not use the website to threaten, harass, stalk, or abuse others participating in any of our Service. Refrain from all expressions of bigotry, racism and homophobia."
:thumbup:
Sex God
You're welcome
Some other things that may be helpful to room Hosts:
Everyone is expected to abide by the Chatroom Rules and the Site Acceptable Use Policy, which can be found here:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/user-rules.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/main/aup.html
If you are Hosting a room, you should pay particular attention to the Opening Rooms section in the chatroom rules. We have intentionally kept this short and straightforward, but basically as a Host your role is to help members stay within the rules. If you need to kick someone for doing something inappropriate (e.g. directing in a no-directing room), warn them in open chat first - this gives them an opportunity to modify their behaviour. The fact that you're reading this means you are aware of the forums and you read threads. Some members only use the chatroom and may not even be aware that rules exist (I know, but it's the way it is).
When someone opens a new room they automatically become a Host. When the last member leaves a room, it's closed and all previous Host settings are deleted. A Host can give Host status to another person, so it's possible to have multiple Hosts in a room.
If you are Hosting a room and are going to be away for some time, you may want to pass on Host status to someone else (but ask them first!).
If you have any queries feel free to ask any of the Ops. We're here to help you have a good time on here, not just to "police" the site. :thumbup:
Some other things that may be helpful to room Hosts:
Everyone is expected to abide by the Chatroom Rules and the Site Acceptable Use Policy, which can be found here:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/user-rules.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/main/aup.html
If you are Hosting a room, you should pay particular attention to the Opening Rooms section in the chatroom rules. We have intentionally kept this short and straightforward, but basically as a Host your role is to help members stay within the rules. If you need to kick someone for doing something inappropriate (e.g. directing in a no-directing room), warn them in open chat first - this gives them an opportunity to modify their behaviour. The fact that you're reading this means you are aware of the forums and you read threads. Some members only use the chatroom and may not even be aware that rules exist (I know, but it's the way it is).
When someone opens a new room they automatically become a Host. When the last member leaves a room, it's closed and all previous Host settings are deleted. A Host can give Host status to another person, so it's possible to have multiple Hosts in a room.
If you are Hosting a room and are going to be away for some time, you may want to pass on Host status to someone else (but ask them first!).
If you have any queries feel free to ask any of the Ops. We're here to help you have a good time on here, not just to "police" the site. :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by space_cowboy
Keep seeing adverts for the 'Fleshlight' for example but seems expensive. Are they worth it?
Definitely - but you spend quite a bit of time cleaning and drying it afterwards.....don't laugh but absolutely the best thing to store it with is a light dusting of cornflour - apparently the size of the grains are much finer than talc and less likely to do the silicone damage.
:rascal:
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Quote by st3v3
Unfortunately clap and yeah are flash format emotes so we can't put those back as the new chat doesn't use flash in the chat area, so we will try adding these for now;:fuckinghell:
Hi St3v3 - there's an animated clap GIF available here which looks good:
Could we use any of those instead?
Sex God
Quote by starlightcouple
thanks for that dave. i still think for the money we pay that there should be sombody here to help at all times. my opinion of course.
how do you do that thing where you can take bits of what peeple say and then answer the way you have above?
can you pm me how to do it?
Next to the post you want to put into your reply, there is a "Quote" button. Click on that and their original text will appear with "quote=" and their name, surrounded by square brackets.
If you want to quote more than one person, you need to click on the Quote button for the first reply and copy the text to the clipboard. Then go back into the forum thread and click on the next Quote you want to use, and paste the first one into the reply. You then have two separate quotes.
Hope this helps.
Sex God
If you have a problem with abuse from any other member, I encourage you to report it. There's an option to report it from within the chatroom, or you can send a PM to any Op who's online or to the Admin account. Include details of which room, the member concerned and approximate time, and Admin will look into it for you.
Member abuse is not welcome on the site and we do all we can (with your help in reporting it) to minimise it occurring. If you are hosting your own room, you are entitled to kick another member if they have broken any chatroom rule, including abuse of other members - you must warn them first before kicking them.
Hope this helps :thumbup:
Member abuse is not welcome on the site and we do all we can (with your help in reporting it) to minimise it occurring. If you are hosting your own room, you are entitled to kick another member if they have broken any chatroom rule, including abuse of other members - you must warn them first before kicking them.
Hope this helps :thumbup:
Sex God
Suggestions:
a) have a read through the existing forum topic specifically for connection issues:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/336864.html
b) if you can't find an answer there, log a support ticket:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/support-tickets/new-ticket.html
a) have a read through the existing forum topic specifically for connection issues:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/336864.html
b) if you can't find an answer there, log a support ticket:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/support-tickets/new-ticket.html
Sex God
Quote by Somfunn
For those of us that use mainroom inline whispers something to contrast between whisper and main chat along the lines of italics or bold would be a handy feature.
I prefer inline whispers too. The challenge the development team now has is that they've implemented italics and bold as features of standard open chat, so they'll need to come up with another way of uniquely highlighting whispers.
