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I don't have nasty sex all the time. In fact I do do the loving caring stuff. It is just that, as I discover myself more I have found one thing that I really like.
Thanks for pointing me to that informed consent site. Very good. I'm not alone!
Not sure about paying a prostitute. I have banged a couple of hookers but to be honest it wasn't for me. Like I say I want to be worshipped and as soon as you pay for that it isn't real. I'd much rather go to a little bit more effort and pick up in a club if I want a new girl.
Thanks for pointing me to that informed consent site. Very good. I'm not alone!
Not sure about paying a prostitute. I have banged a couple of hookers but to be honest it wasn't for me. Like I say I want to be worshipped and as soon as you pay for that it isn't real. I'd much rather go to a little bit more effort and pick up in a club if I want a new girl.
Kitkat,
Thanks for that. That is very true. I reckon I could have a lot of fun trying out more stuff sexually. I will do that.
Meat,
I suppose I don't really fit, or want to fit in to, the normative relationship type that most people seem to expect. I've never been in love and I don't really want to be. I suppose I do just want to chase hot women and I am not bothered what happens in 40 years time. I am all about living an amazing hedonistic rock star life right now.
To be honest, I have thought about this a lot now and I am going to suggest that the relationship becomes non-exclusive.
Thanks for that. That is very true. I reckon I could have a lot of fun trying out more stuff sexually. I will do that.
Meat,
I suppose I don't really fit, or want to fit in to, the normative relationship type that most people seem to expect. I've never been in love and I don't really want to be. I suppose I do just want to chase hot women and I am not bothered what happens in 40 years time. I am all about living an amazing hedonistic rock star life right now.
To be honest, I have thought about this a lot now and I am going to suggest that the relationship becomes non-exclusive.
Hey meat,
Yeah I am looking for the perfect woman. I seem to date so many girls but they are never 100% perfect.
This might seem silly but I have a list of things I want:
- super hot model looks
- smart (Phd preferably, minimum 1st class degree)
- rich or at least earns same as me
- cultured, speaks more than one language
- well travelled
- worships me as a god
My current girlfriend ticks four of those checkboxes which is pretty good. When I think about it like that makes me want to put ore effort in and get over this.
I split with the "Queen of Head" because, to be honest, my current girlfriend asked me out and she is better looking. Still really like the Queen though.
Yeah I am looking for the perfect woman. I seem to date so many girls but they are never 100% perfect.
This might seem silly but I have a list of things I want:
- super hot model looks
- smart (Phd preferably, minimum 1st class degree)
- rich or at least earns same as me
- cultured, speaks more than one language
- well travelled
- worships me as a god
My current girlfriend ticks four of those checkboxes which is pretty good. When I think about it like that makes me want to put ore effort in and get over this.
I split with the "Queen of Head" because, to be honest, my current girlfriend asked me out and she is better looking. Still really like the Queen though.
I haven't dumped her yet. Like you guys say maybe it just takes some time. Otherwise the sex is good and we have a laugh.
My girlfriend before this one keeps texting me inviting me out and she gave great head all the time. Whenever I told her to. It is hard to turn that down but I am exclusive with my current girlfriend.
I was speaking to a girl in a club on Thursday and she asked me to take her number...and you do kind of thing maybe I should just cut my losses move to the next girl and see what that is like.
I do really like my girlfriend though. She has the fittest body ever, she is smart. Like you guys say though kind of worried if she is not all that interested in me...
Ah well. At least the football season has started again. Wish relationships were simple!
My girlfriend before this one keeps texting me inviting me out and she gave great head all the time. Whenever I told her to. It is hard to turn that down but I am exclusive with my current girlfriend.
I was speaking to a girl in a club on Thursday and she asked me to take her number...and you do kind of thing maybe I should just cut my losses move to the next girl and see what that is like.
I do really like my girlfriend though. She has the fittest body ever, she is smart. Like you guys say though kind of worried if she is not all that interested in me...
Ah well. At least the football season has started again. Wish relationships were simple!
Quote by meat2pleaseu
just cos she's on top doesn't me you have no control, you are allowed to move as well, you can gently restrain her hips with your hands, if you both like to be in control you should both give in a bit or yes, you are doomed. think of it as bit of a game if you like, whoever has the upper hand is in control for a bit- you both might discover something new and exciting, but i expect your bored cos you just lie there doin nothing, i've had women who've done that and they were boring in bed- i want someone who's doing things for me as im doing thing for her. final thing, why would you want to shag her till she crys? or is this an extension of your power thing
Sorry the "fuck her till she cries" is a Charles Bukowski quote.
Thanks for that Meat. I realise there is a lot I can expand in my own sexual repertoire. Maybe I should think about that more. Hey, I can have fun trying.
Quote by meat2pleaseu
How can you dislike a woman on top? so much more to play with (well a couple of things), never met a woman who doesn't get an extra something from doggie, so maybe you should try these a little more and she might relax with you a bit and get more adventurous.... then who knows what she might fancy trying next
Thats a good point. I just get bored when a girl is on top. I like to be in charge and fuck a girl like an animal until she starts crying and stuff. I am quite dom. Maybe thats why I like head so much.
But my new girlfriend is very dom as well so we kinda clash there. She loves going on top. Oh fuck it, I'm doomed.
You think my girlfriend should dump me? Why? What have I done wrong? Is it wrong to discuss these things and have these thoughts.
And seriously if someone says they don't like something is it wrong to try and find pleasant non-pressurised ways to bring them out of their shell and get them to try something which most women seem to love. Is that really so wrong?
I'm asking advice here, and I have stated this several times, to approach in a way that doesn't put her under pressure.
And seriously if someone says they don't like something is it wrong to try and find pleasant non-pressurised ways to bring them out of their shell and get them to try something which most women seem to love. Is that really so wrong?
I'm asking advice here, and I have stated this several times, to approach in a way that doesn't put her under pressure.
By the same token there are lots of things I dislike sexually. I hate having woman on top. I hate doggy style. All of my girlfriends have lived that although some have complained a bit...
...suppose that does make me look at this in a different light...
...see maybe it wasn't such a bad idea to start this thread...now I have weathered the storm of abuse...
...suppose that does make me look at this in a different light...
...see maybe it wasn't such a bad idea to start this thread...now I have weathered the storm of abuse...
Ice Pie - Why are you so aggressive? I am looking for advice on how to solve a delicate sexual problem. I have made it clear that I am looking for ways to keep everyone happy. I have no idea why you are making an argument out of it. Surely it is better for me to ask advice so i can approach this in a way that will not hurt anyone. Isn't that the mature reasonable thing to do?
if she asked me to do the same thing I would consider it and if I didn't want to do it I would tell her that and accept any effect that had on the relationship. Hey maybe I would tyr it and like it, who knows. I like sex.
if she asked me to do the same thing I would consider it and if I didn't want to do it I would tell her that and accept any effect that had on the relationship. Hey maybe I would tyr it and like it, who knows. I like sex.
Quote by Ice Pie
Reading some of the posts here makes me so sad. I am a " nasty piece of work" because I like sex. What am I supposed to do? Go through life not getting what I want? Not discuss what i want with my partner? Just accept it...
What you do is accept that you have no right to try to persuade her to do something which, according to you, she has clearly stated she doesn't like. If you can't do without it, find someone compatible. Simple.
I said that in the first place. But then everyone jumped on me because I said I would dump her if we couldn't get this sorted out!
Ice Pie - why did you call me a nasty piece of work. What have I done so wrong?
Well i hope my girlfriend is keen on me. This started off with me wanting some head. It has now got me questioning everything. I do think I am a nice person. I'm not a sex fiend. I just like to hnest and upfront about what I want. If you don't tell someone what you want how can they know.
I wish I had never started this.
I wish I had never started this.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I have been out since my last post so missed it all lol
Right now i'm my opinion anyone who has to come on a web site and ask a bunch of stranger if they should dump their partner or not simply isn't happy, and u don't need us to tell you that you should get rid of her and move on, and not giving u a bj has nothing to do with it in my opinion the fact you feel you need to ask us what to do for whatever reason shows your not happy, you have tryed talking and you are still not satisfied with the out come so matey its time to move on, if the women don't like bjs she don't like bjs end of and if having a good sex life is what your looking for and shes not offering it you then u have to tell her.
That isn't it naughty. I cam here because I want to anonymously discuss a serious and sensitive topic. I'm not putting it up for the public vote - should i dump 'er yes no. I'm asking advice of a group of experienced, sexually confident people so that I can find ways to resolve a delicate personal problem without hurting anyone.
Reading some of the posts here makes me so sad. I am a " nasty piece of work" because I like sex. What am I supposed to do? Go through life not getting what I want? Not discuss what i want with my partner? Just accept it...
One of guys said you think my girlfriend doesn't actually like me. Maybe that is true and I will have to discuss that with her. But how can I phrase that "I don't think you like me because you aren't willing to do things to please me" without putting pressure on her...
One of guys said you think my girlfriend doesn't actually like me. Maybe that is true and I will have to discuss that with her. But how can I phrase that "I don't think you like me because you aren't willing to do things to please me" without putting pressure on her...
That is it exactly Marmalaid. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying a relationship is all about great head...but I do want a relationship where we can fulfill each others needs. i just have to work out if this is something that can be sorted. But I want to do that through reasonable, unpressured adult discussion rather than coercion.
Is it wrong of me to feel this way about sex? Am I sick? I mean I like sex. It is important to me. I want a great sex life and with girlfriends of the recent past I have had it.
Blowjobs aren't that bad are they? I have had girlfriends who couldn't keep off the thing. I love going down on a woman. I don't want to be some bitter old man looking back on my life and cursing at my sexual repression.
This is really getting me down. Why can't life be simple.
Why are you guys so nasty to me?
A good fulfilling sex life is important to me. I don't want to pressure anyone to do anything they don't want. Yes my needs are important because they is no point in being a relationship if you are not happy. That isn't good for anyone.
I kind of need somewhere to discuss this but I think this is the wrong place.
A good fulfilling sex life is important to me. I don't want to pressure anyone to do anything they don't want. Yes my needs are important because they is no point in being a relationship if you are not happy. That isn't good for anyone.
I kind of need somewhere to discuss this but I think this is the wrong place.
Yeah I was thinking that too but then everybody jumped on me in the other thread and starting saying stuff like "If you think a BJ is central to a relationship then you are sick", and "I didn't start sucking till I was in my 30s".
Thing is she is really hot and I like her but yeah I need to be in a relationship that fulfills my needs.
Thing is she is really hot and I like her but yeah I need to be in a relationship that fulfills my needs.
I posted an earlier topic about getting my girlfriend to go down on me.
This is an update.
We had a few drinks last night which ended up with a nice session.
She let me go down on her...she loved it. Which was a suprise. Was great. Maybe she just needed to get to know me better.
Then we started talking about what we like. I said:
I like hot women, kissing, touching.
I like going down on a nice pussy.
oh, yeah.
I like having my cock sucked.
Ha ha, she said, I don't like that. I only do it on special occassions. Birthday and Christmas. Sorry!
Oh dear. I explained that it was important to me, but in a friendly, joky way. I thin she may be joking ... but I dunno...anyway I don't want to push it or pressure her but I do want a fulfilling sex life.
This is an update.
We had a few drinks last night which ended up with a nice session.
She let me go down on her...she loved it. Which was a suprise. Was great. Maybe she just needed to get to know me better.
Then we started talking about what we like. I said:
I like hot women, kissing, touching.
I like going down on a nice pussy.
oh, yeah.
I like having my cock sucked.
Ha ha, she said, I don't like that. I only do it on special occassions. Birthday and Christmas. Sorry!
Oh dear. I explained that it was important to me, but in a friendly, joky way. I thin she may be joking ... but I dunno...anyway I don't want to push it or pressure her but I do want a fulfilling sex life.
