Thanks Jags, shame I thought I was onto something there, I specifically didn't want people being rated for performance etc. and as a couple who actually get off on meets with different people rather than just the same ones all the time the exclusion of newbies would not be good.
However maybe if it was done the other way round ?. If you have met someone who can verify you as real why not mention them on your profile as someone who can be contacted to check you out ? (with their permission obviously)
We met a really nice guy in Stockport nearly 8 months ago (not from this site), and although we don't go in for double meetings I would have no problem if someone had contacted us asking about him to say he was genuine, nice, and worth a meet with. He could have put our names as someone to contact on his profile no problem if he had asked.
Even if you haven't had any sexual contact but know them from a club or a meeting place you could mention them for verification.
Weather anyone reading takes any notice or not is up to them, it doesn't matter, it's just some more helpful info for people to take into account when looking up profiles.
I know it's still open to abuse, but no more than anything else on here.
I just think we need to act a bit more together and without excluding new people or being judgmental we could help each other a little more find what we are after :twisted:
Alison x
After all the mad publicity and being inundated with time wasters, along with the worry that at any time one of the guys who turn up might be from the news of the world, I was wondering if it might be an idea for couples to recommend guys they have met who they know to be genuine and not time wasters.
I know this is open for some guy to log on as a couple and recommend himself but I'm sure that over time we could weed those people out as the regulars who recommend would become obvious.
Or maybe we can have some sort of way of recommending reliable people we have met ?
I'm not talking about rating them for their looks and performance, just on weather they are genuine and that they will turn up.
Is this a sensible idea ? I haven't thought it through really but there must be a way.
One thing I have noticed about this site is that everyone exchanges info on places or areas but not so much on people.
It's important that this is just about reliability and honesty though, I don't want people being slagged off.
But if it worked then maybe real genuine men would end up with couples contacting them more often than the other way round.
Just a thought
Anyone have a better suggestion on these lines ?
It would be helpful to know that a couple, male or female you contact is real and not just a surfer with nothing else to do.
Or maybe the admin on here could allow us some way of rating people on meetings
Alison x
after thinking more about your reply i have posted a new thread in the cafe under the title Recommended, genuine and worth meeting ?
please read it and let me know if you think it may help us all
Alison
Hi there, I don`t know if i`m pissing in the wind here but i`ll give it a try
my wife and i like the idea of dogging but still find it a bit to scary. However we have wondered if anyone knows of any B&B or dodgy seedy hotels worth visiting where we can feel a little more secure and be inside, that the only people we meet are like minded, i don`t know if any exist or not and we are not looking for a a place to stop the night or a travelodge type hotel room either.
Somewhere we can book in and just show off a bit, leave a room door open or flash a bit in the bar,
The seedier the better but not looking for a group session or anywhere we can possible offend people, somewhere we can but on a bit of a show if we are in the mood to guys,
Before you say why not try a club....that`s not our fantasy. :twisted:
But any other ideas are welcome.
Oh and by the way Anywhere North of England From Manchester Upwards Please, Blackpool ?
Thanks
Thanks for the advice heather & bluexxx I never even considered anyone helping to arrange anything I didn't know anyone who would, we were trying to arrange it ourselves. But would have considered such a person if they offered
Are there people out there who do this kind of thing ? And how should I avoid them ?.
We have a couple of locations in mind that are discreet and safe, and it has been suggested that even if we prefer strangers and not regular guys we have met before, we at least have a couple of "ringers" who act like they don't know us but are in fact people we know and can trust to help step in should things get out of hand,
Advertising sounds good but pictures and e-mail's don't seem to tell the truth about who people are.
We have only ever been to clubs on couples nights but have heard of greedy girls evenings, anyone recommend one and do you think a word with the management of a reputable club could help get the right type involved ?. Or maybe a private party.
Would you recommend trying one of these nights just to check out the talent or would the fact that I am there on this particular night make it difficult as I have found in certain situations where some men can't take no for an answer, this may sound contradictory considering what I am looking for but hopefully you understand what I mean.
Sorry if I'm sounding to picky.
To look at yes, to use no,
Width is better than length but in the end what you do with it is more important, in fact ,correction !, what is attached to it is more important i.e. YOU!
You can be massive but if you don't look after yourself then I'm not interested, or on the other hand be good-looking have a nice body and good manor and be small,
Years ago I was with a guy who was very small, but when he made love he sort of grinded rather than just pumped,
He was VERY good
Stop going on about the size guys and start working on your body & technique
Alison
This is not a request for men this is for advice from members only.
Having just started swinging properly this year my wife and I are finding it addictive and seems to have moved from couples to clubs to single men and now would like to try other things a bit more daring, I would like some advice on safety and how to arrange a group gangbang, several men and my wife,
It has been suggested we get a group together of men we have met, trust and know, but we are the type of people who do not collect men, preferring to have contact only once before moving on,
we don't even visit the same club often, preferring the excitement of the new, and travel around the country rather than our own area.
A club does sound better but what about picking and choosing the men involved or are we open for a free for all ?,
My wife has a very specific fantasy about the type of men and the situation for this to take place so unless things are right she won't go through with it and I wont let her.
Her fantasies can be very wild but putting then into practice seems to be difficult and in some cases could be dangerous, have other members encountered this problem ? And can anyone recommend anything ? I suppose this is as much a safety question as it is advice on how or where to get the right type of men.
Roll play actors who look the part and we can trust seem to be hard to find, are we being to picky and is it possible ?
Any advice would be appreciated
Hi there steve, thanks for the reply, we ain`t the shrinking violets we sound everything you say is what we expect and are hoping will happen actually, it's just finding the right place and atmosphere for the first visit to a club, nothing worse than falling at the first fence. I'm sure having a good night on our first attempt will spur us on to go again, but I have a feeling if it turns out a disaster we are liable to stick to private visits with couples only.
What do you think about finding another couple to go with ? Do you find many couples go together ?. Still have no info on a place with a more mature clientele mind you, lots of conflicting reports in the reviews section. Still looking, anyone suggest a good Manchester based club then and a night that's good ? Greedy girls night sounds great but not just yet eh ? By the way why not a greedy boys night ?(lol)
And just to add to the never ending info we seem to be asking for (sorry) we have been recommend a bed & breakfast worth a visit in Blackpool, we know the name so not after that but any info on weather its worth a visit ? It actually sounds a better idea to meet others for starters
Hello, This may be a bit of a tall order but if anyone can give us some advice we would be grateful. we are a couple in our mid 20`s 24f/25m and we are fairly new to the scene. We have experienced a little swinging abroad on holiday (couples only) but never dared try at home. Funny how you don't care away on holiday but suddenly it seems more dangerous at home.
My wife and I would like to try a club but feel we want to just take a look and view without doing anything first and aren't sure about the jump from two on two couple swap in the same room, to a situation where there may be quite a few people around. We don't particularly prefer older more mature couples but have found that they put us more at ease and my wife doesn't feel as intimidated with older men so somewhere that has a more mature clientele is really what we are looking for, not to old mind you, but not so many younger people there. Can anyone recommend somewhere that fits all our silly needs, or are we trying to be to fussy about what we want from our first visit. Also we have had conflicting advice from some people saying try a quiet night for a starters. But we have also been told its better to pick a busy couples night to start with. if it's busy we would just be part of the crowed and find it easier to mingle, anyone give advice on that ? We live in Leeds and prefer to travel well out of our area so nowhere near Leeds please. I should also say we are not on here trying to arrange a meet with anyone or exchange pictures and web cameras. We are on here looking for help and advice so please don't contacts us for anything else other than that you would only be wasting your time your not gonna get our pictures and we arn`t going to meet you, if you are genuine you will understand what your early days were like. If we want to meet people we go to places to meet them not arrange things over the net. My wife prefers to see people in the flesh before she decides, pictures mean nothing. If she feels comfy she'll do almost anything (dirty cow) but if everything isn't just right wild horses wouldn't get her to do anything. Maybe in time we'll be dogging and shagging allcummers (lol) in group gang bangs but at the moment we need advice on how to get over the initial barrier of feeling excited but scared. And ill be honest and say it's not just the wife, we need help on getting through the door for starters, our fantasies are great and we would like to try lots of things but fantasy and reality are completely different things. Genuine help would be gratefully received sorry to sound like a couple of wimps if we have come to the wrong place and you are to advanced for us just say.
Thanks anyway
Mick & Alison
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