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paradoxinpink
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female
0 miles · Lancashire
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Quote by splendid33
thankyou very much....
ummmmm the towel doesn't appeal- although I'm an exhibitionist I like clothes on !.... so my choice of mini skirt and nice underwear etc with heels will be o.k. ?
x x xx
Depends what club I guess. Check the websites, but that sounds OK. As I said swingers have no imagination so if a few give you a negtaive reaction, who cares
:roll: At most swingers clubs I believe the standard mode of dress for males is the boring old towel . Some males take their own just to be a bit different lol. Others wear underwear - usually boxers or maybe shorts or maybe occassionally thongs. Much less thrilling than what you might see poeple wearing at a fetish club lol. Women wear pretty much anything they want apart from casual street wear. Swingers have NOOOOOOOOOOOOO imagination -- well the male swingers anyway lol.
You could always buck the trend and go in red PVC and those boots :P
. Some males take their own just to be a bit different lol. Others wear underwear - usually boxers or maybe shorts or maybe occassionally thongs. Much less thrilling than what you might see poeple wearing at a fetish club lol. Women wear pretty much anything they want apart from casual street wear. Swingers have NOOOOOOOOOOOOO imagination -- well the male swingers anyway lol. You could always buck the trend and go in red PVC and those boots :P
Quote by Morbius
In your ad you say, as you do above, that you are 'looking for a bi couple, where both parties are bi'. I totally appreciate that this is your perogative, but above (in bold) you seem to suggest you'd be open to a 'straight' male/bi fem couple as long as the male is open to 'pushing boundaries' for want of a better term (again NOT a criticism just an observation). For me, its info like that that is important, its that kind of imfo that tell us a lot. Myself, i would say i'm straight, but i'm not homophobic, sqeemish or going to run a mile from male contact.
For chris sake i got a good whipping off a butch TV lol. But there doent exist a category for a male to say he is 'stright but open to more kinky play and willing to push his boundaries with the right person if all got on and felt relaxed' lol I'm not bi - at this moment in time i enjoy the female of the species and male contact of a strong sexual nature doesn't excite me, not to say it never will. But to say i'm a rigid 'straight' male also doesnt hit the mark. So i can see there can be difficulties. A straight male/bi fem couple like us may not contact you even if the rest of your ad really appeals, because the male isnt a 'full blown' bi.
The rest of your reply, as with the others are good personal indicators and show couples what your looking for beyond your advert.
I think in the main this goes to show just how difficault it is to write a good ad. We've all seen the 'this is us, conatct us if your interested' ads. But just how much of what info should we all include?? It a difficult one.
Just to pick up on this point as it was addressed specifically to me, tho I appreciate it is a personal reply and isn't exactly in line with the rest of the thread.
Morbius --------> In my post I did point out clearly that I was generalising about straight males being well - straight LOL. I'm not saying that all males who only enjoy sex with females are straight (in the *traditional* sense) and do not and would not do anything that could be considered kinky. For example I can think of one TV in my social circle - quite a convincing TGirl too :twisted: - who although is as kinky as they come only ever wants (full on) sex with females. Thus I would consider this person by the fact that s/he is gender male, despite being a TV, to be heterosexual.
Yes it says in my ad that I am looking for bi couples - that I am
. *Generally* speaking, and probably in 99.9% of cases this would be true. I like group fun (or else why would I be advertising on a swingers site LOL) and my ideal scenario would to be with more than one couple at once, say in a club, party, or other prearraged group meet. I am here to contact couples of course, but in meeting those couples I would prefer perhaps scenarios that involved more than the 3 of us. I guess thats where the compromise comes in as that is easier said than done, especially as I am an "on the edge swinger". LOL. Now if I was in a group situation the fact that all members, both male and female were bi it is very cool indeed as there are much more that we could all do together -- and that's just the "swinging" part, never mind when the whips and chains come out LOLOLOL. That said if a couple did contact me who made it very clear that the male was not bi, in that he did not like m-m contact, but who was otherwise a fetishist, such as the TV friend of mine I mentioned earlier, then yes of course I would be interested in chatting to them more.
What I can say though is that your point about straight male/bi fem couples not wanting to contact me cos of the wording of my ad isnt true for lots of couples - most of my replies and I have had quite a few to date have been from straight male/bi fem couples. Most have just sent those silly winks so I have no idea how *kinky* those straight men are. If they are real kinky guys they are selling themselves short by not saying so!
I doubt any of that really makes sense but I know what i mean
.To add a bit more to whats been said since Morbius replied to me, Dambuster, I dont know how to multiple quote, but what you said makes a whole lot of sense LOL. Little Gem I can see where you're coming from too, but I need to think about that some more. LOL.
Interesting thread.
I am a single bi fem so I think i'll put my 2p in here lol . I guess I am on the "edge" of the swinging scene in that although I enjoy group sex I do not really consider myself a swinger, rather a fetishist who likes more than one partner at once. It makes sense to me OK lol. I actually know very few "straight" swingers and the people I have "swung" with in the past have been BDSMers primarily, and most BDSMers dont swing, in the way that might be defined by a lot of you lol. There is a cross over of the two lifestyles, though not as much as you might think. Virtually none of my BDSM friends go to swing clubs for example -- most consider them too straight lol. I know what they mean! For example, swing clubs are traditionally for straight sex, plus some girl on girl. You rarely see a TV or a TS at a swing club and people with alternative genders or sexualities are not made welcome in many settings. I'm thinking here male on male bisexuality but also sub dom/me games at clubs. In the fetish and BDSM arena, even if there is less full on sex happening, the people who attend are much more accepting of alternative genders and sexualities. TVs are the staple diet of the fetish scene lol. Actually they are - so much so that regulars who get in free at a certain fetish event local to me are mainly TV/TG.
Anyway, my point with reference to this topic. I do tend to digress. As someone who is primarily a fetishist I am looking for a certain type of person/people to "swing" with. As someone on the "edge" (in more ways than one lol) I appreciate that most of the people who reply to me are not going to be exactly what I am looking for. I am prepared to compromise but not to the extent where I am going to engage in actibvities that are "not my thing". In my ad I state that I am looking for bi couples. You might think well why does the male half have to be bi if your a single fem? well, I am generalising madly here but in my experience straight males are much less likely to be open for exploration in the fetish scene than bi males. I feel more comfortable with bi males generally, they are more likely to be up for arse play like strap on domination or whipping than straight men --- actually I cant name one straight man in my life who would let himself be dominated in such a way lolol. Yet, even though I state I am looking for a bi couple every reply to my ad, except perhaps one, have been from couples where the male is straight! Most send just those "winks" and I can tell little about them --- there might be some straight male fetishists in the world lol, they are just being lazy and selling themselves short by "winking" at me lol.
Playwise, I am not opposed to straight sexual activities, but I want more than just straight sex. I only want to meet couples who share the same philosophy. A scene where I am with a couple that is just "traditional" swinging, something like, fem fem play while male watches followed by male joining in with both tbh bores me silly lol. Weeding out most of the people that reply to me after just one reply happens a lot, but thats OK, I can wait LOL.
I am a single bi fem so I think i'll put my 2p in here lol . I guess I am on the "edge" of the swinging scene in that although I enjoy group sex I do not really consider myself a swinger, rather a fetishist who likes more than one partner at once. It makes sense to me OK lol. I actually know very few "straight" swingers and the people I have "swung" with in the past have been BDSMers primarily, and most BDSMers dont swing, in the way that might be defined by a lot of you lol. There is a cross over of the two lifestyles, though not as much as you might think. Virtually none of my BDSM friends go to swing clubs for example -- most consider them too straight lol. I know what they mean! For example, swing clubs are traditionally for straight sex, plus some girl on girl. You rarely see a TV or a TS at a swing club and people with alternative genders or sexualities are not made welcome in many settings. I'm thinking here male on male bisexuality but also sub dom/me games at clubs. In the fetish and BDSM arena, even if there is less full on sex happening, the people who attend are much more accepting of alternative genders and sexualities. TVs are the staple diet of the fetish scene lol. Actually they are - so much so that regulars who get in free at a certain fetish event local to me are mainly TV/TG.
Anyway, my point with reference to this topic. I do tend to digress. As someone who is primarily a fetishist I am looking for a certain type of person/people to "swing" with. As someone on the "edge" (in more ways than one lol) I appreciate that most of the people who reply to me are not going to be exactly what I am looking for. I am prepared to compromise but not to the extent where I am going to engage in actibvities that are "not my thing". In my ad I state that I am looking for bi couples. You might think well why does the male half have to be bi if your a single fem? well, I am generalising madly here but in my experience straight males are much less likely to be open for exploration in the fetish scene than bi males. I feel more comfortable with bi males generally, they are more likely to be up for arse play like strap on domination or whipping than straight men --- actually I cant name one straight man in my life who would let himself be dominated in such a way lolol. Yet, even though I state I am looking for a bi couple every reply to my ad, except perhaps one, have been from couples where the male is straight! Most send just those "winks" and I can tell little about them --- there might be some straight male fetishists in the world lol, they are just being lazy and selling themselves short by "winking" at me lol.
Playwise, I am not opposed to straight sexual activities, but I want more than just straight sex. I only want to meet couples who share the same philosophy. A scene where I am with a couple that is just "traditional" swinging, something like, fem fem play while male watches followed by male joining in with both tbh bores me silly lol. Weeding out most of the people that reply to me after just one reply happens a lot, but thats OK, I can wait LOL.
Quote by markandruth
But it is a good place to meet people who dress up and I've been back to hotel rooms afterwards with some lovely people I've met in there. It heightens the experience building up to a long sweaty session after all that dancing and perving at people in rubber etc. I love it!
and theres always the toilets
ops: Quote by squirrelbunny
I didnt know afterlife was a sex club. Maybe i'm thinkin of somewhere else. Is it the place that used to be called consent? Or is that the goth club at the same location. ffs i'm so out of touch lol
Afterlife isn't really a sex club, well its not a swingers club and I think thats what you mean? Afterlife is a monthly fetish event, and tho some swingers do attend the night and some mild sexual behaviours are tolerated it is not an all out free for all. They have some play equipment for whipping, groping etc, so don't get me wrong, it certainly is not vanilla lol and it is certainly very erotic. Their website should give you a better idea of the philosophy behind Afterlife -
They have been closed for a few months due to problems with the club that hosts the event. I would be there tonight but I'm ill lol.
Sorry if I am not allowed to post that website on the forum
TBH I thought the idea of gloryholes was that u dont know who is on the other side. Tip for u mate, it mite b a 6 ft 6 hairy trucker with yr dick in his mouth but u can imagine its paris hilton (or whoever does it for u personally obviously) 
Dont know the answer to yr question, tho i believe that "straight" gloryholes do not exist, but why not try Partners in bury, they have gloryholes and u can probaby control who was doin the sucking. or Cupids, think they have gloryholes too, tho never been myself.
Dont know the answer to yr question, tho i believe that "straight" gloryholes do not exist, but why not try Partners in bury, they have gloryholes and u can probaby control who was doin the sucking. or Cupids, think they have gloryholes too, tho never been myself.
