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27 Nov 2005

If it looks like an orgy, feels like an orgy, sounds like an orgy, and bounces like an orgy, it might actually BE an orgy...
...as for numbers, 5 sounds good, but then others will say 10...I'm trying to think of a sentance with the words "subjective judgement" in it that makes sense, but it's too early in the morning for that... confused

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Who cares about balance as long as everyone enjoys it? At my parties there are 2M:1F, because that's what everyone there wants (hence at one point being as high as 30M:20F! - a few more people than the house's architect bargained for when calculating the requirements for its foundations lol

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) . Other people have other wants and desires.
Tell you what an orgy ISN'T - it isn't done for money!

27 Nov 2005

Or maybe it's actually know of by the people who matter, and they are sucessfully keeping schtumm about it so that dogging tourists, yoofs with camera phones, boy racers and other undesirables don't ruin it for them? Maybe?
...rushes off to Camping shop to buy Ordinance Survey map of Gloucestershire to locate "likely" hillsides with car parks on them... lol

lol

26 Nov 2005

Quote by jamieuk
It a car park which at a guess could hold 20-30 cars but it is set in hills which makes it schluded.
Have only seen 2 couples playing in the past 2 months but it has potenial so its worth a try!

Is it the one that had a tribe of Gypsies camped on there until recently, and some months ago had the main road lading up the hill blocked off for road works?
If it's the one I'm thinking of, then that could be the reason why it's so quiet - it takes a while to erase memories like that. Not to mention that the road going up and down that hilll is as scary as you like to drive on. But apart from that, and again if it's where I think it is, yes I agree, it is perfect.

25 Nov 2005

Quote by john781
if t&t want to be specific about what they are after then i think that is up to them.
everyone has theyre prferences and it is better to let people know before they meet and are dissapointed.

Personal preferences ought, IMHO remain exactly that...PERSONAL.
By bringing them out into the PUBLIC domain, they cease to become preferences and they become prejudices.
And I thought that there was an AUP that covered prejudice... confused

confused

25 Nov 2005

Strikes me as strange that this thread is in the Dogging section at all and not in "Lets Meet Up". The car park is not the place to legislate who can and who can't drive around and park up. What's the next step? Bouncers at the car park entrance doing a height and weight check on all drivers and passengers who want to come past?
So obese people are ...what about the ill-mannered, foul-mouthed, and other disfunctionals? Are they OK as long as they are "slim"? Would you like to further discriminate...maybe on hair colour, or lack of hair, or skin colour, race or religeon? Any prejudices against people with disabilities?

Quote by tabby&tina
and if this post does offend you then loose some weight,

and if this post does offend you then ... yes I was tempted, but no, I shan't sink to those sort of depths,

25 Nov 2005

Quote by kenk
Sounds cool!
But, what does the "bring-your-own-bottle" mean on the website? (we're only familiar with clubs in France and Belgium/Netherlands)
Cheers!

It means that the club is not licenced to SELL alcohol (i.e. you can drink alcohol at the premises but you can't buy it)...so if you want to mix alcohol and sex (not such a good idea for the men as it is for the ladies I suspect) then go to the supermarket, buy what you want to drink and take it to the club with you. The club should then keep it safe and you can be poured a drink whenever you need one.

25 Nov 2005

Quote by stuartrossy1
Mybe when the new eagle centre is built they could fit one in between an M&S and an Ann Summers!! :smile2:

Wouldn't worry about Ann Summers, that place is old hat...you should see Birmingham with the Hustler Hollywood store directly over the road from M&S...like sexy thongs and frilly knickers to your left, big pants to your right.
Anyone going Xmas shopping, check out Brum City Centre - not only the Bull Ring, but also the Hustler Hollywood store too - it makes Ann Summers look like a stall in an In-Shops indoor market.

24 Nov 2005

Hey guys...I hear a rumour that a swingers club is about to be launched in Chesterfield...can anyone substantiate that?
Is that close enough to Derby for you?

24 Nov 2005

Quote by da69ve
Xstasia's has a bar area......anyone tried it there yet?

Xtasia's bar gets lots of action by it. In fact I sometimes wonder how the bar staff can pour drinks without spilling any...if it were me, I'm not sure how much attention I'd be paying to the drinks and how much to the other goings on...OK I know full well...SPILLAGE! :lol:

23 Nov 2005

Quote by Hubnw
We like a club in Blackpool called Passion

There's which gives the low-down on the whole Blackpool scene including Passions.

Quote by Hubnw
What we need in Manchester is a decent swingers nightclub.

Kind of explains why there are so many Mancs taking the trip down the M6 to Club-Xtasia in Birmingham then.

23 Nov 2005

The only S Wales places I know are circa Cardiff, by an old castle on a hillside somewhere - ish, sort of thing. The car parks there seemed to attract couples from all over S Wales, so by implication that was the most reliable place of any action. Not been for over a year though, so who knows what's happened since.

23 Nov 2005

Someone who was coming with me to the England v Samoa Rugby match on Saturday, is down badly with the Flu, and can't make it, so that ticket for the match is going spare.
If there are any rugby fans who want to meet up and go to the match, please let me know. I'm not looking to profit, the ticket can be had at face value.
I'll be hitting London from the M40/M25, parking up in Staines and taking the train to Twickenham. If you fancy meeting up en route, please let me know.

23 Nov 2005

OK, somebody else's turn...who else has got any dogging jokes?

23 Nov 2005

I know it's a tricky one, but communication is the key I think. And in dogging, it's "body language" that counts. As examples...
In most parts of the Birmingham area, what doggers do, and what couples expect of them is to drive up alongside a car and wait for a couple to get going. When people appear out of the bushes, the couples tend to get spooked.
I did the "Brummie thing" once down London, and got severely threatened by some of the locals because that was considered to be unacceptable behaviour. There, much to my amazement, all the doggers were parked up and gathered like in a picket line in the middle of the car park, by the entrance drive so that they could peer into the windows of incoming cars to see who is in it. THAT was considered to be normal and acceptable. Yet when some truckers do that same technique outside the height barrier of my local car park the couples that drive into the car park drive straight out again out a feeling of sheer intimidation (I've spoken to some of them, and whether it's right or wrong, it's how they feel)
In other parts of the country, it's common for doggers to take advantage of bushes and trees, dress up on army camo gear and act all sneaky beaky.
So, now you get a mix of doggers from all over the country in one place...
Now imagine you are a Brummie couple, and are used to cars pulling up quite visibly by the side of you, and knowing who is around you, then finding out that you are surrounded by others who have crawled out of the undergrowth ...you are in a dark unfamiliar car park...and the safety first instinct combines with the fear of the unknown, what do you think will be the result? Or scenario 2, you are a London couple, and you get a car pull up alongside you...see what I mean?
I'm only saying this because the lack of a common standard, and everyone doing their own thing has ruined dogging spots in the past, and I'd hate to think that lessons cannot be learned from previuos mistakes.
I agree it's a matter of being respectful, but the showing of respect is done differently around the country, and one man's respect is another man's insult.

Quote by niceguysdoexist
I don't think it's my place to be prescriptive on how others do their dogging . I certainly would not be so presumptuous as to imagine I knew what couples wanted ....they will all be individual in their tastes.

I assume that you have the list of people who you've told about the place, why not communicate with them to see what the "average" practises are that they are used to and then let everyone else know what to expect. That way if someone comes from an area where people do X but you know that most of the people in your list do Y, that you can inform the people not to expect X and not to worry if they see Y occur?

23 Nov 2005

C'mon ladies...the guy's weekend will be trashed if he has to go alone (Infusion is a Couples Only venue on Saturdays and stupidly expensive for single guys on Fridays)
I'm guessing at which hotel is being used, but as one is known to have a party coming up this weekend, and is highly recommended then you are in for a treat if you go.(whereas the other treats its guests like they are in a swingers concentration camp - avoid it if you can)
Someone have a heart...and have yourself a great weekend into the bargain...

23 Nov 2005

If a car pulled up alongside you with a dog at the steering wheel...would you think that was Lucky?
Or would that be more than lucky? lol

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Sorry, read somewhere that a sense of humour would be a good asset to have...so I'm practising... rolleyes

rolleyes

23 Nov 2005

Niceguys - one suggestion I would make, in case you are getting applications from around the country. Please make sure that everyone is conversant with "the ways and means" of how dogging is done in the Midlands. Some of the best known dogging spots in the area have become a part of dogging history, because they became dogging tourist attractions, with people travelling from all over the country to visit, bringing as many ways of doing dogging as there were places from which they originated from. The end result was that the local couples got spooked by behaviour that would be considered normal elsewhere in the country, and stopped going.
Lets at least know what couples like to see happen, and make sure that the guys know what that is so that things can work out in harmony.

23 Nov 2005

Quote by shad
Interesting subject but don't let it trouble you too much cause i can't see the authorities spending that kind of money and manpower on entrapment of doggers, it's not like were real criminals like motorists is it.
Oh god we are all done for..... :scared:

Totally agree.
On the other hand if there are any budding Mulder's and Scully's out there prepared to investigate this conspiracy theory, we'd all welcome the findings...
Does Tory Blur need to bag some doggers to boost his failing crime statistics? Are Promiscuous Couples needed by Aliens from outer space dressed as policemen for their experiments? Please let us know what you are able to find out...and you have one hour to do it in, give or take 2 or 3 commercial breaks wink

wink

22 Nov 2005

Quote by Lissa
hi there
thanks to the guys who showed up for todays meet
and to the guys who didnt show your LOSS
us girls had a good time could of gone abit more fun tho hehehehe
cya soon jo xxx

Oh Jo....why oh why do people say they want to come then don't turn up :!: confused

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mad

It makes me so angry :!:
Do they get off on it :?:
Glad you girls had a nice time, wish I could have been there :!: wink

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Best wishes anyway xx
I think you've hit the nail on the head. Pete and I have come to the conclusion that a lot of guys are just fantasists. They get their kicks out of thinking about attending, imagining everything that would/could happen....................but that is enough for them. When it actually comes time for their fantasies to become reality, they bottle it. Why, we don't know.
Lissa - could have told you that ages ago. I organise a little party scene and have given up on getting guys off the internet for just that reason. Now if I haven't seen them in action somewhere first, I don't bother...and even then, you have to invite twicwe as many as you need because half can't / don't make it for one reason or another. rolleyes

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22 Nov 2005

Hello from me too...I'm going to the Rugby on Saturday (England v Samoa at Twickenham) - in case that's what was meant. cool

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22 Nov 2005

Quote by HarryJones
I for one am NOT going through a door that Germans have told me is a 'shower' !

:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
(Geddit Dargento)? lol

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cc_7up
I still don't get it sad

sad

Can someone please explain it to me.
Regards
Harry Jones
Something dating back 60+ years to when Nazi Concentration Camps had gas chambers disguised as "Shower Blocks" rolleyes

rolleyes

22 Nov 2005

Quote by amalthea
A bloke really does need a gimmick (I find a sense of humour is a good starting point )

Can I get one of those in Tesco or Asda, do you think?

Quote by maccster
Hey thanks for all your advice, but my mother said 'shy boys get nowt' so there is no harm in diving in with both feet is there?
Obviously I haven't been here too long but no harm introducing myself, stating my cause.
Thanks again

Can I suggest that the best place for you to "state your case" for what you want is in the Personal Pages. Then leave that for people to refer to if they like your forum patter. After all, you wouldn't walk into a new pub, stand on a table and come out with your into that you did here...and at the end of the day, it's people that you are communicating with, either here online or at the bar of the pub...

21 Nov 2005

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
No need to PM me NGDE, just dig it up and bring down here immediately :twisted:

Well, if its that mobile, could you also please bring it up North as well lol

lol

We could do a Swinging Heaven Road Show (or should that be Car park show)!!!!
In fact can you do a UK tour and sell tour tee-shirts etc LOL
Seriously, a PM with the info update would be most welcome here too. Cheers.

21 Nov 2005

Quote by hellyhardon69
hi im a soton male ...and woundered if any goes dogging on sxxx cxxx

Well now that you have mentioned the place by name, I've no doubt that there will be floods of people there to find out the answer to your question. And in a short time, whatever used to go on, won't be going on any more... rolleyes

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21 Nov 2005

Quote by tabby&tina
hi all
we are a couple from wakefield fem28/bi/medium build-male33/str8/medium build-
we are looking to meet some sexy couples around the same age and build to us, no offence but not wanting to meet old beerbellied men and women, we have been doing this for about 3 years and are not shy, get in touch if you think you would like to meet up, and if this post does offend you then loose some weight,
would prefer you to be in the wakefield area.

Come down to Birmingham, and have a word with some of the dogging Yoofs, and I'm sure that they will oblige for you. They have already got their spray cans out and marked out the car park tarmac with classics like "Gay Bay", "Swingers Bay" etc...so maybe they can add some bays for you like "Fussy Couples Bay" "Slim Doggers Bay" "Fat Doggers Bay" etc
rolleyes

rolleyes

21 Nov 2005

Some of my fondest memories are in adverse weather. Can even remember one night when doggers were in their cars for 2 mins to warm up, then out on a show for 2 mins before they were frozen to bits, then back to their cars for 2 mins to warm up etc etc.
So don't worry about the weather...it's what God created fleeces and Goretex for!

21 Nov 2005

Had a great party scene in Derby up until this Spring, when the host's domestic circumstances changed. :cry:

21 Nov 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
it is illegal tho

I prefer the "Nouveau Politically Correct" expression: "Alternatively Legal" !

21 Nov 2005

Quote by marmalaid
We wouldn't be about to advocate an illegal act here would we?

Trust me, it's nothing sexual.
Do a google search on e-mule, and all questions will be answered.

21 Nov 2005

I've been in Munich in Summer, and have often seen in their main park (Englischergarten) people walking about totally nude in public. No worries about children seeing exposed flesh, no worries about indecent exposure. Totally relaxed about it all. Imagine that in Hyde Park, or Regents Park?
But then is the human body intrinsically indecent anyway? The continentals don't think so, but of course we are British and we won the war, so we are right and they must be wrong...right?...or not...one or the other. :shock: