Hmmm, I suppose from a general point of view nobody does care, but I think Pololady has a point, from a work colleague perpective it becomes a different matter.
I guess that the press arn't the only danger though. This site is friendly and welcoming to new people who could quite easily be your neighbours, friends, relatives. You could argue that whislt embarassing it wouldn't do much damage.
However, if you went on at work, or someone suspected you were on the site, they could just join to get incrimating pictures of you etc. That is a really scary thought and something I hadn't thought about before...
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Theres no point, who really cares about what swingers do. I think its got past the shock value stage. A friend of mine was at one of those public orgy things in London. He's a journalist and he doesnt care on jot, hes there to have fun.
I think the only time it gets press worthy is when its somebody really famous, and lets face it I doubt there is anyone famous on here. They probably have a celebrity swinging club with there own website and everything.
Any journalists on here must be desperate. It would be better to make up the story.
Having said that I was the muppet who read it in the metro.
I think the only time it gets press worthy is when its somebody really famous, and lets face it I doubt there is anyone famous on here. They probably have a celebrity swinging club with there own website and everything.
Any journalists on here must be desperate. It would be better to make up the story.
Having said that I was the muppet who read it in the metro.
A couple of weeks or days ago, (I can't remember), I saw an article in the Metro about casual sex on the internet. Bascially, the journalist said you joined a site and then listed the various women he met.
Does anyone know what site he used ? Was it SH ? Is he a regular member.
He got at least three women, and I cant imagine he spent more than a month researching the story, which is an incredible success rate for a beginner. That kind of makes me think he was a long term member, or he made it all up.
Anyone remember the artcile and what is said. Wish I had kept it now !
Peter
Does anyone know what site he used ? Was it SH ? Is he a regular member.
He got at least three women, and I cant imagine he spent more than a month researching the story, which is an incredible success rate for a beginner. That kind of makes me think he was a long term member, or he made it all up.
Anyone remember the artcile and what is said. Wish I had kept it now !
Peter
Hey Wirral,
After calming down I can see everyones point. Its wierd that Yorkshire folk should be supicous of each other. Oh wait, we are Yoskhire folk, now I see the problem.
I think I could have made a more successful appearence on the forum by waving Captain Todger about. I need to get to know so many people ! So little time ! Eeeeeek!
Oh and Riding Mountains has a lovely neck, but what I really like is the pout ! Grrr !
After calming down I can see everyones point. Its wierd that Yorkshire folk should be supicous of each other. Oh wait, we are Yoskhire folk, now I see the problem.
I think I could have made a more successful appearence on the forum by waving Captain Todger about. I need to get to know so many people ! So little time ! Eeeeeek!
Oh and Riding Mountains has a lovely neck, but what I really like is the pout ! Grrr !
Hey Wirral,
After calming down I can see everyones point. Its wierd that Yorkshire folk should be supicous of each other. Oh wait, we are Yoskhire folk, now I see the problem.
I think I could have made a more successful appearence on the forum by waving Captain Todger about. I need to get to know so many people ! So little time ! Eeeeeek!
Oh and Riding Mountains has a lovely neck, but what I really like is the pout ! Grrr !
After calming down I can see everyones point. Its wierd that Yorkshire folk should be supicous of each other. Oh wait, we are Yoskhire folk, now I see the problem.
I think I could have made a more successful appearence on the forum by waving Captain Todger about. I need to get to know so many people ! So little time ! Eeeeeek!
Oh and Riding Mountains has a lovely neck, but what I really like is the pout ! Grrr !
Freckle,
S10 is ok, its nice any easy to get a bus to West Street. The hills are a killer though. Living in sheffield means never needing to go to the gym.
I once met a truly disgusting couple who lived behind the station on AFF. They were filth pure filth. And not in a good way. The state of the falt was horrible. Half eaten Pizza from who knows when on the bed.
Bleurk !
S10 is ok, its nice any easy to get a bus to West Street. The hills are a killer though. Living in sheffield means never needing to go to the gym.
I once met a truly disgusting couple who lived behind the station on AFF. They were filth pure filth. And not in a good way. The state of the falt was horrible. Half eaten Pizza from who knows when on the bed.
Bleurk !
Thanks for all the nice welcomes guys ! I am interested in the social side too, although I doubt I will ever be a really high poster, you can guarentee my posts will be long.
I have the same fear, men pretending to be women, etc I would hate that, and I dont really know how to tell the good from the bad.
You know what, the Asylum isnt so bad...
I have the same fear, men pretending to be women, etc I would hate that, and I dont really know how to tell the good from the bad.
You know what, the Asylum isnt so bad...
Frecklebird - I havnt Pmed you again ? What are you talking about ? You told me to post here. I'm really sorry for any offense caused - can we let it be please ?
I need a thicker skin, Constance is right. Freckle - your obviously a smart woman who knows how everyhting works. I'm impetious and inqusitive with it. And wordy. I like wriitng. I'll watch myself in future.
Like I said from now on search is my friend - I will always put my questions to search before posting. Must take a long time to amass more than a few posts when their is such a large archive. Cant imagine ever reaching 1000.
I need a thicker skin, Constance is right. Freckle - your obviously a smart woman who knows how everyhting works. I'm impetious and inqusitive with it. And wordy. I like wriitng. I'll watch myself in future.
Like I said from now on search is my friend - I will always put my questions to search before posting. Must take a long time to amass more than a few posts when their is such a large archive. Cant imagine ever reaching 1000.
Guys, Sorry about the Ficklebird thing, think I did that subconciously. Not very nice,Sorry.
Apologies to all. I realise now that according to the AUP there is no need to post any duplicate topics. Thats what you get for having tangled with a very logical woman who no fact passes by ! I'll watch my posts from now on. Again sorry for that - and I will try and be more consistent.
Search will become my friend !
Ridingmountains - you have pretty much hit the nail on the head. I'll send you a message.
Apologies to all. I realise now that according to the AUP there is no need to post any duplicate topics. Thats what you get for having tangled with a very logical woman who no fact passes by ! I'll watch my posts from now on. Again sorry for that - and I will try and be more consistent.
Search will become my friend !
Ridingmountains - you have pretty much hit the nail on the head. I'll send you a message.
Ficklbird and other paranoids,
Ficklbird said....
It was locked so that you didn't do what you did - comment on it! The new one will no doubt also be locked. I have nothing against you but people have advised you against asking questions and you still do it. Searching and a few clicks will find all the information you need.
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Am I allowed to ask NO questions ? Effectivly I cant ask any questions about anything relevant to this site.
How about I change my user name so it is more consistant. Can Admin do that for me please ? Bad choice on my part - apologies.I ask a lot of questions. I'm sorry about that. Thats why I dont want to put up an ad because people dont trust me. I thought someone could make an alternative recommendation.
How come the thread got locked SO I couldnt reply - yet Ficklbird attacked me ? Quite obviously I'm presumed guilty.
Ficklebird, my gf has gone through a lot of feelings through this whole things. She STILL does not want MMF.
You must think you are on to something to do a search and highlight stuff. I guess you think
A) I am a journalist.
B) You just like kicking me
I havnt been on this forum long enough to know what you are like - you have 6000+ plus posts - obviously this community is important to you and you want to defend it. But if you want something that doesnt compute then think about this - if I were a journalist on an undercover mission and you were trying to expose me .
I'm not a journalist - I just want a break, thats all. BTW who locked the thread and cna they give an explination as to why ?
Ficklbird said....
It was locked so that you didn't do what you did - comment on it! The new one will no doubt also be locked. I have nothing against you but people have advised you against asking questions and you still do it. Searching and a few clicks will find all the information you need.
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Am I allowed to ask NO questions ? Effectivly I cant ask any questions about anything relevant to this site.
How about I change my user name so it is more consistant. Can Admin do that for me please ? Bad choice on my part - apologies.I ask a lot of questions. I'm sorry about that. Thats why I dont want to put up an ad because people dont trust me. I thought someone could make an alternative recommendation.
How come the thread got locked SO I couldnt reply - yet Ficklbird attacked me ? Quite obviously I'm presumed guilty.
Ficklebird, my gf has gone through a lot of feelings through this whole things. She STILL does not want MMF.
You must think you are on to something to do a search and highlight stuff. I guess you think
A) I am a journalist.
B) You just like kicking me
I havnt been on this forum long enough to know what you are like - you have 6000+ plus posts - obviously this community is important to you and you want to defend it. But if you want something that doesnt compute then think about this - if I were a journalist on an undercover mission and you were trying to expose me .
I'm not a journalist - I just want a break, thats all. BTW who locked the thread and cna they give an explination as to why ?
People seem to always be trawling my posts for inconsistencies in what I say.
In response - My girlfriend has changed her mind. I have changed my mind.
When I say I was a member a few years ago or one year ago - I mean it was a fair while back.
WHY do I get such treatment off people like Frecklebird ?
Quite obviously I am pretty disliked around here. I wonder who else has there posts analised by so many members.
Some people on here are so paranoid. I am not a journalist I never was and GET OVER YOURSELVES detectives I don't want to write an article about you.
Oh, and for those who think I am over reacting - then why was the thread locked so I couldnt respond.
I am sure there are lots of lovely people on here, but I almost everytime I post some Super slueth is trying to expose me !
IS THERE ANY CHANCE I WILL EVER BE TREATED LIKE A NORMAL MEMBER OR WILL MY POSTS ALWAYS BE TORN TO SHREDS - I am polite and nice generally and some members treat me like scum.
Do a search on posts about me and make up your own mind. I only want to be a normal member here - can that happen without people treating me like this ?
In response - My girlfriend has changed her mind. I have changed my mind.
When I say I was a member a few years ago or one year ago - I mean it was a fair while back.
WHY do I get such treatment off people like Frecklebird ?
Quite obviously I am pretty disliked around here. I wonder who else has there posts analised by so many members.
Some people on here are so paranoid. I am not a journalist I never was and GET OVER YOURSELVES detectives I don't want to write an article about you.
Oh, and for those who think I am over reacting - then why was the thread locked so I couldnt respond.
I am sure there are lots of lovely people on here, but I almost everytime I post some Super slueth is trying to expose me !
IS THERE ANY CHANCE I WILL EVER BE TREATED LIKE A NORMAL MEMBER OR WILL MY POSTS ALWAYS BE TORN TO SHREDS - I am polite and nice generally and some members treat me like scum.
Do a search on posts about me and make up your own mind. I only want to be a normal member here - can that happen without people treating me like this ?
On Friday night my gf expressed that she wanted to have a threesome. She is looking for someone youngish who is a little more confident than her. She says my presence / involvement is up to the other girl - she isnt bothered.
Anyway, what are the best places to start off meeting potentials ? Obviosuly we want to be discreet and the classifieds dont seem to work anymore !
All advice welcome !
Anyway, what are the best places to start off meeting potentials ? Obviosuly we want to be discreet and the classifieds dont seem to work anymore !
All advice welcome !
Hey there,
Me and the Mrs have decieded to take things one step further. We are looking for a normal / (non swinger) clubs in Sheffield, Leeds, York, Manchester where things can get a bit hot and sweaty.
Basically she is looking to flirt with attractive women in their twenties, nothing much more except a snog to start with. She doesnt want to go to a gay club though (long story), just a place where she can practise chatting up other young women.
Me and the Mrs have decieded to take things one step further. We are looking for a normal / (non swinger) clubs in Sheffield, Leeds, York, Manchester where things can get a bit hot and sweaty.
Basically she is looking to flirt with attractive women in their twenties, nothing much more except a snog to start with. She doesnt want to go to a gay club though (long story), just a place where she can practise chatting up other young women.
My partner wants to watch videos where women are together but are showing real feeling. I have always been more than happy with the stuff we watch together, but apparently most just arnt enjoying it like they do with the men. She wants films where it seems hot with both sexes.
As I have no idea what the difference is .. .anybody got any recommendations. Nothing european jsut glossy american porn with a few famous "stars" in should be neough for her ! Recommendatiions please !
As I have no idea what the difference is .. .anybody got any recommendations. Nothing european jsut glossy american porn with a few famous "stars" in should be neough for her ! Recommendatiions please !
What the heck does it actually mean ? My partner keeps on mentioning how it turns her on, but I dont really understand the chique part of the phrase ! What the hecks that about ?
I guess my partner will have her own definitions but whats the general consensus before I talk with her again and make myself look niave !!
I guess my partner will have her own definitions but whats the general consensus before I talk with her again and make myself look niave !!
The problem is is that she wont talk about it. The confesion about threesomes turning her on was a really rare ocurence. She is quite submissive and generally likes me to lead the way.
She is not into anything remotely kinky in bed but has a very high sex drive. She loves porn but girl girl and mmf are off limits and she wont watch them. Other than that she loves porn.
Part of the problem is that she knows I once had a very bad threesome and thats why she was recluctant to tell me that they turn her on. She jusnt isnt sure if she is a voyeur or something else. What the else might be is beyond me as she is TOTALLY closed on the whole subject now.
I have told her fantasies are fantasies and she can tell me anything, but she says she has none and only wants to hear mine....
She is not into anything remotely kinky in bed but has a very high sex drive. She loves porn but girl girl and mmf are off limits and she wont watch them. Other than that she loves porn.
Part of the problem is that she knows I once had a very bad threesome and thats why she was recluctant to tell me that they turn her on. She jusnt isnt sure if she is a voyeur or something else. What the else might be is beyond me as she is TOTALLY closed on the whole subject now.
I have told her fantasies are fantasies and she can tell me anything, but she says she has none and only wants to hear mine....
She is quite submissive and generally likes me to guess what she wants. I'm really talkative and she isnt. I've asked her about these things and she changes the subject. Its quite difficult. As usual, I am expected to know what she wants.
She wonders if she is a voyeuer, and what she thinks she might be lying to herself is beyond me !
She wonders if she is a voyeuer, and what she thinks she might be lying to herself is beyond me !
Hi all !
I've been away for a while as I've got a new gf
We are relaly happy together, and I decieded to give up and sort of SW activity. I used to do quite well here a few years ago.
The problem is my partner is saying things which I find confusing.
We like to watch porn movies together, or rather I like it and she loves it ! She really enjoys group sex and threesome scenes, but sometimes if there is any girl girl action she will fast forward through that part. She also claims she finds two men with one woman revolting as well..
I just dont see how group sex / threesomes can turn you on when you have ruled out everything that is part of them as not sexy.
She has said she feels confused as she like watching threesomes, but the thought of me having sex with another woman in front of her really upsets her. I get the feeling there is a sunconcious message here, but I'm not seeing it. She said something about she feels she is lying to herself and perhaps she is just a voyeur.
I want to tread carefuly so as not to crush her fantasies, so I need to be able to read between the lines. But what does she like about threesomes ? Why does she feel bad about it and why has she even considered how hurt she would feel if I had sex with the other woman. I have never said to her I want a threesome....
yours confused,
takingitlsow
I've been away for a while as I've got a new gf
We are relaly happy together, and I decieded to give up and sort of SW activity. I used to do quite well here a few years ago.The problem is my partner is saying things which I find confusing.
We like to watch porn movies together, or rather I like it and she loves it ! She really enjoys group sex and threesome scenes, but sometimes if there is any girl girl action she will fast forward through that part. She also claims she finds two men with one woman revolting as well..
I just dont see how group sex / threesomes can turn you on when you have ruled out everything that is part of them as not sexy.
She has said she feels confused as she like watching threesomes, but the thought of me having sex with another woman in front of her really upsets her. I get the feeling there is a sunconcious message here, but I'm not seeing it. She said something about she feels she is lying to herself and perhaps she is just a voyeur.
I want to tread carefuly so as not to crush her fantasies, so I need to be able to read between the lines. But what does she like about threesomes ? Why does she feel bad about it and why has she even considered how hurt she would feel if I had sex with the other woman. I have never said to her I want a threesome....
yours confused,
takingitlsow
