Hi, I would love to come to this, but need a lift from the Worcester area. If anyone can oblige please get in touch and I would be very grateful.
Thanks,
Vxx
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I'm going to be there in a working capacity for all 3 days, so might see some of you there. I've also got 2 tickets for offer if anyone wants them. They are usable for any one of the three days. If you're interested in what I'm selling, where to find me to say hi or the tickets, get in touch x
Casanova
I've been looking for the Thank You thread for this event but couldn't find it, so glad to see some on here so I can add to it.
Great night, brilliantly organised and lovely people. I was made to feel very welcome and enjoyed the company of everyone I met. Thank you Paul for holding my hand.
Vx
Great night, brilliantly organised and lovely people. I was made to feel very welcome and enjoyed the company of everyone I met. Thank you Paul for holding my hand.
Vx
Casanova
Not looking at this with any level of intelligence or particular understanding, but having watched a small segment of the series, I also found myself laughing, along with feeling compassion and frustration for the sufferers.
I believe I know why I felt all of the emotions I did. How many times has something happened and that little voice in your head has said exactly what they were blurting out? Thankfully most of us can keep that thought in our head and then respond in a way that is diplomatic or judged with the full facts before making an exchange of views. However, it is funny to hear someone expressing thoughts that would normally be kept quiet, especially when they are visual ones. Ie, woman with big boobs or a mole on the face etc. Didn't Little Britain do a sketch with a similar nature? As it IS funny!
It doesn't mean that you don't feel compassion or care!
I believe I know why I felt all of the emotions I did. How many times has something happened and that little voice in your head has said exactly what they were blurting out? Thankfully most of us can keep that thought in our head and then respond in a way that is diplomatic or judged with the full facts before making an exchange of views. However, it is funny to hear someone expressing thoughts that would normally be kept quiet, especially when they are visual ones. Ie, woman with big boobs or a mole on the face etc. Didn't Little Britain do a sketch with a similar nature? As it IS funny!
It doesn't mean that you don't feel compassion or care!
Casanova
If you ever go to Chams you could organise it to coincide with the 3rd Sunday of the Month and pop down to Birmingham for the BBB. It's an indoor fetish market held in Nightingales Nightclub and has a great atmoshpere and everything you could possibly want to get started, from clothes to gadgets. They also have a workshop each month with fun topics of interest, a cafe and open bar.
People often dress up to go there, but you also see people in their jeans and if you are feeling a little wary to go there if you contact them via their website they will give you details for the 'hand holders' that are there to show newbies round and introduce them to people.
It's great!
People often dress up to go there, but you also see people in their jeans and if you are feeling a little wary to go there if you contact them via their website they will give you details for the 'hand holders' that are there to show newbies round and introduce them to people.
It's great!
Casanova
Alan,you are old xxx hehe
It really is a pot luck thing. I've never been on a Saturday as I'm not part of a proper couple and not bi, but It's a lot quieter than a Friday night and tends to be busier at the start of the month as apposed to the end of the month for obvious reasons.
As Alan says, sometimes it can work in your favour as you can stumble across people and get to chat and play where possibly you may not have got to on a busy night, plus you can actually get in the jacuzzi!!! Which is nice.
You will also find that Thursdays are often used for mids munches and the bbw ones, which are both cracking nights and very busy.
It's generally best to go with an open mind, an expectation to enjoy the company you're with and anything else is a bonus. That way, you won't be disappointed.
I'll be there anyway lol.
It really is a pot luck thing. I've never been on a Saturday as I'm not part of a proper couple and not bi, but It's a lot quieter than a Friday night and tends to be busier at the start of the month as apposed to the end of the month for obvious reasons.
As Alan says, sometimes it can work in your favour as you can stumble across people and get to chat and play where possibly you may not have got to on a busy night, plus you can actually get in the jacuzzi!!! Which is nice.
You will also find that Thursdays are often used for mids munches and the bbw ones, which are both cracking nights and very busy.
It's generally best to go with an open mind, an expectation to enjoy the company you're with and anything else is a bonus. That way, you won't be disappointed.
I'll be there anyway lol.
Casanova
Hi,
I seem to get a lot of post from people with no pics. When I ask for a pic some of them insist on showing them on msn or by mobile phone. Up until now I have always said no and asked to see a face pic either here or via email. One of the reasons being that my msn has lots of people on it and you have to go live to exchange photos, which in turn means constant interruptions.
Am I being harsh, or do you have the same policy? Is there away around this? Do you think people who do this have something to hide and should be treated with caution?
Answers on a postcard please as sometimes I am geniunely interested and do wonder if I have missed out.
Vx
I seem to get a lot of post from people with no pics. When I ask for a pic some of them insist on showing them on msn or by mobile phone. Up until now I have always said no and asked to see a face pic either here or via email. One of the reasons being that my msn has lots of people on it and you have to go live to exchange photos, which in turn means constant interruptions.
Am I being harsh, or do you have the same policy? Is there away around this? Do you think people who do this have something to hide and should be treated with caution?
Answers on a postcard please as sometimes I am geniunely interested and do wonder if I have missed out.
Vx
Casanova
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Hello,Ive been invited by some friends and would love if you can put my name down not a member of chams.
Hiya Bouncy hun, I can vouch for this gent here - and I'm sure the girl's will be pleased after having met him.
... go easy girl's, he's rather shy ;)
Ohhhh my I'v come over all peculiar... he's 6ft7!!!!
6ft 7................... i is only 2ft 7 :cry:
Ladies, cough cough! We are all the same size lying down
Cept for Sassy that is, she needs to be stretttccchhheeeddd :twisted:
But wot part does she need strecting :happy:
If he's the guy Ahabs introduced me to at Erotica, he's rather cute.
My partner for the evening is already a member so no worries there. Many thanks. Casanova
I think suicide is a selfish act, but at the same time we are conditioned to believe we need to be independent, insular, take the brunt of any problems with head held high, when what we really want to do is ask for help. If it was easier to admit to yourself that a situation is beyond you, then maybe it would be an option taken in preference to opting out.
Stop worrying about the fact she did it, talk to the nearest and dearest in her life and make sure she knows that you are there to listen and help where they can, look at how the situation can be used to be positive.
I'm not saying that you or anyone else have not been helpful before this happened, because as I said when you are conditioned by society not to ask, it is easy to refuse help even when it is offered.
Hope something good comes out of this bad situation and don't forget the kids xx
Stop worrying about the fact she did it, talk to the nearest and dearest in her life and make sure she knows that you are there to listen and help where they can, look at how the situation can be used to be positive.
I'm not saying that you or anyone else have not been helpful before this happened, because as I said when you are conditioned by society not to ask, it is easy to refuse help even when it is offered.
Hope something good comes out of this bad situation and don't forget the kids xx
Casanova
Has anyone ever written or considered writing a do's and don't guide for beginners?
If so where is it and if not why not?
I personally am getting sick and tired of newbies making mistakes at my expense and then saying the same old, 'I'm new I didnt realise' thing.
For instance, recently at a club I am with a 'newbie'. I didn't go with him although we did communicate before the evening. We spend some time together and we have played once, which was great. Later in the evening we are chatting again and he actively asks me to go in a room to play with him. I agree, but ask him to wait so I can put my bodystocking on.
I didn't see him again that night, he disappeared. I wasn't sure what had happened so I sent him a text to see if he was ok and ask what happened. He tells me he went to find out the time and got asked into a room by another person and went with them. He then decided to leave without coming to let me know what had happened.
I explain to him that it isn't really right to dump someone for a better offer after you have actually instigated and asked to play with them and he basically told me I was making a big deal and as swingers what is my problem.
Funny how it has never happened to me before in 4 years if that is the case. Needless to say I was not amused and not really interested in repeating the experience with him.
This is just one of a few experiences I've had with 'newbies' who really don't seem to think beyond their cock and act like the only thing that matters is that they cum.
So... back to the point. I personally am not going to offer to meet or play with newbies again unless there is something I can point them to that can explain the etiquette to them and give them some basic idea of how to treat people both in clubs and during private meets. It could prevent a lot of upset and annoyance for everyone concerned.
If so where is it and if not why not?
I personally am getting sick and tired of newbies making mistakes at my expense and then saying the same old, 'I'm new I didnt realise' thing.
For instance, recently at a club I am with a 'newbie'. I didn't go with him although we did communicate before the evening. We spend some time together and we have played once, which was great. Later in the evening we are chatting again and he actively asks me to go in a room to play with him. I agree, but ask him to wait so I can put my bodystocking on.
I didn't see him again that night, he disappeared. I wasn't sure what had happened so I sent him a text to see if he was ok and ask what happened. He tells me he went to find out the time and got asked into a room by another person and went with them. He then decided to leave without coming to let me know what had happened.
I explain to him that it isn't really right to dump someone for a better offer after you have actually instigated and asked to play with them and he basically told me I was making a big deal and as swingers what is my problem.
Funny how it has never happened to me before in 4 years if that is the case. Needless to say I was not amused and not really interested in repeating the experience with him.
This is just one of a few experiences I've had with 'newbies' who really don't seem to think beyond their cock and act like the only thing that matters is that they cum.
So... back to the point. I personally am not going to offer to meet or play with newbies again unless there is something I can point them to that can explain the etiquette to them and give them some basic idea of how to treat people both in clubs and during private meets. It could prevent a lot of upset and annoyance for everyone concerned.
Casanova
I woke up this morning having a very sexy dream and the more I thought about it the more I looked at the logistics of making it happen.
Some of you might say it has already happened and exists, some might find reason why it wouldn't work, but I would be interested in your input and if it is something that you would go to if it were to happen.
My dream started with me in a room with total strangers. I was feeling apprehensive and I thankfully did have a drink that was calming my nerves a little. The room was full of sexual tension and drooling eyes. Everyone was dressed either smartly or down right sexily. All of a sudden out of the blue every one started to sit down in rows. Each row had another row facing each other. I followed suit even though I didn't know why. I sat myself on the lower row.
Opposite me sat 2 males, but the row was mixed gender. The males politely asked me to take my top off. I looked around to see certain amounts of sexual activity and undressing and with my heart in my mouth did as I was told. I was then asked to kneel forward and unbutton the trousers of both men... the story unfolds and gets rather steamy as you can imagine.
Now having woken up from this dream part of me wished it had been real, but the organiser side of me started to tip in. There would be no reason why couples would have to stay together, it would be up to them to decide if the experience was to be closely shared or a room experience. How would you know if someone was bi or straight? This led me to call it a 'spot party' everyone has to wear a spot. Pink = bi, blue = straight male and red = straight female. That way you can sit yourself opposite someone who is over particular interest to you.
What if you find yourself sat opposite someone you have no sexual interest in at all? Once everyone has sat down. Before the fun would begin there was be a sound, the sound would indicate an opportunity to move from your position in the row to a more agreeable spot. However, having had a chance to drink and chat before hand, most people would have sussed out who they would like to sit by before hand.
The rows were also significant. If you were on a lower row then you were playing a passive role, if you were on an upper row you were playing a controlling role. You can choose if you want to be in control and make requests to the person opposite you, or if you would prefer to be passive and be led. I am quite a passive person sexually and do love to be told what to do, so naturally was on the lower row. Obviously the spots are important here as a controller must respect a persons sexuality and not ask them to perform sexual acts on the wrong gender.
This would be the starting point and if people wanted to move on to a less open area for full play that would be the natural progression, but certainly a very sexy start to any fun. I'm sure the idea could benefit from lots of tweaking, but I am actually interested in making this a reality.
Your thoughts, ideas and interest are welcomed as I would be interested in if it would be viable and the kind of thing other people would be willing to participate in. I've even thought of a good venue for the party.
Your thoughts...?
Some of you might say it has already happened and exists, some might find reason why it wouldn't work, but I would be interested in your input and if it is something that you would go to if it were to happen.
My dream started with me in a room with total strangers. I was feeling apprehensive and I thankfully did have a drink that was calming my nerves a little. The room was full of sexual tension and drooling eyes. Everyone was dressed either smartly or down right sexily. All of a sudden out of the blue every one started to sit down in rows. Each row had another row facing each other. I followed suit even though I didn't know why. I sat myself on the lower row.
Opposite me sat 2 males, but the row was mixed gender. The males politely asked me to take my top off. I looked around to see certain amounts of sexual activity and undressing and with my heart in my mouth did as I was told. I was then asked to kneel forward and unbutton the trousers of both men... the story unfolds and gets rather steamy as you can imagine.
Now having woken up from this dream part of me wished it had been real, but the organiser side of me started to tip in. There would be no reason why couples would have to stay together, it would be up to them to decide if the experience was to be closely shared or a room experience. How would you know if someone was bi or straight? This led me to call it a 'spot party' everyone has to wear a spot. Pink = bi, blue = straight male and red = straight female. That way you can sit yourself opposite someone who is over particular interest to you.
What if you find yourself sat opposite someone you have no sexual interest in at all? Once everyone has sat down. Before the fun would begin there was be a sound, the sound would indicate an opportunity to move from your position in the row to a more agreeable spot. However, having had a chance to drink and chat before hand, most people would have sussed out who they would like to sit by before hand.
The rows were also significant. If you were on a lower row then you were playing a passive role, if you were on an upper row you were playing a controlling role. You can choose if you want to be in control and make requests to the person opposite you, or if you would prefer to be passive and be led. I am quite a passive person sexually and do love to be told what to do, so naturally was on the lower row. Obviously the spots are important here as a controller must respect a persons sexuality and not ask them to perform sexual acts on the wrong gender.
This would be the starting point and if people wanted to move on to a less open area for full play that would be the natural progression, but certainly a very sexy start to any fun. I'm sure the idea could benefit from lots of tweaking, but I am actually interested in making this a reality.
Your thoughts, ideas and interest are welcomed as I would be interested in if it would be viable and the kind of thing other people would be willing to participate in. I've even thought of a good venue for the party.
Your thoughts...?
