I was just wondering what others thought about other people going into a " local room ", and just saying nothing,or turn their cam on, and then find out they are over 100+ miles from from where the local room is.
We tend to spend most of our time in the Kent room because that is where we come from. There is a good base of people in there, and some we have met socially as well. We also go in there as for us that is the best chance of meeting people from our area. There is no point us going into say a Midland room, as that is too far. So my point is if people come into the Kent room, or any other local room and just sit there, are they really interested in meeting people, or just on the site to "perve"? We know that this site caters for most peoples tastes, but we always thought the purpose of swinging was to actually swing, and you can't do that if someone is miles away....can you?
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Not everyone is loking to swing though. It's not a site requirement that you have to be actively seeking a shag.
Some are voyeurs, some are exhibitionists. Some look for people to cam with privately, some just like to chat to open-minded folk.
There are also those people who travel the country a lot with work so may pop into a regional room to see what's on offer.
Then there are people like me who sometimes get a tad bored talking to the natives and go wandering around to see what everyone else is up to.
I also know quite a few people from Munches in other areas so I may pay "their" chatroom a visit from time to time.
As for meets, I've had visits from people from Warrington, Brum and just recently Glasgow so while I can't travel all over, some people obviously can so it's worth having a wander and see what's out there.
Some are voyeurs, some are exhibitionists. Some look for people to cam with privately, some just like to chat to open-minded folk.
There are also those people who travel the country a lot with work so may pop into a regional room to see what's on offer.
Then there are people like me who sometimes get a tad bored talking to the natives and go wandering around to see what everyone else is up to.
I also know quite a few people from Munches in other areas so I may pay "their" chatroom a visit from time to time.
As for meets, I've had visits from people from Warrington, Brum and just recently Glasgow so while I can't travel all over, some people obviously can so it's worth having a wander and see what's out there.
Am sorry but thought it was a Swingers site?
The defenition of swinging is " A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex" or
"A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners".
That to me means that if you belong to a swingers site, you are looking to have sex with am wrong...maybe thats where we are going wrong!! lol
Have discussed this very same arguement many times with others, it was just a topic that I thought people would have thoughts on either way. If people are just looking to chat and not to meet others, then why pick a swingers site to do it on? Whilst it is no doubt true that people will travel vast distances for meets, the vast majority of certainly couples will only want to travel a shortish distance. We would travel say up to 50 miles, but would see no point going into say a Scottish room. But then we are looking for meets, when they come along. lol
The defenition of swinging is " A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex" or
"A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners".
That to me means that if you belong to a swingers site, you are looking to have sex with am wrong...maybe thats where we are going wrong!! lol
Have discussed this very same arguement many times with others, it was just a topic that I thought people would have thoughts on either way. If people are just looking to chat and not to meet others, then why pick a swingers site to do it on? Whilst it is no doubt true that people will travel vast distances for meets, the vast majority of certainly couples will only want to travel a shortish distance. We would travel say up to 50 miles, but would see no point going into say a Scottish room. But then we are looking for meets, when they come along. lol
This site is surely for anyone who wants to be on it.
Maybe we all have an interest in swinging, or else we wouldn't have been drawn to it - but we don't have to be active swingers to be on here - that's not in the site AUP!
When i joined this site, I WAS looking for meets. I'm not at the moment, but I still enjoy the community, the forums and the chatrooms.
Are you suggesting that, because I'm not actively looking to meet, I should do my chatting and forum-ing elsewhere?
If so, hard luck!
Maybe we all have an interest in swinging, or else we wouldn't have been drawn to it - but we don't have to be active swingers to be on here - that's not in the site AUP!
When i joined this site, I WAS looking for meets. I'm not at the moment, but I still enjoy the community, the forums and the chatrooms.
Are you suggesting that, because I'm not actively looking to meet, I should do my chatting and forum-ing elsewhere?
If so, hard luck!
We are in Leicester, have no transport and very doubtful if we will ever get up there yet we visit the scots room more often than most others.
It don't make us none swingers or just want to perve.. because we are very active swingers, its just the room we chose to go in when all we want to do is chat.
We visit this site every day but its not every day we want to swing or arrange meets, sometimes we just like to use it to chat to our friends that we have got to know
Hope this makes sense :lol:
Tony
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I must say i agree with 777. we are a new couple to the scene and this is the first site we have tried.
if we start to have fun on cam its because of the people that are in the room. then word gets about loads of people that you don't know that are a million miles away bombard you with whispers. Like 777 we spend a lot of the time in the kent room and we enjoy seeing the mainly the same people. getting to know them as well meeting etc etc. swinging heaven website i would have thought would be a swinging site not a time wasters site (not saying everyone is). I don't know why but a rating system should be put in place so we know who are genuine swingers, people that just like to chat and cam etc etc. this would make life so much easier. It might make it a better site ?
if we start to have fun on cam its because of the people that are in the room. then word gets about loads of people that you don't know that are a million miles away bombard you with whispers. Like 777 we spend a lot of the time in the kent room and we enjoy seeing the mainly the same people. getting to know them as well meeting etc etc. swinging heaven website i would have thought would be a swinging site not a time wasters site (not saying everyone is). I don't know why but a rating system should be put in place so we know who are genuine swingers, people that just like to chat and cam etc etc. this would make life so much easier. It might make it a better site ?
Sex God
Alot of our friends are way upcountry and are in many different rooms. We go in all of them to chat to them. For instance we are in Cornwall but have travelled many miles for the right meet so it makes sense for us to go in rooms that are not local to us as if we didn't we might not find that special person.
Just because we are in the South West it doesn't mean that the right person for us to meet is here too
Just because we are in the South West it doesn't mean that the right person for us to meet is here too
i'm just trying to find somebody who will cook me a fried egg sandwich.
I go into many of the local rooms, cos as a veteran of something like 40 - 50 munches and socials, I'm owed a pint by people from all over the country. By regularly keeping an eye on them, I'd be alerted if they ever tried to skip the country.
That and people type in a funny accent in my "local" room.
Ian
I go into many of the local rooms, cos as a veteran of something like 40 - 50 munches and socials, I'm owed a pint by people from all over the country. By regularly keeping an eye on them, I'd be alerted if they ever tried to skip the country.
That and people type in a funny accent in my "local" room.
Ian
Quote by Neverdonebefore
I must say i agree with 777. we are a new couple to the scene and this is the first site we have tried.
if we start to have fun on cam its because of the people that are in the room. then word gets about loads of people that you don't know that are a million miles away bombard you with whispers. Like 777 we spend a lot of the time in the kent room and we enjoy seeing the mainly the same people. getting to know them as well meeting etc etc. swinging heaven website i would have thought would be a swinging site not a time wasters site (not saying everyone is). I don't know why but a rating system should be put in place so we know who are genuine swingers, people that just like to chat and cam etc etc. this would make life so much easier. It might make it a better site ?
I might be being over sensitive here - and I apologise, if so - but are you saying in the bolded bit above that non-swinging members are time-wasters?
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
We are in Leicester, have no transport and very doubtful if we will ever get up there yet we visit the scots room more often than most others.
It don't make us none swingers or just want to perve.. because we are very active swingers, its just the room we chose to go in when all we want to do is chat.
We visit this site every day but its not every day we want to swing or arrange meets, sometimes we just like to use it to chat to our friends that we have got to know
Hope this makes sense :lol:
Tony
The bit in bold sums up my thoughts on the subject :thumbup:.
a ratings system is open to abuse, and could get rather personal, for instance, imagine if me and mr bone arranged to meet with a person or couples, and halfway through the pre shag drinks, we get a call that we are needed at home for one of the kids, and we go home......surely then we could be classed as time wasters?
And with a rating system, or verification system (particularly one that you can leave comments on) the other person/couple could basically say what they wanted beacuse they felt miffed they didnt get a shag that night.
I think that everyone has the right to be welcomed on here, and to be here for whatever reason they so chose, whether it be sex withing the loving confines of a strong relationship, looking for a quickie, looking for a life partner, chatting and socialising or cheating on their partner.
These are all reasons why people choose to come on here, they pay their money just like everyone else, why not just come here to chat and watch cam shows, Id rather watch real people at it than plastic barbies and kens on false porn films. It doesnt mean Im not genuine.
I love the social aspect on here, and I love making friends too, We dont have many meets, and TBH I dont give a flying fig beacuse the laugh i have with the people I chat to far outweighs that, and whereelse could you talk freely about the sort of stuff that people do talk about on here, and no-one raises and eyebrow??
**and breathe.... **
And with a rating system, or verification system (particularly one that you can leave comments on) the other person/couple could basically say what they wanted beacuse they felt miffed they didnt get a shag that night.
I think that everyone has the right to be welcomed on here, and to be here for whatever reason they so chose, whether it be sex withing the loving confines of a strong relationship, looking for a quickie, looking for a life partner, chatting and socialising or cheating on their partner.
These are all reasons why people choose to come on here, they pay their money just like everyone else, why not just come here to chat and watch cam shows, Id rather watch real people at it than plastic barbies and kens on false porn films. It doesnt mean Im not genuine.
I love the social aspect on here, and I love making friends too, We dont have many meets, and TBH I dont give a flying fig beacuse the laugh i have with the people I chat to far outweighs that, and whereelse could you talk freely about the sort of stuff that people do talk about on here, and no-one raises and eyebrow??
**and breathe....
** Quote by Bonedigger
a ratings system is open to abuse, and could get rather personal, for instance, imagine if me and mr bone arranged to meet with a person or couples, and halfway through the pre shag drinks, we get a call that we are needed at home for one of the kids, and we go home......surely then we could be classed as time wasters?
And with a rating system, or verification system (particularly one that you can leave comments on) the other person/couple could basically say what they wanted beacuse they felt miffed they didnt get a shag that night.
I think that everyone has the right to be welcomed on here, and to be here for whatever reason they so chose, whether it be sex withing the loving confines of a strong relationship, looking for a quickie, looking for a life partner, chatting and socialising or cheating on their partner.
These are all reasons why people choose to come on here, they pay their money just like everyone else, why not just come here to chat and watch cam shows, Id rather watch real people at it than plastic barbies and kens on false porn films. It doesnt mean Im not genuine.
I love the social aspect on here, and I love making friends too, We dont have many meets, and TBH I dont give a flying fig beacuse the laugh i have with the people I chat to far outweighs that, and whereelse could you talk freely about the sort of stuff that people do talk about on here, and no-one raises and eyebrow??
**and breathe....
:thumbup: well said mrs B
Quote by lyns
a ratings system is open to abuse, and could get rather personal, for instance, imagine if me and mr bone arranged to meet with a person or couples, and halfway through the pre shag drinks, we get a call that we are needed at home for one of the kids, and we go home......surely then we could be classed as time wasters?
And with a rating system, or verification system (particularly one that you can leave comments on) the other person/couple could basically say what they wanted beacuse they felt miffed they didnt get a shag that night.
I think that everyone has the right to be welcomed on here, and to be here for whatever reason they so chose, whether it be sex withing the loving confines of a strong relationship, looking for a quickie, looking for a life partner, chatting and socialising or cheating on their partner.
These are all reasons why people choose to come on here, they pay their money just like everyone else, why not just come here to chat and watch cam shows, Id rather watch real people at it than plastic barbies and kens on false porn films. It doesnt mean Im not genuine.
I love the social aspect on here, and I love making friends too, We dont have many meets, and TBH I dont give a flying fig beacuse the laugh i have with the people I chat to far outweighs that, and whereelse could you talk freely about the sort of stuff that people do talk about on here, and no-one raises and eyebrow??
**and breathe....
:thumbup: well said mrs B
Seconded :thumbup:
Quote by Cherrytree
a ratings system is open to abuse, and could get rather personal, for instance, imagine if me and mr bone arranged to meet with a person or couples, and halfway through the pre shag drinks, we get a call that we are needed at home for one of the kids, and we go home......surely then we could be classed as time wasters?
And with a rating system, or verification system (particularly one that you can leave comments on) the other person/couple could basically say what they wanted beacuse they felt miffed they didnt get a shag that night.
I think that everyone has the right to be welcomed on here, and to be here for whatever reason they so chose, whether it be sex withing the loving confines of a strong relationship, looking for a quickie, looking for a life partner, chatting and socialising or cheating on their partner.
These are all reasons why people choose to come on here, they pay their money just like everyone else, why not just come here to chat and watch cam shows, Id rather watch real people at it than plastic barbies and kens on false porn films. It doesnt mean Im not genuine.
I love the social aspect on here, and I love making friends too, We dont have many meets, and TBH I dont give a flying fig beacuse the laugh i have with the people I chat to far outweighs that, and whereelse could you talk freely about the sort of stuff that people do talk about on here, and no-one raises and eyebrow??
**and breathe....
:thumbup: well said mrs B
Seconded :thumbup:
Thirded :thumbup:
:doh: Fuck me I thought a chatroom was just that..... A CHAT room!!
Where does it say in the rules that you have to go in a room that is in your area and arrange a meet??
I quite like to skip from room to room looking for people that I have met at munches/socials etc, just to catch up and see how they are....
Not everyone is looking for a shag every minute of the day
Where does it say in the rules that you have to go in a room that is in your area and arrange a meet??
I quite like to skip from room to room looking for people that I have met at munches/socials etc, just to catch up and see how they are....
Not everyone is looking for a shag every minute of the day
Sex God
Quote by Calista
a ratings system is open to abuse, and could get rather personal, for instance, imagine if me and mr bone arranged to meet with a person or couples, and halfway through the pre shag drinks, we get a call that we are needed at home for one of the kids, and we go home......surely then we could be classed as time wasters?
And with a rating system, or verification system (particularly one that you can leave comments on) the other person/couple could basically say what they wanted beacuse they felt miffed they didnt get a shag that night.
I think that everyone has the right to be welcomed on here, and to be here for whatever reason they so chose, whether it be sex withing the loving confines of a strong relationship, looking for a quickie, looking for a life partner, chatting and socialising or cheating on their partner.
These are all reasons why people choose to come on here, they pay their money just like everyone else, why not just come here to chat and watch cam shows, Id rather watch real people at it than plastic barbies and kens on false porn films. It doesnt mean Im not genuine.
I love the social aspect on here, and I love making friends too, We dont have many meets, and TBH I dont give a flying fig beacuse the laugh i have with the people I chat to far outweighs that, and whereelse could you talk freely about the sort of stuff that people do talk about on here, and no-one raises and eyebrow??
**and breathe....
:thumbup: well said mrs B
Seconded :thumbup:
Thirded :thumbup:
Fourthed :thumbup:
If there is such a word which I very much doubt
But I agree :lol: 
Sex God
Quote by Calista
a ratings system is open to abuse, and could get rather personal, for instance, imagine if me and mr bone arranged to meet with a person or couples, and halfway through the pre shag drinks, we get a call that we are needed at home for one of the kids, and we go home......surely then we could be classed as time wasters?
And with a rating system, or verification system (particularly one that you can leave comments on) the other person/couple could basically say what they wanted beacuse they felt miffed they didnt get a shag that night.
I think that everyone has the right to be welcomed on here, and to be here for whatever reason they so chose, whether it be sex withing the loving confines of a strong relationship, looking for a quickie, looking for a life partner, chatting and socialising or cheating on their partner.
These are all reasons why people choose to come on here, they pay their money just like everyone else, why not just come here to chat and watch cam shows, Id rather watch real people at it than plastic barbies and kens on false porn films. It doesnt mean Im not genuine.
I love the social aspect on here, and I love making friends too, We dont have many meets, and TBH I dont give a flying fig beacuse the laugh i have with the people I chat to far outweighs that, and whereelse could you talk freely about the sort of stuff that people do talk about on here, and no-one raises and eyebrow??
**and breathe....
:thumbup: well said mrs B
Seconded :thumbup:
Thirded :thumbup:
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Absolutely right! I couldn't agree more!
I agree with bonedigger completely, apart from a vast ammount of people have paid NO money to join the site. Like us we are long standing memebers of Swinging Heaven, and paid no money to join. The people that have come on this site who have paid money, are in my opinion less likely to be a timewaster, which if we are all honest there are a lot of on this site!
We all know people who have been let down, and not for genuine reasons either. The " feedback " system has been discussed many times on the Forum, with members views really undecided if it is a good idea or not. I am fully aware that people come on this site for many reasons, and am fully aware of the AUP and all the rules.
We are not, contrary to some peoples replies, looking for meets every day of the week,but we feel the best way for us to meet people, is in our local room! That is all the original point was about, but it seems to have strayed somewhat from also come on here to chat to friends that we have met, and a lot we have not met which we enjoy greatly. All my point was is that we have a filled out profile, pictures which are genuine, and with the right people looking to swing. What's wrong with that?
Think this thread has now run it's course. Lol x
We all know people who have been let down, and not for genuine reasons either. The " feedback " system has been discussed many times on the Forum, with members views really undecided if it is a good idea or not. I am fully aware that people come on this site for many reasons, and am fully aware of the AUP and all the rules.
We are not, contrary to some peoples replies, looking for meets every day of the week,but we feel the best way for us to meet people, is in our local room! That is all the original point was about, but it seems to have strayed somewhat from also come on here to chat to friends that we have met, and a lot we have not met which we enjoy greatly. All my point was is that we have a filled out profile, pictures which are genuine, and with the right people looking to swing. What's wrong with that?
Think this thread has now run it's course. Lol x
Sex God
Quote by kentswingers777
The people that have come on this site who have paid money, are in my opinion less likely to be a timewaster,
Do you have any basis for this or is it just early morning rubbish you have spouted
: :?: And what is your basis for saying I am talking rubbish? Or is it the same as me, an opinion? There is a very subtle difference between getting some thing for nothing, and having to pay for something. I am entitled to an opinion, the same as others. I am not going to be drawn into an arguement here as it is going away from my original question, which is not what I am looking for.
Sex God
So you can just make a sweeping statement and not have to justify it because it goes away from the original question
There are a lot of people who have been here since way back when the site first started (myself included despite what my join date says) and to be honest if they were timewasters do you really think they would still be here ????
Since the site became a pay site the timewaster element has increased as a lot of people believe that being a pay site makes it a certainty to get a shag....
There are a lot of people who have been here since way back when the site first started (myself included despite what my join date says) and to be honest if they were timewasters do you really think they would still be here ????
Since the site became a pay site the timewaster element has increased as a lot of people believe that being a pay site makes it a certainty to get a shag....
Sex God
Quote by Mallock2006
So you can just make a sweeping statement and not have to justify it because it goes away from the original question
There are a lot of people who have been here since way back when the site first started (myself included despite what my join date says) and to be honest if they were timewasters do you really think they would still be here ????
Since the site became a pay site the timewaster element has increased as a lot of people believe that being a pay site makes it a certainty to get a shag....
:thumbup:
Well said I've noticed this too! The mood has changed a little, because people have paid some treat it like a cattle market and forget that there's a friendship element too.
Sex God
Quote by Bonedigger
mmmmoooooooooooooooo :rotflamo:
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