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Straight Male, 57
Straight Female, 56
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Quote by Lion_Man
I'm not comvinced that my profile or advert are helping.
Being as you are a single male who according to your advert can't accomodate, that in itself rings warning bells to many of the available ladies I've spoken to on this site.
Many of the people who fall into this category (and i'm not saying you do) are usually living with another woman. Sometimes a gf, sometimes their mother
There are also a number of clubs that don't have many vacancies for single blokes in their membership list. So it may sound if you want to take a 'fb' to a club you are really only using them to open a door which may be closed to you without them
Quote by Paul80
Over the last couple of months 2 good swinging friends have not continued there SH accounts. Is this a sign of whats to come on SH as a result of the recession or is it becoming overloaded with men?
Did they make a thread and go 'woo hoo over here, we're leaving' - if that was the case, they'll be back any day now.
If they just did a runner, then it's more likely to be a long term issue.
Quote by starlightcouple
I think it much better if a select committee of the general public were allowed to be properly involved in who gets what and why.
oh please nooooooooooooooooooo
pop factor
skateyfactor :banghead: danceyfactor :banghead: i'macelebrityfactor :banghead: even cakeyfactor did my crust. now gongfactor the lines are closed and simon cowell will still get rich.
Personally speaking, I believe that the honours are just that. An honour to receive one. It's not a given right. How many 'pop stars' change their careers into general do-gooders and then receive an honour. I saw Mr Barlow's coming six months before it was announced....
There should be a maximum amount offered each year, and if in certain years there are more prospective candidates than gongs, then yes somebody should go without. The real world doesn't wrap everybody up in cotton wool.
In my current line of work / level of sporting prowess, I would never expect to gain any honour over and above my next pay check. But if those that do receive one aspire to make the country better, then long may they continue.
Quote by starlightcouple
What gives anyone the right to tell others how to spend whatever money they have
Maybe paying many thousands of pounds a year in tax to fund a benefit system gives somebody the right
At one point, I was working 60 hours a week to provide for my family. We had very little that would be classed as luxuries, but the children always had a meal on the table, and always had clean clothes (well til they put them on and went bog jumping
).The family in the house next door didn't work. They had sky tv, went on foreign holidays, lived on takeaways etc etc.
Didn't seem very fair to me. Then I was made redundant. My income increased by over £3000 per year. Suddenly by sitting on my ass all day I could afford the luxuries that working full time could not fund.
People were jumping through hoops to hand us money from all sorts of establishments. It was all too easy. I could have stamped my feet and even more would have fell out of the money tree.
Personal pride got me back into full time employment, and yes, my money dropped back to normal levels and I brought home less money than when I was in between jobs.
I would support this policy change for several reasons.
Firstly I am currently funding through the taxes that I pay many of the luxuries afforded to some of the people on benefits. I galls me that I work hard to provide for my family, and yet many others (not all) can just sit back and do nothing all day and stil have more than myself.
I've also spent several sessions unemployed and claiming benefits whilst looking for gainful employment. I was made redundant four times in seven years! Each time I went to the job centre to sign on, there would be a group of people showing off their £100 trainers, chav babies in Ugg boots that would be outgrown in days. All talking on their latest spec mobile phones about how much they spent on beer the previous day.
Local areas where there is a high proportion of unemployment / benefit claiming are easily spotted by the high performance cars and satellite dishes.
By restricting the benefits to 'everyday essentials' would ensure that there was always a meal on the table, and maybe even reduce the overall cost of benefits. Would that mean less tax for me? I live in hope.
You might even find some people would then find work if that was the only way to regain life's luxuries
Firstly I am currently funding through the taxes that I pay many of the luxuries afforded to some of the people on benefits. I galls me that I work hard to provide for my family, and yet many others (not all) can just sit back and do nothing all day and stil have more than myself.
I've also spent several sessions unemployed and claiming benefits whilst looking for gainful employment. I was made redundant four times in seven years! Each time I went to the job centre to sign on, there would be a group of people showing off their £100 trainers, chav babies in Ugg boots that would be outgrown in days. All talking on their latest spec mobile phones about how much they spent on beer the previous day.
Local areas where there is a high proportion of unemployment / benefit claiming are easily spotted by the high performance cars and satellite dishes.
By restricting the benefits to 'everyday essentials' would ensure that there was always a meal on the table, and maybe even reduce the overall cost of benefits. Would that mean less tax for me? I live in hope.
You might even find some people would then find work if that was the only way to regain life's luxuries
Quote by Ste-n-Kez
Your options ate to upgrade to fibre upgrade or consider a dongle. I would go for the fibre tbh.
Wanting fibre and being able to choose fibre are at different ends of the park.....
For several years I've wanted to improve my 'less than 3mb' adsl. No matter how much I stamped my feet, I had no possibility of faster connection.
In October, I was given the option of BT infinity, and I placed my order within the hour.
What frustrates me the most is that I live in one of the largest cities in England. However we seem to have been ignored on the 4G mobile service too. Apparantly towns on the south coast full of students and sailors have been given priority.
Yet we still have the TV adverts and billboards trying to sell us something we can't have.
Quote by Lizaleanrob
it looks like ukip's popularity is growing
what part of their policies do you think are becoming popular with the British voter ?
It may just be possible that the popularity is with the 'English' voters rather than British ones. (Yes there is a difference).
I am on my local council's advice team. I am sent emails and questionnaires almost daily when they want opinions of afew rather than the masses. The demographic questions at the end of their surveys did not contain English. It did however specify around twenty non European based countries for ethnicity. There's racism for you :sad:
It now contains English and I no longer have to select 'other'.
Looking at my current circumstances - fully time employed, mortgaged, parent, husband. paying more than my fair share of tax, car owner etc etc, the main parties don't seem to be working for my benefit. All they seem to want me to do is pay even more to help others.
I am not 'party loyal' I have over time voted for whichever party suggests they will offer me more help than the others. As my circumstances change, so may my 'X'.
Quote by Too Hot
Missed this one earlier this month while we were all arguing about Bradley Wiggins:
A cross-party inquiry into how to get Britain cycling was launched by Conservative, Labour and Liberal Democrat MPs in Westminster today.
The report is due to be presented to Parliament in April 2013.
My wish list:
Cycle lanes extended to one third of the road width
£60 fine for stopping or parking in a cycle lane
VAT off bicycles & safety gear
Bring it on.....
Cyclists who wish to use the road pay for the roads. (Sliding scale based on the gross weight of the cyclist and their bike?).
Cyclists who choose to endanger the public and ride on the pavements when the roads become blocked have their bikes crushed. And receive a fine from the courts.
Cyclists who fail to abide by the highway code receive a fine from the courts.
There are plenty of parks and official cycle paths for those wish to go for a ride. And for those who don't wish to get wet - most gyms have bikes too.
Sorry I'm not enthusiastic about this proposal.
Quote by Ben_Minx
I acknowledge your fears toots.
I think they are groundless.
Inserts large amount of ground....
Way back then, most of the phone numbers that were posted were unexpecting individuals that had never heard of this site. Similar story for email addresses. Links were for photo's that would never main approval for visibility on the site.
Trolling of links - over and over. And that was when we didn't have a room or a 'i'm a single bloke can i email you a picture of somebody else's wife' room.
My personal opinion (which may well vary from the opinion of admin) is that there most certainly are a number of individuals who could be trusted to send acceptable links (just once) to an appreciative audience. However there are a great number of spoons out there who are totally incapable of reading or abiding by the site rules.
I also have a fear that there are people on here who don't keep this part of their life separate from their family or work colleagues. Take for instance a large social networking site. There are a number of people who would post links from there. Using the friends of friends of friends searching, yes you probably will find me. Thus my family and real life friends.
I remember one such link that was posted. When I met the lady at a social, I told her that within a couple of minutes of the posting, I knew her full name, home address, home phone number, where she worked, her husband's name (oops that bit didn't go down well). I even mentioned to her that her 'SH' age was a little bit of a white lie
For now I'd prefer keeping things as they are.
Quote by HnS
Only other link that perhaps might be considered allowed is perhaps for those experiencing Cam issues, is the one for
In my experience that a single person suffers cam issues and not a whole room.
Wouldn't help like this be better in a whisper
Otherwise you could perhaps find people with working cams and not much I.T. knowledge clicking the link and stuffing things up. Quite often with couples, there is only one who knows what they are doing and the other who would click on the link 'thinking' it would help. 
not been anywhere Quote by Xtasia
Update on parking for you all if needed.
Turning off the M5 at Junction 1, take the exit signposted West Bromwich Town Centre. After 3/4 mile you will come to some traffic lights, go straight over these. Take the next left into George Street, travel 150 yards down the road and turn right into a Private Car Park, where John will direct you to secure parking for the evening. (Cost is £1 payable on parking, donation to temple).
I parked in the pay and display carpark in George Street that is under the control of Sandwell Council. After 6pm its free. When I started to walk to the club, I was told that it was 'owned by the conference centre' and I would get clamped. So I moved to the above mentioned carpark and paid my £1. I read the large 'T&Cs' sign in the carpark, and have also since checked the Sandwell Council website. Neither of these mention anything about clamping or the conference centre. I will phone Sandwell Council on Monday to confirm that free parking is actually available in the evenings.
The pound is irrelevant, it's just a matter of principles. :neutral:
That aside, the changes in the club look very promising. One of my dislikes of the previous club layout was any flat surface had a sign bolted to it saying what could or could not be done there. Most of these have now been removed :thumbup: The wattage of the lightbulbs have been increased, so you can actually see whats around you now. Another big :thumbup:
The changes in what was the couples room. big :thumbup: I didn't actually notice the ceiling mirrors until they were pointed out to me. Not sure if they were in every room, or not. But should I venture into a room and want some privacy, I would certainly now look upwards.
Not sure about the grope box being out in the smoking area. :-? I'm not a smoker, and can only hold my breath for a couple of minutes. (even less if actually inside the box
)Overall, a definate improvement on before, and look forward to going again soon....
Quote by foxylady2209
Doesn't that make one of them a lie? You're either single or you're not. :dunno
Just thinking semantics here, no accusations implied or intended.
The account can be a single or a couple.
The status within any account can be single, with somebody, married etc.
So it's possible for a single female account to be classed as married and it's no lie
Quote by nucouple
Hi all you lovely people.......our question is this .....does it annoy you when people dont put in their profile the age range of people they wish to meet ?
Having said that, when we checked our profile this is something we failed to do.
Would you prefer it if peeps did this or not ? Nucouple xxx
When I had searchable criteria in my profile, I used to get regular pm's from random people from the wrong side of the country with nothing in common just trying their luck. Since I stripped my profile down to the bare minimum and removed any useful info, the chancers have stopped mailing me.
Those good people I've met in the chatrooms or in socials know all about me, and what I'm here for. (Although some may wish they didn't).
Something to be said for good old fashioned interaction.
Quote by YummyRob
I've just seen a room called "Are these rooms all shit or is it just us?"
Obvious troll?
I was in that room for an hour or so, and it was possibly the best room I've been in for ages.....
Nobody trying to swap photos on msn of a person who probably doesn't know the trade is happening.
No rooms full of 'hiya xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx' and nothing else.
There wasn't even people thinking that the top 'must be making the owner warm' while they were on cam.
Real chat, people joining in the various conversations, and I even bumped into somebody who met me at the 1st Manchester Munch back in 2003 / 04 (happy to be corrected when it was).
If I see it again, I'll pop in :thumbup:
Quote by PamelaD
Have single men become lazy?
Or have others become more demanding
Quote by PamelaD
Sooooo many dont turn up for meets when offered it
The site has over a million members. Some are swingers, some are wife swappers (or couples that swing) some are here for a cheap source of porn. Others are just here for the chase, waiting for the confirmation of a meet before backing off and smugly saying to themselves, 'yup, i've still got it'. I know people here in all these pigeon holes.
Quote by PamelaD
, dont meet up for socials
When the munch scene started here in 2003, there was pretty much a 100% attendance. Sure occasionally somebody had a sickness, or a busted car, but if people said they would come they pretty much did. Then the socials started. Less strict rules, maybe to help allow those not on site to come... I've seen in the chatrooms that people who have not put their names down for a specific event be 'blackballed'. So some of the lists are populated with members who want to remain in the clique. I've also known first timers drive over 100 miles, and crap themselves in the carpark of the event for a couple of hours before driving home again.
Quote by PamelaD
If I had a pound for every time I've heard a Single guy say he fantastises about a three some etc...
One word sums up that statement.
Every time I watch Man v Food I think I'm capable of eating a burger the size of a dustbin. Put one in front of me, I'd not even know where to start.
Quote by PamelaD
They are just downright lazy and cant be asked to go the extra mile to have regular great sex instead of sporadic mediocre?
Initial Contact
Mutual Interest
Arrangement
Meeting
I can't think what else there could be unless it's trips to the theatre, or sunday lunch with the inlaws. Maybe bombarding each other with hourly text messages? If any of these happened to me, The warning bells would sound very loudly and I'd run a mile.....
I would even go as far as to suggest that the frequency of an event would not in my eyes bear any relation to quality. They are both defined by separate criteria. Unless of course we are discussing pizza :-)
Quote by Toots
500k or face on a stamp? Tough call that *thinks*
Ok, stamp it is.
You have to bear in mind that until recently people couldn't appear on British Stamps unless they were the monarch, or they were deceased. There were a couple of unidentifiable blobs, like the tribute to Freddie Mercury had shadowy figures behind him who were the other members of Queen. Sir Francis Chicester appeared badly drawn in 1967.
So, I'll guess that there are loads of people with a nice wedge of cash, but not many who appear on their own stamp.
To quote Bill Gates
"I can understand wanting to have a million dollars, but once you get beyond that, I have to tell you, it's the same hamburger'.
