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Johgar12jun
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Male, 64
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Hi PandAtoo.
I think you guys are just teasing me. We have spoken before in the chat room, and I have you on my "friends" list so I can see when you next post about a Chams visit, BUT for the past 4 dates I have had an unavoidable appointment or meeting thats meant I have not been able to attend. Yet again, on the 26th I have a meeting "up North" late afternoon, and its the only one of the week I cannot move.
One day, I will be able to visit when you are in, and introduce myself.
I visited Chams this past Wednesday afternoon with a phuckbuddy friend of mine who I know from Cupids. It was a really nice relaxed afternoon, and although its a bit of a drive, I do enjoy my occassional times (usually Monday nights) at Chams.
Have fun.
I think you guys are just teasing me. We have spoken before in the chat room, and I have you on my "friends" list so I can see when you next post about a Chams visit, BUT for the past 4 dates I have had an unavoidable appointment or meeting thats meant I have not been able to attend. Yet again, on the 26th I have a meeting "up North" late afternoon, and its the only one of the week I cannot move.
One day, I will be able to visit when you are in, and introduce myself.
I visited Chams this past Wednesday afternoon with a phuckbuddy friend of mine who I know from Cupids. It was a really nice relaxed afternoon, and although its a bit of a drive, I do enjoy my occassional times (usually Monday nights) at Chams.
Have fun.
Hi PandAtoo.
I think you guys are just teasing me. We have spoken before in the chat room, and I have you on my "friends" list so I can see when you next post about a Chams visit, BUT for the past 4 dates I have had an unavoidable appointment or meeting thats meant I have not been able to attend. Yet again, on the 26th I have a meeting "up North" late afternoon, and its the only one of the week I cannot move.
One day, I will be able to visit when you are in, and introduce myself.
I visited Chams this past Wednesday afternoon with a phuckbuddy friend of mine who I know from Cupids. It was a really nice relaxed afternoon, and although its a bit of a drive, I do enjoy my occassional times (usually Monday nights) at Chams.
Have fun.
I think you guys are just teasing me. We have spoken before in the chat room, and I have you on my "friends" list so I can see when you next post about a Chams visit, BUT for the past 4 dates I have had an unavoidable appointment or meeting thats meant I have not been able to attend. Yet again, on the 26th I have a meeting "up North" late afternoon, and its the only one of the week I cannot move.
One day, I will be able to visit when you are in, and introduce myself.
I visited Chams this past Wednesday afternoon with a phuckbuddy friend of mine who I know from Cupids. It was a really nice relaxed afternoon, and although its a bit of a drive, I do enjoy my occassional times (usually Monday nights) at Chams.
Have fun.
Hi,
I am interested in the same question. I am meeting up with a fuckbuddy friend on Wednesday lunchtime and we fancy driving down to Chams to check out the afternoon session. I have been as as single a few afternoons but not on a Wednesday since the greedy girls tag was attached to it. We are very familiar with the Cupids afternoon scene.
We may see you there.
I am interested in the same question. I am meeting up with a fuckbuddy friend on Wednesday lunchtime and we fancy driving down to Chams to check out the afternoon session. I have been as as single a few afternoons but not on a Wednesday since the greedy girls tag was attached to it. We are very familiar with the Cupids afternoon scene.
We may see you there.
Hi,
I am interested in the same question. I am meeting up with a fuckbuddy friend on Wednesday lunchtime and we fancy driving down to Chams to check out the afternoon session. I have been as as single a few afternoons but not on a Wednesday since the greedy girls tag was attached to it. We are very familiar with the Cupids afternoon scene.
We may see you there.
I am interested in the same question. I am meeting up with a fuckbuddy friend on Wednesday lunchtime and we fancy driving down to Chams to check out the afternoon session. I have been as as single a few afternoons but not on a Wednesday since the greedy girls tag was attached to it. We are very familiar with the Cupids afternoon scene.
We may see you there.
As a single guy, admittedly one who meets people at clubs, rather than by replying to Ads, I’ve got to agree with the majority of responders on here. If there’s no physical attraction, it just isn’t going to happen, and no-one should need to even consider apologising for taking a decision not to continue the contact if its not right.
Unfortunately the post doesn’t even get an intellectual debate going, because as soon as the phrase " If a guy has the tackle, then whats the problem" appeared we all realised that heres someone with no clue as to why he is getting nowhere, when its clear to everyone else exactly why he isnt succeeeding, and i guess with that attitude, it isnt just down to looks.
Unfortunately the post doesn’t even get an intellectual debate going, because as soon as the phrase " If a guy has the tackle, then whats the problem" appeared we all realised that heres someone with no clue as to why he is getting nowhere, when its clear to everyone else exactly why he isnt succeeeding, and i guess with that attitude, it isnt just down to looks.
Speaking as a single meself, I think its not really possible to give you a definitive answer. What is good for one person, doesnt suit another. Also, a good buzzing active atmosphere at a club one night can be completely different another.
Ive visited Partners, Adam & Eves, I used to visit Liaisons quite often. I still get to Chameleons whenever I can. Now Im a regular (daytime) at Cupids, which is my favourite, and the busiest of that bunch, at least when I have attended.
One good recommendation, given your proximity to it, is Infusion in Blackpool. It is still finding its feet and is generally quite quiet but as a single has the following advantages:
1. Its quiteish, so the times ive been there with my F-Buddy, the few single guys in have been outnumbered by the couples and they have had the opportunity to say hello, and make some form of conversation, ,making it quite easy for them to get involved in our playing.
2. Theres stuff to do as a single without sitting around looking like a lurker or desperate tw%t, which is the big mistake many singles make. Plenty of chance to use the pool, or sit at the bar, or lounge in the jacuzzi, and because these areas are open plan, still be within the central hub of the club. No need to follow couples everywhere all night long.
3. Its a nice place, clean, well laid out & great facilities.
4. Singles prices are OK.
5. The owners are very friendly and welcoming people.
I dont go as a single because its a 150 mile round trip and the day is my playtime, so Cupids is perfect for me.
As another member suggests, read the posts, take them at face value, then just go somewhere & see.
Ive visited Partners, Adam & Eves, I used to visit Liaisons quite often. I still get to Chameleons whenever I can. Now Im a regular (daytime) at Cupids, which is my favourite, and the busiest of that bunch, at least when I have attended.
One good recommendation, given your proximity to it, is Infusion in Blackpool. It is still finding its feet and is generally quite quiet but as a single has the following advantages:
1. Its quiteish, so the times ive been there with my F-Buddy, the few single guys in have been outnumbered by the couples and they have had the opportunity to say hello, and make some form of conversation, ,making it quite easy for them to get involved in our playing.
2. Theres stuff to do as a single without sitting around looking like a lurker or desperate tw%t, which is the big mistake many singles make. Plenty of chance to use the pool, or sit at the bar, or lounge in the jacuzzi, and because these areas are open plan, still be within the central hub of the club. No need to follow couples everywhere all night long.
3. Its a nice place, clean, well laid out & great facilities.
4. Singles prices are OK.
5. The owners are very friendly and welcoming people.
I dont go as a single because its a 150 mile round trip and the day is my playtime, so Cupids is perfect for me.
As another member suggests, read the posts, take them at face value, then just go somewhere & see.
Arent we all?
I guess the problem here is, if you are asking the guys who go in the afternoons, how many are going to reply & say "yes go on such & such a day, its great" and have yet more competition to deal with? As for the coples and single girls who go, they dont really need to drum up more interest, they already have plenty.
Try it. You'll like it.
I guess the problem here is, if you are asking the guys who go in the afternoons, how many are going to reply & say "yes go on such & such a day, its great" and have yet more competition to deal with? As for the coples and single girls who go, they dont really need to drum up more interest, they already have plenty.
Try it. You'll like it.
Im with Da69ve & NN1 on this one. I just cannot get really into the sex unless there is kissing. I find it as much a part of the experience as the touching & the f%4king. Agree with NN1, theres intimacy, theres emotion & then theres out & out tongue twisting tonsil tickling kissing which is all to do with the pure lust of the situation & nothing more. Personally, I see no point in interaction unless theres some attraction.
I guess everyone has their own rules that others find inconsistent. For instance my F-Buddy loves giving oral to another woman, but dislikes receiving it, but she loves receiving from a guy.
Jointly we also have a rule in swing clubs of "No private rooms". Were happy to play with a wide variety of people, or one of us watch the other playing, but we do it in the open areas & wont go to locked rooms. Partly an exhibitionist thing (e.g. last night in Chams) but mainly just one of those unexplainable not getting emotionally involved mechanisms we have adopted.
I guess everyone has their own rules that others find inconsistent. For instance my F-Buddy loves giving oral to another woman, but dislikes receiving it, but she loves receiving from a guy.
Jointly we also have a rule in swing clubs of "No private rooms". Were happy to play with a wide variety of people, or one of us watch the other playing, but we do it in the open areas & wont go to locked rooms. Partly an exhibitionist thing (e.g. last night in Chams) but mainly just one of those unexplainable not getting emotionally involved mechanisms we have adopted.
Hi,
Anyone visiting this Monday? My f-buddy & I will be making another visit as we enjoyed the last one so much a few weeks ago. Look forward to saying hello to those of you off this site who we met last time. Going to get down much earlier this week so we dont miss any of the action.
Were an outgoing exhibitionist couple who love to play out in the open areas and enjoy the attention of watchers and active participants of all sexes.
Bi for now.
Him&Her
Anyone visiting this Monday? My f-buddy & I will be making another visit as we enjoyed the last one so much a few weeks ago. Look forward to saying hello to those of you off this site who we met last time. Going to get down much earlier this week so we dont miss any of the action.
Were an outgoing exhibitionist couple who love to play out in the open areas and enjoy the attention of watchers and active participants of all sexes.
Bi for now.
Him&Her
I am persuading my f-buddy partner to come along to Infusion with me to try out either one Wednesday or Thursday, definately a midweek night. We enjoy both the mixed and couples only club nights equally.
We know week nights are always quite variable at any club but the question is the usual one. Are there a reasonable number and variety of people about on either night to create a decent atmosphere?
We tend to be quite an exhibitionist couple who love being watched playing, before inviting others to join in. We always avoid playing in rooms behind closed doors. Its the reason the big pool area appeals at this club, judging from info on the website it looks a good play area.
We know week nights are always quite variable at any club but the question is the usual one. Are there a reasonable number and variety of people about on either night to create a decent atmosphere?
We tend to be quite an exhibitionist couple who love being watched playing, before inviting others to join in. We always avoid playing in rooms behind closed doors. Its the reason the big pool area appeals at this club, judging from info on the website it looks a good play area.
Yes NN1 Ive noticed a drop off as someone who only visits every couple of months. Obviously there was the reduction in numbers when the Monday membership thing was introduced but after that there were cracking nights with lots of people around & a very active club. Now its much more low key. Thats not to say it still isnt good & Chams main "problem" is that its such a big place that people can spread out very thinly & it appears empty.
So come on Forum members, get down there on a Monday. You know you want to!!
So come on Forum members, get down there on a Monday. You know you want to!!
Hi to any forum visitors who were down at Chameleons this last Monday. It was the first time my f@$k-buddy partner had attended with me & it was her first Chams Bi Night experience. The club seemed quite quiet although we did arrive after just as a few seemed to be leaving. Great night, great time & my partner was very complimentary on how the guys were all well behaved and asked before just pushing in to try play.
First time I had seen the sun terrace, so it was a warm night & we used it to the full.
We hope to be back very soon.
First time I had seen the sun terrace, so it was a warm night & we used it to the full.
We hope to be back very soon.
My F-Buddy tried this on me some time back when she bought herself a new strap-on & I just happened to be the only guy who didnt say no. Found it a real turn on, if a little painful at the very beginning. Once its in its a great sensation. She did me over the pool table at a Swing Club. Never really fancied a guy doing me though. Nowt against it, & I visit the Bi nights at Chameleons now again, but not done the guy A stuff.
Next time were down at Chams my partner is on the look out for guys to bend over for her, so watch out.
Next time were down at Chams my partner is on the look out for guys to bend over for her, so watch out.
Its some while since Ive been to this club. I used to be a member & went quite regularly on weekday nights or the occasional GB night, but have not been for at least 18 months.
Who is running the show now? When I went, Dave the owner had taken a backseat. Pete & Sue were actively promoting & hosting most nights & Tanya was doing a bit.
I am interested as to who hosts the Sunday afternoon sessions (Im hoping to persuade an F-Buddy of mine to take me along sometime) & the Bi Nights as I may give one a try rather than travelling to Chameleons.
This place seems to get more posts on this forum than any other club for some reason, so heres another chance to increase further its postings to size ratio.
Gary
Who is running the show now? When I went, Dave the owner had taken a backseat. Pete & Sue were actively promoting & hosting most nights & Tanya was doing a bit.
I am interested as to who hosts the Sunday afternoon sessions (Im hoping to persuade an F-Buddy of mine to take me along sometime) & the Bi Nights as I may give one a try rather than travelling to Chameleons.
This place seems to get more posts on this forum than any other club for some reason, so heres another chance to increase further its postings to size ratio.
Gary
Hi BB&LG
I think part of the problem remains that its generally frowned upon for guys to admit to being Bi, even in so called liberated scenes such as the swinger community.
For example, I had an advert here and on theadulthub advertising to meet Bi couples. I met two who had replied mainly out of interest about the Bi side, yet even after 2-3 meetings and play sessions, the guy couldnt bring himself to go with with a little mild guy on guy playing.
I find its the same at club Bi nights. Dont get me wrong, the Chameleons nights are real crackers, but I remember maybe 5, 6 weeks ago playing with another guy in the jacuzzi. A third guy joined in, yet maybe a dozen more treat us like leapors for having openly Bi contact on a Bi night. Even here, it seemed the done thing for guys was to lock themselves away in rooms whenever guy-guy contact was happening.
Many guys, whether as part of a couple or as a single cannot seem to grasp that "Bi" is just an optional state of play, it can form part of the contact, or it can be held back. I suppose its like someone who enjoys watersports. It doesnt mean they are going to piss on everyone they have contact with.
An up side to the more restrained response to your ads I suppose is that at least those who do reply are genuine, and not the chancers and dreamers that clog up an otherwise exciting scene.
I think part of the problem remains that its generally frowned upon for guys to admit to being Bi, even in so called liberated scenes such as the swinger community.
For example, I had an advert here and on theadulthub advertising to meet Bi couples. I met two who had replied mainly out of interest about the Bi side, yet even after 2-3 meetings and play sessions, the guy couldnt bring himself to go with with a little mild guy on guy playing.
I find its the same at club Bi nights. Dont get me wrong, the Chameleons nights are real crackers, but I remember maybe 5, 6 weeks ago playing with another guy in the jacuzzi. A third guy joined in, yet maybe a dozen more treat us like leapors for having openly Bi contact on a Bi night. Even here, it seemed the done thing for guys was to lock themselves away in rooms whenever guy-guy contact was happening.
Many guys, whether as part of a couple or as a single cannot seem to grasp that "Bi" is just an optional state of play, it can form part of the contact, or it can be held back. I suppose its like someone who enjoys watersports. It doesnt mean they are going to piss on everyone they have contact with.
An up side to the more restrained response to your ads I suppose is that at least those who do reply are genuine, and not the chancers and dreamers that clog up an otherwise exciting scene.
Yes, thanks for that info. More or less what I thought really. Every time Ive driven into Chams, usually either of J 9/10 or driven round Darleston to see what the crack is, the impression I get is nowts going on local. Mondays not the best night anyway for a good night out.
Guess the answer is to get down to the club earlier and soak up the atmosphere in the club, spend more time soaking in the jacuzzi (is that just the best place you could imagine or what?) and make our own entertainment. As for the pole dancing, we can always start things off on the Chams pole anyway.
So thats sorted. Straight to the club asap.
Gary
Guess the answer is to get down to the club earlier and soak up the atmosphere in the club, spend more time soaking in the jacuzzi (is that just the best place you could imagine or what?) and make our own entertainment. As for the pole dancing, we can always start things off on the Chams pole anyway.
So thats sorted. Straight to the club asap.
Gary
My partner & I will be visiting Chams next Monday. Weve both been before but we wonderd if there are any decent lively bars reasonably nearby for a drink beforehand? Obviously everyones idea of whats good is different. Basically we just want something with a bit of atmosphere (not easy Mondays I know) not a rough hole, & not a million miles away, where a couple 33-43 can relax prior to going to club. We may stop atxxxxxxxxxx know theres a bar there. Ive never been into Walsall town centre, am I missing much?
Also, & possibly for another night, are there any lap-dancing /pole dancing clubs within striking distance without travelling down to Brum? My partner wants me to take her before we go to club.
I have searche dthe past postings for Chams & read a load of useful stuff, but havnt seen a similar topic.
Really looking forward to Monday. Usually try to get down every 2-3 months but always before as a single on these nights.
Also, & possibly for another night, are there any lap-dancing /pole dancing clubs within striking distance without travelling down to Brum? My partner wants me to take her before we go to club.
I have searche dthe past postings for Chams & read a load of useful stuff, but havnt seen a similar topic.
Really looking forward to Monday. Usually try to get down every 2-3 months but always before as a single on these nights.
