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MikeNorth
1 month ago
Straight Male, 55
0 miles · West Yorkshire
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Sex God
Apparently some men fear that if their feet become cold during sex, more blood will flow to their feet, and that consequently less blood will flow to the todger area, leading to a bit of a "letdown", as it were.
But I've always thought that socks on men in porn films or on cam look dead naff. I'm not sure I've ever worn socks during sex. Not even in swinging clubs with floors that might not be superclean do I wear socks - I just can't.
But I've always thought that socks on men in porn films or on cam look dead naff. I'm not sure I've ever worn socks during sex. Not even in swinging clubs with floors that might not be superclean do I wear socks - I just can't.
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Quote by M1ssVery
I'm afraid most of my swinging contacts in here have been people who don't know each other, rather than from the pool of regulars from the forum/socials/clubs/munches of old, so I cannot help you more than that.
I see..
Can I ask if avoiding(sorry, wrong term I'm sure) the pool of regulars was intentional or just how it's turned out?..
Good question. Partly it's because I'm generally better at making approaches via online chat and messages than at face-to-face contacts (with exceptions). Partly just my preference - who knows, maybe subconsciously to avoid possible complications of the sort you describe in your original post. Although I'm talking mainly of when this site was much smaller than it is now.
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Quote by M1ssVery
My question is not whether detaching yourself is in concept with the swinging world or not-I know it is. I'm asking whether sometimes you just can't help yourself and you do feel a bit funny/weird/uncomfortable..I was wondering if that came with experience and time or whether even the most "hardened swingers" can slip into feeling that way on occasion..
I just feel the need to point out that the term "hardened swingers" as used in these forums, especially by people in their ads denying that the term applies to them
, is generally taken to mean something a bit different from the way your are using it here: it means people to whom swinging has become a habit, a routine, where they no longer feel the thrill either in the anticipation or the activity itself. If you mean people who have become inured to the uncomfortable feelings you describe in your original post, that's a bit different. I'm afraid most of my swinging contacts in here have been people who don't know each other, rather than from the pool of regulars from the forum/socials/clubs/munches of old, so I cannot help you more than that.
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How often do I take a second look? Oh gosh, nearly all the time. Unless there's something else I must concentrate on, like crossing a busy road or checking my change in the supermarket, but I'm constantly looking at females and find myself very easily drifting off into thoughts/fantasies/scenarios of unmitigated raunch involving them. And it's not necessarily those women who are to some extent striking a pose of some sort, in fact that can be a ...well, not a turn-OFF exactly, but less of a turn-ON than women who seem to be unaware of what impression if any they might be making on people around them, although of course, they could be just as pervy as you but just hiding it well. In fact, I hope I hide it well too!
If pervy points were all scored in the brain, I might have a gold medal!
If pervy points were all scored in the brain, I might have a gold medal!
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Quote by the_magik_s
I remember a program called "Marmalade Atkins"... I also remember being fixated by her presence on screen. It was quite strange actually. Im sure there is something quite tragic about what happened to her come to think of it.... :sad:
Ah, the late and still much lamented Charlotte Coleman. Wonderful in Marmalade Atkins, and even more brilliant in the TV version of Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit, when she was older. She died in 2001(I think)of an asthma attack.
Yes thats right, an asthma attack. Was she the same girl who appeared in the film "Notting Hill"?.. :sad:
I don't think so.
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Quote by the_magik_s
I remember a program called "Marmalade Atkins"... I also remember being fixated by her presence on screen. It was quite strange actually. Im sure there is something quite tragic about what happened to her come to think of it.... :sad:
Ah, the late and still much lamented Charlotte Coleman. Wonderful in Marmalade Atkins, and even more brilliant in the TV version of Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit, when she was older. She died in 2001(I think)of an asthma attack.
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I was a member on this site for 15 months before I got my first meet, even though I went to several munches and socials, and posted a lot here in the forums. So there's no magic formula that works for everyone. But I agree with the others, an incomplete profile and no public pics does not help your cause.
Good luck.
Good luck.
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Quote by HughGRection
best sex ever is where its totally spontaneous..... theres a connection between the ears....first.....flirting - building up the anticipation and then uninhibited sex where by luck or judgement - you both hit each others zones at the right time and the orgasm leaves your head spinning and your heart pounding in your ears..... then you curl up together to start again ...... and again....
;)
How can it be "totally spontaneous" if you're "building up the anticipation"?
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Just a few observations: London is a huge and very diverse place with a vast range of events, interests, and activities on offer. When SH was a a much smaller community, a munch in Manchester once attracted over 200 of us, and in the same month a munch in London attracted just 33. That says something.
I'm not suggesting that Manchester, Leeds, Newcastle etc have little else to offer, but just that swinging seems to have caught on more in the north and midlands, both with the number and popularity of clubs and seemingly the membership proportion on here, as Winey says.
I think there other activities and pastimes which catch on much more in some areas of the country than they do in others. That's just the way things happen sometimes.
I'm not suggesting that Manchester, Leeds, Newcastle etc have little else to offer, but just that swinging seems to have caught on more in the north and midlands, both with the number and popularity of clubs and seemingly the membership proportion on here, as Winey says.
I think there other activities and pastimes which catch on much more in some areas of the country than they do in others. That's just the way things happen sometimes.
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"Kinky" is not a word I use at all. The dictionary I looked up defined the word as:
"Slang. Marked by unconventional sexual preferences or behaviour, as fetishism, sadomasochism, or the like."
The word means different things to different people (if it means anything at all) and is probably changing all the time. Who can define what's conventional and what's unconventional? Honor Blackman's long black leather boots in "The Avengers" were the first thing I remember being called "kinky". I'm not sure whether they still are!
"Slang. Marked by unconventional sexual preferences or behaviour, as fetishism, sadomasochism, or the like."
The word means different things to different people (if it means anything at all) and is probably changing all the time. Who can define what's conventional and what's unconventional? Honor Blackman's long black leather boots in "The Avengers" were the first thing I remember being called "kinky". I'm not sure whether they still are!
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One stereotype which springs to my mind immediately is the "he keeps/kept himself to himself" (or herself) which is sometimes very unfairly used in the media to label someone as odd or even sinister. Being an introvert is no crime, not yet anyway.
I have a friend who sometimes avoids contact with others, ignores greetings or maybe just gives a grunt, and whom some other people call (behind her back) miserable and stand-offish. I know she doesn't mean it, it's something beyond her control. And it's something I can understand to some extent, I love being with people, but sometimes I've just had enough and can be desperate to be on my own, although I'm a less extreme example than she is.
Recently I found an article which explains these things very well to those who find this behaviour difficult to understand. It's written in 2003, but still gets quoted and linked to quite a lot.
I have a friend who sometimes avoids contact with others, ignores greetings or maybe just gives a grunt, and whom some other people call (behind her back) miserable and stand-offish. I know she doesn't mean it, it's something beyond her control. And it's something I can understand to some extent, I love being with people, but sometimes I've just had enough and can be desperate to be on my own, although I'm a less extreme example than she is.
Recently I found an article which explains these things very well to those who find this behaviour difficult to understand. It's written in 2003, but still gets quoted and linked to quite a lot.
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Quote by noladreams
Is mutual masturbation sex?
I've just remembered and checked: it would have got four points for each person on the Pervy Points Challenge.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/290089.html
Oh now that was a great thread! (Alas, I never won :sad
I'm sure you were in the top few though. I was probably about 439th. :sad:
