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Witchy
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 54
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Resonance wrote:
That's the sort of thing I've said before, back in the days when you didn't get in my head & do it for me.
I'm big enough & fugly enough to realise that when I shut the door on my way out, there will be a bigger volume of champers than tears. It matters not one iota to me. Standing up for what I believe in is far more important. There was a time I would have walked hot coals for this place, that time passed years ago.
In effect, I moved into a house. When I moved there, I loved it. I helped care for it, maintain it's attributes...planted a few flowers...etc.
Then they built a bypass. You gotta have a bypass :lol:
A trading estate sprang up...traffic got heavier...I loved the house a little less.
The people who'd once lived nearby- the ones who'd moved in for the same reasons I had started to move out. I got on great with some of the new neighbours, but there were fewer people with whom I had much in common.
I started to see fewer reasons to stay.
Then there was a proposal to build a runway at the end of the street. I sleep through anything, but, concerned about the locals who don't...and the asthmatics etc, I wrote some letters, signed some petitions, and generally had my say.
The runway is about to be built. It will suit some people. It won't suit others.
I didn't want a house with a runway at the end of the street. I no longer love the house. I'm moving out. The street will carry on being. Someone else will move into the house, change the decor, replant the garden...and as I leave, I'll wish the neighb0ours well.
Why some people feel the need to argue ad hominem is quite beyond me.
And Res, scares the living wonkas? When we leave, you, my friend, are invited round for a Chinese meal. Whilst you're here, you can clean the wine off the computer screen. Barsteward.
Quote by Resonance
Every word in the Oxford English dictionary, and a few more besides.
That's the sort of thing I've said before, back in the days when you didn't get in my head & do it for me.
I'm big enough & fugly enough to realise that when I shut the door on my way out, there will be a bigger volume of champers than tears. It matters not one iota to me. Standing up for what I believe in is far more important. There was a time I would have walked hot coals for this place, that time passed years ago.
In effect, I moved into a house. When I moved there, I loved it. I helped care for it, maintain it's attributes...planted a few flowers...etc.
Then they built a bypass. You gotta have a bypass :lol:
A trading estate sprang up...traffic got heavier...I loved the house a little less.
The people who'd once lived nearby- the ones who'd moved in for the same reasons I had started to move out. I got on great with some of the new neighbours, but there were fewer people with whom I had much in common.
I started to see fewer reasons to stay.
Then there was a proposal to build a runway at the end of the street. I sleep through anything, but, concerned about the locals who don't...and the asthmatics etc, I wrote some letters, signed some petitions, and generally had my say.
The runway is about to be built. It will suit some people. It won't suit others.
I didn't want a house with a runway at the end of the street. I no longer love the house. I'm moving out. The street will carry on being. Someone else will move into the house, change the decor, replant the garden...and as I leave, I'll wish the neighb0ours well.
Why some people feel the need to argue ad hominem is quite beyond me.
And Res, scares the living wonkas? When we leave, you, my friend, are invited round for a Chinese meal. Whilst you're here, you can clean the wine off the computer screen. Barsteward.
Quote by splendid_
Furry muff, I know this is one of the few things you and I will never see eye to eye on, and you make some valid points. first time for everythingDoesn't remove my main worry though.
But please don't tell me about all the sex you have. In my mind, you're still pure as the driven snow
I have never really understood that phrase - 'pure as the driven snow' isn't 'driven snow' all brown and slushy ?
It always gets me too...but in reality snow driven by winds is all heaped up & pure & white.
What I had in mind for you though, was stuff driven by a team of snow plows. :wink:
Quote by splendid_
I have belonged to a couple of other sites that have verification. I kinda like it. Not so I can get verified as I can get a shag just by swinging as a single bi fem (the holy grail don't you know) I like it because it gives me a chance to verify the real holy grail :- A single man who can keep it up with a condom and who doesn't want to have my kids and move in with me.
Verification here won't affect me a jot. I won't allow others to verify me good or bad. I won't be verifying others (to verify requires sex and I have that covered) Verification will have a massive impact on single men who, because of their vast numbers, are the real money spinners on this site. It will make the site more meaningful for them. It will raise the profile of those people who really need the support. I can't really see anything wrong in that.
There will still be people who have nothing to do with the verification system and that is their want. I have had more sex on this site without verification as I have no need of it to make my own mind up.
I really don't get what all the fuss is about.
If you like it, use it.
If you don't like it, don't use it.
A case in point....... I definitely fancied Mr FB as soon as I realised that he was engaged to Ms FB. The only verification he needed was the knowledge that he was making her happy. :twisted: :twisted:
Furry muff, I know this is one of the few things you and I will never see eye to eye on, and you make some valid points. first time for everything
Doesn't remove my main worry though. But please don't tell me about all the sex you have. In my mind, you're still pure as the driven snow
Quote by Mal
When I first joined the site six years ago they didn't have a verification system in place, then someone very hamfistedly tried to force one upon us and made a complete dogs dinner of it. It wasn't thought through properly and caused great offence to many people. Having said that, at the time I think we only had about 2,000 members.
It was then decreed that we wouldn't have a verification system ever and peace was restored.
Fast forward to the current day and we are now looking at another verification system. The difference with this one compared to the last one is that we now have over a million more members (literally!) and members have been asked if this is what they want and the majority have said yes. Note I said the majority, not everyone.
I personally didn't like the idea of a verification system originally, for all the reasons that have been mentioned already, but having seen what the new system is like, I know it can be a good tool for those who use it correctly and Admin have done as much as possible to make sure it cannot be abused.
I'm not going to steal the thunder of Admin and tell you too much about it, other than to say it is well designed and answers nearly all the queries raised so far.
At the end of the day life moves on, people move on as their life changes, as does this site. If you feel the right thing for you is to leave, then leave. We will shed as many tears for your passing as you do for us staying. You will be remembered more for your last few months than you are for your first few months, so have a think about how you wish to be thought of once you leave. A valuable and amusing contributor or someone who makes sly digs, 'look at me' posts and give the impression that we, the site, will be worse of without them? Well, maybe we will, but we'll cope, as we have done in the past.
All the best for the New Year, Guys n'Gals
Mal
I'm sure, of course, that none of that was aimed at anyone in particular. Oddly enough, I couldn't agree more. Sly digs are a double edge sword though. :wink:
Quote by Ahabs
A lot of very narrow mindedness going on in this thread.
"I wont be using a system I have not seen yet and know nothing about :stampfootemoticon:
So much for open minded swingers.
There are circumstances where I would cancel this account if it was not right, but I'll wait and see what it brings. I note also most of the no supporters are established users who have been going to munchs and events for years and have tons of already built up contacts. That was us once too but life changes and we certainly dont have time to waste with people who dont turn up dont look like their photo etc. Those problems can never be eradicated but if they can be improved so the risk is significantly reduced then so much the better.
This could turn the site into a huge commercial quick shag site? It already is, its only the forum thats not.
But there was a time when that wasn't what SH was all about. Times change, things evolve. I know that. However, rather than trying to fight the tide, I, and a few others I'm aware of are choosing to get out of the river.
As it happens, I am curious to see what the system will look like. I'm always curious. I'll be interested to see what ingenious safeguards are in place to stop false "repping." However, it's about more than that- and there is no way of making a rep system that doesn't make the playing field uneven. So, on principle, I will be voting with my cancel button- as is my choice. I've been here a very, very long time, and have seen the changes. I've read the "SH will never have a verifications system" promises. I've stuck with it through the times of feast & famine. The advent of SHrep is time to leave. No foot stomping, just sad resignation about the direction the site has taken.
There are a myriad of reasons for people being here. I bear no ill will for those who the new direction suits. It doesn't suit me, so I'm offski.
So for simplicity sake, you'd rather leave because "I can prove I'm who I am and legitimate", as opposed to having no clue who I am, timewaster, wannabe,... potential criminal thinking... and take that gamble?
There are things about the site I feel (IMHO) could have been done differently, but I'd rather suggest to the site admins alternative ideas rather than "I don't like it so am off!", if however they feel their way works better and sadly it casues me more problems (rather than it not being perfect) then yes, I would consider leaving.
Ahabs, I'm not entirely sure I get the point you're trying to make but I'll explain my standpoint anyway.
Firstly, I would rather that as far as peoples safety when meeting is concerned, they didn't rely on any verification system, but put into place their own safeguards.
Secondly, you know what? It wouldn't have any effect on me if I was staying anyway. I could get laid by someone different every night if I was that way inclined. As it is, I'm in a Poly-ish set up and have no desire for anything other. However, I have had quite a few meets through SH over the years, all successful, so I do know the place from a "currently meeting" perspective too.
So, I'm not leaving because I fear it will be detrimental to me- but it will to others such as Steve, for example. Single male, will opt out of verification...immediately has the odds stacked even higher against him. And he shouldn't, coz he's lovely (did I just verify you Steve?
It's ok anyway, I lied )Thirtyfourthly, I've contributed a lot to threads on the subject in the past. I knew back then that it was a losing battle, as the site owners were always going to make the decision based on revenue. But I, and others, did make, and explain our points.
Quote by tweeky
A lot of very narrow mindedness going on in this thread.
"I wont be using a system I have not seen yet and know nothing about :stampfootemoticon:
So much for open minded swingers.
There are circumstances where I would cancel this account if it was not right, but I'll wait and see what it brings. I note also most of the no supporters are established users who have been going to munchs and events for years and have tons of already built up contacts. That was us once too but life changes and we certainly dont have time to waste with people who dont turn up dont look like their photo etc. Those problems can never be eradicated but if they can be improved so the risk is significantly reduced then so much the better.
This could turn the site into a huge commercial quick shag site? It already is, its only the forum thats not.
But there was a time when that wasn't what SH was all about. Times change, things evolve. I know that. However, rather than trying to fight the tide, I, and a few others I'm aware of are choosing to get out of the river.
As it happens, I am curious to see what the system will look like. I'm always curious. I'll be interested to see what ingenious safeguards are in place to stop false "repping." However, it's about more than that- and there is no way of making a rep system that doesn't make the playing field uneven. So, on principle, I will be voting with my cancel button- as is my choice. I've been here a very, very long time, and have seen the changes. I've read the "SH will never have a verifications system" promises. I've stuck with it through the times of feast & famine. The advent of SHrep is time to leave. No foot stomping, just sad resignation about the direction the site has taken.
There are a myriad of reasons for people being here. I bear no ill will for those who the new direction suits. It doesn't suit me, so I'm offski.
Quote by Steve
I think if they do this it has to be mandatory for everyone or not at all. Otherwise dont think it will work in the slightest.
If they did make it mandatory then I would be cancelling my account...
Quiet at the back.....
Ok, It's kinda an empty threat/promise* as I'm outta here soon anyhow, but should SHrep occur before that, then I'll be canceling too. Mandatory or not.
Unless, of course, some genius comes along and allays my main gripe- that it removes the level playing field between those happy to be verified, and those not happy to be verified. I've explained my feelings about this at length in the past, so I won't witter on. Sadly, for me, it's another step towards huge commercial quick shag site, and away from the community I used to care so much for.
*Delete as appropriate
Quote by goldsmith
I don't think English is taught these days as it was in my day (grabs zimmer frame).
The other thing that annoys me is the way lots of people sound 'th' as 'f' as in fink instead of think.
I am on my soap box now lol
This one drives me insane too. Hubby does it, and I've tried for years to get him to stop. His nan tried her best too when he was growing up. We've now come to realise that he quite simply cannot hear a difference. Try as we might- and I've had linguists help- he cant hear the differing sounds. Such is life.
As for the "could of" thing, this is one I pointed out to a dyslexic mate recently when she updated her facebook status. She had no idea that she was abbreviating "should have."
Quote by Ms_Whips
i've tried lots of different things but lately i have been doing something called 'planks'. basicly you put yourself on the floor as though doing pressups. poised on toes, keep your forearms flat on the floor and hold your body so that it is flat (not with your arse in the air, that position is much better saved for other activities :twisted: ) as though in te rise of the pressup. you then hold that position for upto 60 seconds. you do these 3 times a day, simple.
however, you will hurt and you will shake and you may not last very long. i've been able to do around at the most so far and always over the minute but then i have quite a high level of fitness. we are all doing it at work and my friend and i are finding it the easiest. my theory is that we are both horse riders so already have a good central body core strength.
give it a go and see what you think.
oh and if that doesn't suite then latin dancing i great too.
whips
ooh, I love doing planks! It's 80% mind over matter, so I used to out stay almost everyone in my TKD class- even though I was ten years older than the next nearest. Just find the "zone" and hold it...whilst those around you shake & fall to the floor
Shops will start pushing all the keep fit twaddle to "help" people shed the £'s- I mean pounds they put on when they pushed all the calorific foods.
Ah, that's too predictable, innit.
I will leave SH and it will carry on regardless.
It'll be a bloody cold winter.
Summer will be damp & dreary, but there will be a nice spell in June.
*Puts away crystal ball*
Ah, that's too predictable, innit.
I will leave SH and it will carry on regardless.
It'll be a bloody cold winter.
Summer will be damp & dreary, but there will be a nice spell in June.
*Puts away crystal ball*
Quote by Kaznkev
You are not alone - boring and pedantic is not a bad thing!
Even when people talk at socials that they are scared to make a post on the forum in case somebody corrects their grammar, spelling or punctuation
given that i cant spell(dispraxic if u must know),am too lazy to capitalise and my apostrophe key is broken,my numerous posts would presumably have been a field day for any "grammar nazies" however they have generally allowed mistakes to pass without comment...except some chancer called cubes
I assume this is due to an understanding that liberties might be taken with the postings of old friends that would not be taken with a newcomer like me.I think the "i wont in case im corrected" excuse sounds a bit lame to me therefore,as i cant imagine any infrequent poster was really harrassed about there grammar/punctuation
As I mentioned recently, I used to be a pedantic cowbag. When I found out that two of the cleverest people I know are dyslexic, I stepped back & thought about my tendency to criticise poor spelling & grammar- I try not to do it anymore.
It still bothers me though that people responsible for sign writing etc get it wrong. If 80% of the signs for karaoke nights in the local pub actually say "kareoke"- the misspelling passes into public consciousness. Oh, and when my kids come home with stuff written by teachers and I get the urge to correct the spelling...:lol:
We should all be bigger, and frankly nicer, than to criticise people in here who may not be lucky enough to be articulate.
Quote by neilinleeds
And what's more, "none of my friends are online"!
It should be "is" of course.
Caring about this sort of thing is probably why I don't have too many friends!
Ha haaaaa! If you read 'none' as a contraction of 'not one', then you are of course quite correct. However, you could equally well read the 'none' in 'none of my friends' as 'not any of my friends', which would be equally correct, and that would of course, in that case, necessitate the use of yer third person plural form for the purposes of subject / verb agreement, eh?
/pedant :P
*wanders off to correct , glares at in Morridogs*
N x x x ;)
And what about the sign in Asda proudly proclaiming they're using "less carrier bags?
Avec Moi, it's advisable to sleep with one eye open. I am a cow. I love practical jokes- from both sides.
A while back I commented on how funny it would be to sew a tiny shop security tag into our eldest daughters coat lining- she's been paranoid about setting off alarms since one went of on her birthday and she was searched. I didn't do it, because it was a tad too cruel. Last week, the other half bought a new phone and he took one of the tags off as the assistant dealt with the payment.
He stuck it to my arse. I was assuming that there was still a tag, or smartwater on the phone because alarms were going off left right & center, so I wasn't troubled by it. Just a little bored by the constant here's the phone/there's the receipt routine. Until as we were leaving a shop on a "travelator" the alarm yelled and the security guard- bearing a particularly startling resemblance to Super Mario- came after us. He was taking it very seriously, so hubby at this point confessed to what he'd done. Queue security guard giving the oh the ticking off of his life, and me joining in to tell him how incredibly immature he was...poor bloke was trapped on the lengthy travellator trip from hell, getting redder & redder, and more & more shamefaced.
Served him right for nicking my idea :giggle:
A while back I commented on how funny it would be to sew a tiny shop security tag into our eldest daughters coat lining- she's been paranoid about setting off alarms since one went of on her birthday and she was searched. I didn't do it, because it was a tad too cruel. Last week, the other half bought a new phone and he took one of the tags off as the assistant dealt with the payment.
He stuck it to my arse. I was assuming that there was still a tag, or smartwater on the phone because alarms were going off left right & center, so I wasn't troubled by it. Just a little bored by the constant here's the phone/there's the receipt routine. Until as we were leaving a shop on a "travelator" the alarm yelled and the security guard- bearing a particularly startling resemblance to Super Mario- came after us. He was taking it very seriously, so hubby at this point confessed to what he'd done. Queue security guard giving the oh the ticking off of his life, and me joining in to tell him how incredibly immature he was...poor bloke was trapped on the lengthy travellator trip from hell, getting redder & redder, and more & more shamefaced.
Served him right for nicking my idea :giggle:
Quote by tweeky
I thought it was quite disjointed, and they tried to cram too many different elements in. I have a friend who's a successful playwright, and David Tennant's #1 fan (he has a massive crush on him) - and even he was dissapointed. The waters of mars was a cracking episode, and set the bar quite high. Yesterday's couldn't make the mark, but hopefully the next will be better.
Come on seriously? That was nothing like disjointed for a Sci fi program or film. I mean try the 3 newer Star wars films, thats what you call disjointed.
It was in my book. I've not watched the newer three Star wars films- and probably won't ever. I think it was really lacklustre, there was much promise for this episode, but it failed to deliver. It felt like they'd tried to cram too many elements into too short a time lord. I mean, frame.
I thought it was quite disjointed, and they tried to cram too many different elements in. I have a friend who's a successful playwright, and David Tennant's #1 fan (he has a massive crush on him) - and even he was dissapointed. The waters of mars was a cracking episode, and set the bar quite high. Yesterday's couldn't make the mark, but hopefully the next will be better.
Quote by Ms_Whips
well i applaude your thinking witchy!
however, for me this year charity begins at home. things have been tight for a while and my main priority is to my son and myself. i work god damn hard all year and have bought myself one bottle of fizz. i'm not going to feel guilty about it either. it cost me less than a fiver and i shall enjoy every sip. i give throughout all the year, buy the big issue, support animal charities too as well as using my wages to put into the activities funds at work for my residents.
i have my pets as my major luxury and could even put my lover in there as one too.
so sorry, although i think it is awful for those who are without, and i wish i could do more, i won't have their ill fortune on my head this year.
whips
Not saying you should at all Whips- I won't be eating gruel myself...and wouldn't expect anyone to go without. What irks me more than anything is the mass waste at this time of year. It's shameful what some people end up buying & binning.
Do I sound really sanctimonious? Och well, who cares, I'm buggered if I can think of a way of making my point without without it. :lol2:
...and what have you done?
Not meaning to do the Bah BumHug (I just made that up) thing, and genuinely hoping that if xmas is your thing, you enjoy...
However, at the time of year when materialism is more rife than a trifle in a rifle range- I'd just like to implore you to think of those without a warm cosy home, without loved ones around them...the list of those less fortunate than us goes on.
Enjoy yourselves- but before buying that "must have" pair of knickers in the sale- or third bottle of alkyhol for new year, take stock and ask yourself if you'd really miss the whatever- it- is you really don't need. Is there someone else who would benefit more from a few quid? To some people, in this weather it could mean the difference twixt life and death.
I don't want people to feel a need to list their good deeds- just think. If some of you act- wonderful. If you don't, then may the deaths of a thousand Tiny Tims haunt your consciences for all eternity.
I have been, and will continue to do my bit (which has, granted, taken an unusual form this year in the shape of unexpected waifs) and hope that you will too.
Merry Xmas (pan***s!) to all, and to all, a good-night.
Not meaning to do the Bah BumHug (I just made that up) thing, and genuinely hoping that if xmas is your thing, you enjoy...
However, at the time of year when materialism is more rife than a trifle in a rifle range- I'd just like to implore you to think of those without a warm cosy home, without loved ones around them...the list of those less fortunate than us goes on.
Enjoy yourselves- but before buying that "must have" pair of knickers in the sale- or third bottle of alkyhol for new year, take stock and ask yourself if you'd really miss the whatever- it- is you really don't need. Is there someone else who would benefit more from a few quid? To some people, in this weather it could mean the difference twixt life and death.
I don't want people to feel a need to list their good deeds- just think. If some of you act- wonderful. If you don't, then may the deaths of a thousand Tiny Tims haunt your consciences for all eternity.
I have been, and will continue to do my bit (which has, granted, taken an unusual form this year in the shape of unexpected waifs) and hope that you will too.
Merry Xmas (pan***s!) to all, and to all, a good-night.
If it's with hubby, then it's very likely to have been an early morning jobbie- so I'll go back to sleep and wait for him to bring me a cuppa.
If it's with lover, then we'll more than likely cuddle up & talk. The conversations can be bizarre. Last time we ended up discussing the etymology of the word "sartorial." I wouldn't swap our post-coital conversations for the world.
If it's with lover, then we'll more than likely cuddle up & talk. The conversations can be bizarre. Last time we ended up discussing the etymology of the word "sartorial." I wouldn't swap our post-coital conversations for the world.
