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I personally love Christmas; I love the cold air and the blue sky, I love the atmosphere on late night shopping nights with vendors selling roasted chestnuts, I love seeing friends and family who I haven't seen for ages, I love buying presents and imagining how happy they'll be when they open them (hate wrapping them though), I love chatting to my Dad on Christmas Day morning because he lives abroad and I don't see him often. I love seeing my brother's and sister's kids opening their presents (get a bit disappointed when they're fighting over them two minutes later), I love everyone sitting round a dinner table and eating lamb and turkey while drinking wine and then suddenly noticing that you're a bit drunk, I love it when we all go for a walk on the beach in the afternoon with the dogs and everyone else is there too so even though it's a cold and icy day the beaches are really busy, I love coming home and sitting in front of an open fire getting quietly drunk. Christmas to me is one of the happiest times of the year.
Jump all over him why don't you? I've seen a hell of a lot worse than that! You should see my email inbox!!
Anyway, I haven't forgotten about you waynei. I will be in touch when I'm able to meet with someone again. In the meantime make sure you dot your i's and cross your t's to appease the anally retentive.
Anyway, I haven't forgotten about you waynei. I will be in touch when I'm able to meet with someone again. In the meantime make sure you dot your i's and cross your t's to appease the anally retentive.
I think it's a very British Problem. The Brits are so obsessed with manners that we think that we can drum it into children to say please and thank you and expect them to magically do it. Remember, "Just Say No"? It didn't work because people don't like being told what to do.
My Dad lives in Spain and I have been visiting him regularly all my life, when the Spanish have kids they don't take the first opportunity to hire a babysitter and then go out and get pissed. If the Spanish go out the kids go too and from a very young age children learn some very important social skills.
We have a far different culture here; instead of teaching our children to be respectful and well mannered we demand it. When did that ever work?
My Dad lives in Spain and I have been visiting him regularly all my life, when the Spanish have kids they don't take the first opportunity to hire a babysitter and then go out and get pissed. If the Spanish go out the kids go too and from a very young age children learn some very important social skills.
We have a far different culture here; instead of teaching our children to be respectful and well mannered we demand it. When did that ever work?
Actually I think I may have misread your post, you seem to have already decided to give up swinging in order to be with him. If that's the case I see no reason to tell him anything, it's the kind of thing that could stick in his head for years.
If you feel you have to tell him please don't sit him down and announce it, it will sound like a confession. It's better to just wait until you've watched something on TV or read something in a magazine about swinging then casually mention that you used to be involved in it.
I think you should just not mention it though, so what if he finds out? It was before you got together so who cares?
If you feel you have to tell him please don't sit him down and announce it, it will sound like a confession. It's better to just wait until you've watched something on TV or read something in a magazine about swinging then casually mention that you used to be involved in it.
I think you should just not mention it though, so what if he finds out? It was before you got together so who cares?
I think you should decide how important swinging is to you. If you have no intention of stopping then you need to tell him right now, if there's a possibility that this guy could be everything you ever wanted and he's so fantastic that you won't want to be with anyone else then wait until you are sure.
A few years ago we had a big family Christmas, my niece who was four at the time was given this amazing present and when she opened it she was utterly overwhelmed. The look of absolute happiness on her face was really moving. She was so excited by her present she just sat there speechless for a few seconds.
Our Grandma then said to her, "It's rude not to acknowledge your gratitude you know". Of course being four she just looked bemused and carried on playing with her new present. Our Grandma then snatched her present away and told her she would get it back when she said thank you. My niece didn't know what to say just looked really upset so my Grandma said, "Fine, have it your way but your not getting your present back until you say thank you." My niece just cried and ran out of the room.
I'll never forget this incident as it illustrates how far we take things and how mean we can be. There was no doubt how grateful my niece was, her face said it all. To pursue the point like that was just cruel.
Our Grandma then said to her, "It's rude not to acknowledge your gratitude you know". Of course being four she just looked bemused and carried on playing with her new present. Our Grandma then snatched her present away and told her she would get it back when she said thank you. My niece didn't know what to say just looked really upset so my Grandma said, "Fine, have it your way but your not getting your present back until you say thank you." My niece just cried and ran out of the room.
I'll never forget this incident as it illustrates how far we take things and how mean we can be. There was no doubt how grateful my niece was, her face said it all. To pursue the point like that was just cruel.
You want to know my theory? Being anything other than joyously happy at Christmas is breaking the rules and because we're expected to be so ecstatic that it's December we end up putting pressure on ourselves. The result, crap Christmas!
Anytime we try to be anything other than true to ourselves and our feelings we end up miserable, do we learn from this? Of course we don't! That's what being human is all about!
Anytime we try to be anything other than true to ourselves and our feelings we end up miserable, do we learn from this? Of course we don't! That's what being human is all about!
You know your email address is invalid, and I don't mean to be rude but there is something distinctly suspicious about this post. Sorry to be funny with you especially when most people on here are so nice and I'm such a newbie but there's something about your post that doesn't sit right with me.
Hi all, I just wanted to ask a question because I've noticed that many people seem concerned about a police presence at dogging locations. Has anyone on here actually been arrested for dogging or whatever the associated offence is?
I haven't been dogging yet and would love to go if only I knew where, but the police are the least of my concerns. Am I misguided here?
I haven't been dogging yet and would love to go if only I knew where, but the police are the least of my concerns. Am I misguided here?
I'm really not qualified to answer this as I'm so new to this whole scene but perhaps I can give you a different perspective. I think it is much easier for women to get sex than it is for men, therefore women can be much more picky about who they sleep with. If we could all describe our perfect sexual partner I would guess that most women would pick the Brad Pitt's or something similar, but that's because our perfect sexual partner has so little to do with sex.
Again remember I'm not talking about the swinging scene but life in general but when I'm in a bar or club with friends and we go through our usual routine of sizing up more of less every guy who enters we're not thinking about screwing them in the toilets, we're thinking about marrying them and having their babies. Not consciously but those elements are definitely in our selection process. Therefore we're looking for physical perfection or as close as you can get to it, we know the reality is that we'll end up with just a regular guy with the usual collection of foibles and imperfections but like I said we can be more picky then you.
However, what I'm talking about is the huge subject of sexual politics and what you're talking about is sex and let me tell you the best sex I have ever had was with a guy who must have been 18 stone. He was simply amazing and since then I definitely prefer larger guys. I used to think I wanted a Brad Pitt but now I want a Rick Waller (well I would if he wasn't such a wanker!!). You want to know what lets down big guys? It's confidence, nothing else. Confident men make me wet regardless of their weight.
Again remember I'm not talking about the swinging scene but life in general but when I'm in a bar or club with friends and we go through our usual routine of sizing up more of less every guy who enters we're not thinking about screwing them in the toilets, we're thinking about marrying them and having their babies. Not consciously but those elements are definitely in our selection process. Therefore we're looking for physical perfection or as close as you can get to it, we know the reality is that we'll end up with just a regular guy with the usual collection of foibles and imperfections but like I said we can be more picky then you.
However, what I'm talking about is the huge subject of sexual politics and what you're talking about is sex and let me tell you the best sex I have ever had was with a guy who must have been 18 stone. He was simply amazing and since then I definitely prefer larger guys. I used to think I wanted a Brad Pitt but now I want a Rick Waller (well I would if he wasn't such a wanker!!). You want to know what lets down big guys? It's confidence, nothing else. Confident men make me wet regardless of their weight.
