I have no club experience but how about asking the club hosts? Explain your dilemma to them and perhaps they can point out a few couples and also how to maintain a certain privacy? I am sure you aren't the only ones with that 'problem'.
I think it is a very fine line between being proud and bragging. It depends on HOW you tell it and HOW OFTEN you bring it up. Everybody whom you told it to will gauge the emotional part and as a result either be happy for you or smile politely and hurry to the kitchen to turn off the gas. I can sympathise with your son, though. Having my parent tell about my achievements has also not been one of my favourites. Perhaps it is because we feel it will increase expectations or perhaps we just like to lay low. The sort of pride you feel is something that is unique to parents, or close relatives of children anyways. Don't expect your son to understand it. ;)
I understand what you wrote. It just isn't quite clear which fish denounced the entire group by telling you there are no negative psychological side effects. He most certainly lied when he shouted that.
If you don't have to raid your bank account to afford it, buy a MacBook. I had to replace my old iBook earlier this year and got the MacBook and it is great. 13" screen means small enough to be still perfectly portable but it has high enough resolution to offer a lot of screen space to litter. I used to have a PC laptop parallel to the iBook but sold it. Macs are very quiet and don't take a lot of battery power. Their only problem is that there is no 'cheap' market segment. If you want the same quality in a PC laptop you'll pay currently actually more. But again, your decision depends on your budget. Oh, and the MacBook isn't for you if you want to go on cam in the chat rooms. Doesn't work for some reason but perhaps I just haven't spent enough time with the Flash settings.
I had that done. There was a time when I danced a lot and was reasonably popular with the women of the studio. Since none of them tickled my fancy, I obviously showed nothing but a cold shoulder. As a result I simply had to be gay. That I could simply shed off and ignore.
I don't know how serious your case is. If it is something that SERIOUSLY impacts on your life (and perhaps that of people around you) then you might want to consider taking action. If it is something that perhaps just causes minor annoyance, ignore it.
I can honestly say, I am with you there, Minx. There is nothing I would do without being comfortable. I draw my lines and wouldn't step over those. At the same time, I would also not expect my partner do anything they don't feel comfortable with. Pleasure to me is not a unidirectional expression. Either both enjoy whatever they are doing or it defeats the point. If I or my partner have to push ourselves to do something just because the other person likes it, it isn't fun. I am sure nobody would enjoy it over any length of time tickling their partner's feet because you like it but they can't stand the sensation.
I had a clash with my father about something like that many years back. He rightfully asked me to pay also. But it didn't go with all the demands he made to maintain the house etc. So it didn't go down too well. Mind you, it accelerated my decision to move to New Zealand back then. Maybe he just wanted to kick me in the butt so I would make a decision how to carry on with my life. It wasn't that I had been living with them all the time. I had just finished my studies and moved back home after five years away.
So if your son really doesn't get the message, then might as well go up to £50. Seeing your partner is aligning her life to make his as comfortable as he could possibly wish for, you have every right to do so.
The thing you will need to work out for yourself is how much you'd miss him if he pulled his finger out and started his own life. Parents have a tendency to miss their children once they have left the house. ;)
