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espy2005
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 55
Bi-curious Female, 56
0 miles · Bedfordshire
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Warming the Bed
Pretty much what Bloke said, really; this is an ever-recurring topic, and as usual it's the single blokes that get the bad press. Again, as Bloke said, it's simply because there are so many more of those than any other category, but the problem is most certainly not limited to single men.
Just browse through the "single women looking for" category, and notice how many of them are actually adverts from couples.
Just browse through the "single women looking for" category, and notice how many of them are actually adverts from couples.
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Quote by wakeycouple2
so its turning into just a cam site - just spent the past 2 hrs going through various rooms and its just people directing cams ...........where are the real swingers who want to meet supposed to go? not all of us want to sit watching cams with guys wanking in their wives undies or bored housewives just showing a blouse.
If thats people's thing then fine , but not for us.
we log on then venture "elsewhere".
good luck to those that enjoy camming.
It turned into that years ago, pretty much as soon as cams were introduced by the current owners. Long gone are the old IRC days, with the crappy on-site java interface, or mIRC, or whatever client, where the chat was actually chat, and fun, and where the room could get so full and so active that it was almost impossible to keep up with.
Sadly missed, by me at least - rarely go into chat any more, whereas I used to be on there all the time. When I do go in, I see very few of the old names still around, although of course some of that is just people moving on.
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Quote by Tan--Kinky
I usually find myself looking at the eyes then looking down to see if there is a bulge.. There is something quite nice being able to see a bulge through jeans or trousershwoar:
what
All a bulge in the jeans means is he forgot to pull his socks outta the legs before pulling the jeans on the next day!
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eyes, mouth, personality, in that order; when talking to people, I focus on their mouth, not their eyes, but the eyes always do it for me.
Physically, things tend to get a bit AWOL; I have my tastes in feminine bodies, but because of the above-mentioned preferences, who I end up with doesn't often match my ideal physical partner. At the end of the day, it's what goes on in the inside, rather than the ephemeral outside, that attracts me.
Physically, things tend to get a bit AWOL; I have my tastes in feminine bodies, but because of the above-mentioned preferences, who I end up with doesn't often match my ideal physical partner. At the end of the day, it's what goes on in the inside, rather than the ephemeral outside, that attracts me.
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Haven't watched the television, aside from 6 nations rugby, for about 5 years.
I got sick of the non-stop "reality" programmes, the "I used to be a celebrity and would like to revive my flagging career" junk, and the "you may never have heard of me, but my publicist is great" trash. Then the constant dumbing down of everything. And the resurrection of all the cobblers we used to have to sit through in the '70s.
Just not worth it. If there's a decent series that comes along, like Life on Mars, then I get em on DVD. That's it.
I got sick of the non-stop "reality" programmes, the "I used to be a celebrity and would like to revive my flagging career" junk, and the "you may never have heard of me, but my publicist is great" trash. Then the constant dumbing down of everything. And the resurrection of all the cobblers we used to have to sit through in the '70s.
Just not worth it. If there's a decent series that comes along, like Life on Mars, then I get em on DVD. That's it.
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Quote by Ian
Bernard Manning used to reply to this statement that if a dog is born in a stable, does that make it a horse?
Actually, he was sort of quoting the Duke of Wellington who, despite being born in Dublin, used to insist on being English; his response was "if a man is born in a barn, does that make him a horse?"
Just accept that the multi-racial and multi-cultural aspects of this country are some of the things that made it great so long ago, and the integration of immigrants from all over the world, while not completely smooth, has generally happened without the strife that, even now, exists in places like the US.
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Quote by bbw_lover
sorry to be so negative....
But i really don't like the new chatrooms
I also share your misgivings. The interface is highly unpleasant and lacks intuition.
Also I think it has been driven by the 'need' to create the site in Flash. However a great deal has been lost in basic functionality.
:(
The current room also uses flash, so nothing new there. What functionality has been lost? Can still whisper, view cams, show cams, change rooms, create rooms, view profiles, which is pretty much all you can do in the existing rooms. OK, so currently there are 3 servers, as opposed to the proposed new single server, but what difference would that make if the new server can cope with the user load?
If you want to talk lost functionality, consider the loss of /em and /nick from the old IRC channel - but they were lost a long time ago!
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Just like to mention that twice now, The Pool room has sort-of booted everyone, with the message "The room creator has left, you'll be put somewhere else". That's not supposed to happen on those main, permanent rooms, is it?
On both occasions, pretty much everyone came straight back in without doing anything, but it screws up cams and such like.
I'll probably post some more thoughts on the new chat (which I actually prefer over the "new old" one (the "old old" one being the IRC one, of course)) at some point.
Cheers.
On both occasions, pretty much everyone came straight back in without doing anything, but it screws up cams and such like.
I'll probably post some more thoughts on the new chat (which I actually prefer over the "new old" one (the "old old" one being the IRC one, of course)) at some point.
Cheers.
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Haven't seen a post on this (but haven't trawled through the whole of the glitch thread), but I see a fair few ads that look something like:
When I first started to see these, I just thought they were from idiots typing junk rather than a full ad, but with the frequency of them now, I begin to suspect a problem with the site - either when the ad is stored in the database, or when it's retrieved, or when it's put through the filter. I've checked with both Firefox and IE, so it's not a browser thing.
Anyway, just thought I'd mention it, so the site owners can have a look.
Cheers
~Espy
Message
ghgjmn mkn mbfr fyun gffd hyyf bhhy nbh kkoo
When I first started to see these, I just thought they were from idiots typing junk rather than a full ad, but with the frequency of them now, I begin to suspect a problem with the site - either when the ad is stored in the database, or when it's retrieved, or when it's put through the filter. I've checked with both Firefox and IE, so it's not a browser thing.
Anyway, just thought I'd mention it, so the site owners can have a look.
Cheers
~Espy
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Yes it will be softcore...
Last year, Ofcom (regulators of broadcasting codes and standards) held a public consultation regarding a number of things, including the broadcasting of R18 certificate films over subscription, PIN protected, encrypted channels. Following the consultation, they published their new codes and regulations, some of which are somewhat bizarre.
Hardcode porn:
Much research has been done on possbile ill-affects of hardcore porn access, both to adults and children. Said research has shown no causal links between exposure to R18 material and harm to children. Ofcom admitted as much in their consultation document. Research has shown that more liberal rules on access to hardcore porn is beneficial to the adult population (example, since Portugal loosened their rules, sex-crime rates have significantly reduced, while our rates have increased).
Ofcom conclusion: PIN protection is not sufficient to protect minors from accessing said material, so it may not be broadcast.
Violence:
Again, much research has been done on possible ill-affects of televisual violence on children. Pretty much the majority of said research demonstrates a direct causal link between exposure to film violence and harm to youngsters.
Ofcom conclusion: PIN protection is sufficient to protect minors from accessing said material, so it may be broadcast. Indeed, PIN protection is so good that the watershed is 1 hour earlier on PIN protected channels than on terrestrial.
Yes, that's right - PIN protection isn't good enough to stop access to something harmless, but is good enough to stop access to something harmful. :shock:
BTW - for any BDSM people out there, there is currently a consultation on-going regarding the banning of so-called 'extreme' pornography outright (even in R18 certificate films). Included in the proposed ban is consensual BDSM.
are an on-line organisation who monitor censorship the world over, including Ofcom, and contains many little snippets like this.
Rant over.
~Espy
Last year, Ofcom (regulators of broadcasting codes and standards) held a public consultation regarding a number of things, including the broadcasting of R18 certificate films over subscription, PIN protected, encrypted channels. Following the consultation, they published their new codes and regulations, some of which are somewhat bizarre.
Hardcode porn:
Much research has been done on possbile ill-affects of hardcore porn access, both to adults and children. Said research has shown no causal links between exposure to R18 material and harm to children. Ofcom admitted as much in their consultation document. Research has shown that more liberal rules on access to hardcore porn is beneficial to the adult population (example, since Portugal loosened their rules, sex-crime rates have significantly reduced, while our rates have increased).
Ofcom conclusion: PIN protection is not sufficient to protect minors from accessing said material, so it may not be broadcast.
Violence:
Again, much research has been done on possible ill-affects of televisual violence on children. Pretty much the majority of said research demonstrates a direct causal link between exposure to film violence and harm to youngsters.
Ofcom conclusion: PIN protection is sufficient to protect minors from accessing said material, so it may be broadcast. Indeed, PIN protection is so good that the watershed is 1 hour earlier on PIN protected channels than on terrestrial.
Yes, that's right - PIN protection isn't good enough to stop access to something harmless, but is good enough to stop access to something harmful. :shock:
BTW - for any BDSM people out there, there is currently a consultation on-going regarding the banning of so-called 'extreme' pornography outright (even in R18 certificate films). Included in the proposed ban is consensual BDSM.
are an on-line organisation who monitor censorship the world over, including Ofcom, and contains many little snippets like this.
Rant over.
~Espy
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Quote by JudyTV
Is Steve disrespecting the Mac .. *hark*....????
Macs are really good... for certain things.. but i find that is webdevelopers that issue you have a PC on x86 (although i hear that Intel chips are gonna be in Macs soon)
If they are that good then why are most of us using PCs and NOT Macs. Please explain. I thought Macs were used mainly for Newspaper media stuff / Publishing and to an extent somewhat restrictive for the home user.
I remember someone saying many years ago that that eight track recording and Beta-max was the DBs but where are both of those systems now ?
Jude
The answers are kinda actually in your question, but can largely be put down to bad marketing. In the early days, Macs stomped all over equivalent Windoze based machine for graphics applications (CAD, typesetting etc), but were also good at the 'home user' type stuff. In the old P1 Intel days, the equivalent Motorola chipset (68040) was definitely the better. Unfortunately, Apple targetted the Mac at the graphics market, not the home user, so the home user came to the opinion, as you say, that Macs are for heavy graphics users. As a result of that, the software that makes a computer useful wasn't developed to the same extent on the Mac as on the PC, thereby making even fewer home users want them... which led to less software titles, which led to... and so on. (plus the fact that Macs certainly used to be slightly more expensive than the equivalent PC). Apple are trying to address many of these issues with their more recent h/w offerings.
Pretty much the same thing for Betamax too - Betamax was a much better technology than VHS, but bad marketing resulted in fewer sales. Fewer sales resulted in fewer films being released on that format, which led to fewer sales, which led to...
Don't know about 8-tracks though.
Toodle pip
~Espy
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Another glitch:
I have my account set to not e-mail me ever... so I was surprised when I got an e-mail saying I had messages here. Logged on, and yes, there was a list of 5 or 6 new messages on the opening screen. Clicked on one, says it wasn't there. Clicked on mailbox, said it was empty. Clicked on home page, all the mails had vanished.
Looks to me like I was getting notification of someone else's messages, and that was the list I saw on 1st log on.
Just as well it didn't let me read them, eh?
I have my account set to not e-mail me ever... so I was surprised when I got an e-mail saying I had messages here. Logged on, and yes, there was a list of 5 or 6 new messages on the opening screen. Clicked on one, says it wasn't there. Clicked on mailbox, said it was empty. Clicked on home page, all the mails had vanished.
Looks to me like I was getting notification of someone else's messages, and that was the list I saw on 1st log on.
Just as well it didn't let me read them, eh?
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"ignore user" doesn't seem to work - a while back, just after the upgrade, had a message from a single male (not interested), so clicked ignore. Just signed on for first time in a while, new message flashing, go to mail box, mail. Click "ignore user" since it was single male again, got reply "already in your ignore list"... so, if he's already in ignore list, how come I got the message?
Also, looking at some of the text of some of the ads, it seems that some of the wrong-category posts are caused by the SH server, not the poster. Saw one from a single male in the 'women seeking couples' category, and the 1st line read something like "the category heading is wrong, honest - i'm a single male"... so, some of those misposts are not numpty newbies.
Also, looking at some of the text of some of the ads, it seems that some of the wrong-category posts are caused by the SH server, not the poster. Saw one from a single male in the 'women seeking couples' category, and the 1st line read something like "the category heading is wrong, honest - i'm a single male"... so, some of those misposts are not numpty newbies.
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I've always had a relaxed attitude to face pics - my ad has both my and Mrs Espy's face pics on, no rude ones. My thought process is always this:
If someone confronts you about being a swinger, and on this site, just ask them what they were doing looking at the site in the first place! Either they're a swinger too, or a member of the quick-shag-searching brigade, or looking for porn.
If someone confronts you about being a swinger, and on this site, just ask them what they were doing looking at the site in the first place! Either they're a swinger too, or a member of the quick-shag-searching brigade, or looking for porn.
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I'm inclined to agree with guy4fun; those of you who are exclusively forum or chatroom users, with no interest in the photo-ads, have every right to hide your location via the "ZE1" option, nothing wrong with that. But it was always recognized that SH was 3 fairly distinct sections - the forum, the chatroom and the ads: just because location/postcode is of little interest to the forumites, that doesn't mean the rest of the site users have no valid opinions.
I have never been a great forum user (although I do use the chatroom), but I did browse the photo-ads. As a couple seeking a single female, there were never many to look through, and we could always just look at the locations to decide whether to open the ad or not. Now, I find myself looking at the 'women seeking couples' section with no clue as to whether the ads may or may not be local (ignoring the fact that many seem to be couples seeking women - see, it's not just single blokes!). The search is of little use - selecting what seem to be the applicable options seems to give ANY 'single women' ads, including those seeking single men or women, which are of no use to us Nor do the search results show you any of the text of the ad, which the category section does, so there's no pre-vetting possible.
All in all, as a previous user of the photo-ads, I just can't be arsed any more. Still, at least it's an improvement, eh?
~Espy
Tart mode on
Couple, 36 & 37, S Beds/Bucks, looking for single bi-fems... for what it's worth
Tart mode off
I have never been a great forum user (although I do use the chatroom), but I did browse the photo-ads. As a couple seeking a single female, there were never many to look through, and we could always just look at the locations to decide whether to open the ad or not. Now, I find myself looking at the 'women seeking couples' section with no clue as to whether the ads may or may not be local (ignoring the fact that many seem to be couples seeking women - see, it's not just single blokes!). The search is of little use - selecting what seem to be the applicable options seems to give ANY 'single women' ads, including those seeking single men or women, which are of no use to us Nor do the search results show you any of the text of the ad, which the category section does, so there's no pre-vetting possible.
All in all, as a previous user of the photo-ads, I just can't be arsed any more. Still, at least it's an improvement, eh?
~Espy
Tart mode on
Couple, 36 & 37, S Beds/Bucks, looking for single bi-fems... for what it's worth
Tart mode off
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There seems to be 2 places you have to set the photos to private:
In My Photos, you have to check the 'private' box, else the private gallery option will be overridden (it says... I haven't tried it).
Then, in My Private Gallery, you have to check the ones you want to be in the private gallery... although, if other check boxes are anything to go buy, this may be arse-about-face too.
Anyway, just my thoughts.
Toodle pip
~Espy
(S Beds/Bucks area, since I can't stick a location in the forum setting, and I didn't have one before, and not everyone knows where LU is
)
In My Photos, you have to check the 'private' box, else the private gallery option will be overridden (it says... I haven't tried it).
Then, in My Private Gallery, you have to check the ones you want to be in the private gallery... although, if other check boxes are anything to go buy, this may be arse-about-face too.
Anyway, just my thoughts.
Toodle pip
~Espy
(S Beds/Bucks area, since I can't stick a location in the forum setting, and I didn't have one before, and not everyone knows where LU is
) 