Can you put us down on the list please ?
We havn't been for a while cus i havn't been able to cope with the stairs but hopefully i will be further recovered from my knee op by then !
Closer to the time i will let you know if i don't feel able to cope with the stairs etc, hope thats ok ?
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nellie1
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 64
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I think it's her you should be talking to not us !
Ask her about how she feels and also maybe she still wants the cuddles etc but not actual sex !
You are more likely to find out if you ask her ! Also if you cheat on her that's probably not going to help matters at all if she finds out unless you tell her before meeting others !
Good luck x
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you joined this site in 2005 so obviously the thought of swinging isn't new to you.
Ask her about how she feels and also maybe she still wants the cuddles etc but not actual sex !
You are more likely to find out if you ask her ! Also if you cheat on her that's probably not going to help matters at all if she finds out unless you tell her before meeting others !
Good luck x
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you joined this site in 2005 so obviously the thought of swinging isn't new to you.
On a slightly different note ..... it was my team (Leicester City FC) that beat Man U 5 - 3 ..... i was there, that day and those few hours will stay with me forever, it was one of the best days of my life, i cried with happiness ..... we beat Man U by 5 goals to 3 .... yes i am a fanatical football fan.... even thou LCFC lost this weekend i am still on a massive high 
I have to say that i dont "do" twitter so i had no idea of what was said elsewhere.
Sorry for butting in ............... :)
actually im not sorry ..... lol
I have to say that i dont "do" twitter so i had no idea of what was said elsewhere.
Sorry for butting in ............... :)
actually im not sorry ..... lol
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so...released a phone that is a copy of the Samsung S4.
Bigger screen.....oh just like the Samsung
A link to a watch....of just like Samsung
The payment thing as all reviews say, is a bit of a dead duck....when you have contactless visa card...is it really so hard to wave that.....and can do that anywhere, where as at the moment Apple only have three partners where it will work !!
Awaits launch of Samsung 6.....at least may have something new to talk about then !!!
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Quote by Katniss
the majority of us are just nice, normal, ordinary people who care about others, just coz we want to get in each others pants doesnt mean we are rubbish (Catholic raised)
If you put together all the people on SH and had a game of trivial pursuit i reckon we would be an awesome team, never be so brow-beaten that you cant post in the forums, theres always bound to be a member of Sh somewhere that can help or advise
Ive been on a low for a week or so now, but I know where to find help to nip it in the bud, and always happy to pass on my personal experience with stuff like this.
lifes too bloody short to be miserable, make yourself a gratitude list, just 5 things you are grateful for each morning, on facebook right now they are doing the 3 positive things for 5 days challenge which is similar
so - I'm low right now - but my gratitude list is as follows :-
1: I woke up
2: i have a roof over my head
3: I have been 16 years clean this June :clap:
4: I have a freezer full of food because i have discovered menu-planning
5: i have friends that are better than family who are always there for me when i'm feeling low
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Kat I hope you start feeling better asap xxx
I went doctors and had a chat and feel better for having admitted to him how I am feeling, no medication prescribed cus I feel that I am improving plus it turns out I have another infection in the operation site (I think its the same infection that didn't go away !) and that can make me feel ill etc so now on antibiotics and told to go back to see the doc if still struggling
There some truly lovely people here and I am very glad i posted about how I felt, it has helped me.
i had 2 very bad days and was in lots of pain and struggling to control it plus I lost some of my mobility that I had gained since my opertion and felt fed up because I felt I was going backwards and was so fed up and tearful
Friday afternoon i went for physio and although I felt I wasn't doing well I was told I was doing good !! So that helped plus the physio helped me with the pain ... tens machines are brilliant
Then yesterday I spent the day with family and hubby and we went out several times and I walked lots, far more than I have since my operation and the pain was controlled fairly well and I felt so much better :)
Today I am achy but that's to be expected after the amount of walking I did yesterday !
This week I will go docs and tell them you lots made me go lol
I hope these posts help others to know that depression is real and ordinary people have it and sometimes it's good to "let it out" to others :)
Thank you xxx
i had 2 very bad days and was in lots of pain and struggling to control it plus I lost some of my mobility that I had gained since my opertion and felt fed up because I felt I was going backwards and was so fed up and tearful
Friday afternoon i went for physio and although I felt I wasn't doing well I was told I was doing good !! So that helped plus the physio helped me with the pain ... tens machines are brilliant
Then yesterday I spent the day with family and hubby and we went out several times and I walked lots, far more than I have since my operation and the pain was controlled fairly well and I felt so much better :)
Today I am achy but that's to be expected after the amount of walking I did yesterday !
This week I will go docs and tell them you lots made me go lol
I hope these posts help others to know that depression is real and ordinary people have it and sometimes it's good to "let it out" to others :)
Thank you xxx
Thank you so much for those lovely replies, they have made me cry but im a good way
Today i feel a bit better although still in lots of pain, hubby keeps telling me to go docs and i probably will but today i feel better and i have physio later so at least i will see other people and if i feel crap later than i will phone my docs.
Thank you so much, there are some lovely people here on SH xxxx
Today i feel a bit better although still in lots of pain, hubby keeps telling me to go docs and i probably will but today i feel better and i have physio later so at least i will see other people and if i feel crap later than i will phone my docs.
Thank you so much, there are some lovely people here on SH xxxx
I think I am on the edge of dipping back into depression again, I can see the edges of the big black cloud but I am unsure what to do .... I recently had a fairly majrt operation which was far more traumatic than I thought it would be and has left me unable to get about much and in lots of pain, I know()hope) it will get better and will be worth it but at the moment that seems so far away 
Just writing it here has helped me see whats happening to me and maybe I should go doctors but thats difficult in itself as I cant get there alone and my husband is working full time so its difficult !
I'm not wanting sympathy just needed to let it out
Just writing it here has helped me see whats happening to me and maybe I should go doctors but thats difficult in itself as I cant get there alone and my husband is working full time so its difficult !
I'm not wanting sympathy just needed to let it out
I have suffered from depression following some very traumatic times in my life, the first time i got no help from my GP but eventually i improved, probably because i had a young child to look after. Other times i have had help from my GP (a different GP thou), sometimes just sitting crying in the doctors room helped ease my big black cloud hovering over me ! I am lucky because each time i have got through it and its usually because i have my children to look after, think of and help, if it hadnt been for them then goodness knows how i would have got through !
I find it hard to tell others because there is still a stigma around depression and many people have just told me to "get on with it" oh if only it was that easy, my mum said i was suffering from my "nerves" .... we really do need to talk about it more to others, not about ourselves but about depression in general.
Its not something you can catch but you would think it was by the way some people behave when you admit you have it .... its a chemical imbalance in the brain and it can be helped but it would be a lot easier if the general public didnt place such a stigma on it !
I find it hard to tell others because there is still a stigma around depression and many people have just told me to "get on with it" oh if only it was that easy, my mum said i was suffering from my "nerves" .... we really do need to talk about it more to others, not about ourselves but about depression in general.
Its not something you can catch but you would think it was by the way some people behave when you admit you have it .... its a chemical imbalance in the brain and it can be helped but it would be a lot easier if the general public didnt place such a stigma on it !
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I'm a realist dean. I only deal in fact. There is nothing to condemn.
It's not a simple enough question and well you know it.
Demanding that people answer hypothetical questions in respect of which people can lie through their back teeth (for their own nefarious purposes) knowing full well that they cannot be challenged by the person against whom such accusations are levelled smacks of a communist totalitarian state.
I do not, in any circumstances, subscribe to or play mind games with people on that basis, nor waste valuable time awake chasing (other people's) pipe dreams.
so you think Jimmy Saville was innocent then !!! he was simply set up by communists..lol
I shall simply say I am truly shocked and that anyone is not willing to condemn abuse and anyone that has any association with it.
That is a completely different question to the hypothetical one you have asking.
In this thread, no-one has failed to condemn abuse. What people have refused to do thus far however is play out your silly fantasy that Margaret Thatcher was a raging sex monster.
Still no condemnation from you about Gilberthorpe's admission that he went in search of underage boys and watched them being abused then because he tries to finger MT?
Double standards?
Openly condemned anyone that know anything about abuse and did nothing. Don't care if they black, white Tory or Communist..without hesitation condemn. Anyone that has any association and does nothing I 100% condemn and hope they rot in hell. Maybe you would like to say the same...because as of yet you haven't !!!
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Why don't you just bite the bullet and visit Chams
It's not scary at all once you are in there, well i didn't find it scary anyway.
I went for the first time many many years ago, i was so scared and nervous before i went but i was eventually persuaded by 2 lovely men who both knew me fairly well and how i react in certain situations, and i took their word for it that i would love it (i am very shy and nervous with new sitituations and wasn't at all confident in the club swinging scene then) and i loved it straight away, i wasn't nervous about being naked under a towel in front of other people at all and my fears that i would be the oldest, fatest women there were unfounded.
I loved it so much i have been back many many times with various men friends, on my own and now with my husband (who i first met while swinging)I sugest you go and chat to the people who work there and i am sure they will guide you through the first nervous moments :)
You do as much or as little as you want so the choice is yours :)
It's not scary at all once you are in there, well i didn't find it scary anyway.
I went for the first time many many years ago, i was so scared and nervous before i went but i was eventually persuaded by 2 lovely men who both knew me fairly well and how i react in certain situations, and i took their word for it that i would love it (i am very shy and nervous with new sitituations and wasn't at all confident in the club swinging scene then) and i loved it straight away, i wasn't nervous about being naked under a towel in front of other people at all and my fears that i would be the oldest, fatest women there were unfounded.
I loved it so much i have been back many many times with various men friends, on my own and now with my husband (who i first met while swinging)I sugest you go and chat to the people who work there and i am sure they will guide you through the first nervous moments :)
You do as much or as little as you want so the choice is yours :)
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apart from the guy who wanted me to get in his boot so he could drive into his garage without me being seen by neighbours lol
:shock: Please tell me this was a joke!
OK here is my conundrum: every one says meet in public places, and in clubs - I feel ok with the daytime meets but in the night time, meeting in public and especially the idea of going to a club alone fills me with anxiety. For example, when I went to the local munch I got paranoid that someone, anyone, could follow me home. In reverse - if I go to someone's house (not hotel), *I* know where they live! If someone was out to harm me, would they really spend two months chatting me up on here, then arrange to go ahead with their wicked plan in their very home? What are the chances of that happening?
The only precaution I take now that I didn't to begin with is that I don't tell online people my name. It is too unusual and while my net presence is low, there still are some results to be garnered. I had a guy boast to my friend that he'd seen pictures of me and my children - that's just creepy (the boasting, not the searching). For this reason, people that start off with "Hi, I'm Guy/Girl" and expect or press for me to reciprocate get mildly ignored.
It wasn't a joke, well i don't think so but i didn't stay around to find out lol !!!
When i was swinging as a single i had a friend that i let know where i was going plus i also txt them the car reg of the person i was meeting. I always told the person i was meeting that i was doing that and also that i had to contact my "safe" person during the evening.
They were always ok with it and it seemed to keep me safe .... apart from the guy who wanted me to get in his boot so he could drive into his garage without me being seen by neighbours lol ... erm no way lol
They were always ok with it and it seemed to keep me safe
.... apart from the guy who wanted me to get in his boot so he could drive into his garage without me being seen by neighbours lol ... erm no way lol When i was single i met a few asian men, in fact i found this site through an asian guy, he was a nice fun fella and i sometimes chat to him here still in the chat rooms.
I also met another lovely asian guy who was fun and a really nice guy who offered me a room when i was having problems with finding some where to live at one time, really nice guy and i wish we still had contact just for a catch up.
However all my other meetings with asian guys have been awful and i found all those other guys were rude, not interested in giving me any pleasure and just wanted a quick bj or fuck to give them pleasure, then they took offence when i said no thanks to meeting them again.
I have also had bad meets with white guys but the percentage of bad meets with asian guys is far higher !
When at Chams i have often found similar problems and now i wouldnt meet an asian guy for that reason, sad but no point in meeting men who dont want to give me some pleasure aswell as having theirs
I was worried about posting this as some people may think i am being racist or whatever but its all true.
I also met another lovely asian guy who was fun and a really nice guy who offered me a room when i was having problems with finding some where to live at one time, really nice guy and i wish we still had contact just for a catch up.
However all my other meetings with asian guys have been awful and i found all those other guys were rude, not interested in giving me any pleasure and just wanted a quick bj or fuck to give them pleasure, then they took offence when i said no thanks to meeting them again.
I have also had bad meets with white guys but the percentage of bad meets with asian guys is far higher !
When at Chams i have often found similar problems and now i wouldnt meet an asian guy for that reason, sad but no point in meeting men who dont want to give me some pleasure aswell as having theirs
I was worried about posting this as some people may think i am being racist or whatever but its all true.
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They have no assets and would dispose of anything they do have to family on paper as soon as the was issued.
I would claim on my house insurance if I could have afforded some but my income doesn't run to luxuries :sad:
I would regard house insurance as a necessity rather than a luxury. Luxuries to me would be membership of swinging clubs and cigarettes. Each to their own.
I agre with Max.
Something i always feared disabilty wise was being less mobile and being in constant pain, sadly for me i am now far less mobile than i was and also in constant pain with what seems to be no end to it all
I make the best of life but its a constant struggle and i hate being a burden to my husband (who is truly wonderful).
Oh how i wish i could go back to being fit and healthy and pain free !
I make the best of life but its a constant struggle and i hate being a burden to my husband (who is truly wonderful).
Oh how i wish i could go back to being fit and healthy and pain free !
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Well being honest, yes it does make you sound like you think your better than those who watch anything and everything, some people find religion helps them through their lives, some people have hobbies, some spend their time with families and some watch a lot of TV, be that documentaries, movies or what to some is mindless crap that has nothing to do with reality, either way it is people's choice what they find enjoyable. I don't judge trainspotters or people into collecting things, whatever it takes to make you happy and get you through life's turbulence.
I am at this moment watching a war movie, to some it is boring and insignificant, to me it reminds me what some went through for my freedom and it is part of my personal history, it is entertaining and educational but I never allow TV to rule my life, I have a pause button and a record button, so I can pick and choose when I want to relax and watch TV.
I don't think that those who don't watch TV or don't watch much TV are missing out on some very educational stuff or even just entertaining stuff, I just think that they probably get this part of their lives elsewhere, perhaps they like to read or go out to a pub or chat with family and friends or use the internet, each to their own.
It may make me sound superior but i dont think of myself as being superior just because i watch very little TV.
Its a matter of choices and i chose to spend my free time doing something other than watching TV, nothing superior about that at all, just a matter of preferences
