In our relationship we are very into BDSM and constantly enjoy exploring new limits etc. However, I wasn't sure whether to include it on our profile on here for a couple of reasons. Firstly I need to completely trust someone with my life (literally) which I can't imagine ever having with a swinging partner. On the flip side of this, light bondage included in swinging would please me no end. There was also the issue for me of not wanting to put people off who weren't into that side of things at all. I have met a few people who think that because I like pain (both giving and receiving) this must be the only way I can get off, which obviously isn't the case.
As it happens I've decided to be open without being too OTT and if people don't like it, they know what to do...
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payne
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 42
Straight Male, 45
0 miles · Lancashire
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As a species we have evolved to make quick judgements and I think this is what gut instinct is. However quick choices can only be make on a limited amount of information (going back thousands of years it was essential for survival). In this modern age we can afford more time to take in more information before making a final judgement, although as humans are generally lazy we don't tend to bother unless it is about something very important. I think gut instinct is pretty reliable.. millions of years of evolution can't be wrong ;)
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I think it can be a problem if the guy is worried about it happening, this can then cause it to happen. But then if you tell someone not to worry about something.. it's just going to make it worse. No answer I'm afraid. If it ever happens in my presence I just remind them they have prefectly functioning fingers and a tongue for in the meantime ;)
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Take one look at amsterdam's system and run like hell!! Approx 80% of the working girls there are actually victims of human trafficking and are there against their will. The police force is corrupt and there is no-one to turn to. They are drugged, and left with no option but to work the windows for the vile pimps that use them..
Sorry... bit of a soap box rant, but it's something I feel very strongly about.
In an ideal world, legalised brothels would be well run, maintained and checked and provide a much safer environment for girls who choose to work them. If this could all be put into effect without a repeat of things that happen in the likes of amsterdam then I would be all for them.
Sorry... bit of a soap box rant, but it's something I feel very strongly about.
In an ideal world, legalised brothels would be well run, maintained and checked and provide a much safer environment for girls who choose to work them. If this could all be put into effect without a repeat of things that happen in the likes of amsterdam then I would be all for them.
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I'd rather combine cream cakes WITH sex 
I'm still young... honestly.... but I can't ever imagine losing my sex drive unless I no longer found my partner attractive. I get really irritable if I have to go more than a couple of days without it, and to be honest, never want that to change.
I'm still young... honestly.... but I can't ever imagine losing my sex drive unless I no longer found my partner attractive. I get really irritable if I have to go more than a couple of days without it, and to be honest, never want that to change.
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I also have my shrep disabled. I like to meet people based on how I feel about them rather than what other people have to say about them. I also prefer more nameless meets if that makes sense? More one offs rather then a regular playmate. That said, I have been off the scene for a couple of years so my opinion may change
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Quote by kentswingers777
Thank you for your answer. To paraphrase, you do not read around the subject or have any counter study to disagree with the OP so revert to the confetti argument of throwing as much argument into the air to smokescreen the original question
At least I know where you are coming from now
Glad you can do the Quote thing Davey.
The op's original question was about strangulation and not about , if my memory serves me?
I am not trying to smokescreen anything, merely pointing out that some people talk utter tripe.
Where am I coming from exactly? An opinion that I find the whole thing disgusting, especially some of the comments? At least we understand each other then. :wink:
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You can decide yourself after reading this or one of the related papers "Sexual arousal and orgasm in subjects who experience forced or non-consensual sexual stimulation – a review", Journal of Clinical Forensic Medicine, 2003. Do read the paper and not a wilki excerpt
I have already pointed out that you can find anything on here, even from so called experts apparently. 2003 ? I was pulled up yesterday from picking a thread from 2006....times change ya know. :wink:
I asked three women today and two guys their take on women being and climaxing. They thought I was having a laugh and when I stated that some people think that they were horrified and disgusted, that such rubbish could be written. One woman stated that if any woman had done that then they would have serious psychological problems and needed serious help.
One guy asked me where I got this rubbish from, but obviously did not want to tell him as did not want to give me little secret away, but I could imagine the answer.
Well to be perfectly honest I find yours and your friends views far more disrespectful to victims of than any of the others on this thread. Your sheer inability to consider viable factual research and base your opinion on just how you feel, and then flaunt it so vocally is insensitive to say the least.
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oooooo this has been an interesting thread i never looked before thought it was bout phone networks doh opened by accident n glad i did some very interesting and informative posts
i like the knife play bit very clever not sure we r anywhere near ready for that yet but pricked my interest
i watched some and it did look very interesting :twisted:
We enjoy knife play.... even when knowing it is the blunt edge against your skin it is a really horny experience. You could probably do it with a butter knife and it would feel as good
We have gone more in depth with that side of our exploration, but it is something we would never share with anyone else except in our fantasies :twisted: 
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It IS a dangerous thing.. but so is anal and I'm sure there are plenty of people who partake in that . It is something myself and my partner do, BUT we are very in tune with each other and know how far we can take things so we are still comfortable. I found having my head held back is usually sufficient restriction of the airways enough without actual choking, but when we do take it that step further we have to have alternative ways of communicating if we want the other to stop whatever they are doing because obviously it is impossible to say the safe word.
. It is something myself and my partner do, BUT we are very in tune with each other and know how far we can take things so we are still comfortable. I found having my head held back is usually sufficient restriction of the airways enough without actual choking, but when we do take it that step further we have to have alternative ways of communicating if we want the other to stop whatever they are doing because obviously it is impossible to say the safe word. 
It's like 2006 all over again in 'ere lately. ;) 
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nipple clamps
Or, in these financially challenging times we live in, an assortment of wooden and plastic clothes pegs with an half decent spring. ;)
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You been routing through my box then?!? :shock:
Definately rope, mask (personally prefer gas masks.. but any is sexy), whip, playwear (material dependant on individual) bondage tape, variety of toys.
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Gem.. how big was it at Lancashire cricket ground? I'm going there to see Eminem in September and just wonerding if I need to get there really early to actually be able to see him on stage. I don't wanna be at the front, but I'm a short arse so need to get the best view poss.
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Well said Neil. 
I think the guy has some serious mental issues.. he obviously see's himself as a small child so see's nothing wrong with the whole intimacy with other children. Could be something to do with having no childhood *insert psychological reasoning garble here* but whatever it is doesn't mean to say he was doing anything sexual.
Whatever the outcome had been, there would still be people believing it was wrong. Personally I'm happy to accept the verdict and good luck to him trying to get his arse out of millions of dollars worth of debt!!
I think the guy has some serious mental issues.. he obviously see's himself as a small child so see's nothing wrong with the whole intimacy with other children. Could be something to do with having no childhood *insert psychological reasoning garble here* but whatever it is doesn't mean to say he was doing anything sexual.
Whatever the outcome had been, there would still be people believing it was wrong. Personally I'm happy to accept the verdict and good luck to him trying to get his arse out of millions of dollars worth of debt!!
