Well it's almost Friday 13th and hopefully a very lucky one for a very special birthday girl.
Happy Birthday to my lovely sexy darlin Voddy, and hope it brings another year of fun and happiness.
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sparking
Over 90 days ago
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Hi there, and welcome
I think you will generally find a mix of age groups, but I find that everyone who goes to these clubs tends to stay young, however many candles are on their birthday cake!
If your girlfriend only wants to be with people of your own age, the swingers clubs I have seen are probably not going to be to her taste.
But if you both want somewhere to relax, chill out, have a few laughs and get to know some friendly people, they must be just the place for you.
I visit Adam and Eves regularly. Everyone has their own preference, but I find the atmosphere very friendly and easy-going. Why not give it a try - nothing ventured, nothing gained!
All the best, and have fun
Steve
I think you will generally find a mix of age groups, but I find that everyone who goes to these clubs tends to stay young, however many candles are on their birthday cake!
If your girlfriend only wants to be with people of your own age, the swingers clubs I have seen are probably not going to be to her taste.
But if you both want somewhere to relax, chill out, have a few laughs and get to know some friendly people, they must be just the place for you.
I visit Adam and Eves regularly. Everyone has their own preference, but I find the atmosphere very friendly and easy-going. Why not give it a try - nothing ventured, nothing gained!
All the best, and have fun
Steve
Changing the subject, but only very slightly.
When I first went to China I was at the reception desk of the hotel waiting to book in, and the receptionist said "Just a moment".
The person with me had lived in China for a while (!!), he took a sharp intake of breath, and warned me that I could be waiting for hours. He wasn't far wrong.
Back on the subject of while. There are variations on the theme. A good while usually means a long time. Funnily enough, a little while also often means a long time, as does quite a while.
And while (!!) we're at it, the Americans use the word "momentarily" to mean something different than we do. When the pilot says, "We will be landing momentarily" he doesn't mean that we will land and then take off again almost immediately! He means we are about to land (presumably in a little less than a while).
Hope everyone is suitably confused.
Steve
When I first went to China I was at the reception desk of the hotel waiting to book in, and the receptionist said "Just a moment".
The person with me had lived in China for a while (!!), he took a sharp intake of breath, and warned me that I could be waiting for hours. He wasn't far wrong.
Back on the subject of while. There are variations on the theme. A good while usually means a long time. Funnily enough, a little while also often means a long time, as does quite a while.
And while (!!) we're at it, the Americans use the word "momentarily" to mean something different than we do. When the pilot says, "We will be landing momentarily" he doesn't mean that we will land and then take off again almost immediately! He means we are about to land (presumably in a little less than a while).
Hope everyone is suitably confused.
Steve
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on the stairs in a swinging club he took me under his wing showed me around now been together 7 yrs and hes still a damm tease
7 years and I've nearly reached the top of those stairs now!! Well at least we went on to meet in the jacuzzi and still enjoying that too. I own up to being a tease though, but do I hear anyone complaining?
I have been going to Adam & Eves for quite a few years now. I suppose everyone has their own likes and dislikes, but I find it a very friendly place where it is easy to sit and relax, and get chatting to people.
You are absolutely right that politeness is very important. If you treat people with respect you should be fine. Remember that just because it's a swingers club, it doesn't mean every man / woman / couple wants to have sex with everyone else.
It might take a while to get used to the etiquette as a newbie, but remember everyone was a first-timer the first time, so they understand. Just relax and enjoy it!
I haven't seen much cross dressing there, but they say variety is the spice of life. The fact that everyone has to change into a towel or undies when they arrive is a great leveller, and any nerves usually only last a few minutes.
See you there soon
Steve
You are absolutely right that politeness is very important. If you treat people with respect you should be fine. Remember that just because it's a swingers club, it doesn't mean every man / woman / couple wants to have sex with everyone else.
It might take a while to get used to the etiquette as a newbie, but remember everyone was a first-timer the first time, so they understand. Just relax and enjoy it!
I haven't seen much cross dressing there, but they say variety is the spice of life. The fact that everyone has to change into a towel or undies when they arrive is a great leveller, and any nerves usually only last a few minutes.
See you there soon
Steve
It gets even worse in the USA
We can pay a bill with a cheque, but they can pay a check with a bill
We walk on the pavement, but if you did that in the USA you would be in the middle of the road!
Our crisps are their chips, our scones are their biscuits, our biscuits are their cookies
Our shares are their stocks, ours stocks are their inventories
And they try to say they speak English !!!
We can pay a bill with a cheque, but they can pay a check with a bill
We walk on the pavement, but if you did that in the USA you would be in the middle of the road!
Our crisps are their chips, our scones are their biscuits, our biscuits are their cookies
Our shares are their stocks, ours stocks are their inventories
And they try to say they speak English !!!
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did the yeast make him rise mrs b
yes hun hes the pillsbury dough boy!!!!!! :giggle:
I've even heard it suggested that yeast can turn centimetres into inches.... or is that all in the imagination!
Or maybe it's the self-raising flour that certain people put in their cakes?
Steve
I don't have any view on whether the stamps would be a good or bad thing, nor do I want to go over all the arguments about going to war in Iraq.
But this is a great opportunity to remember all those servicemen and women, and many other professions, who risk their lives to protect others. While most of us enjoy a fairly comfortable and safe Christmas, let's spare a thought for those who are defending freedom, wherever they are.
Steve
But this is a great opportunity to remember all those servicemen and women, and many other professions, who risk their lives to protect others. While most of us enjoy a fairly comfortable and safe Christmas, let's spare a thought for those who are defending freedom, wherever they are.
Steve
Hi
It might be worth mentioning that some of the swinging clubs can be great places just to relax, have a sauna/jacuzzi, get chatting to people, chill out. Especially if you go at a time when it's fairly quiet. Yes, there is certainly the opportunity for fun if you want it, but you can also just take it gently and soak in the atmosphere.
Maybe you need to think whether you and your boyfriend would both enjoy a "take it nice and easy" visit to see how you like it. But as others have said, I can't see how he could miss the fact that it's a swinging club. Maybe he would love it, but not if you aren't honest with him.
I hope you both find what you want and enjoy it.
Steve xxxxxxxxxxxx
It might be worth mentioning that some of the swinging clubs can be great places just to relax, have a sauna/jacuzzi, get chatting to people, chill out. Especially if you go at a time when it's fairly quiet. Yes, there is certainly the opportunity for fun if you want it, but you can also just take it gently and soak in the atmosphere.
Maybe you need to think whether you and your boyfriend would both enjoy a "take it nice and easy" visit to see how you like it. But as others have said, I can't see how he could miss the fact that it's a swinging club. Maybe he would love it, but not if you aren't honest with him.
I hope you both find what you want and enjoy it.
Steve xxxxxxxxxxxx
:kiss:i guess its all been said, and everyone seems to agree. the truth is that swingers are people and have feelings just like everybody else.
i often go to clubs as a single, and the only way to talk to couples is as a couple. although i suppose talking is a bit alien to some guys who think the women are just sex toys for their pleasure. there are other places that cater for those types but i guess they object to paying for it as well.
sometimes we go as a couple, and we really appreciate it if a single comes to chat to us both - it makes it a conversation rather than just a pickup. and as many others have said, you can still flirt with a couple!
i often go to clubs as a single, and the only way to talk to couples is as a couple. although i suppose talking is a bit alien to some guys who think the women are just sex toys for their pleasure. there are other places that cater for those types but i guess they object to paying for it as well.
sometimes we go as a couple, and we really appreciate it if a single comes to chat to us both - it makes it a conversation rather than just a pickup. and as many others have said, you can still flirt with a couple!
I heard that on the radio too. The warning was about young people and french kissing with a number of partners, increasing the risk of spreading meningitis.
But I've also heard in the past that kissing improves your health, so I suppose it depends which effect you think is greater.
As you say, one of the advantages of being a bit older! That's one pleasure I would hate to give up.
But I've also heard in the past that kissing improves your health, so I suppose it depends which effect you think is greater.
As you say, one of the advantages of being a bit older! That's one pleasure I would hate to give up.
I agree with most of what has been said already. This can be fantastic fun for all, but if either of the guys is shy about male contact then don't even think about it! And most important, really be sure that the woman is able to accommodate both at the same time without pain.
Both guys need to be properly hard, as floppy cocks don't easily survive the kind of movements involved. I've found it works well with the guy with bigger cock underneath, the woman on top facing him, and the other guy behind her doggy style. If you aren't all close enough together it can be difficult (especially if you get cramp), and I imagine you need cocks of at least average length.
If it works well, and all 3 experience orgasm at about the same time, it's out of this world.
Good luck!
Both guys need to be properly hard, as floppy cocks don't easily survive the kind of movements involved. I've found it works well with the guy with bigger cock underneath, the woman on top facing him, and the other guy behind her doggy style. If you aren't all close enough together it can be difficult (especially if you get cramp), and I imagine you need cocks of at least average length.
If it works well, and all 3 experience orgasm at about the same time, it's out of this world.
Good luck!
Hi mrluvtong and welcome to swinging heaven
I can well understand you being nervous about walking into a swingers club. Many people might imagine non-stop orgies and naked bodies everywhere! The reality (at least in most of the clubs and at most of the times I have been) is very different - people sitting, chatting, and generally relaxing. There should be no pressure on you at all. Many clubs have a sauna and/or jacuzzi, and in many of the UK clubs you would change into a towel (or the ladies maybe into sexy underwear) on arrival.
Of course, if you are looking for guaranteed sex, you might be disappointed at a club. On the other hand, you could get lucky!
Wishing you well in your quest.
I can well understand you being nervous about walking into a swingers club. Many people might imagine non-stop orgies and naked bodies everywhere! The reality (at least in most of the clubs and at most of the times I have been) is very different - people sitting, chatting, and generally relaxing. There should be no pressure on you at all. Many clubs have a sauna and/or jacuzzi, and in many of the UK clubs you would change into a towel (or the ladies maybe into sexy underwear) on arrival.
Of course, if you are looking for guaranteed sex, you might be disappointed at a club. On the other hand, you could get lucky!
Wishing you well in your quest.
Robbo
A few words of advice on swingers clubs. I've been to quite a few clubs now, and like anything else in life, what you get out of the experience depends on what you put into it.
There are those (thankfully I've not met too many) who think that you can forget all about politeness, common courtesy, and even cleanliness when you walk into a swingers club. Not true!! - the clothed / semi-clothed / naked bodies you meet in there are real people, who deserve to be treated as such.
Another wrong assumption is that "everyone is there for the same thing". There may well be couples and singles who go to clubs to enjoy a "quick shag" or group sex or whatever, but the majority of people I have met prefer to make friends, chat to people, take things gently, and relax. To some, the club is a place for a social gathering instead of going to the pub. To others, they will gradually take in the atmosphere, start feeling horny, and go off on their own or (if you are lucky!) with someone they fancy for some fun.
Lots of people on this site can recommend their own favourite club. Membership fees can be a drawback for single men, but if you find one where you feel happy and relaxed, you can make plenty of good friends.......and have some fun.
I personally like Adam and Eves in Manchester (others will tell you they hate it!), Cupids is very popular with many of the SH regulars too.
Good luck!
A few words of advice on swingers clubs. I've been to quite a few clubs now, and like anything else in life, what you get out of the experience depends on what you put into it.
There are those (thankfully I've not met too many) who think that you can forget all about politeness, common courtesy, and even cleanliness when you walk into a swingers club. Not true!! - the clothed / semi-clothed / naked bodies you meet in there are real people, who deserve to be treated as such.
Another wrong assumption is that "everyone is there for the same thing". There may well be couples and singles who go to clubs to enjoy a "quick shag" or group sex or whatever, but the majority of people I have met prefer to make friends, chat to people, take things gently, and relax. To some, the club is a place for a social gathering instead of going to the pub. To others, they will gradually take in the atmosphere, start feeling horny, and go off on their own or (if you are lucky!) with someone they fancy for some fun.
Lots of people on this site can recommend their own favourite club. Membership fees can be a drawback for single men, but if you find one where you feel happy and relaxed, you can make plenty of good friends.......and have some fun.
I personally like Adam and Eves in Manchester (others will tell you they hate it!), Cupids is very popular with many of the SH regulars too.
Good luck!
