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edinbughchris
Over 90 days ago
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The reviews section isn't being updated 
but that, I understand, is cos the owners have real lives as well as SH and keeping it up to date is a lot of work.
The suggestion was made about having club reviews as a sticky or something. If the new reviews everyone has sent in (me included) could somehow be given to the mods to put up as a sticky that would at least give a searchable resource - how about it?
but that, I understand, is cos the owners have real lives as well as SH and keeping it up to date is a lot of work.The suggestion was made about having club reviews as a sticky or something. If the new reviews everyone has sent in (me included) could somehow be given to the mods to put up as a sticky that would at least give a searchable resource - how about it?
Quote by tallnhairy
I read a piece in a medical journal once that regular male masterbation greatly reduced the risk of testicular cancer.
and I don't want that so ............................ :thumbup:
Doing our bit to save the NHS money, and do we get any thanks ;)
Yeah it was in the BMJ the other week - doctors are now trying to think of ways to tell their patients to wank more lol
Just seen a T-shirt on the way back from the post box:
"Sticks and stones may break my bones
but whips and chains excite me"
it was the wrong colour
Try Xtasia and Chameleons - both very different. If you feel too reserved to mingle much at least you get to dance at Xtasia (which is enormous) and it has dark 'corners' where plenty of peeps are getting it on. The bar there is also good for striking up conversations with all sorts of folk. Chameleons is less regimented and very laid back - you can have a good laugh in the great big jacuzzi. Anyway, big welcome and hug. Hope you find what you are looking for and have a great time. x
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You would be better off reporting this to a Mod, who will deal with it.
Also if you keep your email address turn off on the photo ads that should also help
Nooooo - this is not one received on SH. Just comes as email spam. But in comes in varying degrees of difficult-to-recognise-ness. Thought it might be good thing to alert people to it.
Scam warning 
:x :x
I thought I'd got rid of them but they keep coming back. The name, wording and email address varies slightly but here's a couple of samples. It usually starts off as an email from someone who 'thinks they know someone you' know or 'can't remember how they got your email address'.
They plug away and say the only way that they feel safe is to talk first and please would you phone some expensive number blah blah (0909 numbers, for instance, are a minute) and follow some elusive trail that ends up with you wasting a lot of time money and good will.
Genuine swingers can meet on SH with perfect safety and security. If you get messed about by one of these scams remember it's not swingers who ply such tricks - there's no need. It's hard enough for single guys who are new to the scene, simply cos genuine women and couples often get snowed under with enquiries. But at least on SH you can speak to real swingers.
(These ones came from )
"did you get my email OK ?? - no joy so far. Are you OK to meet at a swingers party - a few of us are fixing one up next week. If you want details Ive left them on pin number 138167 - hope you may be OK on that xx Julie"
"sorry I took so long to get back - found your email in my junk folder !! We have no luck on the messageboard with handle name and I am hoping for a meeting also, my friends are having a party if you like to meet at a swing party which I like in UK. So lets OK to fix something using the speed date voice mail box (best to echange voices first then if we sound OK to each other we speak live one on one later to fix phone call to talk) My voicemail telephone number isxxxxxxxxxxx and my voicebox pin number is 557845 you will hear me saying what I am in to and party details of it!! please you to tell me what you are in to and if you are OK on what I am liking (important) Anyway, this is too long time now and I go back to Czech Republic in few weeks now - please email me when you have left a message on my voice mail and I pick it up straight away and get back to you. xx Julie"
Mod Edit: edited out the email address and phone number
:x :x I thought I'd got rid of them but they keep coming back. The name, wording and email address varies slightly but here's a couple of samples. It usually starts off as an email from someone who 'thinks they know someone you' know or 'can't remember how they got your email address'.
They plug away and say the only way that they feel safe is to talk first and please would you phone some expensive number blah blah (0909 numbers, for instance, are a minute) and follow some elusive trail that ends up with you wasting a lot of time money and good will.
Genuine swingers can meet on SH with perfect safety and security. If you get messed about by one of these scams remember it's not swingers who ply such tricks - there's no need. It's hard enough for single guys who are new to the scene, simply cos genuine women and couples often get snowed under with enquiries. But at least on SH you can speak to real swingers.
(These ones came from )
"did you get my email OK ?? - no joy so far. Are you OK to meet at a swingers party - a few of us are fixing one up next week. If you want details Ive left them on pin number 138167 - hope you may be OK on that xx Julie"
"sorry I took so long to get back - found your email in my junk folder !! We have no luck on the messageboard with handle name and I am hoping for a meeting also, my friends are having a party if you like to meet at a swing party which I like in UK. So lets OK to fix something using the speed date voice mail box (best to echange voices first then if we sound OK to each other we speak live one on one later to fix phone call to talk) My voicemail telephone number isxxxxxxxxxxx and my voicebox pin number is 557845 you will hear me saying what I am in to and party details of it!! please you to tell me what you are in to and if you are OK on what I am liking (important) Anyway, this is too long time now and I go back to Czech Republic in few weeks now - please email me when you have left a message on my voice mail and I pick it up straight away and get back to you. xx Julie"
Mod Edit: edited out the email address and phone number
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especially for you . . .
:laughabove: nice one!
pleased you liked it (even if it 'wasn't for you' lol!)
Just wanted to emphasise to anyone who makes a first post and gets a humourous response - this is *not* taking the piss out of *you*, but it *is* having a bit of a laugh (hopefully *with* you) at a post that is really just asking for it.
It can take a lot of courage for someone to make a first post, even when it seems dumb or out of place to people already on the site. Often someone just mistakes SH for a sex site not realising that sex-workers are generally barred and that to attract a woman or a man or a couple or whatever you are into takes an awareness of the 'market' . . .
There's nowt wrong with wantin' a bit of hot pussy in Glasgae or anywhere else - just that choosing appropriate language (or an appropriate site) is key . . .
Quote by edinbughchris
so I'm off the hook then?:wink:
Quote by sexyscotcarol
Oh no you don't
You don't get of that easy will have you up as well
Carol
You mean I can actually use those awful songs I had been practicing before the last Munch and apologising to everyone ever since for having . . . ?
"Well you know I've only got an Abba* song in my collection 'cos of this karaoke thingie . . ."
ops:see what I go thru for you when you shake those red locks at me and give me that coy look from under your eyelashes . . . even though I risk total nervous breakdown at the thought of singing in public . . .
Let me think . . . can I demand a favour in return hey hey :wink: :wink: :wink:
*this is used an example sub judice for poetic purpose; no express actual owning of an actual Abba song shall be taken as implied or meant."
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COUPLE WOULD LIKE TO TRY INTHE NORTHWEST
Maybe try a tad more info?
I know it seems scary, but although a lot of people on here seem confident and outgoing it's partly cos they've got to know lots of peeps just thru chatting.
Meeting someone in a club maybe involves less verbal communication, but you still need the "Hi . . . I'm so-and-so . . . I'm new here . . . what this place like . . ." kind of banter or similar. If someone just PM'd you and only said "yes, meet us at the corner of the slip road of the M6 at that dark and scary bit miles from anywhere", would you go????
'Course not. So just maybe chill out and let peeps get to know you . . . If it works great, if not you've lost nowt and you'll maybe even make some new friends . . .
Best of luck anyway
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Lots of people looking, but no responses!
Well I had a look just cos I like looking at people's ads to learn something about their style of putting a message across (if they perchance have some)
Being genuine is not enough. There's lots of genuine things in this world but I don't want to shag them. Don't be disheartened, just keep practicing!
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Give it time.
"Big oaks from acorns doth grow" err...............something like that!
Well done!:D
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Thank you. It's something I really enjoy writing about, not my usual writing stuff which is so f*cking boring I'd rather be a paint brush in the sun, and if I'm in a strange city not having to worry about how to get tickets it's a big bonus, especially if I get offered premieres
What kazswallows says and a bit of tommi too . . . agree
quick answer:
your friend met her when *she was already depressed*. The time in her life when she became depressed becomes associated with her new lover. This is a tough break but very little he can do about it. He represents the onset of her depression, however unfair.
There might have been a 'make or break' point where he symbolised the knight in shining armour that rescues her, but it didn't happen. The ex-husband holds too many cards. He knows her inside out. Major bad move crossing him.
Right now it will seem like his world that was in his hands has just been passed to another ball player out of sight mid-field. As a (non-romantically-involved) friend you can be there in a supportive capacity. Just let him know you are there to listen if he needs to talk. You don't have to do anything else. You don't have to supply answers - there probably aren't any anyway. But he may remember and treasure a friend who valued him when the person whose opinion he valued more than anyone in the world basically said you're not worth even talking to.
Feel special that he values you to confide in at his darkest moment. He's probably bared his soul. Value that and be there as a listening ear. (If he goes on too long, as he might, just draw a distinction in the conversation - ten mins listening time then "so let me tell you about what I've been doing . . .") Your his friend, not The Samaritans.
quick answer:
your friend met her when *she was already depressed*. The time in her life when she became depressed becomes associated with her new lover. This is a tough break but very little he can do about it. He represents the onset of her depression, however unfair.
There might have been a 'make or break' point where he symbolised the knight in shining armour that rescues her, but it didn't happen. The ex-husband holds too many cards. He knows her inside out. Major bad move crossing him.
Right now it will seem like his world that was in his hands has just been passed to another ball player out of sight mid-field. As a (non-romantically-involved) friend you can be there in a supportive capacity. Just let him know you are there to listen if he needs to talk. You don't have to do anything else. You don't have to supply answers - there probably aren't any anyway. But he may remember and treasure a friend who valued him when the person whose opinion he valued more than anyone in the world basically said you're not worth even talking to.
Feel special that he values you to confide in at his darkest moment. He's probably bared his soul. Value that and be there as a listening ear. (If he goes on too long, as he might, just draw a distinction in the conversation - ten mins listening time then "so let me tell you about what I've been doing . . .") Your his friend, not The Samaritans.
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Woooooooooooohoooooooooooo, :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Well done, know just how hard that can be, We used to do a lot of event security stuff, and sometimes had to get one of our own staff to get the accreditation so they could escort "certain people " into "certain places"
Good onyas :cheers:
ta!
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ok . . . probably meaningless to everybody else . . . but got press acreditation today, which means I get (free) entrance to movies world wide yippee!!
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
told ya'all it wos boring tae everyun' else lol . . .
am over the moon so just wannid tae share . . . sorry fur shoutin' - am just so thrilled
Well it's not free if you've got to travel all over to see them is it?
Creds always open doors though, don't they?
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WEll I've not progressed to the "we want to pay your airfare to Cannes" yet, but it's still a big thing for me
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though you may now add.... slightly sozzled..... to boring as....
Oooh!! You getting pissed again??? :shock: :shock:
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
i am not just about to finish a botle of red and then hit the stella's.... oh no, and i am off tomorrow.. so bah humbug to your nefarious plans sarge!
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oooo pour me one would you? I've just walked away from a free bar (????)
ok . . . probably meaningless to everybody else . . . but got press acreditation today, which means I get (free) entrance to movies world wide yippee!!
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
told ya'all it wos boring tae everyun' else lol . . .
am over the moon so just wannid tae share . . . sorry fur shoutin' - am just so thrilled
:inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
told ya'all it wos boring tae everyun' else lol . . .
am over the moon so just wannid tae share . . . sorry fur shoutin' - am just so thrilled
Quote by sexyscotcarol
:happy: :happy: Looks like i've found some to :karaoke: with me.
Have been turned down by Ronnie (Bicurran) and Fred (mr sexyscot) but it's there loss as i have found a willing victim (erm i mean Vounuteer)
so I'm off the hook then?
:wink: Looking forward to it - shall be in the front row cheering you on and applauding!
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Hi all. We are a brand new (i know another one) scottish couple who are going to Euphoria in Blackpool to hopefully have our first experience. Our main question is we both appreciate that the first time might be awkward us, and after discussing it, we reckon we would both be more comfortable on the first occassion going back for separate room fun. We then read lots of ad's out of interest, and it seems most cpls want same room fun. Are we weirdlol? What did everyon else do on their first time? Any help or hints would be gratefully appreciated. Thanks!
No, you're not weird! I'm happy with either but a lot of people have strong preferences one way or the other.
Euphoria isn't a club I know personally, but looking at the site it seems it has a big advantage that it's a hotel, so you won't have the 'shortage of rooms' problem
I'd maybe suggest that when chatting in a general way with people you make your prefs known early on. A 'the sort of thing we're into' comment can be non-specific just while you're chatting, not necessarily deciding. But then at least you may get an indication of whether other couples you chat to are potentially into the same thing.
Be safe, have fun, enjoy :happy:
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Packing for a munch....
Hmmm, last time I went to a proper munch (not a manchestersocial) I took a small suitcase!
It contained...
a choice of several outfits for the munch. evening and the next day
selection of lingere
pressie for my host
make up bag
bottle of wine
toys
condoms and lube
three pairs of shoes
makeup wipes
Vodka
Coke
I was staying over with someone who I know very well... hence all the sexual parafernalia and lack of toothbrush as he has a spare at his so I don't forget to bring it! :lol:
Gem. x
Nice one, Little Gem - my fave list so far (may I smuggle you a bottle opener? ;-))
Mine's something like:
*SH pin (at least as soon as I get mine from the wonderful LucyWeeBaps
:D)*Decent bottle of wine (or other booze) plus corkscrew
*Handkerchief
*Mini-deodorant
*Shoe-shine sachet
*Something with my travel lodge room number written on for when I forget it
*Mini power speakers for hotel room (to plug iPod/mobile into for muzak)
*Spare 'performance' clothing (eg Rohan - less space but still stylish)
*Cash (in smaller wallet than usual)
*Clubbing bag (- small enough to fit into large pocket. Gripe: Why oh why do not more males carry these in clubs instead of cadging my condoms??) containing errr condoms, lube sachet, mini-listerine, mints, wetwipe, tiny aftershave - ok maybe not needed at a munch but you know the ol' Boy Scouts' motto . . .
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oh and errr . . . toothbrush (probably in overcoat pocket due to nearly forgetting it)
Simple answer: That's the time to stop. It's natural, it usually happens, it's usually fantasy. Your regular partner is predictable - where's the magic and mystery in that? The trick is to use the experience of magic and mystery you get from swinging as flavouring for the love life with your regular partner.
There's other options of course, total disaster included. You could ask yourself some hard questions (the answers at this stage might not make any difference but . . . )
Do you really love your partner?
Do you want to risk everything (and going off with your new lover risk the possibility/ probability that the novelty will wear off soon)?
Do you want to make it work with your partner - if so, what are you going to do about it?
Is the swinging lifestyle for you? (It's not for everyone).
Human answer - you're in a bind and don't know what to do. All the good advice in the world will probably not mean squat, especially if you are gripped by passion and uncontrolled emotion. And who is anyone else to give advice? You might go against all common sense and it could turn out to be the match made in heaven (unlikely, but quite possible). You have to work it out yourself, but the scenario sounds quite common - it's similar to just having an affair. If you've a close friend who's been swinging for a while try talking it over with them.
Good luck {hug}
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There's other options of course, total disaster included. You could ask yourself some hard questions (the answers at this stage might not make any difference but . . . )
Do you really love your partner?
Do you want to risk everything (and going off with your new lover risk the possibility/ probability that the novelty will wear off soon)?
Do you want to make it work with your partner - if so, what are you going to do about it?
Is the swinging lifestyle for you? (It's not for everyone).
Human answer - you're in a bind and don't know what to do. All the good advice in the world will probably not mean squat, especially if you are gripped by passion and uncontrolled emotion. And who is anyone else to give advice? You might go against all common sense and it could turn out to be the match made in heaven (unlikely, but quite possible). You have to work it out yourself, but the scenario sounds quite common - it's similar to just having an affair. If you've a close friend who's been swinging for a while try talking it over with them.
Good luck {hug}
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Does anyone else get stuck in that doodling on the keyboard rut late at night?
OK, if you're as bored as I am/was you'll probably click these out of curiosity. I take no responsibility for them, and some of the answers are very dubious, but do we care?
I got 237 on the Cum On Our Tits Test, my porn star name is Lil Miss Suckit, and I got HELL LEVEL 3 (Raw score: 100%) in the The Sexual HELL Test (but the questions were so easy so would probably everyone on here) "There's a special place in Hell for you: the basement penthouse. You scored the nastiest possible score on the Sexual Hell Test. You have no sexual restraint whatsoever. You'll take pleasure however you can get it, and my guess is you get it a lot. If for some reason you don't right now, you will soon, as people in your category only tend to spiral down ever deeper into the abyss of carnality and delicious sin. Congratulations." At least the The how fuckable are you Test said I'm '84 fuckable.' (what happened to the 16% without taste lol?) In The Lover Style Profile Test I came The Liberated Lover, 54% partner focus, 61% aggressiveness, 65% adventurousness.
This is looking as if I would have to hire one (not being an emergency service myself lol). Is there a place in Brum that is easy for hiring? Unfortunately I would have to be able to return it on the Sunday as travel arrangements mean being in London area Sunday night.
What about home made ideas? Is there something more interesting than going as an accident victim with just a sheet wrapped round me? Any variations on headmaster/schoolboy?
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:jagsatwork: :gagged: :bounce:
What about home made ideas? Is there something more interesting than going as an accident victim with just a sheet wrapped round me? Any variations on headmaster/schoolboy?
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:jagsatwork: :gagged: :bounce: 