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walnut
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 67
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Corrie - I recall a time when you really helped me with your advice - don't think I was a 'project', but I recognised you as a good listener. So pleased to see you back and though the site has changed somewhat, at least the same old faces appear in the cafe and don't get bother from the less serious - well, not in the forum anyway. 
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:D I've often worried about my size, but mostly because my ex used to be so critical. It's very hard to be positive if you're being put down. I love sex and those I meet at clubs like Chams tend to be lovely - men and women - and I always have a good time there. Long live the non-judgementals!!
Partner and me have been to Chams quite a lot, but were wondering whether there might be another couple interested in following up after going to the Club. Can't recall whether I've already described myself as a BBW (which I am). We really like kinky stuff and would love to share this with others. I'll have my blue gingham scrunchy in my hair, so can be identified. So, anyone who'd like a good time (guaranteed!) at Chams and after - would love to meet with you. Very broad-minded - all kinds of perversions we love! While at the Club, single guys (bi- and straight) are welcome to fuck me and be sucked and suck my partner. We're in for a good time on sunday!!
I recall having a dream when I was about 15 years old - before I was sexually active. It was about being in a room with 3 guys and I was being fucked in turn over a sofa by all of them. To this day I don't know where that came from. My first real sexual encounter was a bit traumatic and nothing like my dream. Over the years and particularly now, I think my leaning towards swinging possibly stems from that fantasy. I love meeting fellas who are respectful and sexy and know the protocol, as it were.
mmm....yes...it was ages since I was last fisted, but fantasise about it still - taken from behind - as he worked his fingers and then eventually his fist, I pushed back on them. No lube needed - kept squirting...fantastic orgasm! Did it for about 10 mins (with previous foreplay). This thread has really turned me on!
This has been a most interesting and erudite thread and one that I think should be returned to as the legislation goes through its various processes. I have worried, however, at BFC's comments. Where I have been coming from is not to do with censorship of adult-consenting porn and sexual activity (heaven forbid - I was at Chams yesterday indulging in all sorts and having a very good time!), but where porn is used deliberately to exploit. Whether this be by adults exposing kids to porn via internet/photo images/ magazines etc, or, as I pointed out previously the trade in 'sex slaves'. As Alspals quite rightly comment, the wider community has to take an interest in kids who have been abused because their abusers - often parents - don't care whether they are exposed to porn (most likely promoting it!). People need to realise that this goes on and somewhere along the line, be involved in preventing this activity from continuing. Whether we are parents or not, we all have a responsibility!
Mod edit: no need to start a new thread - threads merged.
Mod edit: no need to start a new thread - threads merged.
You know, there have been so many wise words spoken on this topic, but I am concerned about some that have been critical of those that have attempted to take a measured approach. The one that castigates feminists, for instance, really irritated me - since I would consider myself one. I have worked with kids who've been sexually abused and a common feature is the use of porn (both adult and child) in the abuse. there's no getting away from it. Yes, it's about those individuals who do this, but there is a wider issue we cannot get away from. That's to do with the way in which porn is distributed and how children are encouraged to see it as legitimate. The internet has a lot to answer for. Children can NOT be willing sexual partners/actors, but abusers make them feel that this is so.
Human rights is an issue for consenting adults and quite rightly, our predeliction for some kinky stuff should be protected. But it worries me when people confuse this with abuse. I know it is a fine line at times (not with kids tho - that is clear for me), but I have seen pictures of women who are clearly in pain and can't possibly be enjoying the bondage/whipping/torture etc. They are most likely to be women who have been brought from abroad to service the porn industry in this country.
Future legislation needs to address the seedier side of the porn industry that involves abuse of both adults and children. We need to make our views known and not regard this consultation as a threat.
Human rights is an issue for consenting adults and quite rightly, our predeliction for some kinky stuff should be protected. But it worries me when people confuse this with abuse. I know it is a fine line at times (not with kids tho - that is clear for me), but I have seen pictures of women who are clearly in pain and can't possibly be enjoying the bondage/whipping/torture etc. They are most likely to be women who have been brought from abroad to service the porn industry in this country.
Future legislation needs to address the seedier side of the porn industry that involves abuse of both adults and children. We need to make our views known and not regard this consultation as a threat.
This is a great thread! Relationships are so complex. Following the break-up of my 17-year marriage, i was celibate for about 4 months. Then when I had sex again - with an old flame - it was mind-blowing. I'd recommend a period of abstinence to anyone for the heightened pleasure it can bring when sexual activity is resumed. On the other theme of playing outside marriage, I have had very different experiences of men who are looking for this. To begin with, I was very anti anyone who felt it was acceptable. However, I quickly realised that it wasn't as simple as that. I have met and had sex with men who continue to remain married - usually because of the kids. But the ones I have had most respect for are those who don't slag off their wives/partners (this being based on knowing that my ex used to do this). In fact, the fellah I team up with to go to Chameleons is married and loves his wife - he has been married for a long time and it's not so much their relationship is flagging, but him wanting some kinky sex. Which I'm more than happy to go along with, because that is what I want too. I'm happier now than I've ever been in the marriage I had - freedom to do what I want and a relationship that is good since there are no demands, but plenty of affection and positive regard. I consider myself to be single and therefore look forward to fun in all kinds of ways! I could only say this stuff on here - so pleased there is this outlet.
Mo was one of the best - a person with true integrity and passion. Her commitment to peace and conflict resolution was second to none - there are not a lot of politicians who can do what she did or achieved. Unfortunately, there doesn't seem to be a lot who would wish to learn from her. On me sopabox I know, but ....... we need more like her in this country, so it's a sad loss. Met her once - was very impressed. RIP Mo.
Have been going to Chams for nearly a year now with my partner and over this time have grown to really enjoy the occasions we've been there. I'm 47 and he's 42 - neither of us what you'd call slim. We've met up with a lot of really nice folk - whether couples or singles. Had some exciting encounters, as well as good conversations and laughs. We feel that Chams is a good place for those new to swinging -no pressure, but loads to do if you want. I was very hesitant first time, but things come naturally now! There are some good people that go and staff that run it are great and welcoming.
Mike - have come to realise that I may be a thread-killer, so won't hurt in this case! As a single fem and sometimes part of a couple - I was very interested in your comments. You see, since linking up with a guy who enjoys swinging (something I didn't know anything about until a year ago), I've not looked back and I suspect that other women may feel the same. it's difficult at first to get over the hurdle of 'does he still love me?' if you are involved in group-type activities. But I now know that he does regardless of what we get up to (mostly at clubs). When you meet someone new, be open with them - offer the opportunity to look over a club or 2 (it's been on TV of course!). If you've already clicked sexually, you may find this ok. If not, time to move on. I personally don't regard myself as abnormal, and I think most women who love sex are of the same opinion. So, try it and good luck!
sorry if I raised some thorny issues - noticed I've been avoided. This is a very difficult area for both men and u to know that I have met a lovely, caring man, so I'm not an embittered person. But we all need to recognise that domestic violence is a no-go area and one that needs to be tackled on all I was assaulted by my ex in a rural area, I would loved to have help at hand, but it wasn't. Please keep this thread going.
I've been out of a very turbulent/violent marriage that lasted 20 years for just over 2 years now. I find it really difficult still to even begin to talk about stuff, though I've had the best of counselling. I feel that I'm an altogether kind of person - as friends and family would testify, but years of abuse have an effect that those who haven't experienced can only imagine. My son and me have a running joke about what I've left past it's sell-by date at the back of the fridge, since that was always one of the things I was often greeted with on my return home from work. It was always my fault. An excuse for a row and often a beating. It didn't need much of an excuse. People often wonder why we don't just up and leave, but it's so difficult. There's the apparently sincere apologies that it will never happen again, the "I will change" scenario, the fact it's someone else's fault, "we love each other really", the financial situation - so many excuses - on both sides. Family watch on, giving advice, but never really knowing the depths of despair until it's almost too late. I've had broken ribs, lacerations to my arms requiring surgery, black eyes, multiple bruising, so much. I won't go on, but this thread did offer the opportunity to raise these issues. I personally am really grateful for that and hope that it might provide others the same. thanks.
My fella and me would love to meet up with a couple in West Mids area for some mutual fun. We are in our mid-40s, have wicked sense of humour, on the cuddly side, into most stuff, tho neither of us bi- would like to have some social contact 1st and see where it leads. We go to Chams occasionally and will be there either tomorrow or Tues afternoon/early evening. Available most evenings during the week.
