' how can you have a day without a night?
you are the book that I have opened and now I've come to know so much more.
Like a soul without a mind, a body without a heart,
I'm missing every part'.
"Unfinished Sympathy", Massive Attack
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walnut
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 67
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yes, happy birthday Clare! So good to see happy messages!! Hopefully meet up with some people on Fri at Chams. 
I'm really dying to meet up with other SH people, so would love to come. Was thinking I might stay overnight close by - since tho I've been to Chams before, never had a drink and would like to do that too for a , I'll bring some - I'm single fem - have been to Chams with my ocasional boyfriend, but not this time.
Since I had some time this afternoon, I decided to spend it trying to get into the chatroom. However, as usual, failed miserably after nearly 3 hours! OK, so some of you may say I'm lacking upstairs! But I've done everything suggested, including downloading mIRc and following those instructions. Managed to find a room where I talked to myself - which can be quite amusing at times, but didn't want to do that today!. Am I going mad? 
Sean, I've been really touched by your dilemma. Want you to know that as a very recent single, I understand your position. Although I'm a fem, sometimes the situation is very similar to what you've experienced. Personally, I don't want to be labelled as someone who's there for couples.
It's so tempting, I know, to want to share what you're up to. I've often been on the verge of saying something at work - my colleagues are very broad-minded and mostly funny guys. But I hold back 'cos a bit unsure. Someone once let out that I'd used an on-line dating agency to find fellas and it was reported to my line manager, who felt it was 'inappropriate' to share this information with my colleagues. Some people need to catch up with the times, I think!
Hey, Little
You've had lots of good advice and I've also been personally pleased to relate it to my own experiences. It's good to realise you're not alone. Exs can be a real pain and I'm fortunate to have a wonderful son (now 22) and stepdaughter and stepson who know their father very well. But just to re-assure the men on here, i don't have a problem - there's lots of good fellas out there!!! I'm sure other women feel the same. xx
You've had lots of good advice and I've also been personally pleased to relate it to my own experiences. It's good to realise you're not alone. Exs can be a real pain and I'm fortunate to have a wonderful son (now 22) and stepdaughter and stepson who know their father very well. But just to re-assure the men on here, i don't have a problem - there's lots of good fellas out there!!! I'm sure other women feel the same. xx
Corrie_Fem - really felt for you, since I'm in a similar position. Though I don't really know where I stand at the moment. It was only last week that me and my partner were at Chams, but now I can't seem to communicate with him. It really hurts. I know I'll survive, as I'm sure you will too, but the here and now is difficult isn't it?
Let's be clear, political correctness was never the baby of the white liberal tendency. Rather it was, and continues to be, a construct fabricated by the right-wing facist (racist, homophobic etc) types who love tabloid tale-telling about 'people over here, who don't belomg'. i was really dismayed to read some of the messages, because up to now I have found the threads very interesting and I have been impressed at the high standard and quality of contributions. The term 'golliwog' is offensive to black people (there's been a lot of research done over the years and the Commission for Racial Equality would be more than happy to provide anyone interested with this information). Racial hatred has been incited on very many occasions with the use of "Wog" being repeated in a derogatory manner - the same going for "Pakis" etc. This is why 'Golly' was substituted on its own. As for celebrating Christmas, my own personal experience in both white-dominated rural areas, as well as in the inner city, is that it still happens, with the participation of children from different cultures and faiths. I was at a nativity play only last week, and was delighted to see how enthusiastic the kids were, regardless of what religion they adhered to. If you can embrace the multi-faith, multi-cultural world and its richness that we live in. then yes, a chance for peace and goodwill!! (I'm not a vicar, by the way - more of a tart!) 
