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McrBloke
Over 90 days ago
Male, 59
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Master of Sex
Quote by Evane
...Formally they would always use partner...
Only a minor point, but everyone is different so I don't think this statement is valid. Just pick up on what they call each other and go with the flow.
Quote by Evane
...just have a fun and don't ask too many questions....
Had to laugh when I saw this one - I don't think most gay/lesbian people mind anyone asking questions as long as it's not the tired old "who's the man in bed?" or "how can two women have real sex together?"
By the way, you mentioned that you went to one in church - just to clarify, a Civil Partnership cannot be held in church as it's legally defined as a non-religious ceremony (you can't play religious music or have religious quotes either). Civil Partnership couples having any sort of "do" in a church are simply having a blessing and will still need a civil registration as well for it to be legally recognised.
Master of Sex
I'm one of those peculiar creations....a bloke who loves wrapping up prezzies - I really enjoy the challenge when there's something unusually shaped and I'm a dab hand with curling ribbon, glue, cardboard etc.
Mind you I get strange looks when I mention it in conversation
Mind you I get strange looks when I mention it in conversation
Master of Sex
Quote by Lost
It is quite possible that J & I will be going to a same sex wedding next year. What I would like to know is do gay guys call each other husband? Likewise do lesbians call each other wife? And, in/at wedding the service or whatever does the registrar say "do you so & so take so & so to be your lawful wedded husband/wife" then say the same to the other?
I really am not being flippant, I'd like to know
The first thing I'd say is that everyone is different so just go with the flow and pick up on the terms people are using with each other. It's not really about what is said (take foot out of mouth!) but more about the intent behind it. There aren't any strict rules about Civil Partnerships because it's all relatively new.
But to give you some guidelines on the specific questions you asked:
Most gay blokes refer to their partners as "partner", "other half" (although I hate that term) and some (who are Civil Partnered) might say "husband" too. I'm sure there are lots of other expletives that might fit in here too, depending on how drunk they are and how good looking the best man etc is
Can't speak for definite about lesbians (someone help out here?) but I'd presume it's pretty much the same sort of format.
The service isn't a wedding, it's a Civil Partnership. Usually the registrar refers to them as "Civil Partners", but this will depend on the wording of the ceremony and the registrar performing the ceremony.
In comparison to a wedding, there's very little that must be said by law (which is "I understand that on signing this document we will be forming a civil partnership with each other").
Anything else added to the ceremony is a nice-to-have extra selected by the individuals concerned.
Hope this helps - I'm sure you'll have a whale of a time :thumbup:
Master of Sex
A suggestion building on Fire's last comment:
When we have key changes to our intranet at work, a site notice is posted worldwide. You have to acknowledge it before you're granted access.
Perhaps something similar could be introduced here. It would save on sending out emails and bring things squarely to members' attention. I know people could just click on OK and not actually read it, but they would have been informed.
As a longer-term member I must admit I sometimes struggle with where updates have been posted. There's a mixture of stickies and general posts that cover all sorts of useful information. I'd really like to see key information made more accessible and in one place (perhaps Help should be updated more regularly), and important updates flagged to me as I logon.
When we have key changes to our intranet at work, a site notice is posted worldwide. You have to acknowledge it before you're granted access.
Perhaps something similar could be introduced here. It would save on sending out emails and bring things squarely to members' attention. I know people could just click on OK and not actually read it, but they would have been informed.
As a longer-term member I must admit I sometimes struggle with where updates have been posted. There's a mixture of stickies and general posts that cover all sorts of useful information. I'd really like to see key information made more accessible and in one place (perhaps Help should be updated more regularly), and important updates flagged to me as I logon.
Master of Sex
Quote by Sixfootsix
Here's a suggestion that I've mentioned in various rooms that many people seem to agree with (and have added to)...
Whispers should be invite, i.e to be able to whisper someone you first have to be invited - and invites can be revoked.
Also maybe people on your friends list should be "auto-invited" unless specifically blocked from whispering.
Personally I think this would cut out all the crap that many people have to deal with!
I think that's a great idea. I know some people don't like whispers and they can be misused (much like anything else if you're so-minded) but there is also a considerable number of members who are happy to accept whispers without asking first.
It would be good to offer the choice, combined with the ignore button. Rather than having to police it, the chatroom could offer it as an option you set on your user profile:
- no whispers
- whispers only from people on my friends list
- whispers from everyone apart from those on my ignore list
- whispers from everyone
Master of Sex
Wouldn't recommend Windows Defender - always scores low in tests (check out PC World, CNET and ZDNET reviews).
My setup (all free software) is:
Avast for anti-virus
Comodo Firewall Pro for firewall
Comodo BO Clean for things that hijack your browser
plus occasional cleans with CCleaner and Spybot S&D if I think I've got something nasty that needs removing manually.
My setup (all free software) is:
Avast for anti-virus
Comodo Firewall Pro for firewall
Comodo BO Clean for things that hijack your browser
plus occasional cleans with CCleaner and Spybot S&D if I think I've got something nasty that needs removing manually.
Master of Sex
Time to chip in another two-penneth.....
A number of people have commented in this thread about what is wrong in their opinion(and I'll hold my hand up and say that I've contributed similar comments in the past in other threads).
You can only guess at what it might be, seeing how you don't have access to SH technology and haven't seen the back-end problems first hand. It doesn't matter how experienced you are in the IT industry (and there are plenty of us on here), you won't know for definite unless you see it for yourself. I'd also add that technology is only part of the picture (albeit a large part in this case).
Makes me thing about a particular cartoon (which I had a laugh about when digging it out for this reply, given the inclusion of the swing):
It would be good if things were improved. I have no doubt that the guys behind the scenes are doing what they can and are working hard. For me, the most important thing is regular communication and trying major changes out extensively before putting them into live service.
I think most people would feel at least a little happier if they understood when pilots are happening and what they can expect. And of course, having a watertight rollback plan in case it doesn't go as expected.
A number of people have commented in this thread about what is wrong in their opinion(and I'll hold my hand up and say that I've contributed similar comments in the past in other threads).
You can only guess at what it might be, seeing how you don't have access to SH technology and haven't seen the back-end problems first hand. It doesn't matter how experienced you are in the IT industry (and there are plenty of us on here), you won't know for definite unless you see it for yourself. I'd also add that technology is only part of the picture (albeit a large part in this case).
Makes me thing about a particular cartoon (which I had a laugh about when digging it out for this reply, given the inclusion of the swing):
It would be good if things were improved. I have no doubt that the guys behind the scenes are doing what they can and are working hard. For me, the most important thing is regular communication and trying major changes out extensively before putting them into live service.
I think most people would feel at least a little happier if they understood when pilots are happening and what they can expect. And of course, having a watertight rollback plan in case it doesn't go as expected.
Master of Sex
The other thing you asked about which doesn't seem to have been responded to yet is rooms that don't appear to have people in them that match the name of the room.
Some of the room names as previously mentioned (e.g. Pool, Jacuzzi) are the default ones that are always there. Other ones are created by members. There are no restrictions on the site as to who can go into a room, unless the room is password-protected (has the red padlock next to it), in which case only those who know the password can get in.
For example, if you see a room called "John o'Groats meets - couples only", there is nothing to stop singles also going into the room. The reason for this is that there is no admission restriction based upon who or what you are (e.g. black/white/asian, gay/straight, couple/single etc).
If you're thinking about setting up your own room, you also need to be aware of what's expected of you as a room host. Lots of useful information and (more importantly) the rules about how to use the chatroom are available here: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/user-rules.html
There is also an Acceptable Use Policy that covers more general site usage: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/main/aup.html
Two key things about any room:
- By default, rooms are assumed to allow directing unless the room title includes "no directing". This means people should not direct, ask, coerce etc anyone on cam to do something specific if it says not to direct
- No whispering (a private message to an individual) is allowed in any room without asking in the main chat whether it's ok and getting a "yes" beforehand. These topics are explained in the chatroom rules (link above)
If you have any further specific questions, ask them in here - lots of people are always happy to help out. Welcome to the mad-house!!
Some of the room names as previously mentioned (e.g. Pool, Jacuzzi) are the default ones that are always there. Other ones are created by members. There are no restrictions on the site as to who can go into a room, unless the room is password-protected (has the red padlock next to it), in which case only those who know the password can get in.
For example, if you see a room called "John o'Groats meets - couples only", there is nothing to stop singles also going into the room. The reason for this is that there is no admission restriction based upon who or what you are (e.g. black/white/asian, gay/straight, couple/single etc).
If you're thinking about setting up your own room, you also need to be aware of what's expected of you as a room host. Lots of useful information and (more importantly) the rules about how to use the chatroom are available here: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/chatroom/user-rules.html
There is also an Acceptable Use Policy that covers more general site usage: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/main/aup.html
Two key things about any room:
- By default, rooms are assumed to allow directing unless the room title includes "no directing". This means people should not direct, ask, coerce etc anyone on cam to do something specific if it says not to direct
- No whispering (a private message to an individual) is allowed in any room without asking in the main chat whether it's ok and getting a "yes" beforehand. These topics are explained in the chatroom rules (link above)
If you have any further specific questions, ask them in here - lots of people are always happy to help out. Welcome to the mad-house!!
Master of Sex
Quote by Dawnie
So what if you lost a whole £1, try searching down the back of your sofa for a replacement
I've got a good idea what might be down the back of your sofa:
:rascal:
Quote by Dawnie
...that are getting right on my wick!!!
I thought you had lady-bits
Just a thought on the perenial problem of a significant number of chatroom users not using the chatroom forum. Could Admin put a temporary link in place when the chatroom is down for extended periods?
It could appear in place of the chat server and read something like "The chatroom is unavailable at the moment - you are being redirected to the chatroom forum for more information"
This might encourage first time forum-ites to start reading the wealth of information in here.
Master of Sex
Hmmm - seem to be a number of "behind the scenes" errors appearing today. Also got this when trying to access a user profile pic:
"Couldnt access photos table: Host 'pweb001.swingingheaven.co.uk' is blocked because of many connection errors; unblock with 'mysqladmin flush-hosts'"
"Couldnt access photos table: Host 'pweb001.swingingheaven.co.uk' is blocked because of many connection errors; unblock with 'mysqladmin flush-hosts'"
Master of Sex
I've had a few of these this afternoon when trying to access chat (after logging into the site): "Auth failed. Could not get your user profile". Problem seems to go away after a few refreshes in browser using F5/Ctrl+R.
Also getting similar messages elsewhere on site when accessing other pages (e.g. the Forums): "Could not query config information" (with blank screen apart from the error message). Again, F5/Ctrl+R eventually clears it.
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Also regularly getting "sorry we couldn't find that user's profile" when accessing one from chat - again F5/Ctrl+R eventually resolves it.
Also getting similar messages elsewhere on site when accessing other pages (e.g. the Forums): "Could not query config information" (with blank screen apart from the error message). Again, F5/Ctrl+R eventually clears it.
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Also regularly getting "sorry we couldn't find that user's profile" when accessing one from chat - again F5/Ctrl+R eventually resolves it.
Master of Sex
Quote by curvynjackb
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As for putting the room you join at the top of the list - what purpose does that hold??
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It holds a very useful purpose for the way I use the chatroom - I regularly visit multiple rooms and it makes life easier being able to start scrolling from the last chatroom you visited rather than starting from the top each time - I like it as an interim measure to help navigation. :thumbup:
Master of Sex
Quote by blonde
I belong to a Poker site and my PC is quick, quick, quick. NO lag when playing or chatting. So I think the lag on here is on here!!
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Couldn't agree with you more Blonde.
Whilst I take onboard what Peanut said about sites having differences, I use a number of chatrooms on different sites (some adult-related and some not) with a similar number of users and broadly comparable facilities.
This is the only one I have persistent and regular problems with, and there are always patches and tweaks being applied to fix the last problem. If we're comparing "apples and pears" perhaps this should move to being a "pear" instead of the "apple" with the damaged core that it seems to have become.
St3v3 said they'd done testing elsewhere on sites that aren't as busy as this. Testing should be done on a clone of this site. There are plenty of load testing tools available on the market to simulate user access.
It seems like eons ago since a new improved chatroom was mentioned. I'd just like this one to work properly without any glitches for a few months.
