I served Anthony Head (Buffy the Vampire Slayer) at tescos one night a few years ago. Was fairly envied by the other staff and then a few weeks later... I served him again as he was getting his weekly shop.
Couldnt think of anything smart to say though, so just got on with checking his items through.
looks like this is coming down to another one of those cases where we accept that everyone is different
in the short term then you have to either put up with the status quo or bite the bullet and ask, whereas in the long term you have to generally be patient and see where things go
is it me or do alot of social/sexual threads seem to end up like this (minor hijack waning)
is this just a reflection of the generally closed society in which we live that genrealy prevents us from asking the'difficul' or 'awkward' questions??
a good point and well made, but i guess im talking about new partners here when blokes tend to take the same attitude towards asking what the partner likes as he takes when asking for directions in the car (he doesnt cos he doenst like to appear incompetent) and i have actually asked partners in the past what they like, and they've actaully said 'erm, not sure really'; at which point the whole mood has been properly ruined
Ive discovered that I have a weird habit of reaching for the phone on my desk the split second before it rings. I dont have any intention of making a call but I reach out and just as my hand touches the reciver, it rings.
I dont know how long ive been doing it but I scared the holy crap out of someone who watched me do it once(that was when i found out i did it at all). Since then I;ve noticed i do it, but only after ive done it. Werid and a little disturbing.
Anyone else do this sorta thing??
In the words of Forest Gump
'Life is like a box of chocolates, you never quite know what you're gonna get' and in this sense you've gotta be prepared for the nuts.
Don't take it personally, just think of it as something that makes you appreciate a gentleman even more.
Well I feel its time to put the cat among the pidgoens again.
This thread will make most sense to Londoner's me thinks but it could stretch further.
Was on the tube today and looked around me at all the various ppl there, and thought to myslef 'I wonder if any of these ppl have heard of Swinger Heaven?' which then got me on to thinking about how one spots fellow swingers (without the badges I;ve been hearing so much about).
Do you all think there is something swingers do that define them, like grin to oneself incesantly, or something similar?
Is there something you do that you think makes you stand out as more than the average?
I would have thought that most ppl here would have preffered BBQ sauce, after all dont we all like to add a little bit of spice to life.
Boom Boom
??? at the risk of sounding rather stupid, have i missed some form of etiquette by not letting everyone know that i was buggering off for a week??
Btw, have fun mate!!!
Wow, what a post, and scarliy I followed it all.
Unfortunatly the best repsonse I can give at the minute is 'I dont know'. I like to think im an easy going kinda guy, you know, try anything once (almost) and the good things twice (or more).
I think the main point that is coming out of all of this is that we need to talk to each other, explore, compromise where necessary, but talk and discuss things.
Possibly a good piece of advice for almost any part of life.
Can i just say that whilst I havnt swung, I have had a sex/fuck buddy before, in fact Im going to visit her shortly, but the way that came about was cos we dated for a little while and then stopped dating, but carried on sleeping together, ANYWAY
And as Mikenorth puts puts it perfectly, I am interested in swinging, and would like to explore the scene with her, trouble is though Im afraid that this will put her off me for good............hmm, maybe I do care more for her than the life-style...
Well, this origionally was something I posted in another thread becuase I wasnt sure I should try and deviate to my own thread straight away, but judging from the response I received from Postie and a few others I thought Id bring it to the attention of the greater community.
I myself have never actually swung (everybody please yawn and look away on cue) but am extremely interested by the whole affair etc. What troubles me is that there is a girl im getting to know well and want to date, I think she wants the same, the problem is neither of us have discussed sex, how many of us do so early in the game?? . Should i say now that im interested in swinging?? or should i wait until more time and effort has been invested in the realtionship, at which point, i may already have a fair idea that she wont be interested, what shoudl i do then?? dump her??
The whole area of broaching the swinging subject to a partner (prospective or current) seems to be a mine feild. So far the general concensus seems to be that at some point you should have a talk about these things and then be honest and open and hope that things work out for the best.
Are there any words of wisdom on things that I should maybe avoid doing when going about this subject?? obviosuly a number of poeple on here have managed it with a great deal of success though i suspect there are a fair few hum-dingers of storys on where its gone wrong.
Please share.
Ever curious
Mike
I have something of an extremely stupid phobia. Its not that I dont like heights, I dont have so much of a problem with that, the problem is that when I stand on the edge of something very high, i suddenly think 'Wow, the freefall if I jumped would be amazing!!' at this point I have to move back from the edge cause I dont trust myself not to jump.
Stupid aint it
Oh, and i also dont like spiders but can generally control that to dispose of them.
Hey all, Im a uni student, though Im on placement at the mo, Im still a full time student though.
Studying something technical that most ppl find boring.
Well anyone who has read my earlier posts will know that Im somewhat in-experienced at all this, but none the less I'm gonna venture forth.
I feel that many ppl have made valid points during this post but the most valid is that you should be honest with each other. At which point I draw you to the next dilema. WHEN shoudl you be honest??
I myself have never actually swung (everybody please yawn and look away on cue) but am extremely interested by the whole affair etc. Wht troubles me is that there is a girl im getting to know well and want to date, I think she wants the same, the problem is neither of us have discussed sex. Should i say now that im interested in swinging?? or should i wait until more time and effort has been invested in the realtionship, at which point, i may already have a fair idea that she wont be interested, what shoudl i do then?? dump her??
The whole area of broaching the swinging subject to a partener (prospective or current) seems to be a mine feild. Is it really fair to be harsh on someone who may have got it wrong?? and how the hell did all you swinging couples ever get round this???
Ever curious
Mike
I remember the first fanny fart i heard/caused.
Was with my girlfreind and trying (for us) a new position. I would like to point out that this was during my early days when i was still exploring/experimenting. My girldfreind who was a little more experienced than myself said something along the the lines of ' I don't think this position is a such a good idea' followed shortly by 'oh no!' at which point a fart let loose.
Well, for one it tickled, secondly i found the whole think hilarious and burst out laughing, couldnt stop for at least 5 mins, luckily after a few moments she saw the funny side too, though was slightly embarrashed as well.
My view - it happens, dont be ashamed, tho probs best not to let loose during oral.