My favourite board game has to be Tabula. A bit like Frustration and Backgammon. I think it's a bt hard to come by now, the company doesn't existor stopped making it, but it's an ancient game and can be done with 24 squares, 2 dice and handful of stones. Past Times and National Trust shops are where I've seen it now and again.
I'm having a game board mosaic'd into my patio next summer if anyone fancies a game.
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I had to dust off this thread again.
I've just finished "The Shelters of Stone", being the fifth book of Jean Auel's "Clan of the Cave Bear" Series. Totally blown away by them all. It's the sort of "epic" writing that made books like Lord of the RIngs stand out a bit more.
I can't remember ever reading a really excellent cave people book until now. If anyone out there is wondering what to read next and hasn't heard of them, I cannot recommend these books enough. Lots of naughty stuff too!
There's a few people I know whose christmas present idea just got resolved. Waterstones and a dozen copies please.
I've just finished "The Shelters of Stone", being the fifth book of Jean Auel's "Clan of the Cave Bear" Series. Totally blown away by them all. It's the sort of "epic" writing that made books like Lord of the RIngs stand out a bit more.
I can't remember ever reading a really excellent cave people book until now. If anyone out there is wondering what to read next and hasn't heard of them, I cannot recommend these books enough. Lots of naughty stuff too!
There's a few people I know whose christmas present idea just got resolved. Waterstones and a dozen copies please.
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Don't know about an all nighter but I have noticed in the past that a certain well known "energy drink" does indeed give a chap wings that he may fly a little further with. Or that new bigger cheaper brown can on the shelf next to it which doesn't taste any different, if you want more bang for your buck.
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Excuse the URL, it is not the full title of the book.
Turns out the answer may lie in evolutionary biology. I have read it. It is fascinating. It is also just a scientists opinion, but makes for a good read.
Man, The Hunter, has spent thousands of years learning to sit quietly and wait for the herds of migrating mammoth.
The book hypothesis that Men and Women really are made differently. Women are generally much better at multi-tasking and doing/thinking about several things at once. Men generally have a much better ability to co-ordinate spacial awareness and patiently watch a fire for no reason other than waiting.
As an example, It is the case that the majority of Air Traffic Controllers are men. Women struggle to understand/see the radar screen as the three dimensional data that it is. I can't remember what the book said women were brilliant at, I was to busy memorising excuses.
It isn't a bad thing if you can't understand what we do when we go fishing, you're not supposed to. (
) 
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I've had an even worse experience personally in the last couple of days.
I'm 31. My friends vary in age but I got a message from a friend who is 34, roughly comparable to my age.
Her daughter, aged 17, had just had her baby boy.
I am reaching a point in my life when some of my peers can actually become ....Grandparents. :shock:
:shock: :shock:
(Leo, 5lb5oz, new mother and son doing fine)
I'm 31. My friends vary in age but I got a message from a friend who is 34, roughly comparable to my age.
Her daughter, aged 17, had just had her baby boy.
I am reaching a point in my life when some of my peers can actually become ....Grandparents. :shock:
:shock: :shock:
(Leo, 5lb5oz, new mother and son doing fine)
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PoloLady does it again! 
Clearly. As indicated by others, SH members come and go and come again. But as also suggested, if one is serious about either the relationship or swinging then it causes turmoil, within and without. Either leaving it behind or discussing it for the first time. But does that make a member truly a swinger? Or is it; once a swinger, always a swinger?
Yes. But I think now/at this time, I'd rather find it inside of swinging.
Never had to make such a firm decision yet. But I found when I wasn't swinging, I missed it, thought about it. It concerned me that I might seek to return to it alone.
Why is it never bland disinterest? Or "Me Too!" You'd think statistically alone you might meet one every so often.
So true. And this is where I finally, hopefully, get to the meat of my post.
Before joining up here I tried a popular dating site. Actually got a date too! I like to be an honest person and yet knew fairly quickly from talking to her that this side of my life would be completely alien to her. It actually caused me an almost sleepless night later that week mulling over the problem for my future reference. Here was someone who had taken a fancy to me. Asked ME out.
And here I was sitting on what was going to be a bombshell for her. I really felt for her at this moment because she was pinning some hope on me for her future.
I made the decision to tell her a little about my previous experiences to "test the water" and I was right, completely alien. Date finished ok, but I got binned the next day, by text no less. My "revelations" being her reason. Thank f*ck I didn't tell her "everything"!
But I'm glad I did say something. It made a decision quick and relatively painless for her and early enough that it made no difference. How might it have been for either of us if we had worked out and then I told her or more likely let something slip innocently in conversation. It would have completely changed her opinion of me. Not necessarily because of the subject matter, but perhaps more because of the witholding of it for that length of time when it is most definitely a "thing" that is bigger to most people than admitting you've got a large porn stash or smoked pot at university. The traditional nature of we the English is such that I would guess the majority of people do find it odd,at the very least, that we would be happy to have our partner shag someone else. People get beaten up every night just for "looking at my bird".
Where am I going with this? (Not sure, I think I've almost confused myself) I think that a swinger is a swinger. For me it is something that is more than a lifestyle or a stop-gap measure. It is a part of me. The real problem is knowing that there are those in our communities who would see me as the NOTW and other popular tabloids would paint me. Deviant or Weird or something even more sinister. Comfortable to swap partners? Obviously also a Scumbag/Untrustworthy Type and should be spat at in the street. So for that reason I reserve the right to be selective about how any information is distributed.
Right, I'm off to dunk my head in a bucket of cold water, my brain is too hot. :crazy:
Is swinging a stop gap for some people between vanilla relationships?
Clearly. As indicated by others, SH members come and go and come again. But as also suggested, if one is serious about either the relationship or swinging then it causes turmoil, within and without. Either leaving it behind or discussing it for the first time. But does that make a member truly a swinger? Or is it; once a swinger, always a swinger?
Are you looking for something more outside of swinging?
Yes. But I think now/at this time, I'd rather find it inside of swinging.
Is swinging something you find you can swing in and out of?
Never had to make such a firm decision yet. But I found when I wasn't swinging, I missed it, thought about it. It concerned me that I might seek to return to it alone.
Quote by Missyshe
I s'pose if I don't know the vanilla person very well, and
didn't know anyone I knew, then I've been inclined to be upfront about swinging from the start - from the limited experience I've had with that since I started on the swinging scene, the reaction has either been extreme curiosity, or horror
Why is it never bland disinterest? Or "Me Too!" You'd think statistically alone you might meet one every so often.
Quote by PoloLady
At what point do you start to tell them about the swinging? :?
Do you say so from the off before you are even sure it is really going anywhere?
Do you wait until you are sure it is a serious relationship - and then say BTW...?
Do you drop it in an over dinner conversation like a bombshell - which it will be to many people.
Do you make subltle suggestions and ignore mentioning you have already been involved?
So true. And this is where I finally, hopefully, get to the meat of my post.
Before joining up here I tried a popular dating site. Actually got a date too! I like to be an honest person and yet knew fairly quickly from talking to her that this side of my life would be completely alien to her. It actually caused me an almost sleepless night later that week mulling over the problem for my future reference. Here was someone who had taken a fancy to me. Asked ME out.
And here I was sitting on what was going to be a bombshell for her. I really felt for her at this moment because she was pinning some hope on me for her future.
I made the decision to tell her a little about my previous experiences to "test the water" and I was right, completely alien. Date finished ok, but I got binned the next day, by text no less. My "revelations" being her reason. Thank f*ck I didn't tell her "everything"!
But I'm glad I did say something. It made a decision quick and relatively painless for her and early enough that it made no difference. How might it have been for either of us if we had worked out and then I told her or more likely let something slip innocently in conversation. It would have completely changed her opinion of me. Not necessarily because of the subject matter, but perhaps more because of the witholding of it for that length of time when it is most definitely a "thing" that is bigger to most people than admitting you've got a large porn stash or smoked pot at university. The traditional nature of we the English is such that I would guess the majority of people do find it odd,at the very least, that we would be happy to have our partner shag someone else. People get beaten up every night just for "looking at my bird".
Where am I going with this? (Not sure, I think I've almost confused myself) I think that a swinger is a swinger. For me it is something that is more than a lifestyle or a stop-gap measure. It is a part of me. The real problem is knowing that there are those in our communities who would see me as the NOTW and other popular tabloids would paint me. Deviant or Weird or something even more sinister. Comfortable to swap partners? Obviously also a Scumbag/Untrustworthy Type and should be spat at in the street. So for that reason I reserve the right to be selective about how any information is distributed.
Right, I'm off to dunk my head in a bucket of cold water, my brain is too hot. :crazy:
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but if you bring these bits up, do they not then become radioactive themselves?
not sure how they do it but they do, I guess they seal it in something then bring it up, or prehaps deep below the scapa flow there is an entire geiger counter factory
In keeping with sheddy's
huge bank of useless general knowlage triviaeverytime you've ever watched a nautical archeaology number on Discovery or similar stuff is ALWAYS sealed in seawater to stop it oxidizing/generally going crappy before they have a chance to treat it properly. I'd guess if it's especially sensitive they'd take even more care.
Did you want your thread back now?
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Dearest Polo, Literary of my life :rose:
I'm kind of sad. The first time I get to "talk" to you it is with great sorrow at your recent misfortune.
I offer you this
:therethere:
I pray you accept it in the spirit in which it was given.
And I publicly promise, ever we should meet, they'll be short.
Oh boy will they be short.
I'm kind of sad. The first time I get to "talk" to you it is with great sorrow at your recent misfortune.
I offer you this
:therethere: I pray you accept it in the spirit in which it was given.
And I publicly promise, ever we should meet, they'll be short.
Oh boy will they be short.
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A file/program called TWEAKUI can be freely and safely obtained from Microsoft at the usual address. It has a sub menu called "Paranoia", the options in which reasonably cover most of your immediate fears.
It is correct to say you would be safest doing a complete re-build but as you seem to be/would have to be pc literate to carry out almost any of the advice here about deep "tampering" why not just set them up as a limited user with their own account. Theoretically should keep them out of the sensitve areas where other cleaners don't reach.
It is correct to say you would be safest doing a complete re-build but as you seem to be/would have to be pc literate to carry out almost any of the advice here about deep "tampering" why not just set them up as a limited user with their own account. Theoretically should keep them out of the sensitve areas where other cleaners don't reach.
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very new to sh
Same here. Which I guess answers your question. This is how I'm changing my swinging lifestyle.
My last partner was a very highly sexed young lady. :smug:
But actually after a while :crazy:
uch: :yawn: And she suggested we widen our horizons, which was in keeping with previous events in my life and whilst I would happily have left them behind for her if that was the way it went, she'd asked............
:twisted: :!: 
:bounce: 
:grin: :high-smile: :inlove: :love: :smug: :taz: :angel: :evil2: :giggle: :rose: :smile2: :smoke: :thrilled: :cheers: :lol2: :moon: 
hwoar: :smitten: 
:laughabove: Sorry about that, transported back to that magical moment. Where was I? Oh yeah
So we did.
And it was fun. If a little tricky without going onto the internet. You can't exactly advertise in the local paper too clearly.
Now that we've split up and I'm moving on with my life, I thought why not. I'll see what else is out there. As to why we split up, that's another thread in itself.
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Quote by laterunner
Have noticed that a lot of guys, in response to the "Assets" feature in profiles put 'no complaints' - isn't this a cop-out? After all, is anyone actually going to say to a partner in any sitiuation "I'm going to complain about your cock" Of course not; so come on, guys, lets just go small, average (medium if you like) and well-endowed - or vwe if you really were up front in the queue. My partner always says mine is too big - for her, yes, but is considered only 'average' by other women. Just for the record, has anyone ever had a complaint about their todger?
I really ought to change my profile now. If I was totally honest about it, I have had a complaint on a couple of occasions. Once, the lady in question was a bit to pissed to be "polite" and ripped the mickey because I was a bit to pissed to......
:giveup: And another time, the lady being 5'0" and me being 6'5", there was a certain amount of natural size issue, or what we call an interference fit in the trade, so she asked me to be more gentle. It's not massive, but neither was she.
But beauty is in the eye of the beholder and truthfully I can say that I have never asked anyones opinion of my cock. So if the "vein" of this thread is attempting to form a methodology to how we men classify them, I like being able to add the "mystery" of wait and see.
No-one has ever said to me "My My, Aren't we small/medium/large/VWE".
So I don't think all those magazine articles are made up in which case most of the ladies DON'T CARE
As long as it's polite and well dressed.
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I must have pre-empted this in some way! I'll just do a quick C&P from the profile and:-
Ace, fastest ever post.
Why CoolHead? Three reasons I can come up with.
Everyone who comes to know me will realise I have one, even in the worst of circumstances, and am completely un-shockable.
I always try to give a lady some very cool head. Sorry boys, nothing for you here.
I was on a skiing holiday when the photo was taken.
Ace, fastest ever post.
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Quote by Alex_NorthEast
1. What age did you start smoking?
17 (Believe it or not)
2. Why did you start smoking?
Someone passed it
3. What are the main reasons you smoke now? (e.g. additive, sociable, habitual?)
Yes
4. If you have quit smoking successfully, what worked for you?
N/A
5. If you have tried to quit smoking and was unsuccessful, what factors inhbited your success?
N/A
6. If you are still smoking, and would like to quit, what do you think would help you stop?
Tighter Customs & Excise
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Quote by Jas-Tim
It can do when you rip their frenum with your enthusiasm
Jas
XXX
Been there, torn that.
:69: :hump: 
:shock: :eeek: :ouch: :ouch: :ouch: :sleeping:Fainted clean away at the sight of my little man bleeding to death. Caused my then girlfriend to get quite "excited" for five minutes.
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I'm a fully paid up member of the League Against Tights. I have to agree with you about the beauty of tradition. Nothing finer to have your eyes wander over. :thumbup: :smitten:
I have discovered, much to my dismay, that I am prepared to "put up" with those all in one stockings-and-belt and I can imagine they don't leave much in the way of a line like regular suspenders do.
I think I'd find fishnets a bit much in an office unless it was between the bottom of a knee length skirt and the top of some boots. Then it looks sexy. Much more revealed than that and I might begin to question professionality, and I LOVE stockings, even the suspicion that there might be stockings.
My personal preference of stockings on a lady for maximum horn has to be a deep lace top and not too sheer/shiny. I find it hard to fathom your male friend has an issue with them. :confused:
I have discovered, much to my dismay, that I am prepared to "put up" with those all in one stockings-and-belt and I can imagine they don't leave much in the way of a line like regular suspenders do.
I think I'd find fishnets a bit much in an office unless it was between the bottom of a knee length skirt and the top of some boots. Then it looks sexy. Much more revealed than that and I might begin to question professionality, and I LOVE stockings, even the suspicion that there might be stockings.
My personal preference of stockings on a lady for maximum horn has to be a deep lace top and not too sheer/shiny. I find it hard to fathom your male friend has an issue with them. :confused:
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I saw him at the Edinburgh fringe this year and have to say I was a tiny bit disappointed.
He was very funny, but, in the same way Billy Connolly gradually phased out the music and funny songs in favour of a purely stand up act, Bill Bailey is, I fear, going the same route.
The CD I have in the car from a couple of years ago seems funnier than the live show I saw recently. Still my second favourite comedian.
Big Yin rules.
He was very funny, but, in the same way Billy Connolly gradually phased out the music and funny songs in favour of a purely stand up act, Bill Bailey is, I fear, going the same route.
The CD I have in the car from a couple of years ago seems funnier than the live show I saw recently. Still my second favourite comedian.
Big Yin rules.
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Have to recommend Pabo as no one else has yet. My ex used to get bits and pieces from them and said that the quality of their clothes was way, way above anything Ann Summers had to offer, and mostly cheaper too.
German company, based in Holland. I think it took about three weeks for stuff to come though.
If you have quick and easy access to London, then Chalk Farm Rd in Camden is a bit of a hotspot for shops, including some of those below
I can also personally recommend:-
Coco de Mer - NOT CHEAP, FEAR THE LACK OF VISIBLE PRICES (£150+ for a bra)
Fairygothmother - Nice and lacy
Pink Piranha - Designer lingerie
- "Pole dancers" style outfits and accessories
The Girl Can't Help It - If you like Dita von Teese / Vargas etc
SH! - Women only though, gentlemen only by invitation and with a female
Pink Fluffy - Fashion and clubbing
Ziggla - Lingerie
House of Harlot - Bit more "specialist"
German company, based in Holland. I think it took about three weeks for stuff to come though.
If you have quick and easy access to London, then Chalk Farm Rd in Camden is a bit of a hotspot for shops, including some of those below
I can also personally recommend:-
Coco de Mer - NOT CHEAP, FEAR THE LACK OF VISIBLE PRICES (£150+ for a bra)
Fairygothmother - Nice and lacy
Pink Piranha - Designer lingerie
- "Pole dancers" style outfits and accessories
The Girl Can't Help It - If you like Dita von Teese / Vargas etc
SH! - Women only though, gentlemen only by invitation and with a female
Pink Fluffy - Fashion and clubbing
Ziggla - Lingerie
House of Harlot - Bit more "specialist"
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17. I was house sitting for some friends of my parents and somehow ended up the "boyfriend" of the village bike for a week or so. She ended up lying back and thinking of england whilst I did the best I could with sod all experience, in the marital bed of quite possibly the most religous people in the village where I grew up.
Anyway, apparently they liked how tidy I'd kept there place, and asked me back every year for the next 5 or 6. And somehow, (without trying(!)) I ended up with a different girlfriend who came round to see me there.
Including that most memorable year featuring my sister-in-law.
Anyway, apparently they liked how tidy I'd kept there place, and asked me back every year for the next 5 or 6. And somehow, (without trying(!)) I ended up with a different girlfriend who came round to see me there.
Including that most memorable year featuring my sister-in-law.
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Quote by Lindaxxx
When the hits u danced to in high school are referred to as an oldie
Or worse, you hear it "blaring" out of some kids walkman, and go "oh, that's so-in-so" and they go "no, it's new-manufactured-band" and you realise that a tune you remember from your youth is now old enough to be covered.
:violin:
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Some walk away, ride away, drive away or sail away. They always have. But the ties that bind us to those who love them and whom they love cannot be broken. Ever. Though sometimes hard to see, they can stretch clear over the horizon to anywhere.
In time he would have taken that love to places that you might never have seen and times you never would have known, and still it would have gone with him. And so it does now.
There will come a time when the toys are packed away, the door opens on shelves the way you left them, the laundry basket empty, and the fridge full. When you no longer have to step over teddies and things on wheels. Then it'll be harder still, because you feel guilty about getting over it. Take comfort in the quantity AND quality of all these replies, you really are not all alone.
God bless
In time he would have taken that love to places that you might never have seen and times you never would have known, and still it would have gone with him. And so it does now.
There will come a time when the toys are packed away, the door opens on shelves the way you left them, the laundry basket empty, and the fridge full. When you no longer have to step over teddies and things on wheels. Then it'll be harder still, because you feel guilty about getting over it. Take comfort in the quantity AND quality of all these replies, you really are not all alone.
God bless
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I couldn't get the link to work but In case anyone's interested, "Elgoog" was made up by an internet comedy/practical joke group as a parody but actually worked out for some good when it was discovered that it could not be stopped by the admin firewalls that the chinese government employ to filter the internet for its citizens. It is reckoned in some quarters to be the reason that the ban on google and similar search engines was lifted so soon and may have thus contributed to the way in which the chinese economy has since surged forward.
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Whilst I think you might be right about a possible need to identify more clearly different types of member, I can also understand why some people might not wish to be more clearly identified. Arranging it so that the "zombie hoardes" know who to "target" as real members will only increase the meaningless traffic on their accounts that they have to sift through.
The couple of weeks quiet surfing around the forum and chatrooms I have done have shown me who some of the key players are here. I've even managed a few posts myself. You have been a member since January time and seem to have chosen your first thread/post to abuse people, amongst whom there will indeed be those whose intentions are less than they advertise.
But there will also be many amongst them who are genuine people. Ordinary, just like you and me.
Couples who are exploring new sides to their relationship and are more scared than they let on, but are going to give it a go anyway, together, because life's too short.
Single men and women who are fearing that this may be their last hope of finding a partner who understands more readily their particular kink or is at least more likely to accomodate it or even discuss it.
To dismiss "just about everyone" as "tossers and timewasters" is not a good start. I can well imagine this thread filling up quickly tommorrow daytime when sassy, missy, sheddy and the other regulars find it.
The couple of weeks quiet surfing around the forum and chatrooms I have done have shown me who some of the key players are here. I've even managed a few posts myself. You have been a member since January time and seem to have chosen your first thread/post to abuse people, amongst whom there will indeed be those whose intentions are less than they advertise.
But there will also be many amongst them who are genuine people. Ordinary, just like you and me.
Couples who are exploring new sides to their relationship and are more scared than they let on, but are going to give it a go anyway, together, because life's too short.
Single men and women who are fearing that this may be their last hope of finding a partner who understands more readily their particular kink or is at least more likely to accomodate it or even discuss it.
To dismiss "just about everyone" as "tossers and timewasters" is not a good start. I can well imagine this thread filling up quickly tommorrow daytime when sassy, missy, sheddy and the other regulars find it.
