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Quote by makingcocoa
When everything is shit, and then someone wraps you in their big strong arms and makes you feel safe and snug and happy and protected from the world.
That's manliness the way I like it. smile
x

Yep I can see that I guess... I notice you say 'Big Strong arms, protected" so for you it's the escence of the stereotypical hunter gatherer rugged thing. Good answer.. thanks Makingcocoa.
Paul.
Quote by tweeky
Men are actualy becomming less manly with every year that goes by. Due to our friend the contraception pill ladies now pee estrogen into the water table on a daily basis. Once in the water table estrogen stays there it is not removed. Men then drink the water and therefore its ever increasing content of estrogen and are as a result becomming less and less manly. Estrogen in the water table is thought to be contributing to the 50% drop in sperm counts over the last 100 years. It is thought that male babies born in 50 years time could have a much higher rate of infertility.
Another factor is alcohol. Alcohol stimulates a mans body to become more femenin. Thats why men who drink a lot get man boobs, its literaly what they are.
Mr Tweeky

Hmmm a very interesting obsevation Mr tweeky, and yet another reason for concern... but you have the idea of what I was asking. I'm just coming up to my 43rd birthday and I'm damn sure that when I was a child My father and every male I knew to be an adult were a so different than the present day example... myself included. maybe it's the world we live in that plays the major part in the changing roles of man and woman, and having just checked up on this oestrogen problem it seems there could be a very obvious link between that and the increase in effeminism within the male . interestingly it wouls seem that in countries that don't use contraception the male is very much a man and homosexuality and bi-sexuality are almost non- existant. thanks for that Mr tweeky.
Paul.
Quote by Pete_sw
What makes a man a man? I think Kippling summed it up best thus:
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
etc..
Yep now that's the sort of thing I was on about... thanks Pete..
Paul.
Quote by Osmosis
I'd have thought having a penis would qualify enough to be a man dunno

Hmmm... again bilogical makeup is not what I was after... confused but technically I guess you are right.. although.... no won't go there lol
Alone.
She can’t find a reason to go on.
All her dreams have grown their wings and flown.
The house is big inside.
Her memories reside… in every room.
Too much too soon.
Alone she hears the echoes of her life.
Born to be a mother and a wife.
To love for evermore.
So she just can’t ignore… this pain she feels.
Time never heals.
And so she screams at the world in desperation.
And begs to the heavens for some salvation.
Falls to her knees as tears run down her face.
In the palm of her hand is a screwed up page.
There’s a photograph of three new graves.
And all she wants to do is take their place.
She can’t find a reason to go on.
All her dreams have grown their wings and flown.
Quote by banlwales
What is it that makes a Man… Manly? .

well
1. A X and a Y Chromosome
2. A can of Lynx apparently.
Though seriously, I think men are a manly as they ever were but their rituals, cultures, and social groupings have altered. They now display their prowess, their fierceness in different ways...mainly driving cars i think. The perceived change in "manly-ness" is really a change in social function and attitude not a change in strength and fierceness.
confused:
Lynx eh?? lol I'm ok there...
I'm not so sure about the transport angle cos we just changed from Horse to Horse power. Socially I can see the obvious, and I guess strength wise we are on a par. Fierceness ... Hmmm I see the point you are making but I am sorta differing cos I read and hear every day about the cowarly acts of man.. I know many attrocities were carried out during all the wars, but I'm on about socially within our so called "Safe" society. What I am interested in finding out is whether or not a man who is effeminate, kind, cosiderate etc in his everyday life, is considered a man or something else. Or if it's the burly rough and ready tree chopping macho thing that defines his status as a man. where is the devide and what is it?
Inquisitive sort ain't I? :? :lol: surprised
Quote by constance
I counted 32 lines before you got to the question!!!That must be a record
As for what makes a man I think it is an X and Y chromosone, but I could be wrong its a long time since I did anything but practical biology

LOL ya musta missed line 1 there...... and ya had to have know I wasn't asking for the bilogical Necessities.. A modern man should at least know those... lol
What makes a man… a man?
History teaches that men were the battlers, the bread-winners.. Y’ know brawn and face hair, swords, jugs of ale/mead, chauvenism etc… but what of the “Modern Man”… where does he fit into the scheme of things? “Be a man”…,something often said to children when they are hurt from a fall or similar But what does it mean? “Don’t cry”? “Be brave”? and all the other macho things that were said to make a man …a man? So what of the modern man?
Modern man is less fierce than historical man.. not in a war-like manner,( nope man is still a warrior... just better armed), but in the social climate of today. He doesn’t drag his wench around by the arm or order her to do his bidding, etc, but then he is less chivalrous too (in most cases). Modern man is more in touch with his effeminate side and if he were to be suddenly thrown into a historical era then he’d be considered to be a dandy/raving queer. (historically speaking) moralistically man has lost much that made him powerful, his beliefs and code of conduct have been trodden under the feet of evolution and the undeniable rise of his counterpart… the “Modern Woman”- (I’m not chauvinistic)- whom in my opinion would probably do a far better job of overseeing the running of the known world, but never- the- less the majority of women I have spoken to say they "like a man to be a man".. so...
I may not have posed this perfectly correctly, and no intention to cause upset is intended.
So.. my question is…
What is it that makes a Man… Manly?
Paul.
Three books and a desrt island... Hmmm..
First would have to be
Ray Mears survival manual.
Second.
Any Keith Floyd sea food cook book.
And lastly..... hmmmm
The encyclopedia of known ailments and deseases, their cause and cures. (or as close as I can get to that) lol
Somehow I have managed to trawl through this entire thread , and it's cool :thumbup: lol.
In comparoison my life has been far less colourful than most on here, but I also once danced on stage with the Rockabilly group Matchbox.(1979 gig in horsham west Sussex). I have supported our own Elvis... Mr Shakin stevens in a gig, ok it was before he was a superstar and he worked wityh the Sunsets.. but hey.. it's a claim... smile , and dressed in lycra tights and a pink tight short top thingy in front of several thousand peeps at a Queen tribute night on several occasions... Ermmm not a lot of people knew that.... lmao!
Quote by zana2000
I think good dancers are often great shags. However it has nothing to do with altletic ability or stamina, its just that men who are unhinibiteed enough to get up and dance, (whilst theirmates are sat down clutching their pints and pretending to be deeply engrosed in their conversations), are simply far less reseved in bed.

OOHHH SH*t ... Is that the impression we 'non' dancers make?? Then I'm dead in the beer... so to speak cos when it comes to the dancing I'm more like :taz: .. (damned dangerous)...lol Although I will admit to being a bit of a Jive master in my youth.. <<< is an ex Brighton rocker (Drapes and drainpipes etc), and truth to tell.., I never seemed to be short of a lass to share my time with back then. and it got better as the years progressed and I took up the microphone :karaoke: and pretended to be Freddy Mercury in a tribute band.. (oh that was fun) lol.., but all good things must come crashing down.. and I did just that.. 16feet to the dance floor.. sorta buggered me up for dancin... now I have a sorta flat panel back.. but I still love the music and to watch the dancers through the base of the beer glass.. and the lasses.... well I've gone from hero to zero it would seem... so it would compute you're more likely to dance her knickers off than to talk em off sad butwhat the hell it was fun while it lasted....lol Oh and I'm not gettin any complaints in the bedroom, (on the few occasions I have company), well maybe just the one about the winching me into position heeheehee!
Quote by PoloLady
Excluding births and weddings.... if your time was up and you had the chance to go back and re-live just one day - which day would it be? What happened and why pick that day?

May 1994... My wife (now long since ex), and I had been separated for a while and my three young daughters were all visiting for the weekend. I only got to see them once a month and so it was always special times those weekends.. only this weekend they decided to stay with me and not return home to mum... I felt terrible for their mum as I knew (or thought I knew) how much she loved them etc.. Well it turned out she didn't want them in her life as much as I did. Seems they interfered in her new relationship
12 years on and they still live close and the eldest is still under my feet.. but I wouldn't change that day for the world.
Paul.
Quote by dirtytwo
A rotweiller and a giraffe.
So he can bite the intruders over the fence!

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
An Aardvark and a Spider... Just cos it'll make the Duck-Billed Platypus look normal...ish!!!
But obviously it'll never compare to the Camelphantelopelicanaryak..... lol
smile
Love in a mist.
( Sunrise)
Mine eyes be blind lest opened to thee,
to see all blessed with beauty.
For thou art the vision that bringeth me light.
To ignite mine world with passion un-quenched.
Though empty be mine arms, mine heart is filled.
And yet it feels of swelling void.
I shouldst not glance lest I be burst inside,
and able not to hold mine soul to me.
But yet the closing of mine eyes hides nothing.
Thy splendour courses through the mind,
the sweetest of obstructions.
No thought but that I dream of you…
© P. B. 2006.
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: What a great thread... This just has to be the most wickedly written piece of sarcasm I have read for a long long time... (this'll probably end up a major spam piece cos it's so good ) <<< Kinda defeats the object a tad.... lol .. But none- the- less it's brilliant..
Paul.
Quote by PoloLady
Something to do if you get bored.... I am not promising it will be interesting for you, but it is something to do never the less.
What do you identify as masculine or feminine? Below you will find a list of words. Ideally you should cut and paste the list to a word doc (or similar) and print it off.
Next to each word indicate whether you identify the object as being more masculine with a letter 'M', more feminine with a letter 'F' or completely neutral with a letter 'N'. Don't think about it for too long - go with your first thought. Then when you have done that for each word total your M's, F's and N's.
And that is it!

LOL... I have no idea why ... dunno but I did it anyway.... lol
Photo N
Lorry M
Dress F
Tapestry N
Hammer N
Biscuit N
Window M
Lipstick F
Trousers N
House N
Book N
Kitten F
Flower N
Ball M
Phone F
Cooker N
Key N
Army N
Piano F
Ballet F
Tractor M
Cinema N
Perfume N
Mouth F
Bikini F
Beer N
Bike N
Carpet N
Ribbon F
Sweatshirt N
Boots M
Tape M
Dress F
Coat N
Mug N
Car N
Brush N
Hanky M
Cup M
Mirror N
<<<< Can't belive I was really that bored..... smile
Quote by PoloLady
if you're a guy yes :P ideally the more members, the more possible females, and the more females the higher chance of the swinging lottery pointing a big finger and saying "IT'S YOU" :P
the more the merrier biggrin

Your math is way out there. I am sorry to inform you it works something more along the lines of....
The more members - the more single guys - the greater the ratio of guys to gals - the less chance of the mystical single (bi) female picking you out.
Sorry mate.
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
You got style Polo I'll give ya that...lol <<< wonders at the science of retrieving traits from typed comments??
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Paul.
Quote by Serendipity
[I'm not so sure that everywhere is quite on a par with the acceptance levels in Brighton though Paul, it's not reflective of Britain as a whole...yet! lol

Lol possibly not.. but hey.!!. it's only a tiny island .. Like.. ..If someone sneezes in Plymouth, before they get their first box of lemsip they get a cold in Inverness.. :lol:
Paul.
Quote by Robert1961
[and i though you was a quiet shy one mate wink :wink:

I am.... :twisted: I am lol But In my :small-print: contract it says "I can be bloody minded if needs be" (Par 4 subsection 19) rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Paul
Quote by PoloLady
i've always wondered this but where do they cut it ?
:shock:

along the 'cut here' line ............................
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
:2fingers: snip snip!! :shock: Nope I like mine un-cut thanks.... sounds painful and it isn't medically necessary.. so sod that!! .. and truth to tell... i need all the extra millimetres i can get...lol.
Paul.
Quote by EnglishChris99
Those of you with very good memories and fine toothed combs may remember that I anounced a while ago that I was going for a job interview.... Well I got the job... and I don't have to move house at Christmas time either, which was an added bonus. So thanks for all the good luck that was bequethed as it seems to have done the trick. And a big soz to all the people in Milton Keynes but I won't be living there now.

Have no memory whatsoever of ya cos I'm a relative newbie but
CONGRATULATIONS on the new job..
And do I sense a note of glee at leaving the quaint town of Milton Keynes?? Surely you'll miss the bowl? lol..
Hope it all works out for ya..
Paul.
Quote by jomu
[For "change of attitude" try walking down the high street hand in hand with your mate....ok if you're two women (nudge, nudge: wink, wink....hey, lets watch two lezzies shagging).............
Try it if you're two men.....especially on a Friday night/ Saturday morning.....
Even worse, try being gay in an industrial environment, or on a building site.
Nah, the "change" has only been amongst those who already "did" it, being more likely to admit it to themselves and others.
Everyone else is still full of shit.

Utter codswallop...lol
Seriously though.. in just the Brighton area alone, (used to live near), there are hundreds...nay thosands of gay people congregating there annualy, and more and more are choosing to stay and start a life by the sea. But much more noticeable is that they are indeed being visually affectionate toward eachother and holding hands and kissing in public etc etc. I'm surprised this attitude isn't more widely spread.. and as for the industrial area of employment or construction... I can tell you from experience that there are many gay men and women employed within these areas. I think that maybe you may need to lighten up your attitudes and look around you... the world is changing ever so fast... blink and you'll miss your chance to keep "in the know". It's acually a real shame you feel gays are undervalued and kept in the dark spaces between reality and ignorance... cos they ain't. well not in the real world anyway... just in the political one but even there they have made massive advancements.
Chill ... :jagsatwork: LOL...
Paul.
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I think it is hard being a big lady in this scene, being over weigh myself i know how she feels, all guys seem to be after slim women and when you go to clubs etc there seems to be loads of skimply clad slim women and it does make it hard to feel 'wanted' or that you fit in, its all down to confidance and if you havn't got it...well you havn't got it lol

Yep I reckon that just about nails it... Confidence is not something that can be dressed up or down or visualised and coaxed into being.. Larger ladies, on the whole, tend to be fairly confident people in my experience. although that is not always the reality of it.. one lady in particular told me she was this bouncy lively wench due to her size.. she claimed her personality hid her large frame, and I suppose she was right to an extent, but she still had her own issues which plagued her.. she was a lovely person and had stunning features with it, and dressed to kill she was dynamite.. it was in private she had the hang-ups about her body. it was, and remains, (we are still good friends), a big problem for her, and no matter how often she is told it matters not... she can't see it cos she's the unhappy one.. can she do anything about it?? Yes is the short answer, but it would require a total change of lifestyle- as it would for soooo many- and it simply isn't viable at the moment. Sometimes I think people see a large person and instantly think "greedy". It's not always the case.. many factors like inherited genetics, hormonal issues,stress, childbirth... and on and on ,are responsible, and there is not a way yet popularly available
without genetic alteration and other drastic measures, to combat these issues. I wish there were..
Paul.
A good selection of questions.. Far better put than my own posting... smile
The answers, I should think, lie not only within the site- similar sites, or indeed the internet.. (although that plays a major part in making contact easier), but also society itself.. The last few years, and especially this past one, have seen a major change of attitude to all things sexual, and high on that agenda are the issues of Gay acceptance, Bi- sexuality and Swinging.. all closet stuff of the past.. I for one firmly believe that it is the right way to progress. My own attitude has changed dramatically over the last few years.. somewhat due to my very own children.. well,.. young women.. and their boy-friends.. not always their partners,- though they all have been linked romantically with Bi-sexual males. I read this post and asked my eldest at 23yrs her opinion.. She says that of all the boyfriends/lovers she has seen.. (not many)... lol .., the most attentive in and out of the bedroom are those who are on the effeminate side and/or bi-sexual. also it has broadened her outlook and experiences..
as for myself!! I was straight... Straight... straight... <<< contaminated machoism... and now... I'm curious to explore that which has crept out into the limelight.. and I have to say that is due to SH and simlar sites...
Paul.
wave Yep it's definately me in here... Coat ... Coat.. . coat.. coat........ ooops forgot me keys.. coat ....car.... keys... right I'm on my way... Ummm directions... yeah ..fcuk it I'll guess.....!!!! i'm a comin' :smoke: damn that was good....
Oh and I do like those boots..... smile
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
I'm assuming most guys realise that there are more parts of the human body than the head and the cock?

It would seem not to be the case... well at least on 'Adult friend finder' .. same goes for the women too.. not the cock of course.. well maybe one or two!!! :shock: I digress...lol
So should we stick to torso pics? Maybe pics of our legs and backs.. I reckon faces are fairly useful attributes to be seen..lol butt ugly or not... :dry: I hear feet are a big draw in pics nowadays..... maybe we should show our feet... instead of our inches... smile
Paul. tongue in cheek!
Quote by Valton
Can things get much worse?
So you now have to be numerate to post.

rotflmao :rotflmao:
Ermm ( 1 ) :violin: .. but who cares...I'm havin' fun tryin' lol :grin:
Paul..
Quote by chris_n_mick
Norfolk is alive and well

Thank fcuk for that...!! I'm gonna be spendin' some time up there through-out the coming years.. (Gotta visit the retired folk now and again...) biggrin . "I'ts a lovely area" my Ma say's.. Dad'll be muttering summat about the local folk not speaking english!!!
this from a Hampshire man.. like putting a Chinese man in a Vietnamese village... almost but not the quite the same tongue.. dunno Still "it's a lovely area" so I reckon they'll be stopping ....lol.. Glad to know there's life out there also...
Paul.
Well thanks peeps for all your help and advice. Some really helpful PM's smile too.
Sorry I haven't answered individually but... sad this site keeps eating the damn postings. <<< has coppied this one... just in case...lol ... Gonna start a "luck" bag cos I reckon I'll be needing that.. So cheers for all the luck, hugs, smooches, kisses and good wishes y'all sent my way.. I guess it is just another step along the way as Bex said..Anyway it's a good perspective to look from.
again thanks all. xx
Paul.