Somehow I doubt you're going to find many people on a swingers site who don't enjoy being watched to some extent. Doesn't it come with the territory?
There's been a couple of times when friends are feeling a bit down, but they don't seem very impressed when I send them a "huh"...
Some points:
1) I'm personally grateful to the work the mods put into this site, and sympathise with the difficult decisions they have to take.
2) People in "authority" can't just say "trust me" however well intentioned they may be. Lack of trust is one of the things that comes with the territory. That's another thing we should be grateful to the moderators for - they've put themselves in a position where people will always mistrust their motives on controversial issues, and they've done it to keep this site running.
3) Everyone is biased towards their friends, unless they're an emotionless robot. Personally I'd rather have humans managing this site, especially those who clearly put a great deal of effort into trying to be as unbiased as possible.
4) There's no way the mods or anyone else can stop a banned member turning up at any sort of event. They could fake a new id from a completely different location, or they could secretly be invited by someone else. However, the situation where the mods do know for a fact (by whatever method) that a banned member will be there is completely different - if they know, and choose to do nothing, they could be said by some people to be partly to blame for anything that happens.
5) Everyone makes mistakes...
6) Moderators can't expect to make events totally safe however hard they work. It has to be clear to all attendees that they are responsible for their own personal safety, and what the risks are.
Having heard all the discussions, I think it is fair for the mods to say that they reserve the right to prevent advertising of an even on this board where they know a dangerous person may be present.
But personally I'd prefer to see the offending advert removed, rather than a person being banned. Banning should be for situations where an organiser has deliberately misled a mod, not because of who their friends are.
However, see (5) above, which also applies to me!
Brains, and a passion for life.
That's all it takes...
